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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
Do what suits you. Fuck what others think.
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Being an older ish couple on here we truly don't hold anything on age. Like us we presume there has been plenty of talking before hand and this is what they are looking for weather the be 19 or 90. So as long as they can put a smile on our face and make us laugh then its all good with us xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Grumpy old gits they are lol, there's nothing wrong with playing in this scene at a young age, I've been on and off here since I was 19 and have had a lot of fun with older and younger couples and singles, looking at your pictures you both seem a good couple I wouldn't turn down a meet with you for sure  |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about  haha |
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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
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you are only young once go out and enjoy yourselves whilst you can and when you can its all life experiance . suspect most of the moaning cunts are the ones outside your age range bitter and twisted at missing out |
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
I'm not even sure why you're interested in what others' think? Let's say, for example, that the majority say yes you're too young. Are you going to pick up your ball and go home? I doubt it. And why should you. Just crack on. If people consider you 'too young' to play with, then they can simply pass you by. I'm also sure you'll consider some to be 'too old' and the same therefore applies. |
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over a year ago
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses
Do what suits you. Fuck what others think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the "old guard" way of looking at swinging is that it's to spice up a long term relationship that may have gone a bit stale and something that feels a bit naughty.
The younger generation seem to be a lot more comfortable with their sexual orientations so why should you have to wait until you're in your 40's to try something you know you want to try now?
Hope you have a great time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You guys sound fairly mature, but a lot of folk your age, are not. For people on here, they may not want the risk of drama, (which in my experience can happen at any age) if boundaries are not set or if 1 of the couple is more into it than the other. You say you've been together a long time, but for most couples your age, that won't be the case, I've been on and off here a few yrs and been told several times I'm too young (despite now pushing 30  ) but no one can appeal to everyone, some will think you are too young for the scene, some just too young for them, as lots will have kids your age or older and that puts them off, but I'm sure you will find plenty who are interested too! Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know it's the same for single guys and women maybe not too sure haven't heard there opinion yet but for younger men like me they do say hell no your too young one time i was speaking to a woman on forum for hours just about to set up meeting up tryed messaging here out of age range wasn't I lol spoke to her on forum couple days later she was like your too young. It can be very hard on here to find someone that's okay with the age difference even more harder to find someone that you truly like though don't know some of the young women on here go for the older males and there's plenty of them on here but older women more than likely say your too young |
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Look at is as their loss!
Despite you being 'legal' some will _iew you as being the same age as their kids which may put them off.
As with all things personality counts towards 'clicking' with others, sometimes a big age gap makes this harder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens OP.
We once believed that in this world of "liberation", prejudices would be left at the door. It isn't like that for some unfortunately, but there are plenty who don't judge - we stick to those people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know it's the same for single guys and women maybe not too sure haven't heard there opinion yet but for younger men like me they do say hell no your too young one time i was speaking to a woman on forum for hours just about to set up meeting up tryed messaging here out of age range wasn't I lol spoke to her on forum couple days later she was like your too young. It can be very hard on here to find someone that's okay with the age difference even more harder to find someone that you truly like though don't know some of the young women on here go for the older males and there's plenty of them on here but older women more than likely say your too young "
I much prefer older guys. Always have, I'd not meet a younger guy I just don't find I'm attracted to them. Having 3 younger brothers and their mates around over the yrs hasn't helped  |
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By *anm2009Man
over a year ago
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You are not too young just enjoy it together however one thing I would say is don't be ageist with who you wish to meet and play with far too many younger couples want to stick to their own Age Group and most of the real fun is with older couples  |
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If you're both happy who cares what others think.
Being an older couple personally we won't meet anyone young enough to be our kids but we certainly wouldn't say swinging is just an older generation thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen some people post that they did this when they were younger, (your age), thought they were ready for it at the time, but when they were older realised they hadnt been as mature as they'd thought and regretted what they did.
I know a lot of people that when they're your age think they are mature but in hindsite see that they weren't.
I'm not saying this applies to you, personally I think I was mature at your age, and tbh wish i'd done more back then. We're all different.
I suppose the point i'm trying to make is that you don't really know until you see how it goes, and how you feel about it looking back, which is not helpful at all really, is it  |
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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
To describe people as grumpy old cun..! Because they have an opinion that you are too young to be swinging, Hardly shows signs of maturity and it's offensive so maybe they have a point !!
Just my opinion !
I don't have an issue with any age as long as it's legal but it's how you conduct yourself. |
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We all have our preferences. For example i wouldn't really be comfortable playing with anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent.
Just because i think you are too young for me doesn't mean i think you are too young to swing.
I definitely wasn't mature enough for swinging at your age, i was a bit of a late bloomer lol
Just so long as you are both happy and comfortable with what you do and who you meet then you are no different from any other real couple (not just fuck buddies) on fab.
Enjoy yourselves and don't worry about what others think |
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"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha "
You do exactly what you want, nobody else's business just as it's nobody's business what the bloke who messaged you does with fruit.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cant wait to hear some of your responses
Do what suits you. Fuck what others think.
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This should be the FAB battle cry.
Do what you want, don't stop to think what society says you should do. They can do that. Enjoy life.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you have your preferences then I guess other people have theirs.
We won't meet younger couples as I will automatically go into 'mother mode' I'd be cooking your dinner, asking if you have any washing that needs doing, making sure your fridge is stocked up and making sure you've washed behind your ears.
There are plenty on here in your age bracket or older couples that will enjoy you so go and have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont think your too young as long as your happy and stable in your relationship our only concerne with much younger couples is weather conversation would flow with you being at such a different stage in life at 20 its usually all about having fun and thats great but approaching mid 30's with 3 young kids its all responsibilities and school runs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were in the same boat when we first started I were 21(Sarah) and a fair few people said I were too young I just took it as each to the own lv and still get it now and I'm 26.... You will get quite a few people saying it for now... but just move on from it and enjoying swinging xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're young and rate good at shagging so yknow. I've been doing this since I was 19 but I can see why people who are a bit older don't wanna play with younger people. |
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You also get those who say that only true couple can be swingers, if you are a single man or woman then what have you to swap..... normally while having looking for single women to join them written all over their profile.
Now while you are wayyyyy too young for me I don't think you are too young to fuck strangers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We will always be judged by other people and fuck them. No one has their house in order and so has no right but they will anyway and remember that the opinion of the pre Internet generations are limited by decades of lies and misinformation given to them by greedy media and deceitful agencies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're getting messages from older people saying you're too young for this site, why don't you use your filters and just let those in the age group you're looking for contact you? |
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"If you're getting messages from older people saying you're too young for this site, why don't you use your filters and just let those in the age group you're looking for contact you?"
Stop talking sense woman!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
No way are you far too young if this is what you want. I wish I'd been doing it all my life, never mind starting up now.
Also, as one of you is bi it is quite important for that person to get some bi action or else dissatisfaction can set in.
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses
To describe people as grumpy old cun..! Because they have an opinion that you are too young to be swinging, Hardly shows signs of maturity and it's offensive so maybe they have a point !!
Just my opinion !
I don't have an issue with any age as long as it's legal but it's how you conduct yourself."
Gotta agree. The use of a C bomb wasn't necessary. But no problem with your age. Enjoy |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
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We both own our own businesses, often take care of the parents little ones, run a house, pay bills, drive.. everything anyone 20 years older than us would do too. Conversation can still flow with older couples and we find thats the case more so, younger ones we have met seem to only talk about partying, studying etc.. I think we are in the position where we have grown beyond our years so to speak although are still tarnished with the same 'child' brush!
It doesnt stop us, part and parcel of the industry, Im sure. Its just a shame and gets a little annoying when people who you would have thought would be more insightful and open (especially with their chosen pastime!) are quite the opposite..
Couldnt help but get my big wooden spoon out and post this thread! haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried threesomes with various men when I was 24 with my then boyfriend who was 30. I very much regretted it. Looking back I wasn't yet mature enough or grounded enough to handle it, although at the time I thought I was fully mature. That's me though, I can't comment on whether other young people are mature enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say go for it and enjoy the ride guys, like the kids say "YOLO"
Myself I wldnt play with anyone under 21, can't with any1 younger that my youngest brother |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You both sound allot more mature than allot of people older than you and its exactly why sometimes its good to chat first before making up your mind i think you may still get tarnished by that "young couple" brush but this thread will have done you allot of good in dispelling the myth that all young couples cant hold a decent conversation and to be fair i cant imagine you will struggle on here to much your clearly a sexy couple im sure you will get plenty of offers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are old enough to be on here legally, then you are old enough to play the way you choose and with whom you choose, as long as they are comfortable with you. Some won't be...pass them by as they should with you...without any name calling.
I've had fun with a 19 yr old recently....neither her nor I saw any problem with that. If I lived in Newcastle then I'd be more than happy to play with you guys too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both own our own businesses, often take care of the parents little ones, run a house, pay bills, drive.. everything anyone 20 years older than us would do too. Conversation can still flow with older couples and we find thats the case more so, younger ones we have met seem to only talk about partying, studying etc.. I think we are in the position where we have grown beyond our years so to speak although are still tarnished with the same 'child' brush!
It doesnt stop us, part and parcel of the industry, Im sure. Its just a shame and gets a little annoying when people who you would have thought would be more insightful and open (especially with their chosen pastime!) are quite the opposite..
Couldnt help but get my big wooden spoon out and post this thread! haha "
are they telling you that you're too young to do this or are they telling you that they're not interested in meeting you because your age puts you outside of their preferences? there's a huge difference in my opinion and calling someone a cunt for having a preference that excludes you isn't really the way to go about becoming part of this lifestyle...
on the other hand, I can never understand people who go out of their way to lambast people who don't fit into their ideal of what constitutes a swinger... |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
No no, im talking about people who message US first to politely let us know we shouldnt be here!
We respect anyones decision to let us know we are too young, as we would do if we had to decline someone who was too old, i just the the former is unnecessary and very rude if anything!
I think if thats the mindset they adapt, I am well within my right to think they are a cunt, as everyone above has said, its all about personal opinion right? And that is my personal opinion of those small minded people, I dont think strictly everyone over the age of 40 is a cunt, unless they support Labour! just the small minority we have had pretty rude and out of the blue messages from. I dont think that makes me off key... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We started at 21, so a little older than you but had the same comments.
Age and maturity aren't the same thing. The worst behaviour and attitudes we've seen come from 40+ women who doesn't know when to put the wine glass down.
Have fun and fuck what anyone else thinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask the same people who tell you you're too young to be here, if they also think you've too young to be paying tax etc.
They soon get a bit lost for words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op...are these people randomly messaging you and telling you that you're too young to be onsite? Or are they people you have contacted about a meet. ? If they fall into the first category. ..I would immediately block...if however they fall into the second category, well then isn't it their right to choose who they meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're getting messages from older people saying you're too young for this site, why don't you use your filters and just let those in the age group you're looking for contact you?
Stop talking sense woman!!
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It must be my age |
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"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha "
Food play is quite a common sexual fetish and as been since the ancient Roman era, you may not understand it or want to partake in it yourself, but if you'd like to be accepted on he scene as a couple mature enough cope with it, perhaps be accepting of people's fetishes as opposed to questioning them |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
People need to understand the difference between having a joke and having a dig.
It was mentioned all in good fun, each to their own.
Have to admire their patience to be able to fit some of that stuff up there, as for pineapples, i dont think ill ever look at another one the same way again |
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"People need to understand the difference between having a joke and having a dig.
It was mentioned all in good fun, each to their own.
Have to admire their patience to be able to fit some of that stuff up there, as for pineapples, i dont think ill ever look at another one the same way again "
I actually fully realise that it was in jest however it pointe you lesson that not everyone will find what you say funny especially over the Internet when a person can't read their body language/facial expression to get the just across, test there are emojis you can use but they could still be deemed as either sarcasm or using an attempt at humour to hide your real feelings of possible bias on the subject |
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"People need to understand the difference between having a joke and having a dig.
It was mentioned all in good fun, each to their own.
Have to admire their patience to be able to fit some of that stuff up there, as for pineapples, i dont think ill ever look at another one the same way again
I actually fully realise that it was in jest however it pointe you lesson that not everyone will find what you say funny especially over the Internet when a person can't read their body language/facial expression to get the just across, test there are emojis you can use but they could still be deemed as either sarcasm or using an attempt at humour to hide your real feelings of possible bias on the subject "
*is a good lesson
And yes instead of test
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha "
Too many cunts on here think they are special! Do what you guys like to do ignore these pretentious bastards |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
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Fully appreciate that to be honest, but it brings it back around again to the point of the subject, everyones personal opinion and thought process is going to differ!
What would life be with out some laughs and sarcastic banter though, if that has to be taken at the expense of pissing a few people off... Im sorry in advance! lol |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"We wouldn't rule it out!
You know, if you hit the +quote button people will know who you are talking to.
See us oldies can still teach you whippersnappers a thing or 2 "
I have been clicking reply in forum, wondered why it wasnt showing up! Haha learn something new everyday! |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
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Personally you would be too young for me, but that's possibly because my kids are older than you! That's not to say you shouldn't be on here though.
Thank goodness I removed the fruit and veg pics! Best wishes to you both! |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha
Too many cunts on here think they are special! Do what you guys like to do ignore these pretentious bastards "
Ooo heavens no, dont use the c word! Youll get told off! Not allowed to say things like that if you want to be part of the community - although telling people you want to fingerblast their wife into oblivion is pretty cool, we are all ok with that  hahaha |
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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago
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"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha
Too many cunts on here think they are special! Do what you guys like to do ignore these pretentious bastards "
Classy !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
Your not too young to be in the lifestyles.there are more and more younger people finding their way in to this environment and that can only be good for swinging, we personally wouldn't meet you as you are so close to our daughters age it would be a bit weird, and I think you will get that a lot off the older couples |
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
Noting wrong with it...being young your naturally more curious..so why not, u both consent to it so go for it |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"we personally wouldn't meet you as you are so close to our daughters age it would be a bit weird, and I think you will get that a lot off the older couples"
Yeah we do! We forget people have lives outside of this and that there are many who will have children close to and older than us!
Side note, by god some of you lot are fit as fire even still for it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This was my way of thinking, and often my reply! If they dont approve, dont message me! I didnt join up for lectures off of 50+ fella with a gallery full of pics of fruit up his arse! By the way, whats all that about haha
Too many cunts on here think they are special! Do what you guys like to do ignore these pretentious bastards
Ooo heavens no, dont use the c word! Youll get told off! Not allowed to say things like that if you want to be part of the community - although telling people you want to fingerblast their wife into oblivion is pretty cool, we are all ok with that hahaha"
What's all that about? It is about having the maturity to understand and accept that people are different and have different preferences.
Signed: A 50+ male. |
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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
"we personally wouldn't meet you as you are so close to our daughters age it would be a bit weird, and I think you will get that a lot off the older couples
Yeah we do! We forget people have lives outside of this and that there are many who will have children close to and older than us!
Side note, by god some of you lot are fit as fire even still for it! "
You know what guys the more of your posts I read the more I realise I was too quick to judge !!purely because I hate the 'C' word !! You are both obviously mature above your years and I don't mean that to sound patronising in the slightest..
So have fun and enjoy fab and all the wonderful meets I'm sure you two will have !
Anna x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're very welcome - you only have to justify your presence on this site to yourselves, not to others.
We all have our reasons for being here; it doesn't mean you will suit everyone's tastes, or that you will find everyone on here desirable.
For what is clearly supposed to be a liberal, bohemian lifestyle I find it very odd that people want to impose rules on others. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
No you're definitely not too young to be on here, as long as you both want the same things out of the lifestyle, I see no problem. Hope you have lots of fun an great experiences together! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps he forgot his bag at Tesco's .
As long as you are both open and enjoying it then why not. Both myself and my better half enjoy our life style and we know what each other is doing what's the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that I wasn't mature enough at that age to be able to handle swinging, so on instinct I feel "too young". But obviously people are different and if you both feel you can handle it then go for it. |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
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You know what guys the more of your posts I read the more I realise I was too quick to judge !!purely because I hate the 'C' word !! You are both obviously mature above your years and I don't mean that to sound patronising in the slightest..
So have fun and enjoy fab and all the wonderful meets I'm sure you two will have !
Anna x
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Anna, your reply has humbled us. This is the very reason we love the community we are in! I must apologise as I am very boisterous in my sarcasm and can often be misunderstood. I didnt mean anything by it, nor by the fruit comment I made that some people seem to have taken a disliking to! Its all just a bit of fun, Im sure a few had a smile and a chuckle from it so thats good enough for me
If most took the time to talk to us, not even to arrange anything, only to get to know us, as you say im sure they would have a vastly different opinion! We really arent like your typical couple our age so we dont take that as patronising at all, if anything a compliment so thank you!
Im sure we will have fun! We have already chatted with some incredible people so far and can see the start of some incredible and lasting friendships, outside of the bedroom.
Thank you Anna!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No no, im talking about people who message US first to politely let us know we shouldnt be here!
We respect anyones decision to let us know we are too young, as we would do if we had to decline someone who was too old, i just the the former is unnecessary and very rude if anything!
I think if thats the mindset they adapt, I am well within my right to think they are a cunt, as everyone above has said, its all about personal opinion right? And that is my personal opinion of those small minded people, I dont think strictly everyone over the age of 40 is a cunt, unless they support Labour! just the small minority we have had pretty rude and out of the blue messages from. I dont think that makes me off key... "
Nope...if they're taking time out of their busy day to go out of their way to denigrate your choices then you're well within your rights to tell them to go fuck themselves (obviously, don't actually do that...we got a warning for doing exactly that) |
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By *he.kinks OP Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Nope...if they're taking time out of their busy day to go out of their way to denigrate your choices then you're well within your rights to tell them to go fuck themselves (obviously, don't actually do that...we got a warning for doing exactly that) "
Couldnt agree more! We will try to keep our 'go fuck yourselves' strictly sexual! haha |
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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
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You know what guys the more of your posts I read the more I realise I was too quick to judge !!purely because I hate the 'C' word !! You are both obviously mature above your years and I don't mean that to sound patronising in the slightest..
So have fun and enjoy fab and all the wonderful meets I'm sure you two will have !
Anna x
Anna, your reply has humbled us. This is the very reason we love the community we are in! I must apologise as I am very boisterous in my sarcasm and can often be misunderstood. I didnt mean anything by it, nor by the fruit comment I made that some people seem to have taken a disliking to! Its all just a bit of fun, Im sure a few had a smile and a chuckle from it so thats good enough for me
If most took the time to talk to us, not even to arrange anything, only to get to know us, as you say im sure they would have a vastly different opinion! We really arent like your typical couple our age so we dont take that as patronising at all, if anything a compliment so thank you!
Im sure we will have fun! We have already chatted with some incredible people so far and can see the start of some incredible and lasting friendships, outside of the bedroom.
Thank you Anna! "
That is the loveliest reply I could of ever imagined having so thanks guys! !
May your time on fab be a fruitful one and may you both grow together on this incredible journey you have started
Lots of love and best wishes
Anna x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both own our own businesses, often take care of the parents little ones, run a house, pay bills, drive.. everything anyone 20 years older than us would do too. Conversation can still flow with older couples and we find thats the case more so, younger ones we have met seem to only talk about partying, studying etc.. I think we are in the position where we have grown beyond our years so to speak although are still tarnished with the same 'child' brush!
It doesnt stop us, part and parcel of the industry, Im sure. Its just a shame and gets a little annoying when people who you would have thought would be more insightful and open (especially with their chosen pastime!) are quite the opposite..
Couldnt help but get my big wooden spoon out and post this thread! haha "
You don't need to justify yourselves! I started swinging aged 23 and my only regret is not starting earlier. You're a hot couple, enjoy the fact that you can walk into a club and most people will fancy you! |
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses "
Under 18.
Because it would be too close to being illegal.
Over 18 your an adult and so you can enjoy or regret your choices like the rest of us.
Plenty of people had 3somes or more somes at 18 or younger.
In the end the worse that can happen is you will have sex, maybe lots of sex. |
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By *ita7Man
over a year ago
Kettering |
Its your choice, I don't understand older people with an attitude. I kmnow for one that if the internet had been around when I was 18 I would have been a member of sites like this. It would have stopped years of sexual frustration I know!! Now at my age if I was lucky enough to meet a 18yr old Cpl I would be ecstatic. Whats wrong with these people!! Have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who gives a shit what others think you are both old enough to make your own decisions good luck to you both enjoy life will you can you only get one chance there no reruns lol |
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"Whats everyones stance on the younger couples who are into this?
Im 20 and the missus is 19, we have been together for years, are engaged, know what we want and are extremely happy and comfortable together. If anything doing this has only made our relationship better, although we have came across many people (mostly much older) who seem quick to judge and snap that we are "far too young" to be involved in this lovely little community..
Are they just grumpy old cunts or does anyone else agree with them, and please state your reasons for doing so? I mean, personally, I see cant the difference between an 18 year old and a 60 year old doing this, its a matter of personal choice and by that age youre more than ample to be able to make your own decisions and know what it is youre looking for (18 I mean!). But then again, might just be me...
Cant wait to hear some of your responses
Do what suits you. Fuck what others think.
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
It's not the age but the maturity for us and whether we would have anything in common. We don't do fuck and go meets so if we are not on the same wavelength it would make for a boring evening. Part of the attraction is in the mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started all this when I was 20. Was told by people to go to normal clubs and enjoy being young.
I ignored them had meets with men and couples and attend events and swingers clubs with different partners and generally enjoying the swinging lifestyle.
Still loving it now.
Id take no notice of people if they say your too young. You both want to do this and its not really up to anyone else to you cant.
How can being sexually liberated and open minded from a young age be a bad thing after all? |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
You sound like a very mature and fun couple. I had threesomes as a 20 year old newly wed and know many people can handle that kind of naughty fun depending upon their relationship and personality.
I would not play with you, as I now have a son in your age group. But
I regularly chat to younger single guys and couples at my local club and enjoy their company and hope that you will venture into clubs before too long. Meeting people face to face give people a better idea of what you are about. (shame some clubs have lower age limits).
Don't worry about the judgemental folk on here. Do what is right for you and have loads of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wish id done more when i was younger "
^^^^^^ this
I think older people are just a bit jealous when they see younger couples as they wish they had started at a younger age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The lifestyle is a choice not a closed membership. If you both feel it's right for you and you're both quite happy with however you go about it then no you're not too young. Anyone who moans at you or criticises is obviously not the person/people to play with |
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