My partner has a solo profile on here where she is looking for ladies only. She arranged a meet today with another lady who is well verified.
The lady in question didn't turn up at the agreed place, and now says she didn't want to meet someone without seeing a face pic - which is quite strange as we both have clear face pics on public view on our profiles.
The lady now wants to reschedule for next week, i am suspicious to be honest.
I don't want to put my partner off but this would have been her first solo meet and i'm nervous for her.
Sara xx |
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Well, I'm a single guy and pretty much a novice swinger, so I may be the least qualified person to advise on the situation, but I think you've got cause to be suspicious. I'd make three suggestions:
1) Talk it over with your partner and explain your concerns
2) If she does decide to go ahead with the meet, recommend that they make initial contact in a very public place and go along with her. You don't have to be right beside her when she meets the other woman, just nearby and able to see her to make sure she's ok. Arrange a signal beforehand so your partner can let you know if she's happy to proceed.
3) If it feels wrong, then it IS wrong. Pull out. That way, the worst case is that your partner misses out on a meet, and that happens to us all. Much better than the alternative. |
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"Well, I'm a single guy and pretty much a novice swinger, so I may be the least qualified person to advise on the situation, but I think you've got cause to be suspicious. I'd make three suggestions:
1) Talk it over with your partner and explain your concerns
2) If she does decide to go ahead with the meet, recommend that they make initial contact in a very public place and go along with her. You don't have to be right beside her when she meets the other woman, just nearby and able to see her to make sure she's ok. Arrange a signal beforehand so your partner can let you know if she's happy to proceed.
3) If it feels wrong, then it IS wrong. Pull out. That way, the worst case is that your partner misses out on a meet, and that happens to us all. Much better than the alternative."
for a novice i think he speaks alot of sense
i guess you being somewhere in the place where they meet might make it less of a solo meet for her, and that seems to be a key point in your OP
if your partner has a face pic up and that is the reason the other party gave for not turningup then yes, sounds like a very dodgy excuse
i guess the key thing is to talk to your partner and see how she feels |
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"My partner has a solo profile on here where she is looking for ladies only. She arranged a meet today with another lady who is well verified.
The lady in question didn't turn up at the agreed place, and now says she didn't want to meet someone without seeing a face pic - which is quite strange as we both have clear face pics on public view on our profiles.
The lady now wants to reschedule for next week, i am suspicious to be honest.
I don't want to put my partner off but this would have been her first solo meet and i'm nervous for her.
Sara xx"
walk a way...plenty more fish...why worry....it will happen when it happens.. |
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i agree with all the above advice, def sounds like a timewaster to me!!
If she still wants to meet this woman, then I'd meet for a quick drink with you there too, so if she doesnt turn up, ur other half hasnt had an hour of sitting on here own in a pub or cafe!!
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" The lady in question didn't turn up at the agreed place, and now says she didn't want to meet someone without seeing a face pic ...."
I'd wonder why she agreed to meet in the first place if she had a reason why she didn't want to meet.
Personally I'd move on.... but if your partner wants to give her another chance, may be it's a question to be asked.
I can't be doing with people who agree to do something they later say they didn't want to do it, you never know where you stand with them. |
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and now says she didn't want to meet someone without seeing a face pic~if this was her excuse why did she agree to meet in the first place then?
but no sorry she wouldnt get a second chance with me as you have said face are viewable on the profile
for all to view ... and i think id be asking her if its normal for her to arrange meets without knowing who she is meeting cause 99% of fems in here wouldnt . |
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Well, she's had another message from the person in question giving another seriously dodgy excuse. After asking for a close up face pic MJ told her that she had her phone number, give her her number and she would send a pic.
Reply? "My phone can't recieve pics"
In this age of smartphones? Unlikely.
Anyway, i think you can guess what our response is towards this 'lady'.
Thanks everyone for your input |
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