Okay I'm not starting a war nor fight. As everyone is entitled to their preferences and type. Most guys into bbw or skinny girls. Or women into suits etc. But the common one is race. For me we're all human so I haven't got an issue. But it's upsetting to see it. Just wondered why people have this prefennce.
I do have no luck on Caucasian women here or other sites. I did wonder was it just me but my luck is 2/5. I've seen one user on here describing her detest for black men/couples saying we're horrible and if approached by any black people she will respond aggressively because "that's all we know". I am wondering is that the mind set of most people against black people? That were not nice and too aggressive? |
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What a horrible thing to write in a profile. That's simply awful. For myself I like to take each person as I find them. I have my sexual preferences, but my over riding priority is that I like people for who they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned. |
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"Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned. "
You would actually be surprised. As a single male just see the responses I get |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay I'm not starting a war nor fight. As everyone is entitled to their preferences and type. Most guys into bbw or skinny girls. Or women into suits etc. But the common one is race. For me we're all human so I haven't got an issue. But it's upsetting to see it. Just wondered why people have this prefennce.
I do have no luck on Caucasian women here or other sites. I did wonder was it just me but my luck is 2/5. I've seen one user on here describing her detest for black men/couples saying we're horrible and if approached by any black people she will respond aggressively because "that's all we know". I am wondering is that the mind set of most people against black people? That were not nice and too aggressive?"
If I was meeting and You&Me was closer I'd meet up with You for a social great profile too
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We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
I like nice men, doesn't matter what race, if I fancy them and like them it's all good.
I don't happen to fancy many black men, but then I don't fancy a lot of white guys either  |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
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"Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned.
You would actually be surprised. As a single male just see the responses I get"
What responses? Negative or positive? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned.
You would actually be surprised. As a single male just see the responses I get"
As a bisexual male I might have a better understanding than you think. The default assumption for 60% of the site seems to be that bi men are permiscuous, disease bags. |
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"Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned.
You would actually be surprised. As a single male just see the responses I get
What responses? Negative or positive? "
Both. Sorry but cannot disclose that info what people message me. Forum rules |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
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Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change. |
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OP there are some racist people on here, just like there are out in the real world. All you can do is report them if they are openly rude and racist and block them.
There are plenty of people who are not that way, you just need to find them.
On another note it's a pleasant change to see a single black man not use BBC on his profile. I hate the fact that so many do. Its as if they think that's all they have to offer when in reality a lot of women are more interested in the person attached to the cock. |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change. "
I absolutely love this. . |
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"OP there are some racist people on here, just like there are out in the real world. All you can do is report them if they are openly rude and racist and block them.
There are plenty of people who are not that way, you just need to find them.
On another note it's a pleasant change to see a single black man not use BBC on his profile. I hate the fact that so many do. Its as if they think that's all they have to offer when in reality a lot of women are more interested in the person attached to the cock."
I feel it is very degrading. Not every black man is big plus your just leaving yourself as an idiot in my opinion honestly. Guys who do that for me a single minded. For me I never use that and never will |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change. "
I would agree with this...preferences are never set in stone, they change as you do, with each new experience |
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You have a few verifications so pretty much don't think it's a race thing some couples are only looking for BBC others white only it's a personal choice op I would like to think that as an adult swinging site people are not that small minded  |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
I would agree with this...preferences are never set in stone, they change as you do, with each new experience"
thus this is true |
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"You have a few verifications so pretty much don't think it's a race thing some couples are only looking for BBC others white only it's a personal choice op I would like to think that as an adult swinging site people are not that small minded "
I have never played with a Caucasian woman on this site ever. I've been on here since 2009 on and off. Every Caucasian woman I've met has been a social. I thought oh okay maybe I'm not good looking. But when I saw that woman's profile I just wondered. Hence the reason for the thread |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
I would agree with this...preferences are never set in stone, they change as you do, with each new experience"
I was never very interested in Indian women growing up. Not disinterested, just not interested. Then I went travelling in India and got to see people in a whole different light, I started to understand some of the culture difference and since then I'd say I came back with a strong preference for Indian women.
If you grow up surrounded by images of 'sexy' women in jeans, thongs and crop tops then you embed a preference for that. But there's nothing inherently more sexy about that look than a saree. Now I see something completely different when I see a woman in a nice saree. |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
I would agree with this...preferences are never set in stone, they change as you do, with each new experience
I was never very interested in Indian women growing up. Not disinterested, just not interested. Then I went travelling in India and got to see people in a whole different light, I started to understand some of the culture difference and since then I'd say I came back with a strong preference for Indian women.
If you grow up surrounded by images of 'sexy' women in jeans, thongs and crop tops then you embed a preference for that. But there's nothing inherently more sexy about that look than a saree. Now I see something completely different when I see a woman in a nice saree. "
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change. "
What makes you think I haven't done that? |
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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago
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I've seen the profile that the OP referred to, I should have reported it.
To the op, although I've not met anyone off of fab, I traditionally do better with non-black women.
Of courses there's Caucasian women that aren't interested in us brothers, but equally, there are a huge pool of women that are.
Good luck, and keep your head up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you don't feel attracted to a certain race you don't! I get abuse of black guys for that fact! I can't explain my preference or say why a black guy doesn't turn me on! Not because I am racist like they say,because I am black and proud! Is just sexually.x |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change. "
And you're saying we don't all have preferences but our preferences can evolve?  |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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" I am wondering is that the mind set of most people against black people? That were not nice and too aggressive?"
OP I believe only a small minority of people have that mindset against black people on here.
I've seen hundreds of profiles on here where couples or females are looking for black guys.
I'm a black guy, and 95% of my meets on here have been with Caucasian women. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"If you don't feel attracted to a certain race you don't! I get abuse of black guys for that fact! I can't explain my preference or say why a black guy doesn't turn me on! Not because I am racist like they say,because I am black and proud! Is just sexually.x"
I think there is a world of difference between not meeting people because whatever they are (black, white, tall, short, etc etc) is not your sexual preference and writing on your profuke that you will respond to black men agressively as "that is all they know".... |
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"If you don't feel attracted to a certain race you don't! I get abuse of black guys for that fact! I can't explain my preference or say why a black guy doesn't turn me on! Not because I am racist like they say,because I am black and proud! Is just sexually.x
I think there is a world of difference between not meeting people because whatever they are (black, white, tall, short, etc etc) is not your sexual preference and writing on your profuke that you will respond to black men agressively as "that is all they know"...."
I am entitled to my opinion,is my profile and I write what I please! Many people put on theirs Black guys only! And I on mine ,I do prefer white guys,they do turn me on! Which person fuck who they want! I don't need to justify and yes is sexual preference for me,because a white guy turns me on! Thankyou very much! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
What makes you think I haven't done that?"
It was a general comment on the idea you stated, not the person stating it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been called racist on here. I didn't say anything about skin colour. I simply said no thank you in reply to a first message. With the exception of Wesley snipes (only as blade) I don't think I've ever fancied a black guy. I said no thank you because the guy was 20, and I like older men. It doesn't suprise me that you've found text like that on a profile. There are narrow minded idiots in every walk of life, but please report it, it has no place here, or anywhere.  |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
And you're saying we don't all have preferences but our preferences can evolve? "
Hence why I put the word in ' ', I do think it's a bullshit term but a lot of people on here like to pretend is has some meaning |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"If you don't feel attracted to a certain race you don't! I get abuse of black guys for that fact! I can't explain my preference or say why a black guy doesn't turn me on! Not because I am racist like they say,because I am black and proud! Is just sexually.x
I think there is a world of difference between not meeting people because whatever they are (black, white, tall, short, etc etc) is not your sexual preference and writing on your profuke that you will respond to black men agressively as "that is all they know"....I am entitled to my opinion,is my profile and I write what I please! Many people put on theirs Black guys only! And I on mine ,I do prefer white guys,they do turn me on! Which person fuck who they want! I don't need to justify and yes is sexual preference for me,because a white guy turns me on! Thankyou very much!"
I know. I'm agreeing with you.
I was saying that there is a world of difference between experessing a sexual preference (as you do), and what the OP experienced on one occasion. |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
What makes you think I haven't done that?
It was a general comment on the idea you stated, not the person stating it."
Oh, I usually use the word one then instead of you, just to be clear. |
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"We all have preferences, we can't help ourselves.
Actually I'd dispute this.
Your 'preferences' have been shaped by your experiences. If you challenge yourself, try new things, travel and meet more people, your 'preferences' will change.
What makes you think I haven't done that?
It was a general comment on the idea you stated, not the person stating it.
Oh, I usually use the word one then instead of you, just to be clear."
Noted and apologies for the ambiguous language. |
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"If you don't feel attracted to a certain race you don't! I get abuse of black guys for that fact! I can't explain my preference or say why a black guy doesn't turn me on! Not because I am racist like they say,because I am black and proud! Is just sexually.x
I think there is a world of difference between not meeting people because whatever they are (black, white, tall, short, etc etc) is not your sexual preference and writing on your profuke that you will respond to black men agressively as "that is all they know"....I am entitled to my opinion,is my profile and I write what I please! Many people put on theirs Black guys only! And I on mine ,I do prefer white guys,they do turn me on! Which person fuck who they want! I don't need to justify and yes is sexual preference for me,because a white guy turns me on! Thankyou very much!
I know. I'm agreeing with you.
I was saying that there is a world of difference between experessing a sexual preference (as you do), and what the OP experienced on one occasion. "
So sorry missed understand! |
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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago
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"Do you know what BBC stands for? Here's a clue, it ain't British Broadcasting Corporation.
Hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles are looking for BBC so I'd guess that a lot more people have a positive view than the view you mentioned. "
Well said and spot on
Everyone has their own preferences/kinks so just get on with it it's just a numbers game, far too many men to women, it's got nothing to do with race or colour.
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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago
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We've met and had sex with couples and singles of all colours, races, shapes and sizes. We'll probably have a lot more too lol.
Surely we all do this swinging malarkey to meet and play with all sorts of people from all walks of life.
But if you have bad experiences it colours your preferences.
We have had very little 'unpleasantness' and tbh most of it was from/with caucasians.
We have found that asian (indian/pakistani) men have an unfortunate cultural attitude towards women hence we tend to avoid them but only for that reason.
Although we would never attend BBC meets, more due to the attitude of their admirers, we have had some nice encounters with black couples and singles. |
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"You have a few verifications so pretty much don't think it's a race thing some couples are only looking for BBC others white only it's a personal choice op I would like to think that as an adult swinging site people are not that small minded
I have never played with a Caucasian woman on this site ever. I've been on here since 2009 on and off. Every Caucasian woman I've met has been a social. I thought oh okay maybe I'm not good looking. But when I saw that woman's profile I just wondered. Hence the reason for the thread "
Op have you considered going to clubs, BMFC events etc? Even if you don't like the idea of playing in clubs, it's a good place to meet people, and good for arranging future meets. I've played with 3 black guys since joining fab. One became my FB for 3 months and one is likely to become a great FB/good friend. All of them I met in a club! Like many ladies I get so many messages on here I rarely get chance to read them!
Good luck op - and great status - hope you find some lovely meets! Xx |
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"You have a few verifications so pretty much don't think it's a race thing some couples are only looking for BBC others white only it's a personal choice op I would like to think that as an adult swinging site people are not that small minded
I have never played with a Caucasian woman on this site ever. I've been on here since 2009 on and off. Every Caucasian woman I've met has been a social. I thought oh okay maybe I'm not good looking. But when I saw that woman's profile I just wondered. Hence the reason for the thread
Op have you considered going to clubs, BMFC events etc? Even if you don't like the idea of playing in clubs, it's a good place to meet people, and good for arranging future meets. I've played with 3 black guys since joining fab. One became my FB for 3 months and one is likely to become a great FB/good friend. All of them I met in a club! Like many ladies I get so many messages on here I rarely get chance to read them!
Good luck op - and great status - hope you find some lovely meets! Xx"
Really sound advice. I'm actually going to a party on Friday so I'm branching my options |
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