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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " Guess they changed their mind about meeting you if the meet is planned for next week and they cancelled. | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " it happens. Sorry you've been let down. Focus now on finding more reliable people and good luck. | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " Have they cancelled for next Wednesday or were a no show last Wednesday? I'm confused...not that it takes much on here sometimes | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " Go to their or her profile... Ptess report You can name and shame to admin as a not turned up meet | |||
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"Sometimes life gets in the way they could have a legitimate reason for cancelling " | |||
"Wednesday just gone . It was a no show " Did they contact you later to say why? If not then that's definitely disrespectful. I would report them. | |||
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"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? " Sounds like a tw then. Giveaways are normally: -no pics -joined recently -profile sounds vague or too good to be true -no veris -not engaging enough when you talk to them. | |||
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"I've had this. In fact the last two men that had arranged to meet me were no shows. No message to let me know. Nothing! I get very little free time and I can be frustrating. I understand people's circumstances change and things happen but a message to let us know or an apology would have been nice. " It can be frustrating....not me lol | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " simple answer is no as its open to abuse | |||
"I've had this. In fact the last two men that had arranged to meet me were no shows. No message to let me know. Nothing! I get very little free time and I can be frustrating. I understand people's circumstances change and things happen but a message to let us know or an apology would have been nice. " Ditto this. Last Saturday for us. So much prep and planning for us both to be free thanks to shift patterns. Not so much as a by your leave. Splitters!!  | |||
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"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? " Then they didn't waste your time, you did.  | |||
"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? Then they didn't waste your time, you did. "They did waste his time as they were no shows. I think he means he has messeged them since they didnt turn up. | |||
"If a meet was arranged for weds, and they've cancelled 6 days before, they're not time wasters. They've made plans, something has changed, they've let you know. Shit happens. Real life happens. "This. | |||
"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? Then they didn't waste your time, you did.
They did waste his time as they were no shows. I think he means he has messeged them since they didnt turn up."They absolutely wasted his time! A date was set, presumably he would have planned his diary accordingly and maybe made necessary arrangement. And they didn't even have the courtesy to tell him. That's a total waste of his time, that I'm sure he could have put to better use had he known they weren't going to up. Yes, illness/emergencies happen, but in that situation a well-mannered person explains apologises profusely for letting someone down. | |||
"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? Then they didn't waste your time, you did.
They did waste his time as they were no shows. I think he means he has messeged them since they didnt turn up.
They absolutely wasted his time! A date was set, presumably he would have planned his diary accordingly and maybe made necessary arrangement. And they didn't even have the courtesy to tell him. That's a total waste of his time, that I'm sure he could have put to better use had he known they weren't going to up. Yes, illness/emergencies happen, but in that situation a well-mannered person explains apologises profusely for letting someone down. "If he doesn't make as sure as possible before hand that they're genuine, then he's nowt to complain about.  | |||
"I have messaged them but got no response. Prick teasers I think . No veris . No meets ?????????????? Then they didn't waste your time, you did.
They did waste his time as they were no shows. I think he means he has messeged them since they didnt turn up.
They absolutely wasted his time! A date was set, presumably he would have planned his diary accordingly and maybe made necessary arrangement. And they didn't even have the courtesy to tell him. That's a total waste of his time, that I'm sure he could have put to better use had he known they weren't going to up. Yes, illness/emergencies happen, but in that situation a well-mannered person explains apologises profusely for letting someone down.
If he doesn't make as sure as possible before hand that they're genuine, then he's nowt to complain about. "You mean chat on the phone and check verifications? That sort of thing? | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " I've been there and done that and it won't get you nowhere and the mod will shut it down I know I pisses us all off but what goes around comes around | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts I've been there and done that and it won't get you nowhere and the mod will shut it down I know I pisses us all off but what goes around comes around "it* | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " Goes to sleep in armchair snoring Zzzzzz.. | |||
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"Yes we should be shame them and have sone thing on there profile like a red cross after 3 no shows easy. Makes us genuine ones bad" How they behave has no bearing on others. | |||
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"If a meet was arranged for weds, and they've cancelled 6 days before, they're not time wasters. They've made plans, something has changed, they've let you know. Shit happens. Real life happens. " | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez" what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank  | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank "Not us. If we say we're gonna be there will be. Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself is our view. | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts I've been there and done that and it won't get you nowhere and the mod will shut it down I know I pisses us all off but what goes around comes around "That's absolutely true. What goes around dies come around. The swinging community is small and people talk, and people do get bad reputations if they are consistently unreliable. I've seen this happen. | |||
"Yes we should be shame them and have sone thing on there profile like a red cross after 3 no shows easy. Makes us genuine ones bad" rather like you didn't turn up for our arrange meet last night...now I just get 2 of my friends to say the same and bang, there you go...see how easy it would be? | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank
Not us. If we say we're gonna be there will be. Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself is our view."fully agreed that is the best way but sadly Dosent always apply | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank
Not us. If we say we're gonna be there will be. Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself is our view. fully agreed that is the best way but sadly Dosent always apply "My advise to the OP and anybody else struggling with meeting people who are happy to mess about, is develop friendships with those who share the same values. It does take time though. | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank
Not us. If we say we're gonna be there will be. Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself is our view. fully agreed that is the best way but sadly Dosent always apply
My advise to the OP and anybody else struggling with meeting people who are happy to mess about, is develop friendships with those who share the same values. It does take time though."me personally I've been to chams and xstasia with a lady friend in the past so I know what it's all about but it is patience and chatting to people but I do understand how the timewasters do put people off the site but it's a case of sorting the good and bad,I done Mind putting the work in for someone genuine | |||
"I can't imagine any given point where I would not meet after promising, unless some emergency came up, and even then, I would mail to let you know. If and when this happens to me, darn skippy I'll be coming on here to rant lol. That said, no. Block and report to admin but naming and shaming? If those that are so quick to meet a polite knock back with abuse had access to that, this would be a far nastier placez what are admin going to do really? It's one persons word against a another and on here it's easy for single females and couples to just go cold on a single male because they can have a meet at anytime,I've chatted to a few and going well then come to arrange a meet bang goes quiet....must be the hubby having a wank
Not us. If we say we're gonna be there will be. Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself is our view. fully agreed that is the best way but sadly Dosent always apply
My advise to the OP and anybody else struggling with meeting people who are happy to mess about, is develop friendships with those who share the same values. It does take time though." | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " OP people are allowed to charge their mind yes its bad form to not let you know their change of heart as early and as soon as possible. Those who don't tell you early or even at all I.E they just ignore your messages and go silent on you are not covering themselves in glory. But OP its not a crime to have a change of heat it was their personal choice which in my opinion you must respect .I person can have a charge of heart at anytime before a date during a date hell even when their knickers are on the floor and as a man you just have except it and back off . OP would you disagree with that statement ..? Yes its annoying but it was their personal choice and as a man you really should respect a fellow human beings freedom of choice and just walk away being a man about it as you do so . By that statement I mean not throwing your dummy out of your pram over not getting your own way like so many men do on these types of sites even over rejection based off of a message let alone a change of heart over a meet . I'm sure OP the couple or single female in question has seen this post and are thinking look at him getting overly annoyed over a canceled meet I knew our gut feeling was right about him.. | |||
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"Wednesday just gone . It was a no show " And it took you till Friday to get pissed off about it? | |||
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"Wednesday just gone . It was a no show " Guy pretending to be a couple or a woman?.....how much checking up did you do before hand. Add this to your experience and your skills at spotting in advance will improve. | |||
"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " I never worry about time wasters. I just ignore those with short profiles and also ensure that my own profile is sufficiently detailed to tell members what they want. A time waster will not go to the bother of writing a detailed well informed profile. | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " There is usually a common theme to the profiles of those who complain about time wasters or cancelled meets. | |||
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"I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this one, but I personally don't feel people have the 'right' to mess others about. If I make an arrangement to meet someone, whether it be a girlfriend, my mother, or one of my lovers/FBs, I feel it is my responsibility to make sure my diary is clear and this is someone I am willing to see. I do not feel I have the right to on the day shrug my shoulders and say to myself 'well I've changed my mind, so I don't think I'll bother turning up, and I'm not even going to tell them'. I wouldn't treat my vanilla friends like that, I wouldn't treat my family like that, and I won't treat a potential sex partner like that. The potential sex partner may be less important in my life than a long standing friend or family member, but they are still a human being who is in no less deserving of respect than anybody else. Yes is not a 'crime' if I were to flippantly change my mind on an arrangement, sure it's not against the law. Do I have the right to treat someone like that? I guess if i have the right do anything I like as long as it's not a crime, then I I do have that right. But happened to common decency? Do people of Fab really believe that we all have the right to, not only change their minds on the day of the arrangement, but not have the courtesy of telling them and apologising? This just makes me shudder that is considered ok. Why can't people make a decision about what they want to do, and stick to it?" Its OK to have a change of heart and all your points are very valid. I personal would not agree to meet someone until I was sure I wanted to and in my case I would never pull out of a meet unless circumstances beyond my control force me to do so..if that was to happen I'd be very oplogetic and offer a new time and date that I knew I could keep to. But how you and I think is not how others think or behave you are very correct I'd never not turn up to meet a friend or family member again unless something out of my control stopped me from meeting again d be straight on the phone to them apologizing and explaining the situation . But like I said earlier not everyone thinks and behaves like I do or you do so I their fore i never allow those who don't behave like me to annoy me I just respect their choice and move on no drama no moaning its just not worth it because when you act in that way you sink to their level in my opinion something I consciously choose not to do when dealing with people on these types of sites who act and behave differently to me. | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts " It would be great but sadly it's not going work. We have all arranged meets and life gets in the way. Ours was I was working on our house and managed to put a 8 inch cut in my thigh with a angle grinder, apparently I was lucky to survive and we had to cancel the meeting we had arranged for that evening. The person we was meeting wouldn't know if we were time wasters or not and could have put us on the name and same list. J | |||
"I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this one, but I personally don't feel people have the 'right' to mess others about. If I make an arrangement to meet someone, whether it be a girlfriend, my mother, or one of my lovers/FBs, I feel it is my responsibility to make sure my diary is clear and this is someone I am willing to see. I do not feel I have the right to on the day shrug my shoulders and say to myself 'well I've changed my mind, so I don't think I'll bother turning up, and I'm not even going to tell them'. I wouldn't treat my vanilla friends like that, I wouldn't treat my family like that, and I won't treat a potential sex partner like that. The potential sex partner may be less important in my life than a long standing friend or family member, but they are still a human being who is in no less deserving of respect than anybody else. Yes is not a 'crime' if I were to flippantly change my mind on an arrangement, sure it's not against the law. Do I have the right to treat someone like that? I guess if i have the right do anything I like as long as it's not a crime, then I I do have that right. But happened to common decency? Do people of Fab really believe that we all have the right to, not only change their minds on the day of the arrangement, but not have the courtesy of telling them and apologising? This just makes me shudder that is considered ok. Why can't people make a decision about what they want to do, and stick to it?" Amen to that! Common courtesy goes a long way. | |||
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"I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this one, but I personally don't feel people have the 'right' to mess others about. If I make an arrangement to meet someone, whether it be a girlfriend, my mother, or one of my lovers/FBs, I feel it is my responsibility to make sure my diary is clear and this is someone I am willing to see. I do not feel I have the right to on the day shrug my shoulders and say to myself 'well I've changed my mind, so I don't think I'll bother turning up, and I'm not even going to tell them'. I wouldn't treat my vanilla friends like that, I wouldn't treat my family like that, and I won't treat a potential sex partner like that. The potential sex partner may be less important in my life than a long standing friend or family member, but they are still a human being who is in no less deserving of respect than anybody else. Yes is not a 'crime' if I were to flippantly change my mind on an arrangement, sure it's not against the law. Do I have the right to treat someone like that? I guess if i have the right do anything I like as long as it's not a crime, then I I do have that right. But happened to common decency? Do people of Fab really believe that we all have the right to, not only change their minds on the day of the arrangement, but not have the courtesy of telling them and apologising? This just makes me shudder that is considered ok. Why can't people make a decision about what they want to do, and stick to it? Its OK to have a change of heart and all your points are very valid. I personal would not agree to meet someone until I was sure I wanted to and in my case I would never pull out of a meet unless circumstances beyond my control force me to do so..if that was to happen I'd be very oplogetic and offer a new time and date that I knew I could keep to. But how you and I think is not how others think or behave you are very correct I'd never not turn up to meet a friend or family member again unless something out of my control stopped me from meeting again d be straight on the phone to them apologizing and explaining the situation . But like I said earlier not everyone thinks and behaves like I do or you do so I their fore i never allow those who don't behave like me to annoy me I just respect their choice and move on no drama no moaning its just not worth it because when you act in that way you sink to their level in my opinion something I consciously choose not to do when dealing with people on these types of sites who act and behave differently to me." Fortunately we haven't had to deal with too much of this. I'm more horrified by what I read in the forums about how others are regularly messed around, to the extent it's just considered par for the course. We've had 2 relatively short notice cancellations from established swinging partners, for reasons that we would not have cancelled for, and we were furious at the time, because it was a total waste of pressure playtime. But on the whole we've been pretty lucky. Never had a no show. Or maybe we're just good at identifying those who have the same standards of conduct that we abide by in life. There is only once that i 'changed my mind' on a meet, and that was because the man in question turned into a bit of a stalker. So I cancelled him 2 weeks in advance with an explanation. I wouldn't dream of just 'disapearing' when the person we've arranged to meet is provably organising their diary accordingly. There was another that I wanted to cancel in the few days leading up to the meet, but we had no legitimate reason for 'changing our mind', so we met him. And it was lovely. As I said to the OP earlier on this thread, find people who share the same values. And yes the is a rant, because I can't bare this behaviour that is considered the norm. | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts It would be great but sadly it's not going work. We have all arranged meets and life gets in the way. Ours was I was working on our house and managed to put a 8 inch cut in my thigh with a angle grinder, apparently I was lucky to survive and we had to cancel the meeting we had arranged for that evening. The person we was meeting wouldn't know if we were time wasters or not and could have put us on the name and same list. J" Yes, but that's a legitimate reason for cancelling. If a cancellation due to illness/accidents/emergencies is accompanied with an explanation and apology, with a suggestion to reschedule in a timely manner, then of course that person is not a timewaster. They could be lying of course, but I would always give the benefit of the doubt if I'm treated with respect. What the OP is upset about is a no show with no explanation nor apology. It's entirely different. | |||
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"Arranged a meet for weds . Time and date set . Absolute fucking timewasters. Does anyone think we should be allowed to name and shame . Your thoughts It would be great but sadly it's not going work. We have all arranged meets and life gets in the way. Ours was I was working on our house and managed to put a 8 inch cut in my thigh with a angle grinder, apparently I was lucky to survive and we had to cancel the meeting we had arranged for that evening. The person we was meeting wouldn't know if we were time wasters or not and could have put us on the name and same list. J Yes, but that's a legitimate reason for cancelling. If a cancellation due to illness/accidents/emergencies is accompanied with an explanation and apology, with a suggestion to reschedule in a timely manner, then of course that person is not a timewaster. They could be lying of course, but I would always give the benefit of the doubt if I'm treated with respect. What the OP is upset about is a no show with no explanation nor apology. It's entirely different." There is a button on the person profile to report no shows. No shows with no polite message for when they've cancelled. I've used it to report guys I've driven out of my way and my cost to only arrived at the address he have give but turns out it wasn't even his house. Total strangers open the door. Could of been a potential dangerous situation for me as a single woman. | |||
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"Iv been let down last weekend "I would have turned up Hun even if it was only an hour social, manners cost nothing xxx | |||
"I might be considered as a time waster then?? Iv cancelled two separate meets in the past. Over a week or so i was speaking to these guys both on and off the site. During this time the guys came across as very kinky and intresting. I was excited about meeting them. However closer to the time, they became increasingly overwhelming and off putting. Watching if i was online, bombarding me with messages bemanding cam play, becoming mardy if i didnt reply straightaway. I have life outside of the site. Family ,work and lofe comes before anything. This is simply enjoyment. Once you begin to feel pressured into meeting doneone for sex or under sexual circumstances, as a female its your obligation to go with what feels right. Im sure as a responsible male you would like to know someone is meeting you because they want to and not because they feel obliged too. Far to many males on here soon come across as pushy and intense. Both there response and this guys respone shows that i made tge roght decisions and maybe did that famale in question. The only thing i would say is that notifying the person is only polite. And if you feel intimidated then go though admin. However this is just my viwe on the matter xxx "a timewaster is someone you have spoken to for a while and come to meet and at the last minute they come out with a crap excuse or don't say anything at all! They need beating with a 12 inch black rubber cock!! | |||
"I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this one, but I personally don't feel people have the 'right' to mess others about. If I make an arrangement to meet someone, whether it be a girlfriend, my mother, or one of my lovers/FBs, I feel it is my responsibility to make sure my diary is clear and this is someone I am willing to see. I do not feel I have the right to on the day shrug my shoulders and say to myself 'well I've changed my mind, so I don't think I'll bother turning up, and I'm not even going to tell them'. I wouldn't treat my vanilla friends like that, I wouldn't treat my family like that, and I won't treat a potential sex partner like that. The potential sex partner may be less important in my life than a long standing friend or family member, but they are still a human being who is in no less deserving of respect than anybody else. Yes is not a 'crime' if I were to flippantly change my mind on an arrangement, sure it's not against the law. Do I have the right to treat someone like that? I guess if i have the right do anything I like as long as it's not a crime, then I I do have that right. But happened to common decency? Do people of Fab really believe that we all have the right to, not only change their minds on the day of the arrangement, but not have the courtesy of telling them and apologising? This just makes me shudder that is considered ok. Why can't people make a decision about what they want to do, and stick to it?" I would like to meet you  I'm not site supporter | |||
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"I didn't know about this button. Thanks as it will be my new toy to play with. What do admin do about the no showers/timewasters anyway? I bet nadda" if you keep the chat as evidence and the same people keep letting people down they will do something | |||
"I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this one, but I personally don't feel people have the 'right' to mess others about. If I make an arrangement to meet someone, whether it be a girlfriend, my mother, or one of my lovers/FBs, I feel it is my responsibility to make sure my diary is clear and this is someone I am willing to see. I do not feel I have the right to on the day shrug my shoulders and say to myself 'well I've changed my mind, so I don't think I'll bother turning up, and I'm not even going to tell them'. I wouldn't treat my vanilla friends like that, I wouldn't treat my family like that, and I won't treat a potential sex partner like that. The potential sex partner may be less important in my life than a long standing friend or family member, but they are still a human being who is in no less deserving of respect than anybody else. Yes is not a 'crime' if I were to flippantly change my mind on an arrangement, sure it's not against the law. Do I have the right to treat someone like that? I guess if i have the right do anything I like as long as it's not a crime, then I I do have that right. But happened to common decency? Do people of Fab really believe that we all have the right to, not only change their minds on the day of the arrangement, but not have the courtesy of telling them and apologising? This just makes me shudder that is considered ok. Why can't people make a decision about what they want to do, and stick to it? Its OK to have a change of heart and all your points are very valid. I personal would not agree to meet someone until I was sure I wanted to and in my case I would never pull out of a meet unless circumstances beyond my control force me to do so..if that was to happen I'd be very oplogetic and offer a new time and date that I knew I could keep to. But how you and I think is not how others think or behave you are very correct I'd never not turn up to meet a friend or family member again unless something out of my control stopped me from meeting again d be straight on the phone to them apologizing and explaining the situation . But like I said earlier not everyone thinks and behaves like I do or you do so I their fore i never allow those who don't behave like me to annoy me I just respect their choice and move on no drama no moaning its just not worth it because when you act in that way you sink to their level in my opinion something I consciously choose not to do when dealing with people on these types of sites who act and behave differently to me. Fortunately we haven't had to deal with too much of this. I'm more horrified by what I read in the forums about how others are regularly messed around, to the extent it's just considered par for the course. We've had 2 relatively short notice cancellations from established swinging partners, for reasons that we would not have cancelled for, and we were furious at the time, because it was a total waste of pressure playtime. But on the whole we've been pretty lucky. Never had a no show. Or maybe we're just good at identifying those who have the same standards of conduct that we abide by in life. There is only once that i 'changed my mind' on a meet, and that was because the man in question turned into a bit of a stalker. So I cancelled him 2 weeks in advance with an explanation. I wouldn't dream of just 'disapearing' when the person we've arranged to meet is provably organising their diary accordingly. There was another that I wanted to cancel in the few days leading up to the meet, but we had no legitimate reason for 'changing our mind', so we met him. And it was lovely. As I said to the OP earlier on this thread, find people who share the same values. And yes the is a rant, because I can't bare this behaviour that is considered the norm." In 8 years I've never had a no show for a arrange meet that includes role play meets where I have never met them until the arranged meet in a hotel lobby . Am I just lucky or is it just a case of the fact I never rush the first meet if the chatting peters out because I'm in no rush I just view it as not meant to be . This way of going about finding and having my fun has worked well for me so far so I guess it has something to do with the fact I've never been stood up.. Yes I agree finding someone who shares the same out look when it comes to this sort of thing is really the only way to go especially if your looking for regular play partners . The amount of times my messages after a meet have been ignored by that I mean a short message saying I made it home safe did you and thanks for a great time and a follow up message a day or so later just asking after their health is untrue Then a few weeks later suddenly out of the blue a message from those that ignored my messages after the meet trying to get me commit to another and then their childish out burst that accompany my polite no I'm not interested because in my opinion your ignoring of my polite messages after the last meet mean we don't think alike after all and because of that fact I'm no longer interested in playing with you is untrue . At the end of the day I don't want to play with anyone who doesn't treat me how I treat them but I guess that's the same for everyone on these sites . | |||
"I got one arranged this Saturday, she contacted me last Saturday. Been on everyday not a confirmation still coming. But will wait in anticipation. Not 100%" Yes I was right sent her two emails during week see if OK, no reply. Tonite not even a look. Why can't you just say sorry changed mind. I can take rejection | |||
"I got one arranged this Saturday, she contacted me last Saturday. Been on everyday not a confirmation still coming. But will wait in anticipation. Not 100% Yes I was right sent her two emails during week see if OK, no reply. Tonite not even a look. Why can't you just say sorry changed mind. I can take rejection " it probably wasn't even that she had no intention of meeting and it's just a game that some play! You'll find a genuine one soon and she will get her karma one way or a another | |||
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"I had a meet time wasted by other male users of this site! Arranged a social meet first with a local girl. Talked on email as well as Fab. Booked time off for a daytime meet. A few days before the meet she deletes her profile. I email her to see why and she told me that other male users had put her off with their automatic assumption that sex is promised. " I can't understand why the conduct of other men on the site would have put her off going through with the arranged meet... Did you speak on the phone? | |||
"It's a shame, some people get a kick out of wasting other people's time." Some people probably do but I think the majority of "time wasters" genuinely change their mind, get cold feet, have the other person say something to put them off etc but cannot say for fear of abuse or upsetting the other person. Not saying this is acceptable because its not but we will never know the individual circumstances so shouldn't judge. | |||
"It's a shame, some people get a kick out of wasting other people's time. Some people probably do but I think the majority of "time wasters" genuinely change their mind, get cold feet, have the other person say something to put them off etc but cannot say for fear of abuse or upsetting the other person. Not saying this is acceptable because its not but we will never know the individual circumstances so shouldn't judge. " I always believe many people are on here as a fantasy they like the idea of NSA sex with a stranger but are not willing to go ahead with meeting them as you said get cold feet | |||
"I got one arranged this Saturday, she contacted me last Saturday. Been on everyday not a confirmation still coming. But will wait in anticipation. Not 100% Yes I was right sent her two emails during week see if OK, no reply. Tonite not even a look. Why can't you just say sorry changed mind. I can take rejection it probably wasn't even that she had no intention of meeting and it's just a game that some play! You'll find a genuine one soon and she will get her karma one way or a another "Put it down too experience and moved on | |||
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"My time is so precious, it's horrible if someone cancels even worse if they just don't turn up" Damn, I wish you would turn up tonight - oh to bury my head between your thighs for some serious licking! Mmmmmmm! But I fear this big hotel room bed is going to go to waste xx | |||
