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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!"
It would be the latter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had plenty of attention but getting no joy myself. I think the thing to do, which i am going to do is stop hoping for private meets on here and start going to clubs. I've played each time i've been to a club. Good luck pal |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!"
you have many avenues that you can use other than just a profile... how many of them are you actually prepared to use....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
You're a yam yam  "
So women should be fighting over me. If a Brummie can do.it then i know i can  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter."
So whats wrong with it then |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys "
and there start with closing some of the avenues based in hearsay.....
price, it may stop you from going as often as you may like... but its not stopping you from going and trying one out..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
You're a yam yam
What's a yam yam??"
Someone not quite from Birmingham. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
you have many avenues that you can use other than just a profile... how many of them are you actually prepared to use....
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Avenues ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Don't be tight."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to say, but to me it's both your needy sounding profile and uninviting pictures.
Do a forum search for profile advice.
Good luck
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Uninviting pics ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then "
The fact that you don't know what is wrong with it is indicative of your attitude.
Have you read your own profile from the perspective of a lady? How enticing do you think it would be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys "
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
and there start with closing some of the avenues based in hearsay.....
price, it may stop you from going as often as you may like... but its not stopping you from going and trying one out....."
Ok Fabio i hear you. Cheers |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then "
okay... think of it like this....
if there were 2 shops.... one was very plain and drab, the other full of bright flashing and sparkly things....
which would your eye be drawn to???
your profile is your "shop window" to the world.... you get the oppotunity to fill it full of "bright flashing and sparkly" things
its your chance to stand out.... its your chance to put the best you on display...... |
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then "
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him"
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself fella , always show respect , get in the chat tooms and let people see that your genuine , a single guy has to be able to accom , ive f£&k ugly lol but ive met some fantastic people at socials , im loving fabs. Best of luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others."
Ok thanks for that. Im listening ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just be yourself fella , always show respect , get in the chat tooms and let people see that your genuine , a single guy has to be able to accom , ive f£&k ugly lol but ive met some fantastic people at socials , im loving fabs. Best of luck. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just be yourself fella , always show respect , get in the chat tooms and let people see that your genuine , a single guy has to be able to accom , ive f£&k ugly lol but ive met some fantastic people at socials , im loving fabs. Best of luck. "
I can accomodate sometimes but im a single full time dad who also works full time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys "
Club, it's the only way.
If it's that frustrating for you, save your pennies then go |
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"I've had plenty of attention but getting no joy myself. I think the thing to do, which i am going to do is stop hoping for private meets on here and start going to clubs. I've played each time i've been to a club. Good luck pal"
Club meets are great for getting into the scene xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
You're a yam yam
What's a yam yam??
Someone not quite from Birmingham. "
From Black Country....Dudley/Wolverhampton etc.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
You're a yam yam
So women should be fighting over me. If a Brummie can do.it then i know i can "
  good luck fella |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out "
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get a few tattoos or a sleave, sunbed, spike your hair, few muscles and you'll be like all the other guys then and you'll be in like Flynn hahaha"
What he said  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go? "
Bit women have to chat to organise a coffee/ social meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either "
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will! |
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others.
Ok thanks for that. Im listening ??"
Look at your profile and think to yourself would you meet that Man.
From a woman's perspective, a man in a suit is wow! Tasteful pictures of the body.
Messages, well everyone is different, but how would you talk to someone in a pub.
Also do what _abio has said, get to a club, even if you have to travel to get to a club.
There are also socials to attend. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Just be yourself fella , always show respect , get in the chat tooms and let people see that your genuine , a single guy has to be able to accom , ive f£&k ugly lol but ive met some fantastic people at socials , im loving fabs. Best of luck.
I can accomodate sometimes but im a single full time dad who also works full time. "
OP if you go on POF and say that your a single dad looking for a relaxing evening in the company of a woman nothing heavy just friendship and fun you will get meets and you will get laid .
I view a swinger site as the domain of couples and those with a kink so as you don't fall in ether category from reading your profile best you use vanilla POF . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go? "
Yea i guess it isnt that much i didnt say it was much tho i just said it cost money and depending how often you gotta do it before you get laid and can cost a bit. And there is the travelling. Like i said tho i dont have it all figured out. |
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others.
Ok thanks for that. Im listening ??"
Listening?
Go and take a look.
You can read for yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others.
Ok thanks for that. Im listening ??
Listening?
Go and take a look.
You can read for yourself."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Genuine single guy trying to get into the swinging scene but by god its bloody hard. Im either mega ugly or my profile is shit. Please help !!
It would be the latter.
So whats wrong with it then
Indeed your profile isn't very good in our humble opinion.
Take some time and put some effort into looking at the profiles of the more successful single guys on here. You will see what you are up against and just how good yours is compared to others.
Ok thanks for that. Im listening ??
Listening?
Go and take a look.
You can read for yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd state why you can't accommodate either in profile or messages.
And the bum crack pics? Stripey shorts looks like you are going to scratch your butt, the other looks like you don't know how to pull your pants up properly.
Just my opinion of course.
Good luck OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So instead of being honest i have to lie about myself.im not vanilla at all just trying to have some fun. I dont wear suits very often im a multi skilled engineer so i get dirty and love it .
Thanks all anyway ?? |
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"So instead of being honest i have to lie about myself.im not vanilla at all just trying to have some fun. I dont wear suits very often im a multi skilled engineer so i get dirty and love it .
Thanks all anyway ??"
No ones suggesting you lie?? |
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will! "
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete. |
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
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Chacun a son gout.
Worked for me as a single man. Turning a woman on mentally stood me in very good stead. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go?
Bit women have to chat to organise a coffee/ social meet "
Put one up on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete. "
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete. "
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete |
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As a couple we look at the profile first, then pics.
to be blunt, your profile is very generic..... it doesnt stand out, when we arrange a meet we see dozens of profiles just like yours on the "blog" front
the photos are very mediocre at best and some are not that flattering to be honest.
I would personally suggest a few nice photos and a rewrite.
.... when the advice is to "stimulate" a womans mind, they are not insinuating sending smut but show there is a brain, show a level of intelligence and engage them
if you are talking to a couple, address messages with the idea you could be talking to either.
As for being a single bloke, Dax was on here and introduced me to the scene. he still states how hard going it was for him to even get one meet down.... clubs are a way forward, a chance to meet people and get verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete "
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go?
Bit women have to chat to organise a coffee/ social meet
Put one up on your profile? "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
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thats the bit he has to find out for himself....
if he doesn't... then whatever he write is not him.... its someone elses perception of what they want to hear!!!!
i don't believe in spoonfeeding anyone because they don't learn... I do believe in basic common sense!! so apply that to whatever is written! |
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
Thanks. Thats more like it "
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Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
thats the bit he has to find out for himself....
if he doesn't... then whatever he write is not him.... its someone elses perception of what they want to hear!!!!
i don't believe in spoonfeeding anyone because they don't learn... I do believe in basic common sense!! so apply that to whatever is written! "
Precicely this.
We're not here to tell a person how to behave! |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x"
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete. |
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"So instead of being honest i have to lie about myself.im not vanilla at all just trying to have some fun. I dont wear suits very often im a multi skilled engineer so i get dirty and love it .
Thanks all anyway ??"
You need to find yourself an image that makes you look sexy. That's easy for the younger guys with the gym fit body (and I don't mean that disrespectfully - my husband, nor most of the men I play with, have that type of body either). But most men in their forties probably have to be a bit cleverer with how they show themselves. Sharp clothes, professional photography maybe, nudity if it shows well. With regards to clothes, women are expected to dress up on the swing scene in order to look sexy, so men should do the same. It's not about lying about yourself; it's about about creating an illusion, creating a fantasy. Nobody's 'real' self is sexy. |
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If you don't fancy a club then post meets when you re free , try I ll be in the beer garden of a pub local to you early evening . Theres other singles on here looking for company you never know till you try ,but most of all offer friendship before sex because people don't want to feel obligated sometimes |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete. "
Not for everyone.
Now you are making assumptions |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete.
Not for everyone.
Now you are making assumptions"
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Your photos don't inspire me they are snap shots , try imaginative
Your narrative should explain about the accommodation ..I always wonder about single guys who can't.
Also if you are not accommodating where/how are you intending to meet ?
Get into the forums look for socials in your area
Go to a club - check the website to make sure you select the right night
Messages should be personal - Read the profile pick up and mention something from it, compliment, say why you match their requirements
Tailor the message to the profile and their style |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
"
I was agreeing with the poster I quoted but as you asked me, just be himself, don't big himself up or make himself out to be something he isnt. No one likes a show off |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete.
Not for everyone.
Now you are making assumptions
I was replying for myself. "
Precisely.
You gave the Op the impression that everyone would delete like you. I know from personal experience that many do respond.
E L James made a lot of money pandering to (some) women's fantasies with 'smutty' talk. There are quite a few on here, OP, who enjoy such talk, believe me |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete.
Not for everyone.
Now you are making assumptions
I was replying for myself.
Precisely.
You gave the Op the impression that everyone would delete like you. I know from personal experience that many do respond.
E L James made a lot of money pandering to (some) women's fantasies with 'smutty' talk. There are quite a few on here, OP, who enjoy such talk, believe me "
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Thanks . Forgot to add im a single Straight guy. Ive been told Clubs are the way to go but they are expensive for us single guys
Your right its a real dear do. But its either that or perish i think lol. Unless free time for socials which cost money if anyone wants a social. It is really hard for a single guy but you'll find your way i'm sure. I say that coz i'm hoping to figure it out
Why do you think socials cost money? A coffee isn't expensive unless you have a long way to go?
Bit women have to chat to organise a coffee/ social meet
Put one up on your profile?
Put what up on my profile ??"
A social meet |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
and the spat between those two people is a perfect example of why you shouldn't take everything on trust...
you are never going to appeal to everyone... so why try!!! thats the first mistake people make!!!
if you asked 10 people about cock pics... 5 said "love them"...5 said "hate them"....
what would you do?
and thats why you need to write something based on you.. and who knows you better than you!!!!
and that can only come from you!!!!
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
Thanks. Thats more like it "
Perhaps you could have asked me yourself what I suggest? Anyway I responded to the post |
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"Ultimately OP, either your pics, your profile or your messages have to catch someone's attention. Ideally all three. Ignore the naysayers, above, if you have a foot long cock, show it. Alternatively, if you have a good brain and filthy mind, stimulate the woman's mind - and there's nothing wrong with a naughty message! If the message turns on the woman, she will respond. The ones saying instant delete wouldn't do so if their ideal man sent it, I'm sure. Alternatively, if you're very funny, work that into messages.
In short, play to your strengths!!
That won't guarantee you success but it will optimise your chances. Good luck x
Gosh you make a lot of assumptions.
Regardless of what they look like it would be an instant delete.
Not for everyone.
Now you are making assumptions
I was replying for myself. "
Regardless of looks instant delete for me too |
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Accentuate your best points OP, bethat cock shots, naughty, exciting messages, funny messages, an interesting profile full of interesting info about yourself (could be sexual, though doesn't have to be). Again, good luck x |
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
Thanks. Thats more like it
Your replies to people on this post leave a lot to be desired. You're coming across a little petulant unless you're told what you want to hear. "
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
Thanks. Thats more like it
Your replies to people on this post leave a lot to be desired. You're coming across a little petulant unless you're told what you want to hear. "
Petulant?? Really. Nah |
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
Thanks. Thats more like it
Your replies to people on this post leave a lot to be desired. You're coming across a little petulant unless you're told what you want to hear.
Petulant?? Really. Nah "
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Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ?? |
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??"
Good luck. Don't think you have been petulant on here x |
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??"
Fair enough. Good luck. |
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??
Fair enough. Good luck."
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??
Good luck. Don't think you have been petulant on here x"
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"If you are able to stimulate a woman's mind, arouse her through your thoughts and words, how you look won't matter so much. Get a woman to fever pitch by texts and then cumming hard, and she'll be desperate to fuck you.
Trust me, I know!
Used to be a single man on sites like this and that worked well for me!
Even ended up with four relationships with different women too!
Remember a woman loves to be found desirable and, then, turned on. Good luck.
Him
Thanks. I have messaged women in her basically not being dirty but telling them who i am and a bit about me but that dont work either
No,it won't. Be bold but imaginative! Instead of nice tits say "Would love to be slowly rolling my tongue round and round each of you gorgeous nipples in turn, getting them hard and erect as my hands start to roam all over your sexy body...."
Some won't like that. But some will!
Awful advice. The consensus of women I've seen here is that this would be an instant delete.
I agree. A message like this is a instant delete
Instead of picking holes, what would you suggest the guy say in his messages that would persuade you to reply?
I was agreeing with the poster I quoted but as you asked me, just be himself, don't big himself up or make himself out to be something he isnt. No one likes a show off "
No, but he has to accentuate that which he does have/is good at. A bit like a good interview. It's fair to say that women like - and are attracted to - confident men, so a bit of "bigging up" is a bit necessary, I'd suggest |
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??"
You're not listening.....no one can help you. You have to make the effort yourself. Listen to the advice given and consider it and then decide if you want to apply any advice to your profile. If you don't change anything, then nothing will change. You have to stand out. You're unique and are the best person to write about yourself. You could have better photos and you need to be able to communicate on fab in writing. You could organise your own social, or attend an advertised one on fab or save up and go to a club. There are many avenues open, but at the moment, you're in a cul-de-sac and they don't go anywhere so they? |
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AS profiles go I dont think it looks that bad...
you are only 6 weeks in too.
to be honest look into the social scene(as in organised socials), it is a great way to get out there and be seen as a nice type sociable chap.
anyway, I wouldn't take much advice from the forums, I never really did, especially when it comes to profile 'rating'
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"Like i said in my first post " please help me" if anyone wants to help then feel free to pm me. But i have listened to you all. Im not petulant just trying to make new friends. Thanks x ??
Good luck. Don't think you have been petulant on here x
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"Like i said i do message women bit most of them.dont reply and thwy havent eewn looked at my profile."
You don't know if they have looked as a lot look in 'stealth mode'. A no reply can be considered as a 'no thank you' - if you're always getting no replies then consider what you're writing and how you're writing it. |
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"AS profiles go I dont think it looks that bad...
you are only 6 weeks in too.
to be honest look into the social scene(as in organised socials), it is a great way to get out there and be seen as a nice type sociable chap.
anyway, I wouldn't take much advice from the forums, I never really did, especially when it comes to profile 'rating'
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