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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So i have always been a horny fucker, as are most guys but i dont enjoy watching porn because i prefer the real thing, when i first came across this site it was like a god send, a place where i can share my hornyness and explore all the naughty things i think about. But im getting the opposite just lots of gorgeous couples and women there to play with driving me crazy everyday but not ever getting the chance to meet, its an addiction ive been here 3 times and never get many meets, i dont know why i dont but being a single male is definitely hard on here, i find theres always somthing i have that a lady doesnt like like facial hair or age just always somthing. Its impossible to be what everyone likes but surley you cant be what everyone dislikes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try more subtle pictures on your profile keep your naked cock pictures hidden. A well hung bloke in smart underpants or trousers might be more appealing to the women on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember the single male ratio to single women or couples is really high. That means single males are competing with approx 50+ other males for each woman. That means you have to stand out better than them in your profile, pics and messages. There are no guarantees. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people |
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people"
Slagging other guys off is not a good look.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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FFS stop moaning, US females aren't free tart you know, too many men on here join expecting to get instant constant sex. Try ringing a who're if you're that hard up, and quit blaming your lack of success on other men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people"
How others conduct themselves on here has no bearing on your success or otherwise. You have to make an effort, get yourself out there, club meets, social events etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people
How others conduct themselves on here has no bearing on your success or otherwise. You have to make an effort, get yourself out there, club meets, social events etc. "
Couldnt agree more i strugle to find info on here about events like location ect. Ideal id like to find a lady to be on here with but also another tricky task haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people
How others conduct themselves on here has no bearing on your success or otherwise. You have to make an effort, get yourself out there, club meets, social events etc.
Couldnt agree more i strugle to find info on here about events like location ect. Ideal id like to find a lady to be on here with but also another tricky task haha"
Meets and events section, you can browse meets by type and location. Plenty on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people
How others conduct themselves on here has no bearing on your success or otherwise. You have to make an effort, get yourself out there, club meets, social events etc.
Couldnt agree more i strugle to find info on here about events like location ect. Ideal id like to find a lady to be on here with but also another tricky task haha"
There probably aren't many socials going on "next door." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some different pics maybe. Are you single or playing away? Explain why you can't accomadate. Use paragraphs and get involved on the forum. Keep your messages short but whitty but not rude.
Just be patient x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats very true, but also i would say 50% of the single males on here aren't genuine and most of them just here to get pics or wank off, i want face to face connections with like minded people
Slagging other guys off is not a good look.
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but he's right though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am single, i cant accom because i live in shared accommodation x"
Well I'd put that on or you might get people thinking your playing away without OH knowledge. Good luck dude x |
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"So i have always been a horny fucker, as are most guys but i dont enjoy watching porn because i prefer the real thing, when i first came across this site it was like a god send, a place where i can share my hornyness and explore all the naughty things i think about. But im getting the opposite just lots of gorgeous couples and women there to play with driving me crazy everyday but not ever getting the chance to meet, its an addiction ive been here 3 times and never get many meets, i dont know why i dont but being a single male is definitely hard on here, i find theres always somthing i have that a lady doesnt like like facial hair or age just always somthing. Its impossible to be what everyone likes but surley you cant be what everyone dislikes?"
It's that old supply and demand thing probably |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What you need to remember mate is that the ratio of males to females on here is about 50-1. As a single bloke it is very unlikely ( apart from the odd exception ) that a female is going to msg you. It does happen from time to time that a female may see, read a profile, and think sod it I am going to mail him........ But more than 9 times out of 10 we have to mail them.......... Now if you imagine the elusive single female logs online to find that at least 50 other blokes including you have all decided to msg her at the same time, and sometimes maybe way more than that, and some repeatedly sending the same msg at least 15 times an hour........ So as she is having a quick scroll down her inbox to pass by without even opening the one liners of fancy a fuck, or hi how are you...... I am in your area now, or how about this big boy for you etc etc etc.... she may just MAYBE see one msg that stands out with the opening line and then she may decide to open that and read it........ Now if she does read it, likes what it says, she will then open the profile of the sender and have a look at the profile. If she likes what she sees then she may msg you back. If not she will either just delete it , or will just not reply.......... More often than not some mail gets deleted un read as they just do a mass clear out to delete tons and tons of mail...... Other times blokes get blocked for mithering them, and then getting nasty if they don't get a meet, or even a reply........... This is a swinging site yes but it does not guarantee you a meet just cos you mail some one......... At the end of the day some just may not find us attractive. As much as we may like there photos, have already gone through it in our mind`s what we are going to do to them....... It just is what it is I guess and we have to deal with it and move on
I think the classic mistake many blokes make on here is that they think they are doing the women a favour by asking to meet them in the first place |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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to get meets face to face you need to be known face to face...get yourself out and about, get a network, get some veris and even some group fun experience and you will find what you are looking for. sitting behind a keyboard against filters/ deletes/ limits/ preferences gives you a distorted view of whats possible. enjoy the forums and hit up the meet/ events forum, look for things like cougar and cubs, events for under 40's. swingles events as well as just clubs..it will throw you into a mix where your age is a positive rather than a negative factor and people are far more spontaneous. they are also sociable decent nights out xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been off and on this site for best part of 12 years now, when here with first wife and then afterwards a fem FB for few years, we where inundated / overran with mail from guys, most of which just not worth replying to as so rude..........now as a solo player myself and because of that history, it doesn't bother me anymore and I'm bisexual so lower my odds even more....I have a good small click of dear friends and we stick together........just keep at it and take advice given....get involved more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate"
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all. "
This good looking get has got a good point |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point "
Thats the thing i never talk dirty on here either, i always send a facepic rather than a dick pic too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point "
It's has taken me upto a year to meet someone..you can't maintain dirty chat that long when you don't know if/when it will happen..however when you really get to know them the connection you have can be much better. You click straight away and there are less awkward moments..it becomes more like having a good friend you just happen to have sex with..
In my experience sex is better when the lady is more comfortable with her play partner. If you have that already then you are onto a winner..
And very few women want to feel like an interchangeable cum receptacle. If you get down to it, chat about you want to do with her...not to her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point
It's has taken me upto a year to meet someone..you can't maintain dirty chat that long when you don't know if/when it will happen..however when you really get to know them the connection you have can be much better. You click straight away and there are less awkward moments..it becomes more like having a good friend you just happen to have sex with..
In my experience sex is better when the lady is more comfortable with her play partner. If you have that already then you are onto a winner..
And very few women want to feel like an interchangeable cum receptacle. If you get down to it, chat about you want to do with her...not to her"
Cheers but I am not the one asking for advice. I am doing alrighty so far so good my self thank you please...... Sounds like you are onto a winner tho so fair play to you and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point
It's has taken me upto a year to meet someone..you can't maintain dirty chat that long when you don't know if/when it will happen..however when you really get to know them the connection you have can be much better. You click straight away and there are less awkward moments..it becomes more like having a good friend you just happen to have sex with..
In my experience sex is better when the lady is more comfortable with her play partner. If you have that already then you are onto a winner..
And very few women want to feel like an interchangeable cum receptacle. If you get down to it, chat about you want to do with her...not to her
Cheers but I am not the one asking for advice. I am doing alrighty so far so good my self thank you please...... Sounds like you are onto a winner tho so fair play to you and good luck "
It wasn't advice...just my observations |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point
It's has taken me upto a year to meet someone..you can't maintain dirty chat that long when you don't know if/when it will happen..however when you really get to know them the connection you have can be much better. You click straight away and there are less awkward moments..it becomes more like having a good friend you just happen to have sex with..
In my experience sex is better when the lady is more comfortable with her play partner. If you have that already then you are onto a winner..
And very few women want to feel like an interchangeable cum receptacle. If you get down to it, chat about you want to do with her...not to her
Cheers but I am not the one asking for advice. I am doing alrighty so far so good my self thank you please...... Sounds like you are onto a winner tho so fair play to you and good luck
It wasn't advice...just my observations "
Well I guess we all have observations, and opinions........ Again good luck to you yeah and all the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothings a good look on here it seems, no matter what you do
I look great...hahahahahahah
Haha wouldnt arguee with that mate
It's also depends how you interact with people. Messaging ladies when you want to fuck gets boring.. asking them about their day and being generally interested in them and letting them warm to you could prove a better way...I rarely chat dirty on here..or at all.
This good looking get has got a good point
It's has taken me upto a year to meet someone..you can't maintain dirty chat that long when you don't know if/when it will happen..however when you really get to know them the connection you have can be much better. You click straight away and there are less awkward moments..it becomes more like having a good friend you just happen to have sex with..
In my experience sex is better when the lady is more comfortable with her play partner. If you have that already then you are onto a winner..
And very few women want to feel like an interchangeable cum receptacle. If you get down to it, chat about you want to do with her...not to her
Cheers but I am not the one asking for advice. I am doing alrighty so far so good my self thank you please...... Sounds like you are onto a winner tho so fair play to you and good luck
It wasn't advice...just my observations
Well I guess we all have observations, and opinions........ Again good luck to you yeah and all the best"
mines the best approach say f all is what I say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you need to remember mate is that the ratio of males to females on here is about 50-1. As a single bloke it is very unlikely ( apart from the odd exception ) that a female is going to msg you. It does happen from time to time that a female may see, read a profile, and think sod it I am going to mail him........ But more than 9 times out of 10 we have to mail them.......... Now if you imagine the elusive single female logs online to find that at least 50 other blokes including you have all decided to msg her at the same time, and sometimes maybe way more than that, and some repeatedly sending the same msg at least 15 times an hour........ So as she is having a quick scroll down her inbox to pass by without even opening the one liners of fancy a fuck, or hi how are you...... I am in your area now, or how about this big boy for you etc etc etc.... she may just MAYBE see one msg that stands out with the opening line and then she may decide to open that and read it........ Now if she does read it, likes what it says, she will then open the profile of the sender and have a look at the profile. If she likes what she sees then she may msg you back. If not she will either just delete it , or will just not reply.......... More often than not some mail gets deleted un read as they just do a mass clear out to delete tons and tons of mail...... Other times blokes get blocked for mithering them, and then getting nasty if they don't get a meet, or even a reply........... This is a swinging site yes but it does not guarantee you a meet just cos you mail some one......... At the end of the day some just may not find us attractive. As much as we may like there photos, have already gone through it in our mind`s what we are going to do to them....... It just is what it is I guess and we have to deal with it and move on
I think the classic mistake many blokes make on here is that they think they are doing the women a favour by asking to meet them in the first place"
I think your final sentence sums it up perfectly!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not after instant sex, i always do socials before anything. And ive had meets but on previous profiles. but op u say in your original post that you have never had the chance to meet:-."
Yea i said im not ever getting the chance just hypothetically ive had meets in the past but a long time ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you need to remember mate is that the ratio of males to females on here is about 50-1. As a single bloke it is very unlikely ( apart from the odd exception ) that a female is going to msg you. It does happen from time to time that a female may see, read a profile, and think sod it I am going to mail him........ But more than 9 times out of 10 we have to mail them.......... Now if you imagine the elusive single female logs online to find that at least 50 other blokes including you have all decided to msg her at the same time, and sometimes maybe way more than that, and some repeatedly sending the same msg at least 15 times an hour........ So as she is having a quick scroll down her inbox to pass by without even opening the one liners of fancy a fuck, or hi how are you...... I am in your area now, or how about this big boy for you etc etc etc.... she may just MAYBE see one msg that stands out with the opening line and then she may decide to open that and read it........ Now if she does read it, likes what it says, she will then open the profile of the sender and have a look at the profile. If she likes what she sees then she may msg you back. If not she will either just delete it , or will just not reply.......... More often than not some mail gets deleted un read as they just do a mass clear out to delete tons and tons of mail...... Other times blokes get blocked for mithering them, and then getting nasty if they don't get a meet, or even a reply........... This is a swinging site yes but it does not guarantee you a meet just cos you mail some one......... At the end of the day some just may not find us attractive. As much as we may like there photos, have already gone through it in our mind`s what we are going to do to them....... It just is what it is I guess and we have to deal with it and move on
I think the classic mistake many blokes make on here is that they think they are doing the women a favour by asking to meet them in the first place
I think your final sentence sums it up perfectly!! "
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