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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman?"
Just because you like the idea...Doesn't mean Your wife would share the same likes.. doing this as a couple is about doing what works for you both...
Its not about fair or unfair, its about respecting each others wishes and having lots of fun.
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"is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman?
Just because you like the idea...Doesn't mean Your wife would share the same likes.. doing this as a couple is about doing what works for you both...
Its not about fair or unfair, its about respecting each others wishes and having lots of fun.
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this reply is so true have careful think on.that one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman?"
Oh dear, that sounds like resentment of the other halfs boundaries and limits.
Pretty dangerous in my opinion, the minute that starts happening it can put a major wedge in the swinging lifestyle, if not the relationship.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Fairness doesn't come into it. We have restrictions in our swinging relationship that I have to accept if it is to work - you either respect them or stop altogether. |
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"is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman?
Just because you like the idea...Doesn't mean Your wife would share the same likes.. doing this as a couple is about doing what works for you both...
Its not about fair or unfair, its about respecting each others wishes and having lots of fun.
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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago
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"is it wrong that I like thought of my wife with another man whether I'm there or not......and is it fair that she doesn't like idea of me with a woman?"
Your thoughts are not wrong as lots of men have them but as others have pointed out you need to carefully consider the last part of the sentence..........not really about being fair, lots of couples swap in different ways, not all just do a straight swap. Keep communicating with your wife, stick to boundaries and that might take you to places you are both comfortable with. |
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Our rule is that it's OK as long as we either discuss it before it happens or tell as soon as possible after, for instance if either of us was away from home. But everyone has their own rules, go with what you are both happy with. |
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My husband and I have different rules for each other. He can do whatever he likes, but if I am at home and not playing I don't want to know until afterwards. However I am only allowed to play alone with men that he is friends with and has approved and he likes to be kept informed during the event and sent pics etc. The reason we have different rules is because our comfort levels are different. We are different people. We don't have many rules at parties though. |
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My husband loves to watch me, or hear all about it if I've been out on a social/meet etc. Turns him on big time. However, he doesn't play with the 'other' girl on girl he has watched and we get it on after she leaves etc..
two blokes and me and he is hands on. But this is the way it is and what we find comfortable for us.
The minute things change or we both have different views or opinions the lifestyle will come to a halt.
You need to have a re think if you Both feel differently. My hubby isn't fussed about being with anyone else he gets all the thrill he needs from perving on his wife being filled haha  |
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