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Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
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Personally I would also love to have a fb or better yet a fwb of the female gender. However I generally only receive messages from guys asking to suck my cock lol.
I know I should filter them out but then I might not receive any messages at all.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i would say to anyone in that position that who knows what you want better than you.... so you do the hunting instead of expecting a mountain to come to you....
you do the research before, you do the scouting, you do the first messaging, you give them a reason to pick you....
the popular people are that for a reason, they are already out there probably having fun, so give them a bloody good reason as to why they should be having fun with you instead..... give them a reason to say WOW!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's surprising you can't find one given the quantity of single men on here.
However, as a couple, we find the quality of single men quite poor, so I guess that tallies with your situation. |
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When it comes to quality a couple has already found that in their partner so then finding a fb to come somewhere close could be difficult in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if any of these ladies are in the North West, like older, hirsute men, please point them in my direction to see if we're compatible?
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
it takes time, communication and a willingness to go on a journey together as well as, a level of chemistry and compatibility that grows, rather than fades. My lovers are gorgeous, valued and totally appreciated.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When it comes to quality a couple has already found that in their partner so then finding a fb to come somewhere close could be difficult in my opinion."
Excellent point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
stick it out...there are some seriously good guys on here.. don't forget the old saying 'you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly? |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
stick it out...there are some seriously good guys on here.. don't forget the old saying 'you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince' "
Ribbit ribbit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know I agree with you, OP. It's near impossible for us to find. I just want a local guy who I'm attracted to and who wants to meet somewhat regularly.
We've pretty much given up, though. Clubs with our friends is how we are going forward, for the most part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every one talks about the elusive females, genuine good males are equally as hard.
However, fab is not like ordering on amazon.
Fb's and poly relationships are a life style choice, we have found fab and clubbing occasionally is recreational, poly is something more.
Do you socialise in places where poly people might be regularly ? Do you attend socials or go to a club on a regular basis ? Have you thought of hosting a night in a venue ? Do you go to club nights where there are lots of singles ?
Not all, but lots of Fb relationships we have seen come from regulars at clubs who might have a little afters, and it all develops from there.
To find more than a one off the relationship needs to come first then the regular Fb.
Also you know your needs and wants, but what about the FB ? How are there needs and wants catered for ?
Fbs are like cabbages, you need to cultivate them and nurture them, you can't order them from the internet, they go mouldy in transport, as it appears you have found out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
maybe all the males who thought they may be in with a chance have headed for the hills because they thought you were looking for fanny? well that's what I thought...and now I'm seriously confused, but admittedly it doesn't take much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot harder then I thought it would be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A Female one that is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Add me to the list of women looking for a FWB who treats me with respect, can accommodate, is handsome and has a good personality. Been searching for two years so far... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
some of us guys never get the chance to even try
Fancy a fuk? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time I went looking I found someone within 2 weeks which was a nice surprise. It took a hell of a lot of mails though. Men I like don't like me and vice versa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,'ve been looking for a second fb for over 2 years, I can't find someone with chemistry between us, who is also on same page all round. XXX |
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Fab!!!, you are eating a Fab, lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I,'ve been looking for a second fb for over 2 years, I can't find someone with chemistry between us, who is also on same page all round. XXX"
a second..cant find a first  |
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"By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly?"
Probably that feeling when you've been chatting and flirting online and then you actually get to meet. And the first thing that enters your head is "Oh shit". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also would love to find a fuck buddy. Just maybe I can be lucky one day.
Happy hunting SB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chemistry local regular meets almost a unicorn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have also been looking for a female fb for years, someone local to shag 3 to 5 times, who can refuse such offer lol. I beleive in fate and that plays a huge role if we get lucky or not x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm single been here 6 months an I certainly can't find a fb.... |
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"When it comes to quality a couple has already found that in their partner so then finding a fb to come somewhere close could be difficult in my opinion."
I think that's exactly the problem. I find it really difficult to find males to play but easy with females
MrsSB |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Been here for 7 years and still looking.
Any good looking single toned males please feel free to inbox me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i get on with most people so finding chemistry isn't that hard.
finding someone who wants very regular meets is harder, i had a lot of fb to compensate for that. |
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I would love an attractive intelligent female nsa regular fwb to pleasure. |
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"Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx"
I'm very proactive and I had 13 socials with males only one has ended in play meet. Plus all my female meets solo. Plus threesome with hubby.
It's probably what someone point it out. For regular male sex I have hubby.
But I keep trying.
Thank you for your honesty and opinion much appreciated
MrsSB |
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"By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly?"
I don't fancy shagging them
MrsSB |
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"i would say to anyone in that position that who knows what you want better than you.... so you do the hunting instead of expecting a mountain to come to you....
you do the research before, you do the scouting, you do the first messaging, you give them a reason to pick you....
the popular people are that for a reason, they are already out there probably having fun, so give them a bloody good reason as to why they should be having fun with you instead..... give them a reason to say WOW!!!!"
As I said I'm proactive and I average 2 socials with males per month since I've been here.
MrsSB |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
stick it out...there are some seriously good guys on here.. don't forget the old saying 'you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince' "
I'm doing that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have had it on the past from here, now looking again as they've moved further away and hardly see anymore due to busy life's on both ends. Currently looking again! |
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I think that FWB's live in the same place as unicorns
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I've been here for around a year and a half, have had numerous socials but can only say I've had 2 fbs in all that time |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx
I'm very proactive and I had 13 socials with males only one has ended in play meet. Plus all my female meets solo. Plus threesome with hubby.
It's probably what someone point it out. For regular male sex I have hubby.
But I keep trying.
Thank you for your honesty and opinion much appreciated
MrsSB "
i must say that your approach is the problem..you want a walking fuck toy..men are smart..they are worth more than that..you talk about fucking all the time, for months, how you are so bi, that your hubby is everything. yet now, you appear, you want something completely different.. a meaningful relationship with a significant other..being honest and this is only my opinion..this 'switch' comes off as incredibly self centred ...no offence meant, just an observation...good luck with that... |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
maybe all the males who thought they may be in with a chance have headed for the hills because they thought you were looking for fanny? well that's what I thought...and now I'm seriously confused, but admittedly it doesn't take much"
I get guys sending messages and I proactively get in touch with guys. I flirt with guys on the forum and I pm them telling them I'm interested. It's just not happening for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rather bizarrely my FWB was my first ever meet after being married for nearly 20 years, we have had to work at it though, we,ve had ups and downs, misunderstandings ect. X |
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The site is not structured to emphasis people's common interests beyond the, granted important, shopping list of erotic triggers and sexual preferences, also in my experience many women on here say they want a Mr Grey but actually are looking for something much more conventional, a Buddy with a Mr Grey button on the side, so my advice is really chat with men if you can, come up with a good first message filter and take some time to find out who the interesting ones are and a great FB will be found, we are not all moronic bonk monkeys - happy hunting ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
maybe all the males who thought they may be in with a chance have headed for the hills because they thought you were looking for fanny? well that's what I thought...and now I'm seriously confused, but admittedly it doesn't take much
I get guys sending messages and I proactively get in touch with guys. I flirt with guys on the forum and I pm them telling them I'm interested. It's just not happening for me.
MrsSB "
You need patience! |
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"Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx
I'm very proactive and I had 13 socials with males only one has ended in play meet. Plus all my female meets solo. Plus threesome with hubby.
It's probably what someone point it out. For regular male sex I have hubby.
But I keep trying.
Thank you for your honesty and opinion much appreciated
MrsSB i must say that your approach is the problem..you want a walking fuck toy..men are smart..they are worth more than that..you talk about fucking all the time, for months, how you are so bi, that your hubby is everything. yet now, you appear, you want something completely different.. a meaningful relationship with a significant other..being honest and this is only my opinion..this 'switch' comes off as incredibly self centred ...no offence meant, just an observation...good luck with that..."
I don't think men are fuck toys nor women. Somehow obviously I've given that impression at some point.
I am bisexual and only this year I starting exploring this side of my sexuality. After struggling for years I finally fired myself and I'm happy and able to share it with others.
My husband is my everything. That's why his my husband and I am his everything too.
I would love to find a special male friend to have sexuality and sensual encounters. I think most people here do.
I appreciate your comment.
MrsSB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience is the key  |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
maybe all the males who thought they may be in with a chance have headed for the hills because they thought you were looking for fanny? well that's what I thought...and now I'm seriously confused, but admittedly it doesn't take much
I get guys sending messages and I proactively get in touch with guys. I flirt with guys on the forum and I pm them telling them I'm interested. It's just not happening for me.
MrsSB
You need patience!"
As I said it's not only me. I've talked with a few female here and they have the same problem. Some of them have been here for a long time .
MrsSB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly?
Probably that feeling when you've been chatting and flirting online and then you actually get to meet. And the first thing that enters your head is "Oh shit"."
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"I think that FWB's live in the same place as unicorns
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What, Scotland? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly?
Probably that feeling when you've been chatting and flirting online and then you actually get to meet. And the first thing that enters your head is "Oh shit"."
In a good way... like your stomach is doing flips? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not convinced it's something you can determine from the start. It's a relationship that evolves from meeting someone once, then again, then again. If before you even meet someone once you're wondering whether they are going to be longer term fuck buddy material, that's a lot of pressure to be putting on a situation and could be killing it from the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met a lot of guys who have been exactly what I expected and would happily have as a fuck buddie were I looking for one
Granted I have had a few meets where things didn't go to plan but over all the good meets/guys have out weighed then disappointing ones, maybe I'm just easy to please |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
FB situations grow naturally in my experience. You meet, you have fun, you meet again, you set boundaries, job done. |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
If there are any spare FB's local to me ...please throw one my way
Thanking you in anticipation  hehe xx |
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"The last time I went looking I found someone within 2 weeks which was a nice surprise. It took a hell of a lot of mails though. Men I like don't like me and vice versa. "
Ah if only I was younger |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
London |
OP you just have to keep trying as there is no specific formular to get a regular FB.
Only advice I can give is: when you meet a guy you both like, make sure your first meet with him is superb i.e (cater for his needs as well as enjoying what you like from him).
If he is truly statisfied, he would want a second meet, which could lead to a third, a fourth etc.
This is the strategy I have used when looking for a female FB and it has worked 8 out of 10 times for me.
I usually like to have regulars rather than one - offs, so I use this strategy all the time. I have made some regular FBs from Fabs using this strategy.
If you have any of your friends living in the London area, you can point them my way if the are looking for a regular FB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By 'no chemistry', what do you mean, exactly?
Probably that feeling when you've been chatting and flirting online and then you actually get to meet. And the first thing that enters your head is "Oh shit"."
Been there, done that. Several times lol |
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Thank you all for your inputs.
MrsSB |
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
Scarborough |
"FB situations grow naturally in my experience. You meet, you have fun, you meet again, you set boundaries, job done."
Never that simple, the start and stop of a relationship can happen very easily??? The boundaries often fade to grey? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So hard to find im about ready to give up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"FB situations grow naturally in my experience. You meet, you have fun, you meet again, you set boundaries, job done."
So true!! Nowt worse than getting a message off a random saying 'I'll be your FB'. Nooooo you just don't get it!! |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"FB situations grow naturally in my experience. You meet, you have fun, you meet again, you set boundaries, job done.
Never that simple, the start and stop of a relationship can happen very easily??? The boundaries often fade to grey?"
Not in my experience. But I am pretty logical and not afraid of a necessary conversation from time to time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, not sure how useful this advice would be for you. My wife attempted this a few years back, over a period of a couple of years. She never had much luck with men, it was either she liked guys as a friend but not physically, or there was just a physical attraction but nothing more. The only fwb type relationship she had was with a gay woman and a male/female couple. She had a lot of fun in both situations but it eventually went sour.
We're not entirely convinced it's something that can work. As you said your hubby is your everything so it's going to be difficult for another man to come close.
Have you thought about establishing a relationship with another open relationship couple? Yes there's pitfalls and many people will probably disagree with me but another married man might have a better understanding.
Also, others have said your profile doesn't say much about you other than the sexual stuff. I'd agree with that. Your posts are sexy and flirty but I still don't have much insight compared to other fabbers.
And on the subject of the forums, the consensus that the best people are on the forums? We don't see that. The people we've and met and are going to meet don't use the forums.
I don't normally like to be that blunt but there you go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"FB situations grow naturally in my experience. You meet, you have fun, you meet again, you set boundaries, job done.
Never that simple, the start and stop of a relationship can happen very easily??? The boundaries often fade to grey?"
Your not going to find the right one straight away |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
OK for 8 years I've been playing in this seedy world of sex meets now I have to be careful here to not breach any friends with benefits past and presents trust with my answer so best to stick to numbers and basic information .
8 years seven friends with benefits by that I mean regular contact on the phone or through a social app and regular to semi regular play meets .
Those 7 are made up of .
one couple the arrangement lasting about just under two years before it came to a end regularly monthly meets .
One married playing away from home fern regularly 6 weekly meets lasting just over 5 years until it came to a end .
Another playing with husbands consent fern regular Sunday evening meets lasting just under three years .
One married playing away from home fern regular by monthly meets lasting a tad over 4 years before coming to a end .
One single fern regular monthly meets lasting just over two years before coming to a end .
One married playing away from home fern and female friend also married regular twice a year meets going on for just under three years and still going strong .
One single fern regular meets not monthly sometimes two or three meets in quick succession then a month or 6 weeks of no meets still going strong after 18 months .
There you have it 7 regular friends with benefits arrangements two still on going over a period of 8 years not one of those that ended ended in a nasty way .
Out of the 5 that have ended 2 was due to moving one due to meeting a man who became a boyfriend one due to home circumstances changing and one due to I'll health .
Yes friends with benefits arrangements do exist and they do work as long as both parties are committed to making it work but that goes for any relationship between two people both have to want it and both have to work towards making it a success .
If that not the case they are doomed to fail before they even get going in my opinion .
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
London |
"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
OK for 8 years I've been playing in this seedy world of sex meets now I have to be careful here to not breach any friends with benefits past and presents trust with my answer so best to stick to numbers and basic information .
8 years seven friends with benefits by that I mean regular contact on the phone or through a social app and regular to semi regular play meets .
Those 7 are made up of .
one couple the arrangement lasting about just under two years before it came to a end regularly monthly meets .
One married playing away from home fern regularly 6 weekly meets lasting just over 5 years until it came to a end .
Another playing with husbands consent fern regular Sunday evening meets lasting just under three years .
One married playing away from home fern regular by monthly meets lasting a tad over 4 years before coming to a end .
One single fern regular monthly meets lasting just over two years before coming to a end .
One married playing away from home fern and female friend also married regular twice a year meets going on for just under three years and still going strong .
One single fern regular meets not monthly sometimes two or three meets in quick succession then a month or 6 weeks of no meets still going strong after 18 months .
There you have it 7 regular friends with benefits arrangements two still on going over a period of 8 years not one of those that ended ended in a nasty way .
Out of the 5 that have ended 2 was due to moving one due to meeting a man who became a boyfriend one due to home circumstances changing and one due to I'll health .
Yes friends with benefits arrangements do exist and they do work as long as both parties are committed to making it work but that goes for any relationship between two people both have to want it and both have to work towards making it a success .
If that not the case they are doomed to fail before they even get going in my opinion .
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This describes my own position as well. I've had up to 15 friend with benefits within the past 7 years ( and counting...)
Like you said , friend with benefits DO work ; the key is BOTH parties need to be committed to making it work. |
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over a year ago
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If any ladies are down south looking I have my cv ready |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs SB, based purely on your forum postings I thought you were into your husband & other women, not men.
This gets said all the time one here (usually to guys) but what can you on your own or as a couple offer a single man when he could quite easily chose a single woman ~ not everyone wants to get involved in the couples dynamic.
I've had one FB / FAB on / off for a few years now,we didn't set out to be that way it just has happened naturally over time.
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over a year ago
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I have a few on rotation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
Exactly the same as yours....it's impossible to find a reliable, sane, sexy fb. Is there just a lack of them in the North West? We need more, before I heal up  |
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"I think that FWB's live in the same place as unicorns
What, Scotland?"
Or the Lakes |
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All I ever wanted was a FWB. I found one not that long after joining.
It ended up as a relationship but it wasn't serious. It was more of a 'you can't meet anyone but I'll meet women behind your back' scenario. I ended it after 18 months.
Since then I've not found anyone who wants to meet with the regularity I would like.
I posted a similar thread about this ages ago and some of the responses were that men think if they see you too regularly you'll fall for them  |
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over a year ago
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My circs make being an FB my perfect scenario. That's if people are happy with my circs.
Quality regular meeting is much better than quantity disappointments |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"Quality regular meeting is much better than quantity disappointments"
I Agree with This!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't meet mine on this site, even though we were both on here whilst we were taking a break elsewhere...and I wasn't really looking for anything at the time, and I don't think he was either but these things happen lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My circs make being an FB my perfect scenario. That's if people are happy with my circs.
Quality regular meeting is much better than quantity disappointments "
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Eighteen months in and no regular guy. In my humble opinion, most of the good looking and popular guys on here just want to play the field, have variety and not be tied to one person. It's great for those people who achieve it but it certainly hasn't worked for me and I don't think ever will. So I play the man's game and use them like they use me and just accept that's how it is. I have met guys I would love to regularly see but I have never felt that the feeling is mutual.
I'd like to see you prove me wrong though and really hope you find someone |
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MrsSB, why do you feel the men you've met so far aren't quite right to meet more often (or whatever it is that stops you and them becoming what you want)? |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
"I think that FWB's live in the same place as unicorns
What, Scotland?
Or the Lakes "
Well they certainly don't live in Blackpool! |
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over a year ago
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I'm still looking. Near on impossible to find anyone localish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm still looking. Near on impossible to find anyone localish "
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over a year ago
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I thought it would be easy given the number of local single males.
However, I think I'd have more luck finding a black cat in a coal cellar |
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My experience of being a fb are far more "friends with benefits" than "last tango in paris"... Granted, the former can develop to be problematic, but life's too short not to try and enjoy...if the sex clicks then great.. |
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over a year ago
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Im in the same boat. I didnt think it would be this hard to find someone |
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"I thought it would be easy given the number of local single males.
However, I think I'd have more luck finding a black cat in a coal cellar "
Oooo nice pics |
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Is it more the case of struggling to find a person within a fairly tight range of preferences (which we all understand are everyone's perogative on here)
Or a total lack of interest? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought it would be easy given the number of local single males.
However, I think I'd have more luck finding a black cat in a coal cellar
Oooo nice pics "
Ditto |
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over a year ago
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Would like to be a lady's FWB but for it to be far, far more than just sexual. To meet for cuddling, being a man-about-the-house or just coffee etc. Know there will be comments saving duh that is a FWB but do people really see it as that? |
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over a year ago
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I would love one or two fwb's, but for me the "f" in that is the most important, I think you can go straight at the benefits, but you have to develop the friendship over time. Do you have mutual interests, sense of humour etc. I'd say that's perhaps a differentiation between "Fuck Buddies" and "Friends with Benefits" you perhaps start off as FB's but then develop to Fwb's. Its almost more complex than a straightforward vanilla relationship.
And in answer to an earlier post. I'm in the North West! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few. Even met a couple of them on here. It's easy peasy. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx
I'm very proactive and I had 13 socials with males only one has ended in play meet. Plus all my female meets solo. Plus threesome with hubby.
It's probably what someone point it out. For regular male sex I have hubby.
But I keep trying.
Thank you for your honesty and opinion much appreciated
MrsSB i must say that your approach is the problem..you want a walking fuck toy..men are smart..they are worth more than that..you talk about fucking all the time, for months, how you are so bi, that your hubby is everything. yet now, you appear, you want something completely different.. a meaningful relationship with a significant other..being honest and this is only my opinion..this 'switch' comes off as incredibly self centred ...no offence meant, just an observation...good luck with that...
I don't think men are fuck toys nor women. Somehow obviously I've given that impression at some point.
I am bisexual and only this year I starting exploring this side of my sexuality. After struggling for years I finally fired myself and I'm happy and able to share it with others.
My husband is my everything. That's why his my husband and I am his everything too.
I would love to find a special male friend to have sexuality and sensual encounters. I think most people here do.
I appreciate your comment.
MrsSB "
Some people take the forums and what people say very seriously. You can give people an impression of who you are and what you want and it will stick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Then u get the genuine guys like myself that are nice pleasant and genuine but get no luck on here because the profile doesn't fit or I'm not in an experienced swinging a circle... Very clicky I find is this community |
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over a year ago
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No one local to me is looking. That's what I tell myself. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Eighteen months in and no regular guy. In my humble opinion, most of the good looking and popular guys on here just want to play the field, have variety and not be tied to one person. It's great for those people who achieve it but it certainly hasn't worked for me and I don't think ever will. So I play the man's game and use them like they use me and just accept that's how it is. I have met guys I would love to regularly see but I have never felt that the feeling is mutual.
I'd like to see you prove me wrong though and really hope you find someone "
I'm not criticizing you or passing judgement on you but I have had more that my fair share of friends with benefits arrangements and I will run a mile in the opposite direction at the slightest hint that any woman I'm chatting to maybe looking to use and abuse me as you put it.
I have to much respect for myself as a man as human being to ever sink that low for a bunk up.
Now if I think like that about myself you can dam well believe I think like that about any woman on here be they looking for a fwb or just to bed hop through their bucket list .
I'm not looking to use and abuse anyone nor will allow myself to be used in that way .
All the woman I've ended up in a friends with benefits arrangement with felt exactly the same way no matter how horny they got or felt they would never allow themselves to become a object to be used and abused the thought of someone using them like that would make their heckles on the back of my neck rise up just like it does with me .
Like attracts like yes guy can bullshit about their true intent but that's easy spotted by just not rushing into the sex because in my experience those looking to use and abuse want to get to the sex as quickly as possible the minute they realise that's not going to happen they quickly lose interest and move on that statement goes for both sexes in my opinion .
I got a few strange and slightly digging posts in a forum topic I put up stating I like to have two or three social meets before any sexual play .
But hay this a very swinger orientated site so using and abusing is par for the coarse but that doesn't mean one has to get with the program especially in my opinion if your looking for a fwb arrangement because if you don't stick to your guns over what you want how can any possible fwb take you seriously when you say that's what your looking for.
practise what you preach because if you don't in my opinion no one who is looking for such a arrangement as a friend with benefits is going to take a bed hopper seriously when they state that's what their looking for .
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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When I started swinging over 10 years ago, the plan was to find 4-5 people I could see regularly, and not even go to clubs. I soon quickly learned that was not only a foolish idea, that clubs could be rewarding, but fast forward 10 years and I still have not found 4-5 regulars.
The closest would be women that want (monogamous) relationships, which sadly isn't what I want from swinging... and I've been on the receiving end of the "bastard!" backlash when I have to break said lady's heart.
I would say, keep doing what you're doing: have fun with it: the worthy will show themselves in due course |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
stick it out...there are some seriously good guys on here.. don't forget the old saying 'you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince' "
I've met quite a few French people over the years who've turned out just fine. Not all the frogs are a bunch of lily livered, garlic munching, surrender monkeys you know. |
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"You know I agree with you, OP. It's near impossible for us to find. I just want a local guy who I'm attracted to and who wants to meet somewhat regularly.
We've pretty much given up, though. Clubs with our friends is how we are going forward, for the most part."
Your struggling? Oh my....I think the house prices are about to go up where you are....I'm in the estate agents tomorrow |
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"Mrs SB, based purely on your forum postings I thought you were into your husband & other women, not men.
This gets said all the time one here (usually to guys) but what can you on your own or as a couple offer a single man when he could quite easily chose a single woman ~ not everyone wants to get involved in the couples dynamic.
I've had one FB / FAB on / off for a few years now,we didn't set out to be that way it just has happened naturally over time.
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I couldn't disagree more, I think a couple has far more to offer than a single, the dynamics and potential are way more sexually charged purely due to the 'extra hands' in a loving relationship.
I have no real interest in meeting a single female on fab unless it's leading to something more... there's plenty of apps for a quick shag and I hate the lol. |
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"If there are any spare FB's local to me ...please throw one my way
Thanking you in anticipation hehe xx"
You're still on my hot list. |
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over a year ago
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I'm a good guy and available. Please contact me if you are interested. |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
OK for 8 years I've been playing in this seedy world of sex meets now I have to be careful here to not breach any friends with benefits past and presents trust with my answer so best to stick to numbers and basic information .
8 years seven friends with benefits by that I mean regular contact on the phone or through a social app and regular to semi regular play meets .
Those 7 are made up of .
one couple the arrangement lasting about just under two years before it came to a end regularly monthly meets .
One married playing away from home fern regularly 6 weekly meets lasting just over 5 years until it came to a end .
Another playing with husbands consent fern regular Sunday evening meets lasting just under three years .
One married playing away from home fern regular by monthly meets lasting a tad over 4 years before coming to a end .
One single fern regular monthly meets lasting just over two years before coming to a end .
One married playing away from home fern and female friend also married regular twice a year meets going on for just under three years and still going strong .
One single fern regular meets not monthly sometimes two or three meets in quick succession then a month or 6 weeks of no meets still going strong after 18 months .
There you have it 7 regular friends with benefits arrangements two still on going over a period of 8 years not one of those that ended ended in a nasty way .
Out of the 5 that have ended 2 was due to moving one due to meeting a man who became a boyfriend one due to home circumstances changing and one due to I'll health .
Yes friends with benefits arrangements do exist and they do work as long as both parties are committed to making it work but that goes for any relationship between two people both have to want it and both have to work towards making it a success .
If that not the case they are doomed to fail before they even get going in my opinion .
This describes my own position as well. I've had up to 15 friend with benefits within the past 7 years ( and counting...)
Like you said , friend with benefits DO work ; the key is BOTH parties need to be committed to making it work. "
I too would concur with this, although my numbers are lower. 4 friends with benefits over 5 years, 3 still current. I think most guys, while happy to accept the one of passionate meet, prefer some sort of relationship, if only because the better you known someone and the better they know you the better the sex between you is likely to be. For me every first meet is potential start of a FWB relationship but, like any relationship, you have to grow into it. |
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"It's surprising you can't find one given the quantity of single men on here.
However, as a couple, we find the quality of single men quite poor, so I guess that tallies with your situation."
I find that hard to believe...maybe I put that wrong.. surprising should I say |
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"All I ever wanted was a FWB. I found one not that long after joining.
It ended up as a relationship but it wasn't serious. It was more of a 'you can't meet anyone but I'll meet women behind your back' scenario. I ended it after 18 months.
Since then I've not found anyone who wants to meet with the regularity I would like.
I posted a similar thread about this ages ago and some of the responses were that men think if they see you too regularly you'll fall for them "
Just for the record, I really enjoyed the meet we had sometime ago and, if I lived nearer, I'd definitely be wanting to see you again; in fact I do anyhow it's just not really been practical or possible recently but I still hope to soon. I guess currently we're just friends without benefits. LOL |
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""Quality regular meeting is much better than quantity disappointments"
I Agree with This!! "
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Its a bit of a challenge to find a regular fb , i'm still being patient to find my first meet. |
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Thank you everyone for your input and experience.
As a few female has mentioned is not that easy. You might have chemistry with someone but they are to far for regular meets or they near by but no chemistry
MrsSB |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Okay can someone tell if I'm right ...I might be wrong ..
when you say fuck buddy I thought the only dynamic between those folk was the booty call..once that was done see ya next time.
A friend with benefits was / hasa more meaningful relationship..It seems you're after that rather than the previous
I say it often the more niche your criteria the longer you'll have to search..
Any ladies in the Yorkshire region that likes the idea of a more meaningful relationship please get in touch. |
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I'd love a nice female fb or fwb! I'm always looking so if you're a nice lady within a few hours drive of Eastbourne wanting a nice fb or fwb please say "Hi"!
Cheers!
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that fabce to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
would love to be Fb. If only you were nearer. Doesn't seem to be anyone in London looking |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Given your profile doesn't mention anything of this,
If a single guy had asked this question ..I gotta say .. somebody would have pointed it out to him.. maybeit's not helping you |
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"it takes time, communication and a willingness to go on a journey together as well as, a level of chemistry and compatibility that grows, rather than fades. My lovers are gorgeous, valued and totally appreciated.x"
That's a nice way to put it. |
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"Given your profile doesn't mention anything of this,
If a single guy had asked this question ..I gotta say .. somebody would have pointed it out to him.. maybeit's not helping you"
We need to sort out our profile. It has been mentioned.
Thanks for your input
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"I'm still looking. Near on impossible to find anyone localish "
Sorry Icy but your Kingdom appears to be too far away! lol! |
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"i would say to anyone in that position that who knows what you want better than you.... so you do the hunting instead of expecting a mountain to come to you....
you do the research before, you do the scouting, you do the first messaging, you give them a reason to pick you....
the popular people are that for a reason, they are already out there probably having fun, so give them a bloody good reason as to why they should be having fun with you instead..... give them a reason to say WOW!!!!
As I said I'm proactive and I average 2 socials with males per month since I've been here.
MrsSB "
Female half of the couple here....you are welcome to look at our veris and contact the males.... I 100% recommend them to you! |
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"Mrs SB, based purely on your forum postings I thought you were into your husband & other women, not men.
This gets said all the time one here (usually to guys) but what can you on your own or as a couple offer a single man when he could quite easily chose a single woman ~ not everyone wants to get involved in the couples dynamic.
I've had one FB / FAB on / off for a few years now,we didn't set out to be that way it just has happened naturally over time.
I couldn't disagree more, I think a couple has far more to offer than a single, the dynamics and potential are way more sexually charged purely due to the 'extra hands' in a loving relationship.
I have no real interest in meeting a single female on fab unless it's leading to something more... there's plenty of apps for a quick shag and I hate the lol. "
If that's your preference & it works then good for you.
I've seen many a forum thread where the single man was akin to a performing seal. (I'm not saying that's the case here)
Lots of other factors to consider if someone is looking to be a regular FB.
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"Ok serious answer.
In fab terms you haven't been here very long.
Couples have a much more difficult task than singles because of the multiples of attraction.
Be patient.
Be pro- active.
Try and get to some local socials (I know childcare can make this difficult)
Most of your posts on forum are offering to fuck women so serious men might think you aren't looking for them?
You might need to rethink your approach a bit, but don't lose heart.
This thread will probably result in loads of offers for you xx
I'm very proactive and I had 13 socials with males only one has ended in play meet. Plus all my female meets solo. Plus threesome with hubby.
It's probably what someone point it out. For regular male sex I have hubby.
But I keep trying.
Thank you for your honesty and opinion much appreciated
MrsSB i must say that your approach is the problem..you want a walking fuck toy..men are smart..they are worth more than that..you talk about fucking all the time, for months, how you are so bi, that your hubby is everything. yet now, you appear, you want something completely different.. a meaningful relationship with a significant other..being honest and this is only my opinion..this 'switch' comes off as incredibly self centred ...no offence meant, just an observation...good luck with that...
I don't think men are fuck toys nor women. Somehow obviously I've given that impression at some point.
I am bisexual and only this year I starting exploring this side of my sexuality. After struggling for years I finally fired myself and I'm happy and able to share it with others.
My husband is my everything. That's why his my husband and I am his everything too.
I would love to find a special male friend to have sexuality and sensual encounters. I think most people here do.
I appreciate your comment.
MrsSB "
I haven't had the impression you think men or women are fuck toys. Just that you really like fucking. While slightly surprised to learn that you're looking for a male FB, it hardly seems self-centred - just a sensual person expressing that.
Could part of the problem you and other women looking for FBs are experiencing be to do with feelings about 'poly'-type situations? I could see a few male egos struggling with being with you regularly while being very clearly aware that your husband is your everything. Or, for single women, with being your regular without being your boyfriend. I sometimes think men are more emotional about these things than the stereotypes would have it. I could be talking complete c**p, of course. My ego isn't tied up in that kind of thing and I don't see why it wouldn't appeal to be in a sexy and sensual relationship with someone passionate who also happens to be passionate about her husband. Just a shame I'm not younger and in better shape.
Good luck to everyone looking for an FB. Maybe we should have FB organised socials? I'd go. I think it can help if the B of FB, or F of FWB, can come first.
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"Thank you everyone for your input and experience.
As a few female has mentioned is not that easy. You might have chemistry with someone but they are to far for regular meets or they near by but no chemistry
MrsSB "
Chemistry can take time. Not all reactions are, or have to be instant. The FWBs I have I met almost by accident at socials, in most cases we didn't even play on the first meet, just chatted. Only after meeting and chatting a few times has the relationship moved on to playing. In fact women I've played with on a first meet I seldom actually meet again. Time, patients and a willingness to accept people for what they are, not what you want them to be, is what is required for FWB to work well. |
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"Okay can someone tell if I'm right ...I might be wrong ..
when you say fuck buddy I thought the only dynamic between those folk was the booty call..once that was done see ya next time.
A friend with benefits was / hasa more meaningful relationship..It seems you're after that rather than the previous
I say it often the more niche your criteria the longer you'll have to search..
Any ladies in the Yorkshire region that likes the idea of a more meaningful relationship please get in touch."
I think your definition is correct. Some men think fb = free prostitute however, and lack any empathy or respect. Works for some but not for me. |
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Lisa as got a local ish boyfriend it works for us she loves having sex with him |
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Right, ive been around sites for many years, i have a number of gentlemen friends. Now when i meet someone ive never had any expectations than it being more than a one off. But some you fall into a routine and things get better sexually. to me its always just happened . Also op i only know you from the forums and have only ever seen you full on ott with the ladies. Could this possibly deter the guys? |
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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago
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I would love to be the FWB of a lonely married lady with her husband blessing. Had one such relationships. They weren't swingers at all. It was just the lovely lady had several gentleman friends. Was wonderful - we went on dates/dinner (we met on a vanilla dating site). Eventually things ran their course...but was great fun. However, even in a big city like London - it's been impossible to rec-create that... |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't say no to a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits.
I have ice cream. Will that help? |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Bump"
You should have added hump to that your slipping SB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it takes time, communication and a willingness to go on a journey together as well as, a level of chemistry and compatibility that grows, rather than fades. My lovers are gorgeous, valued and totally appreciated.x"
This.... If i may add to what S says...look in the profile if they're looking a regular meet and see if that's reflected in their veris. Most guys tend to want varied meets rather than a few good regular ones.
I for one like my regulars...It always improves with each meet and each offer something different from each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right, ive been around sites for many years, i have a number of gentlemen friends. Now when i meet someone ive never had any expectations than it being more than a one off. But some you fall into a routine and things get better sexually. to me its always just happened . Also op i only know you from the forums and have only ever seen you full on ott with the ladies. Could this possibly deter the guys?"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well said Fabio ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So hard to find a mfb in here I've giving up |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Given your profile doesn't mention anything of this,
If a single guy had asked this question ..I gotta say .. somebody would have pointed it out to him.. maybeit's not helping you
We need to sort out our profile. It has been mentioned.
Thanks for your input
MrsSB "
I'd hate to have Been the single guy asking for advice and not changing something.and weeks weeks later asking again. .
I say it often the same basic rules apply to all genders and demographics on here as were all looking to inform and attract.
Have fun |
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By *addubMan
over a year ago
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if there is any couples or ladies in or around dublin looking for a fb I`d love to help out |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
We have the same problems looking for a couple who want regular hook ups but this started way before we joined this site.
One offs are great we all get along, we all get off and we all go our separate ways. No emotion, no strings. The thrill of the first meet and first undressing and all the rest.
So let's say you and Mr SB are now interested as a couple. As well as Mrs TCC Mr SB you and I have to get along, have to be attracted and have a spark for regular meets.
Now I love my wife and this is just fun for us but now we're flirting and meeting up when ever we get the itch. That puts you dangerously close to the Mrs and the thrill might go or worse go elsewhere.
Our situation is quite different now as we live in Spain. I guess we're looking for couples that holiday our here regular that we can have an exciting time with when they're out but reality when they're not.
Not sure if that helps at all but being part of a couple may be making it a little harder for you.
Just keep looking until. Someone will be looking for truly NSA fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would absolutely love to find a female FB. Not had much luck so far but hope springs eternal! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone said, quality of men on here are poor as so am I. Just looking to get jiggy with it and chill! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB "
You sound a little disappointed ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ? "
Most men on here are disappointing!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding a regular FB is hard! I've met a few guys socially who say they want a FB but in reality it's only likely to be a 1 off. I do have a guy I see often now, but I wouldn't be adverse to another who lived a bit closer! |
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done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope."
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!! "
Mmmmmmm not to paint every single guy with the same brush but might be a two way thing. This is one reason I never meet couples not even if she plays alone....not sure what 'They' will say about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!! "
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! "
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! i dont find that at all.. "
Well that's how it seems from most of the messages we get! |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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I've reread the whole of this post again and I just want to add something I never said nor has anyone else .
friends with benefits arrangements have to be supported through regular meets and regular chats .they take work to keep active failure to put the work in means the relationship is doomed to failure .
I have two on going arrangements at the minute .
I'm in regular contact with the people involved .
after giving it some thought I think I'm successful at finding such arranges because my personality doesn't allow me to give up on a friendship.
by that I mean this as long as my messages are returned I will keep investing time into the friendship no matter how long between meets.
I only give up on a friendship when the other person has given up and how do you know they have given up easy they stop returning your messages at that point you just move on .
this my approach has served me well.
I have a meet due early November that meet means we would have been friends with benefits for three years and you know something we only meet three times a year the rest of the time its just regular social media chats .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've reread the whole of this post again and I just want to add something I never said nor has anyone else .
friends with benefits arrangements have to be supported through regular meets and regular chats .they take work to keep active failure to put the work in means the relationship is doomed to failure .
I have two on going arrangements at the minute .
I'm in regular contact with the people involved .
after giving it some thought I think I'm successful at finding such arranges because my personality doesn't allow me to give up on a friendship.
by that I mean this as long as my messages are returned I will keep investing time into the friendship no matter how long between meets.
I only give up on a friendship when the other person has given up and how do you know they have given up easy they stop returning your messages at that point you just move on .
this my approach has served me well.
I have a meet due early November that meet means we would have been friends with benefits for three years and you know something we only meet three times a year the rest of the time its just regular social media chats .
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In these cases, both you and your friends are prepared to put some effort in to maintain the friendship, which is a relationship of a sort. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! i dont find that at all..
Well that's how it seems from most of the messages we get! "
ok, but maybe thats what they think you want, as you are part of a couple...just a suggestion x |
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!!
Mmmmmmm not to paint every single guy with the same brush but might be a two way thing. This is one reason I never meet couples not even if she plays alone....not sure what 'They' will say about it. "
That's quite an interesting reply. What do you think couples are going to say?
Again we can say we're the same as any other couple but after our plays it's used for more fun later.
We don't play with people so we can point and laugh later |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!!
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most people on here won't give single guys the opportunity to become an established friend with benefits or fuckbuddy not all of us want to fuck way though site we just want regular nsa fun with right person or persons but get started with same brush as guys just after bedpost notches . Me personally I'd love to find an uncomplicated lady for regular nsa fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love to be a couples or females f/b but no offers yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've reread the whole of this post again and I just want to add something I never said nor has anyone else .
friends with benefits arrangements have to be supported through regular meets and regular chats .they take work to keep active failure to put the work in means the relationship is doomed to failure .
I have two on going arrangements at the minute .
I'm in regular contact with the people involved .
after giving it some thought I think I'm successful at finding such arranges because my personality doesn't allow me to give up on a friendship.
by that I mean this as long as my messages are returned I will keep investing time into the friendship no matter how long between meets.
I only give up on a friendship when the other person has given up and how do you know they have given up easy they stop returning your messages at that point you just move on .
this my approach has served me well.
I have a meet due early November that meet means we would have been friends with benefits for three years and you know something we only meet three times a year the rest of the time its just regular social media chats .
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This is essential and well articulated. ..too many want regular without maintaining contact between meets. Some find it too much effort and as you said it requires it to maintain the friendships. I'm the same with the friendship thing. I've kept in touch with many who have moved on but still stay as friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!!
most people on here won't give single guys the opportunity to become an established friend with benefits or fuckbuddy not all of us want to fuck way though site we just want regular nsa fun with right person or persons but get started with same brush as guys just after bedpost notches . Me personally I'd love to find an uncomplicated lady for regular nsa fun "
Women are complicated, you are living in a dream world! |
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I have a small group of friends that I regularly keep in touch with for the banter or just to see how they are doing.
to have a fwb is a hard thing to achieve for a single guy as your profile is constantly dissected and accusations of not actually being single.
Or worst still when you do try to send over your cv the message either gets deleted or they block you........ Bizarre |
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"I wouldn't say no to a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits.
I have ice cream. Will that help? "
Always |
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"Bump
You should have added hump to that your slipping SB "
I know I just bumped it for a friend
I bump my friends me |
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"Given your profile doesn't mention anything of this,
If a single guy had asked this question ..I gotta say .. somebody would have pointed it out to him.. maybeit's not helping you
We need to sort out our profile. It has been mentioned.
Thanks for your input
MrsSB
I'd hate to have Been the single guy asking for advice and not changing something.and weeks weeks later asking again. .
I say it often the same basic rules apply to all genders and demographics on here as were all looking to inform and attract.
Have fun "
I bumped for a friend. I actually find a lovely guy since. Thank you all for your input
MrsSB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!!
Mmmmmmm not to paint every single guy with the same brush but might be a two way thing. This is one reason I never meet couples not even if she plays alone....not sure what 'They' will say about it.
That's quite an interesting reply. What do you think couples are going to say?
Again we can say we're the same as any other couple but after our plays it's used for more fun later.
We don't play with people so we can point and laugh later "
Well I think the previous comment seemed to answer your question and seems to be all too common on the forums with couple bemoaning that they can't get good single men and that unfortunately doesn't do other couples any favours. Of course it's just my opinion but the forums speak for themselves. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I've reread the whole of this post again and I just want to add something I never said nor has anyone else .
friends with benefits arrangements have to be supported through regular meets and regular chats .they take work to keep active failure to put the work in means the relationship is doomed to failure .
I have two on going arrangements at the minute .
I'm in regular contact with the people involved .
after giving it some thought I think I'm successful at finding such arranges because my personality doesn't allow me to give up on a friendship.
by that I mean this as long as my messages are returned I will keep investing time into the friendship no matter how long between meets.
I only give up on a friendship when the other person has given up and how do you know they have given up easy they stop returning your messages at that point you just move on .
this my approach has served me well.
I have a meet due early November that meet means we would have been friends with benefits for three years and you know something we only meet three times a year the rest of the time its just regular social media chats .
In these cases, both you and your friends are prepared to put some effort in to maintain the friendship, which is a relationship of a sort. "
yes it is a relationship with clearly defined rules and roles.
the rules and roles depend from friendship to friendship but I happen to love the rules and roles because one knows exactly where one stands .
there is no silly mind games no jealousy no judgmental behaviour .
just two or more people enjoying each other for who they are and for what they offer each other.
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! "
bit of a sweeping statement on your part,personally I think your wrong,but that's just my opinion,I'm not stating it as a fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! bit of a sweeping statement on your part,personally I think your wrong,but that's just my opinion,I'm not stating it as a fact."
Well we are just going by the messages we receive!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've reread the whole of this post again and I just want to add something I never said nor has anyone else .
friends with benefits arrangements have to be supported through regular meets and regular chats .they take work to keep active failure to put the work in means the relationship is doomed to failure .
I have two on going arrangements at the minute .
I'm in regular contact with the people involved .
after giving it some thought I think I'm successful at finding such arranges because my personality doesn't allow me to give up on a friendship.
by that I mean this as long as my messages are returned I will keep investing time into the friendship no matter how long between meets.
I only give up on a friendship when the other person has given up and how do you know they have given up easy they stop returning your messages at that point you just move on .
this my approach has served me well.
I have a meet due early November that meet means we would have been friends with benefits for three years and you know something we only meet three times a year the rest of the time its just regular social media chats .
In these cases, both you and your friends are prepared to put some effort in to maintain the friendship, which is a relationship of a sort.
yes it is a relationship with clearly defined rules and roles.
the rules and roles depend from friendship to friendship but I happen to love the rules and roles because one knows exactly where one stands .
there is no silly mind games no jealousy no judgmental behaviour .
just two or more people enjoying each other for who they are and for what they offer each other.
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"Serious discussion please.
I've been chatting with a few ladies here whom are looking for fb and we are really struggling .
Between guys that portrait themselves in a certain way and when you meet them they nothing like you expect them to be, the ones that don't turn up, the ones that are to far and the ones that face to face there's no real chemistry. We can find fb.
What's your experience? MrsSB
You sound a little disappointed ?
Most men on here are disappointing!!
Mmmmmmm not to paint every single guy with the same brush but might be a two way thing. This is one reason I never meet couples not even if she plays alone....not sure what 'They' will say about it.
That's quite an interesting reply. What do you think couples are going to say?
Again we can say we're the same as any other couple but after our plays it's used for more fun later.
We don't play with people so we can point and laugh later
Well I think the previous comment seemed to answer your question and seems to be all too common on the forums with couple bemoaning that they can't get good single men and that unfortunately doesn't do other couples any favours. Of course it's just my opinion but the forums speak for themselves. "
I know what you're saying and it works both ways.
You have that opinion because of what you have witnessed on here and it's easy for us to form one about single males for the messages we get in our inbox.
The trick is knowing that finding someone on here takes effort. Most of the forum post here end with the obvious fact that we're all different. Not all men are X. All women are y and all couples are z
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think you wont know until you just meet someone and you feel good with each other - and i think that builds up over time - so its a meet that leads to another and then more if you both want that - |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"think you wont know until you just meet someone and you feel good with each other - and i think that builds up over time - so its a meet that leads to another and then more if you both want that - "
this but i add that i ask what they want, right from the start..and i say what i want too..ive met them and obviously connection/ chemistry, otherwise i wouldn't be having the conversation.. it goes from there. it either works or it doesnt..i dont rush anything x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks Mrs SB for bumping and providing a good platform of discussion. You're probably the exception to my filters... |
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"done the relationship route,now only want to be either fb,or fwb,unlikely to happen here I know,but can live in hope.
Most men want nsa sex and with no effort required!! bit of a sweeping statement on your part,personally I think your wrong,but that's just my opinion,I'm not stating it as a fact.
Well we are just going by the messages we receive!! "
In that case you have my sympathy and a little to help you stay happy. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Given your profile doesn't mention anything of this,
If a single guy had asked this question ..I gotta say .. somebody would have pointed it out to him.. maybeit's not helping you
We need to sort out our profile. It has been mentioned.
Thanks for your input
MrsSB
I'd hate to have Been the single guy asking for advice and not changing something.and weeks weeks later asking again. .
I say it often the same basic rules apply to all genders and demographics on here as were all looking to inform and attract.
Have fun
I bumped for a friend. I actually find a lovely guy since. Thank you all for your input
MrsSB "
Perhaps your friend would be better starting their own thread. save any confusion .  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Its a dynamic that will mean different things to different people, suspect its based on similar values. |
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over a year ago
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So funny as a guy you expect on here that ladies and couple would be able to cherry pick but seems like everyone is struggling! |
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"So funny as a guy you expect on here that ladies and couple would be able to cherry pick but seems like everyone is struggling! "
I think unless you really are as casual as "if you've got the genitals I'm looking for come fuck me" it is difficult.
Might be hard to find a single lady but it's also hard to pick a single man. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"So funny as a guy you expect on here that ladies and couple would be able to cherry pick but seems like everyone is struggling! "
It's not a struggle, I suspect its about managing expectations and understanding values. if veris are anything to go by there's not a scarcity, far from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So funny as a guy you expect on here that ladies and couple would be able to cherry pick but seems like everyone is struggling! "
I think of it a bit like a supper store for women...too much choice on display but little to your taste or its currently out of stock and a corner store for guys...little selection and you need to be early or its gone. There's an element of luck for both but both need to keep persisting and return. |
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