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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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Hi every one bit of an odd one I have to say me and a friend have slowly been getting in to bdsm and master slave rp that's fine all is well with that but we went to a club and had a great night got on with eevery one and such but on the way home she told me that some one who worked there had slipped her his number and asking about me and her and bdsm is it me or is that very rude and not what swinging is about? I find it very sly to do that to a clp that is new to a club also even more so if they work there? |
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over a year ago
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swinging is very much a non-ownership type of activity.
opportunists are very drawn to the scene if you haven't noticed.
it's pretty much as simple as that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"swinging is very much a non-ownership type of activity.
opportunists are very drawn to the scene if you haven't noticed.
it's pretty much as simple as that."
 how can someone steal what is noy yours |
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"Hi every one bit of an odd one I have to say me and a friend have slowly been getting in to bdsm and master slave rp that's fine all is well with that but we went to a club and had a great night got on with eevery one and such but on the way home she told me that some one who worked there had slipped her his number and asking about me and her and bdsm is it me or is that very rude and not what swinging is about? I find it very sly to do that to a clp that is new to a club also even more so if they work there? "
you arent a cpl tho?
IF you make a commitment and she does..thats fine..
but u arrived as an 'on paper' couple... |
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"Hi every one bit of an odd one I have to say me and a friend have slowly been getting in to bdsm and master slave rp that's fine all is well with that but we went to a club and had a great night got on with eevery one and such but on the way home she told me that some one who worked there had slipped her his number and asking about me and her and bdsm is it me or is that very rude and not what swinging is about? I find it very sly to do that to a clp that is new to a club also even more so if they work there? "
Without knowing details I couldn't say. A conversation seems to have taken place between them so could it be that he felt able to give her his number rather than slyly, slip it to her? Your interpretation of his motives might not be correct. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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We have a master slave relationship and she says she is very happy with me and dose not want another dom to play with yet she is alowed to have as meny men and ladies as she wants just felt that playing is fine but trying to get her to become his sub was a bit sly is all I do under stand what you all are saying |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"swinging is very much a non-ownership type of activity.
opportunists are very drawn to the scene if you haven't noticed.
it's pretty much as simple as that."
Very true and no I do not own her out side of the bed room we are just exploring bdsm and such but we are going slow and finding out togther is all |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"swinging is very much a non-ownership type of activity.
opportunists are very drawn to the scene if you haven't noticed.
it's pretty much as simple as that.
how can someone steal what is noy yours"
I under stand she dose not belong to me be we do have a bond that is more then sex but I am happy to let her Fuck who she wishes but I feel it is diffrent to have another dom want to use her as his sub |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Hi every one bit of an odd one I have to say me and a friend have slowly been getting in to bdsm and master slave rp that's fine all is well with that but we went to a club and had a great night got on with eevery one and such but on the way home she told me that some one who worked there had slipped her his number and asking about me and her and bdsm is it me or is that very rude and not what swinging is about? I find it very sly to do that to a clp that is new to a club also even more so if they work there?
you arent a cpl tho?
IF you make a commitment and she does..thats fine..
but u arrived as an 'on paper' couple..."
We arrived as an on paper clp but there is more to that we do it so we can both enjoy a night I look after her and make sure she is safe and nothing happens she dose not want to and for that I get to pay less with coming in as a clp |
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Personally I don't think there is anything odd about it. Your opening post refers to her as a friend and in conversation she probably said that's what your relationship is hence another guy feeling it ok to give her his number.
Just guessing obviously.
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"We have a master slave relationship and she says she is very happy with me and dose not want another dom to play with yet she is alowed to have as meny men and ladies as she wants just felt that playing is fine but trying to get her to become his sub was a bit sly is all I do under stand what you all are saying "
Is that what he was doing, you didn't make it clear?
Not sure if he was aware of the nature of your relationship but whatever his motives if the two of you are tight it will be fine, you'll always get chancers. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't think there is anything odd about it. Your opening post refers to her as a friend and in conversation she probably said that's what your relationship is hence another guy feeling it ok to give her his number.
Just guessing obviously.
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Yes very true yet there is a little more to us but we are just fwb |
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"Personally I don't think there is anything odd about it. Your opening post refers to her as a friend and in conversation she probably said that's what your relationship is hence another guy feeling it ok to give her his number.
Just guessing obviously.
Yes very true yet there is a little more to us but we are just fwb "
Then what happens now is up to your friend really. |
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"I think after reading every ones posts I maybe have been a little over the top and that we are both free to play with who we wish and I should let what happens happen "
You can't help your initial reaction to something  but I think you're wise to have come to that conclusion. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think after reading every ones posts I maybe have been a little over the top and that we are both free to play with who we wish and I should let what happens happen
You can't help your initial reaction to something but I think you're wise to have come to that conclusion."
Thank you maybe I over think some times and I feel I should let her and my self do as we both wish long as we ar happy that is all that matters in the swinging scene |
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why not fight it out with the other dom.......
I find most doms, in my experience as being cunty controlling bastards, and their subject, more often than not is a sexually exploited/repressed/deeper issues type.
I barely acknolwlege many of them..with very few friends from that ilk..
if I see a profile that says "contact my master if u want to meet me"..i think..
fuck off. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"why not fight it out with the other dom.......
I find most doms, in my experience as being cunty controlling bastards, and their subject, more often than not is a sexually exploited/repressed/deeper issues type.
I barely acknolwlege many of them..with very few friends from that ilk..
if I see a profile that says "contact my master if u want to meet me"..i think..
fuck off."
Wow well as it has been said she dose not belong to me and so she is free to do as she wishes and with me and her it is not like that at all she knows iam a big softie with her and would never hurt or push her to do things she did not like |
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He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why not fight it out with the other dom.......
I find most doms, in my experience as being cunty controlling bastards, and their subject, more often than not is a sexually exploited/repressed/deeper issues type.
I barely acknolwlege many of them..with very few friends from that ilk..
if I see a profile that says "contact my master if u want to meet me"..i think..
fuck off.
Wow well as it has been said she dose not belong to me and so she is free to do as she wishes and with me and her it is not like that at all she knows iam a big softie with her and would never hurt or push her to do things she did not like"
so what is the issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the person that gave you the note was working there at the time - maybe chatting personal stuff isnt allowed during working hours"
I was about to post exactly this idea.
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said. "
That is fine I under stand what you mean and yes he could of been doing that but I do not feel it was just for that reson but anyway after posting this I have come to it that it was just my head playing games with me and with me and her we are both free to do as we wish |
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"He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said. "
or he wanted her for his bdmsm enclave of willing(if u wanna call it that) sluts
I have very little time for that scene, and can only say I've met more cunts than I'd like to admit from it. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"why not fight it out with the other dom.......
I find most doms, in my experience as being cunty controlling bastards, and their subject, more often than not is a sexually exploited/repressed/deeper issues type.
I barely acknolwlege many of them..with very few friends from that ilk..
if I see a profile that says "contact my master if u want to meet me"..i think..
fuck off.
Wow well as it has been said she dose not belong to me and so she is free to do as she wishes and with me and her it is not like that at all she knows iam a big softie with her and would never hurt or push her to do things she did not like
so what is the issue?"
Well after this post and talking to others and finding out how you lot feel I don't think there is an issue any more I have to let things happen long as we are both safe and happy that's all that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said.
That is fine I under stand what you mean and yes he could of been doing that but I do not feel it was just for that reson but anyway after posting this I have come to it that it was just my head playing games with me and with me and her we are both free to do as we wish "
If she told you about the note then she's being open with you.
I think it's good to ask and get other view points.
If you'd prefer to be in a relationship/ fwb/ whatever/ with her, tell her and discuss it. Another reason she may have mentioned it could be to see if you wanted 'more'. Or to be open with you in case she did want the other guy. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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Thank you every one for your input and I feel I was the one out of line blowing it up in my head and having a rant and well as I have said before what ever happens happens long as every one is safe and happy that's all that matters to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said.
or he wanted her for his bdmsm enclave of willing(if u wanna call it that) sluts
I have very little time for that scene, and can only say I've met more cunts than I'd like to admit from it."
Don't they just drag them back to their cave by their hair?
I know what you mean. They aren't all like that but yeah.. some are. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"He was 'asking about you and her and bdsm'.
This reads to me as though he was concerned if she was ok. Some 'bdsm relationships' can be abusive. Perhaps he was just looking out for her?
I'm not saying that you are abusive OP. Just giving my opinion on what you've said.
That is fine I under stand what you mean and yes he could of been doing that but I do not feel it was just for that reson but anyway after posting this I have come to it that it was just my head playing games with me and with me and her we are both free to do as we wish
If she told you about the note then she's being open with you.
I think it's good to ask and get other view points.
If you'd prefer to be in a relationship/ fwb/ whatever/ with her, tell her and discuss it. Another reason she may have mentioned it could be to see if you wanted 'more'. Or to be open with you in case she did want the other guy. "
That is what I felt that how ever she feels she told me and was open about it and that is all I can ask that we are both open and free to say and do as we wish |
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