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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My wife knows I'm bisexual and did before we was married,at first she would say to me that it was okay to go onto swinger's site's and she would like to watch me with another guy having sex. But all that has changed now,and all I get is negative attitude from her even to the extent that she's starting to call me a poof and talking to me like I'm dirt. I'm so confused why she has completely changed her tune. |
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"My wife knows I'm bisexual and did before we was married,at first she would say to me that it was okay to go onto swinger's site's and she would like to watch me with another guy having sex. But all that has changed now,and all I get is negative attitude from her even to the extent that she's starting to call me a poof and talking to me like I'm dirt. I'm so confused why she has completely changed her tune."
May be she feels threatened ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As much as it drives people round the bend people frequently change, and have a right to change.
So, don't get hung up about the past and be confrontational about that. What you need to do is to both communicate. For example why is she thinking differently?
You have to bear in mind most wifes would be very adverse to what you want to do, so she might have good reasons to feel the way she does. Even if you don't think they are good reasons, you have to respect how she feels.
As for her talking to you like dirt, I have no advice other that to talk to a marrage councillor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As much as it drives people round the bend people frequently change, and have a right to change.
So, don't get hung up about the past and be confrontational about that. What you need to do is to both communicate. For example why is she thinking differently?
You have to bear in mind most wifes would be very adverse to what you want to do, so she might have good reasons to feel the way she does. Even if you don't think they are good reasons, you have to respect how she feels.
As for her talking to you like dirt, I have no advice other that to talk to a marrage councillor. "
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"My wife knows I'm bisexual and did before we was married,at first she would say to me that it was okay to go onto swinger's site's and she would like to watch me with another guy having sex. But all that has changed now,and all I get is negative attitude from her even to the extent that she's starting to call me a poof and talking to me like I'm dirt. I'm so confused why she has completely changed her tune."
Would she join the site with you? And yes ask her why she's calling you names out of the blue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My wife knows in bi curious, she has welcomed this into our relationship and is fully supportive of it too.
She wasn't best happy to find me on here to start with, but we talked, and talked, and talked more!
Now she is here with me, and enjoying the fun times we have had so far.
My best advice, speak to your wife, don't hide anything and most of all... tell her how much you love her still |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I have asked her why the change of tune,and it only starts a argument,I don't like argument's so I just shut up and don't mention it again. Thanks for your reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe she does but I love her and would never go behind her back. I've always believed in life to be up front and tell the truth to people. Thanks for your reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your reply. At the end of the day it's only consenting sex between adults and if nobody it's getting hurt and you enjoy the sex before you get old what's the harm in it. She was okay with it before,but now I think she's just gone off sex all together. Maybe a marriage councillor is the way forward. I have a high sex drive and need it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She did join at first with me,then said it was full of timewasters. But then she opened her own account, I think she was just spying on me. Thanks for your reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Talking to people on here would probably be cheaper than going to a councillor. And the people on here are adults and may know where I'm coming from. Thanks for your reply |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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It would help if you hit the "quote" button so that person knows you're replying to their comment.
As for your situation there could be all sorts of reasons for the change of course by your wife. It might not even be that you are the problem. Maybe she is using your bisexuality as an excuse to cover up something she is afraid to confront. The only way you will resolve it is for you both to discuss this attitude change as adults. Refusing to speak about it or becoming aggressive (even verbally) is not being a communicative adult. It's resorting to juvenile name calling & bullying.
Discussing it on the forums with strangers might comfort you in the absence of discussing it with your wife, but ultimately even that is not going to resolve the issue.
Good luck. I hope you both get to the bottom of what is clearly an upsetting time for you both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My wife knows in bi curious, she has welcomed this into our relationship and is fully supportive of it too.
She wasn't best happy to find me on here to start with, but we talked, and talked, and talked more!
Now she is here with me, and enjoying the fun times we have had so far.
My best advice, speak to your wife, don't hide anything and most of all... tell her how much you love her still "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It would help if you hit the "quote" button so that person knows you're replying to their comment.
As for your situation there could be all sorts of reasons for the change of course by your wife. It might not even be that you are the problem. Maybe she is using your bisexuality as an excuse to cover up something she is afraid to confront. The only way you will resolve it is for you both to discuss this attitude change as adults. Refusing to speak about it or becoming aggressive (even verbally) is not being a communicative adult. It's resorting to juvenile name calling & bullying.
Discussing it on the forums with strangers might comfort you in the absence of discussing it with your wife, but ultimately even that is not going to resolve the issue.
Good luck. I hope you both get to the bottom of what is clearly an upsetting time for you both. "
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