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Do lots just like to beef themselves up
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"Why do so many like to beef themselves up as to when it comes to performing they arent what they made out on there profile and texts. Strange that "
I think people so like to show themselves in the best light which is fair. I think if you expect a performance you might be disappointed now and again because it's a lot of pressure on a person and the success of every meet depends on everyone present  |
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That's why I don't like talking about or describing sexual things with a person before we actually meet. Stuff rarely goes down the way you've talked about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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They tell you what theyre like and how good they are at sex only to find out they cant get a hard on never mind perform but it is nervous as it is for us if tgey having problems in that department get it checked out best for them really |
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"They tell you what theyre like and how good they are at sex only to find out they cant get a hard on never mind perform but it is nervous as it is for us if tgey having problems in that department get it checked out best for them really "
I suppose it's the same with women who say they give an amazing blow job,and don't. |
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"Why do so many like to beef themselves up as to when it comes to performing they arent what they made out on there profile and texts. Strange that "
Because if you admitted to being a shit shag no-one would want to meet. |
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"They tell you what theyre like and how good they are at sex only to find out they cant get a hard on never mind perform but it is nervous as it is for us if tgey having problems in that department get it checked out best for them really
I suppose it's the same with women who say they give an amazing blow job,and don't."
hahaha yes suppose so lol |
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"Yes we have to agree no point in telling us what they will do only to find they cant deliver it in the end "
Other people may turn them on more,or enjoy what they do. You can only feel sexual chemistry in person. If you're not turning each other on the sex will be crap. |
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"That's why I don't like talking about or describing sexual things with a person before we actually meet. Stuff rarely goes down the way you've talked about it. "
I totally agree with this!! Plus it's off putting  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why do so many like to beef themselves up as to when it comes to performing they arent what they made out on there profile and texts. Strange that
Because if you admitted to being a shit shag no-one would want to meet."
And to beef urself up and meet only wastes everyones time and efforts whats the point in that |
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"Why do so many like to beef themselves up as to when it comes to performing they arent what they made out on there profile and texts. Strange that
Because if you admitted to being a shit shag no-one would want to meet."
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Of course you're going to big yourself up otherwise no one is going to want to meet you 
Maybe hard on fatigue was due to not being turned on enough or feeling intimidated ~ people aren't performing seals you know...... |
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Just to be devil's advocate here.....am I the only one to think there's a lot of pressure on the single guy in this situation? It can sometimes be difficult going into an established couple's playtime because they already know what buttons to press for each other- the "spare" male or female is going in blind, and maybe nerves get the better of them sometimes?xx |
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"Of course you're going to big yourself up otherwise no one is going to want to meet you
Maybe hard on fatigue was due to not being turned on enough or feeling intimidated ~ people aren't performing seals you know......"
Arf Arf.
Where is my big beach ball and motor horns, lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do you actively seduce men? Or lay on the bed waiting for them to do their thing? The only time I've had men not get hard is when my long term partner was on strong medication and tired,and it went a little soft. Or a man who admitted he gets nervous the first couple of times and struggles to get hard. I'm patient and not demanding,and it worked out ok. You have responsibility to do your part too,and to make men feel comfortable around your husband. |
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"Just to be devil's advocate here.....am I the only one to think there's a lot of pressure on the single guy in this situation? It can sometimes be difficult going into an established couple's playtime because they already know what buttons to press for each other- the "spare" male or female is going in blind, and maybe nerves get the better of them sometimes?xx"
Of course there is and unless he's Mr Confidence he will need the pressure taken off. Everyone talks about what they do and like doing; how it happens depends on all people present. |
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"Just to be devil's advocate here.....am I the only one to think there's a lot of pressure on the single guy in this situation? It can sometimes be difficult going into an established couple's playtime because they already know what buttons to press for each other- the "spare" male or female is going in blind, and maybe nerves get the better of them sometimes?xx"
Ahh see thats where we understand and try to help them by guiding them and supporting them in the various sexual ways and making them feel comfortable as its only fair |
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"Women find confidence and bravado much more attractive than a quiet man too."
It's possible to be quietly confident.
This woman doesn't find bravado attractive but I don't find low self esteem attractive eitber |
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"Yes we have to agree no point in telling us what they will do only to find they cant deliver it in the end
Other people may turn them on more,or enjoy what they do. You can only feel sexual chemistry in person. If you're not turning each other on the sex will be crap. "
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"Just to be devil's advocate here.....am I the only one to think there's a lot of pressure on the single guy in this situation? It can sometimes be difficult going into an established couple's playtime because they already know what buttons to press for each other- the "spare" male or female is going in blind, and maybe nerves get the better of them sometimes?xx"
I agree. Couple's attitudes can be enough to put anyone off.
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"Just to be devil's advocate here.....am I the only one to think there's a lot of pressure on the single guy in this situation? It can sometimes be difficult going into an established couple's playtime because they already know what buttons to press for each other- the "spare" male or female is going in blind, and maybe nerves get the better of them sometimes?xx
I agree. Couple's attitudes can be enough to put anyone off.
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...Some couples... sometimes... |
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"Women find confidence and bravado much more attractive than a quiet man too."
Not this woman. The quiet ones have frequently turned out to be the better in bed. |
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"Women find confidence and bravado much more attractive than a quiet man too.
Not this woman. The quiet ones have frequently turned out to be the better in bed. "
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"Why do so many like to beef themselves up as to when it comes to performing they arent what they made out on there profile and texts. Strange that
Because if you admitted to being a shit shag no-one would want to meet."
I'm happy to admit I'm a shit shag.
My blowjobs are crap too.
I take it up tha arse though.
Men like that |
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When we first got into swinging we made the mistake of too much sex talk before meeting.
Although we do need to discuss hard boundaries etc. But sometimes we also need to discuss specific fantasies we're wanting to explore.
As for people bigging themselves up, we never do that. We're maybe even self-deprecating, which may put people of but it helps us find the right people.
We often see profiles where the guy, both single and part of a couple, states having 'magic' fingers and tongue. This always gives us a red flag due to past experience as this translates to them not knowing how to use their cock, and being excessively rough with their fingers. |
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"That's why I don't like talking about or describing sexual things with a person before we actually meet. Stuff rarely goes down the way you've talked about it.
I totally agree with this!! Plus it's off putting "
I agree too.XXX |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Wank talk?"
For some maybe but I can once a connection is established engage in teasing chat and can only speak myself here . I do not wank when doing it .the truth be told I rarely wank full stop.
To me its abut building up chemistry excitement anticipation nothing more nothing less |
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