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Why do Guys lower there standards on here ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you're having sex with people you're not attracted to???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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popcorn pls  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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How exactly have you seen lots of guys doing this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think many people, guys especially start a new lifestyle/fetish whatever and go in all guns blazing and "fill their boots" the buzz of the situation being the over riding factor rather than who they are with. Once the shiny newness wears off you look deeper into what you actually want. It's human nature.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They have "raging horn" vision.
Should have gone to Specsavers. |
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Hahaha!
OP I think it's so people know they're not fakes which increases their chances of going up 'to their standard.'
Let's not bash him much as he's just asking a question. It'll hurt many readers but just see it as oh well, you're getting the meets regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And people wonder why single guys get blocked. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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I would say no it doesn't. Not for everyone. Or maybe I just think that because I've got lucky with the guys who have deigned to meet me. |
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Maybe they dont see it as lowering their standards .Miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because, in the words of the late Robin Williams, God gave men two brains but only enough blood to operate one at a time. |
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why do women lower their standards also.
maybe they are just bored or think any love is good love.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're having sex with people you're not attracted to??? "
Is it really that shocking that people do that on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally couldn't see myself getting sexual with anyone I wasn't attracted to, I'd sooner have a wank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow!!...
Really OP?! You truly think that?
Generalising much?
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Cos some guys have an 'any hole is a goal' attitude?
No one is forcing men to have sex with women they are not really attracted to. If you're a slave to your dick then...maybe put some porn on and have a wank instead of 'lowering your standards'?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pmsl
Good luck op  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they like there personality 
Some say its not just about looks lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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Oh so that's why I get so many messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always fucking men way out of my league.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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Well it clearly does for you , by your own admission !
Good luck on the site this time round .
Just look for women's profiles which state they are here to offer sex to guys who are happy to drop their standards . It should be an absolute blast for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're having sex with people you're not attracted to???
Is it really that shocking that people do that on here? "
Erm, yes |
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You can also say that the longer you're on fab, the more appealing profile you'll come across depending on what the person is attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you think either sex would just have a wank instead so maybe they are lonely or curious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The OP is probably right. In some cases. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
no I have never lowered my standards but I judge on more than looks for me the woman must be interesting witty and above all into my kind of fun .if she meets those three requirement chemistry will ensue on my part regardless of her looks or body type .
that's the beauty of kink its the kink that makes the chemistry not the face tits and fanny .
well that how I roll and kink can not be seen so its the only way I can roll .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing 
Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you considered that some people base attraction on more than just looks?? |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing
Just saying."
some men take viagra some dont need to though. |
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I personally think the ones That are after an any holes a goal fuck are obvious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing
Just saying.
some men take viagra some dont need to though."
They take viagra so that they can have sex with someone that they don't fancy? |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Maybe they like there personality
Some say its not just about looks lol"
Some mean it when they say it. Without the need to laugh at those who approach the situation differently. |
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"Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing
Just saying.
some men take viagra some dont need to though.
They take viagra so that they can have sex with someone that they don't fancy? "
Do they? |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
How exactly have you seen lots of guys doing this?"
That was my first thought as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just get on with your corner of the fab world!
clean your own hole before looking up others
show some compassion to a stranger or something
stroke a kitten
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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'I've seen lots of guys doing this on here'
Oh dear, someone's obviously walking in a lot of other guys shoes or think they do. Maybe some kind've supreme being that exists in everything other guys are doing lmfao.
OP if you chat up/approach females your not attracted to then yes your need for sex affects/effects your judgment.
Not all guys are despo or operate that way If there's no attraction there's no interest, there's no arousal, it's not happening and it's mutually respected.
Can only imagine what kind've sex anyone who's not attracted to someone is having with that someone. |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
How exactly have you seen lots of guys doing this?
That was my first thought as well "
I guess he just looks at peoples verifications and pictures. |
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If we wouldn't fuck you in real life then we're certainly not fucking you in the amazing world of swinging xx |
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"And people wonder why single guys get blocked. "
Reason we get blocked is because people make the assumption we're all the same  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kinda feel sorry for any girls who met OP around 4 years ago |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing
Just saying.
some men take viagra some dont need to though.
They take viagra so that they can have sex with someone that they don't fancy? "
The OP didn't say he had sex with people he didn't fancy, he said he had sex with people that he wouldn't chat up outside of Fab. |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
How exactly have you seen lots of guys doing this?
That was my first thought as well
I guess he just looks at peoples verifications and pictures."
Ok but then how does he know it's not a genuine attraction we don't all like the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are these the "loads of brilliant people" you refer to meeting previously in your profile?
I doubt you can really know, or need to care, what other chaps are doing. Carry on playing the Fab game how you choose to and don't let others and their approach affect you. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I reckon you are not saying anything that has not been said before OP....the difference is you are being honest about it |
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Big head, little head balance, unfortunately most guys can't control it when the blood flows down to the little chap x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Step away from the keyboard Leggy..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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Think you've answered your own question OP. I hope none of your past below standard conquests see this as it could be hurtful towards their feelings. But hey, they may have thought the same of yourself
I personally would not have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to, no matter how much I needed sex. |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
How exactly have you seen lots of guys doing this?
That was my first thought as well
I guess he just looks at peoples verifications and pictures.
Ok but then how does he know it's not a genuine attraction we don't all like the same? "
He doesnt know its just his opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I have done this. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Who was it that used to say 'full balls, empty head'.' Or something like that.? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it possible for a fella to have sex if they are not attracted to someone? Surely if there is no attraction at all, then it just ain't gonna happen? Y'know? No likey, no standing to attention kinda thing
Just saying.
some men take viagra some dont need to though.
They take viagra so that they can have sex with someone that they don't fancy?
The OP didn't say he had sex with people he didn't fancy, he said he had sex with people that he wouldn't chat up outside of Fab."
I'll just have to put that down to a difference of opinion. I wouldn't chat up anyone I didn't fancy either here or outside of Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know its not going anywhere so it scratches that itch so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
Well it clearly does for you , by your own admission !
Good luck on the site this time round .
Just look for women's profiles which state they are here to offer sex to guys who are happy to drop their standards . It should be an absolute blast for you "
This lmao!! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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As you admit to having done it, you already know why some guys do it.
Personally I'd feel bloody ashamed of myself if I let a desire for sex rule me to the extent I was shagging people I wasn't attracted to.
That's what it is, a desire. Nobody needs sex.
I think someone must be very weak willed for their libido to have mastery over their behaviour. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Yes. I have done this. "
Love the honesty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because they want sex with no relationship,same as me. I don't have physical standards per se,I'll fuck pretty much any race,height,weight,religion; not so much age or number of teeth though. Some women may think I have no standards because of that,I call it having diverse tastes. There are some personalities I don't gel with,no matter what they look like or work as. Some people judge someone's worth by their physique,wealth and education; I don't as that would seriously impede my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going ugly early" or "moose hunting" has always been a popular activity in low end Night clubs. Fab is no different. Some women get to punch above their weight for an hour or two while a guy gets his rocks off. Good luck to them both i say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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It's nice to know that you think us lady's on here are below your standards, very nice I think not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I certainly don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few long term partners,of which none of them would want a relationship with me and vice versa. Sexually we are compatible,physically they are chalk and cheese. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
It's nice to know that you think us lady's on here are below your standards, very nice I think not."
He didn't say "all". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Going ugly early" or "moose hunting" has always been a popular activity in low end Night clubs. Fab is no different. Some women get to punch above their weight for an hour or two while a guy gets his rocks off. Good luck to them both i say. "
I get my rocks off too-with a hot man!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I certainly don't "
Who's gonna tell him.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Going ugly early" or "moose hunting" has always been a popular activity in low end Night clubs. Fab is no different. Some women get to punch above their weight for an hour or two while a guy gets his rocks off. Good luck to them both i say.
I get my rocks off too-with a hot man!! "
Exactly! It works both ways doesn't it. The bugly my may not be the victim. But capitalising on her situation. IE. Owning a vagina. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Holds hands up if you have had a d*unken one night stand and regretted it in the morning I know I have.
As the years have past especially on here I haven become more selective on here x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thought this thread may cause a stir .
But I've had a few pm's stating its not just blokes that are doing this .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Technically if you start out with no standards, you can't lower them lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And what made me start this thread was a conversation I had with a friend of mine who is on here .
She's having no luck on dating sites or trying dating in the real world and its getting her down . So She comes on here and get endless attention and meets . In Her own words its better than just sitting there lonely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank fuck men do drop their standards otherwise I'd be a 48yr old virgin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And what made me start this thread was a conversation I had with a friend of mine who is on here .
She's having no luck on dating sites or trying dating in the real world and its getting her down . So She comes on here and get endless attention and meets . In Her own words its better than just sitting there lonely."
so your friend is the fugly?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you admit to having done it, you already know why some guys do it.
Personally I'd feel bloody ashamed of myself if I let a desire for sex rule me to the extent I was shagging people I wasn't attracted to.
That's what it is, a desire. Nobody needs sex.
I think someone must be very weak willed for their libido to have mastery over their behaviour."
Absolutely agree with you .
To drop standards simply to fulfil a desire is akin to an addiction . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And what made me start this thread was a conversation I had with a friend of mine who is on here .
She's having no luck on dating sites or trying dating in the real world and its getting her down . So She comes on here and get endless attention and meets . In Her own words its better than just sitting there lonely.
so your friend is the fugly?
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No I don't think She is but I suppose the real world is maybe harder fir Her to find the attention than it is on here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you have sexual addiction your judgement can be impaired, it's about getting a fix like any addiction. |
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"As you admit to having done it, you already know why some guys do it.
Personally I'd feel bloody ashamed of myself if I let a desire for sex rule me to the extent I was shagging people I wasn't attracted to.
That's what it is, a desire. Nobody needs sex.
I think someone must be very weak willed for their libido to have mastery over their behaviour.
Absolutely agree with you .
To drop standards simply to fulfil a desire is akin to an addiction . "
I think also they may have low self esteem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they like there personality
Some say its not just about looks lol
Some mean it when they say it. Without the need to laugh at those who approach the situation differently."
Good for you but i personally wouldnt go near anyone i didnt find attractive on the outside no matter how nice a person they are. |
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By *tongueMan
over a year ago
wrexham |
Yep in away your right. The male needs to have sex so little head always over rules the big head. Sex is sex a physical release and pleasure. OH thats what Fabs is about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they like there personality
Some say its not just about looks lol
Some mean it when they say it. Without the need to laugh at those who approach the situation differently.
Good for you but i personally wouldnt go near anyone i didnt find attractive on the outside no matter how nice a person they are. "
Nor would we |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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I don't think they all do but it's clear that some operate a scatter gun approach in the hope of getting a meet...any meet. They're fairly easy to spot though |
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By *tongueMan
over a year ago
wrexham |
"why do women lower their standards also.
maybe they are just bored or think any love is good love. "
Umm yes that sounds like it. |
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
It's nice to know that you think us lady's on here are below your standards, very nice I think not."
talking about getting it twisted he didn't say that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
It's nice to know that you think us lady's on here are below your standards, very nice I think not.
talking about getting it twisted he didn't say that "
Exactly but some see it as a personal attack and lack the intelligence to debate without prejudice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys still lower their standards on a sat night ... Generally at "ten to two" |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Maybe they like there personality
Some say its not just about looks lol
Some mean it when they say it. Without the need to laugh at those who approach the situation differently.
Good for you but i personally wouldnt go near anyone i didnt find attractive on the outside no matter how nice a person they are. "
If I like someone in that way I have always found them attractive when I meet them. Doesn't mean it won't happen at some point so I reserve the right to change my mind but that's just how it works for me. On the other hand, I have however found someone visually appealing but been totally turned off by their personality. So it works both ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right that's it. I'm not meeting anybody else because I'll always be thinking they are lowering their standards and I'm just a hole to fill.
God I've been so naive. Cheers Op.
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Your doomed op I'm taking a front row seat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it really lowering standards? Or is it more like have different preferences. So what you are attracted to relationship wise might not be necessarily the same as what you would find sexually attractive in a sexual encounter. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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You cant knock the any port in a stormers & dying flies for being honest .
Not sure how approach, chat up arousal or sex without attraction works though
Probably buried in relationship maturity/sexual maturity somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They have "raging horn" vision.
Should have gone to Specsavers."
I'm saving myself for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If ever there was a look at me block me thread lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely we cannot reallycomment on other people standards, but as is human nature we will all slightly judge/wonder.
There are a few in Edinburgh and their profile would have been better constructed if the keyboard had simply dropped; their pictures show messy homes; there are pictures of body parts that the RSPCA are filming campaign videos for, so when I see guys verified by them I wonder what it is that made the guys go there, but really it is none of my business.
We cannot be for everyone, please everyone or try to understand everyone. I know that being fat, some will likely say that some of my meets have lowered standards- each to their own. It is all subjective and as long as we do not hurt anyone or set out to be rude, obnoxious or hurtful then we should all be able to have fun here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your doomed op I'm taking a front row seat "
Im not doomed .
I don't meet on here anymore and honestly don't take all this very seriously.
Hence why im not always politically correct on the forums because im not trying to suck up to anyone on here in the hope of a shag It gives me the freedom to speak honestly |
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"Right that's it. I'm not meeting anybody else because I'll always be thinking they are lowering their standards and I'm just a hole to fill.
God I've been so naive. Cheers Op.
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What you on about?? trust me looking at your pictures it wouldn't be lowering standards at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They have "raging horn" vision.
Should have gone to Specsavers."
Vision Sexpress. |
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To be honest I have fucked/met with guys I would never consider having a relationship with. This has been for various reasons looks included. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely we cannot reallycomment on other people standards, but as is human nature we will all slightly judge/wonder.
There are a few in Edinburgh and their profile would have been better constructed if the keyboard had simply dropped; their pictures show messy homes; there are pictures of body parts that the RSPCA are filming campaign videos for, so when I see guys verified by them I wonder what it is that made the guys go there, but really it is none of my business.
We cannot be for everyone, please everyone or try to understand everyone. I know that being fat, some will likely say that some of my meets have lowered standards- each to their own. It is all subjective and as long as we do not hurt anyone or set out to be rude, obnoxious or hurtful then we should all be able to have fun here. "
Jesus christ
A well thought out intelligent ,open ,minded and honest answer ..
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Lack of respect for themselves
Are not up to the standards of the women they want to attract
Thinking its to much hard work putting an effort into what they really want.
Think just because they register with the site they will get laid |
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"Lack of respect for themselves
Are not up to the standards of the women they want to attract
Thinking its to much hard work putting an effort into what they really want.
Think just because they register with the site they will get laid"
They think they are eggs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Theres alot of honest answers starting to come through now .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has everyone else noticed the first line of the OP's post?
It was when he first started, which probably means it was just to get a verie by meeting in person.
I'm not saying I agree with his methods, but its difficult to get the first few and they are important, especially if your a single bloke |
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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago
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The ratio of single men to women being what it is in swinging I could imagine that some men may do this but I am sure this is a small minority.
But OP overlooks the level of sexual liberation and how women can behave in swinging world to truly appreciate the sexual power of a woman and to diminish it to her 'being lower than you' as compared to vanilla world feels more about your ego. I am willing to bet that some fucks you have had with the women in swinging that you believe to be lower than you have been a far more amazing fuck than you would get in vanilla world..............
Of course fucking an amazing looking person is great but if they are a shit shag they become less attractive in my eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has everyone else noticed the first line of the OP's post?
It was when he first started, which probably means it was just to get a verie by meeting in person.
I'm not saying I agree with his methods, but its difficult to get the first few and they are important, especially if your a single bloke"
In the early days it was so exciting meeting strangers that wanted to have sex with u !
But that got boring and I realised that I wouldn't introduce many of them to my mates which is a good measure of how attractive these people were .
Dick taking over the brain syndrome |
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over a year ago
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Variety is the spice of life |
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"Has everyone else noticed the first line of the OP's post?
It was when he first started, which probably means it was just to get a verie by meeting in person.
I'm not saying I agree with his methods, but its difficult to get the first few and they are important, especially if your a single bloke"
1. Nope not difficult at all just get yourself to a social verification done simple
2. Verifications ain't as important as people think
3. Don't jump to conclusions |
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over a year ago
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I've sucked a few old guys dicks. I don't want a relationship with a man his 60's, or any other age. I've been fucked in the ass by a chick with a dick, i don't want a relationship or anything else from them either. Shoot me. |
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over a year ago
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""Going ugly early" or "moose hunting" has always been a popular activity in low end Night clubs. Fab is no different. Some women get to punch above their weight for an hour or two while a guy gets his rocks off. Good luck to them both i say.
I get my rocks off too-with a hot man!!
Exactly! It works both ways doesn't it. The bugly my may not be the victim. But capitalising on her situation. IE. Owning a vagina. "
Yes it does,although I don't send out a hook to catch the hungry fish. I like to lure in the ones looking for something a little more tasty than worms |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've sucked a few old guys dicks. I don't want a relationship with a man his 60's, or any other age. I've been fucked in the ass by a chick with a dick, i don't want a relationship or anything else from them either. Shoot me. "
Love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've sucked a few old guys dicks. I don't want a relationship with a man his 60's, or any other age. I've been fucked in the ass by a chick with a dick, i don't want a relationship or anything else from them either. Shoot me. "
All about the dick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Variety is the spice of life "
Exactly Shag! Which is why I can find an albino with a tooth missing as attractive as a muscular Aussie beach bum |
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over a year ago
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"I've sucked a few old guys dicks. I don't want a relationship with a man his 60's, or any other age. I've been fucked in the ass by a chick with a dick, i don't want a relationship or anything else from them either. Shoot me.
All about the dick. "
Exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reckon you are not saying anything that has not been said before OP....the difference is you are being honest about it "
Sums it up perfectly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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I think you have answered your own question....and I don't think beer goggles is a new concept |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think many people, guys especially start a new lifestyle/fetish whatever and go in all guns blazing and "fill their boots" the buzz of the situation being the over riding factor rather than who they are with. Once the shiny newness wears off you look deeper into what you actually want. It's human nature.
I'd say this applies to some women too. I certainly did in the earlier days but now I've gone the other way!
Mrs x"
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over a year ago
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"Surely we cannot reallycomment on other people standards, but as is human nature we will all slightly judge/wonder.
There are a few in Edinburgh and their profile would have been better constructed if the keyboard had simply dropped; their pictures show messy homes; there are pictures of body parts that the RSPCA are filming campaign videos for, so when I see guys verified by them I wonder what it is that made the guys go there, but really it is none of my business.
We cannot be for everyone, please everyone or try to understand everyone. I know that being fat, some will likely say that some of my meets have lowered standards- each to their own. It is all subjective and as long as we do not hurt anyone or set out to be rude, obnoxious or hurtful then we should all be able to have fun here.
Jesus christ
A well thought out intelligent ,open ,minded and honest answer ..
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Keep your accusations to yourself ha ha
Not need for everyone to get so irate really, but what do I know. Have fun! |
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"Pass the popcorn please "
No! Go buy your own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you have sexual addiction your judgement can be impaired, it's about getting a fix like any addiction. "
Have to agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had periods of illness which involved increased sexual desire.It did lead me to make some questionable choices looking back.
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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There are two types of attraction theres physical and then theres mental attraction .
Rarely do the two match up perfectly so I maybe bphysically attracted to Bo derek ( I'm no looker in my opinion so she's not going to go for me if she's physical in what she likes )but mentally attracted to Betty page again out of my league if she is into the physical more than the mental.
So I'm be looking for a Bo Derek look alike with Bettie pages kink .
The odd are getting very very slim here because I may appeal to he kink but not I'm no looker so what's a guy to do .
Well I know the kink turns me on so I can afford to say you know what i will settle for a Rebecca de moray instead oh shit she's still out of my league oh dear that explains why I am not getting it on all the time I'm just attracted to those who are out of my league .
Oh well that's life best to reach for the moon as you never know the moon may just see the worth in you and come down to play . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have played with women of all different types, I am that awesome guy that looks and body does not bother me, it's if you can hold a convo with me. My standards have been the same since I got on here, talk to me, find out I'm not a fruit looks like my profiles makes me look and then we can play.
Everyone has different attractions, personally I have never been attracted to black women, though who knows if they grab my attention with a conversation it may just change. |
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"Lack of respect for themselves
Are not up to the standards of the women they want to attract
Thinking its to much hard work putting an effort into what they really want.
Think just because they register with the site they will get laid"
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
Cause I am horny and need a shag. I am not marrying the fuckers |
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"There are two types of attraction theres physical and then theres mental attraction .
Rarely do the two match up perfectly so I maybe bphysically attracted to Bo derek ( I'm no looker in my opinion so she's not going to go for me if she's physical in what she likes )but mentally attracted to Betty page again out of my league if she is into the physical more than the mental.
So I'm be looking for a Bo Derek look alike with Bettie pages kink .
The odd are getting very very slim here because I may appeal to he kink but not I'm no looker so what's a guy to do .
Well I know the kink turns me on so I can afford to say you know what i will settle for a Rebecca de moray instead oh shit she's still out of my league oh dear that explains why I am not getting it on all the time I'm just attracted to those who are out of my league .
Oh well that's life best to reach for the moon as you never know the moon may just see the worth in you and come down to play . "
Do you know that Bo Derek will be 60 in November? She looks AMAZING! !!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More fool them then if they're willing to drop their standards for a shag. It's something I don't understand and certainly could never do. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"There are two types of attraction theres physical and then theres mental attraction .
Rarely do the two match up perfectly so I maybe bphysically attracted to Bo derek ( I'm no looker in my opinion so she's not going to go for me if she's physical in what she likes )but mentally attracted to Betty page again out of my league if she is into the physical more than the mental.
So I'm be looking for a Bo Derek look alike with Bettie pages kink .
The odd are getting very very slim here because I may appeal to he kink but not I'm no looker so what's a guy to do .
Well I know the kink turns me on so I can afford to say you know what i will settle for a Rebecca de moray instead oh shit she's still out of my league oh dear that explains why I am not getting it on all the time I'm just attracted to those who are out of my league .
Oh well that's life best to reach for the moon as you never know the moon may just see the worth in you and come down to play .
Do you know that Bo Derek will be 60 in November? She looks AMAZING! !!!! "
She will always look amazing to me peter sellers was one lucky git in my opinion my first true crush as a teenager .then I saw Rebecca de mornay in risky business and well let's put it this way between the pair of them they kept me up a lot .
Then in my twenties Bettie page came along with her kink and I realised her mind was for me . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would ever meet someone that you wouldnt be comfortable in public with.
What a lot of utter bollocks.
If you cant find a fuck youre attracted to have a fucking wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are two types of attraction theres physical and then theres mental attraction .
Rarely do the two match up perfectly so I maybe bphysically attracted to Bo derek ( I'm no looker in my opinion so she's not going to go for me if she's physical in what she likes )but mentally attracted to Betty page again out of my league if she is into the physical more than the mental.
So I'm be looking for a Bo Derek look alike with Bettie pages kink .
The odd are getting very very slim here because I may appeal to he kink but not I'm no looker so what's a guy to do .
Well I know the kink turns me on so I can afford to say you know what i will settle for a Rebecca de moray instead oh shit she's still out of my league oh dear that explains why I am not getting it on all the time I'm just attracted to those who are out of my league .
Oh well that's life best to reach for the moon as you never know the moon may just see the worth in you and come down to play .
Do you know that Bo Derek will be 60 in November? She looks AMAZING! !!!!
She will always look amazing to me peter sellers was one lucky git in my opinion my first true crush as a teenager .then I saw Rebecca de mornay in risky business and well let's put it this way between the pair of them they kept me up a lot .
Then in my twenties Bettie page came along with her kink and I realised her mind was for me . "
Ooooh, Rebecca De Mornay 
Literally my sole contribution to this thread. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Why would ever meet someone that you wouldnt be comfortable in public with.
What a lot of utter bollocks.
If you cant find a fuck youre attracted to have a fucking wank. "
In all seriousness now I have a two male friends who to my tastes are vanilla .there good looking guys both are 6 foot played rugby like me .both play in this world and in clubs and are very successful as they are both physically well fitted to the fantasy fuck so many are looking for .
Both have fucked women off sites like this and in clubs they would never to seen walking down the street with .
Why because they can plan and simply if you have got it you have got it and both these guys have it and use it instead of there right hand . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"popcorn pls "
Sweet or salted? |
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.... eeeeerm .... people in glass houses shouldnt throw stones ..... |
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over a year ago
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"Why would ever meet someone that you wouldnt be comfortable in public with.
What a lot of utter bollocks.
If you cant find a fuck youre attracted to have a fucking wank.
In all seriousness now I have a two male friends who to my tastes are vanilla .there good looking guys both are 6 foot played rugby like me .both play in this world and in clubs and are very successful as they are both physically well fitted to the fantasy fuck so many are looking for .
Both have fucked women off sites like this and in clubs they would never to seen walking down the street with .
Why because they can plan and simply if you have got it you have got it and both these guys have it and use it instead of there right hand ."
If theyd rather fuck someone ugly than have a wank then theyre clearly self centred pricks.
Id never expect someone to lower their standards for me if i wasnt what they were looking for. And i wouldnt do it either. |
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On reading this ,i think it's down to the fact that the 95%+ of the ladies on here ,can have a large number of men to pick from , leaving most blokes to try for not there 1st ,2nd , 3rd and so on and so on choice ,plus there seems to be a lot of social groups of swingers ,which is hard to get into there group .
It's just the way it is on here , i guess ,and mibby some don't try as hard as they should to meet ,which could be down to feeling it's a losted cause or they only have time now and then to try and get a meet sorted out .
Hope this kinda makes some sense lol ,or could just be my _iew on this |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Why would ever meet someone that you wouldnt be comfortable in public with.
What a lot of utter bollocks.
If you cant find a fuck youre attracted to have a fucking wank.
In all seriousness now I have a two male friends who to my tastes are vanilla .there good looking guys both are 6 foot played rugby like me .both play in this world and in clubs and are very successful as they are both physically well fitted to the fantasy fuck so many are looking for .
Both have fucked women off sites like this and in clubs they would never to seen walking down the street with .
Why because they can plan and simply if you have got it you have got it and both these guys have it and use it instead of there right hand .
If theyd rather fuck someone ugly than have a wank then theyre clearly self centred pricks.
Id never expect someone to lower their standards for me if i wasnt what they were looking for. And i wouldnt do it either. "
But here's the thing you would never know they did do you really think they would be stupid enough to let it show or let you think that for one minute .
Yes they are conceited and self centered but I know that because I'm a friend so I'm privy to there true thoughts something no woman there chatting up or indulging in fun with is privy to . |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
I couldn't care less if I fucked someone and they thought they had lowered their standards. I would walk in with my head held high, fuck them and leave with my head held high, but with empty balls.
But I wouldn't let anyone take the cunt out of me, nor reduce me to a whimpering idiot in the hope of affection or more. |
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over a year ago
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"I couldn't care less if I fucked someone and they thought they had lowered their standards. I would walk in with my head held high, fuck them and leave with my head held high, but with empty balls.
But I wouldn't let anyone take the cunt out of me, nor reduce me to a whimpering idiot in the hope of affection or more."
I like this attitude |
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over a year ago
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Most the blokes I meet I know wouldn't look at me out of fab..so what..For that night we are both having fun and getting what we want...its fab fun |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Most the blokes I meet I know wouldn't look at me out of fab..so what..For that night we are both having fun and getting what we want...its fab fun "
Exactly its about performance and compatibility between the sheets if both are there then you have hit on your pot of gold because that guarantees great sex is had by all. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always fucking men way out of my league.
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Me too  |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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From some comments some will obviously fuck anything they're not attracted to if it's not a potential relationship situation. Although as it's a swinging site so I'd guess maybe most aint here looking for that so.
Inevitably though they'll want their potential serious vanilla relationship partner to be from the more selective will not fuck anything & attracted to mould. The polar opposite to themselves lmfao.
The double standards of the loose |
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over a year ago
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Just imagine for a moment that some guys didn't lower their standards. It might be a different kettle of fish all together. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Just imagine for a moment that some guys didn't lower their standards. It might be a different kettle of fish all together."
Oooohh now that would really frustrate the fuck out of half the site
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally couldn't see myself getting sexual with anyone I wasn't attracted to, I'd sooner have a wank "
This |
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"Why would ever meet someone that you wouldnt be comfortable in public with.
What a lot of utter bollocks.
If you cant find a fuck youre attracted to have a fucking wank.
In all seriousness now I have a two male friends who to my tastes are vanilla .there good looking guys both are 6 foot played rugby like me .both play in this world and in clubs and are very successful as they are both physically well fitted to the fantasy fuck so many are looking for .
Both have fucked women off sites like this and in clubs they would never to seen walking down the street with .
Why because they can plan and simply if you have got it you have got it and both these guys have it and use it instead of there right hand .
If theyd rather fuck someone ugly than have a wank then theyre clearly self centred pricks.
Id never expect someone to lower their standards for me if i wasnt what they were looking for. And i wouldnt do it either.
But here's the thing you would never know they did do you really think they would be stupid enough to let it show or let you think that for one minute .
Yes they are conceited and self centered but I know that because I'm a friend so I'm privy to there true thoughts something no woman there chatting up or indulging in fun with is privy to ."
But heres the thing, you would know because they do quite often let it show and let you know too. |
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over a year ago
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"Just imagine for a moment that some guys didn't lower their standards. It might be a different kettle of fish all together.
Oooohh now that would really frustrate the fuck out of half the site
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If I m reading that right half the ladies and couples would be frustrated ? |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Just imagine for a moment that some guys didn't lower their standards. It might be a different kettle of fish all together.
Oooohh now that would really frustrate the fuck out of half the site
If I m reading that right half the ladies and couples would be frustrated ? "
No imagine the guys who do lower there standards suddenly didn't by gun would they become over frustrated after all they have been lowering there standard due to frustration fuck me all hell would brake loose if that Co insides with a full moon .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally couldn't see myself getting sexual with anyone I wasn't attracted to, I'd sooner have a wank "
Me too |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex addicton can do this. I know when i've really needed a cock i have met guys i'm not that into.
Plus you're not really investing anything into anyone on here, it's like ordering a take away fuck. No effort at all needed whatsoever.
Women are never that desperate though, loads of guys shoving themselves at you just coz they want a fuck too. I'd never meet anyone i find unattractive as a package. If someone has fucked me and enjoyed it or fancied me then i don't care. I got what i wanted from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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didn't* should be in that last line somewhere.
I get a lot of repeat meets so i;m guessing most guys were into me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I have standards and morals and keep to them! |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
Lower my standards
'No way would I' in my eyes lower my standards, 'not just for sex' but 'life!'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate to say it, but I lower my standards.
On this site I am not looking for love, or even a connection, sex will do. If love or a connection comes about I will take that as a bonus.
For example I'm 35 and the other week got talking to a very much older married lady in a club. We had a connection and both felt we wanted each other. Some of the best sex I've had.
But I can't see me introducing her to my parents etc.
If I was on a dating site my preferences would be for a woman who was 25-40, curvy, interlectual and got my quirks.
On here I want to meet people for mind blowing sex, if I get a real connection thats a bonus, and if it progresses to a proper relationship all the better.
But we have to get real - people like me do change their standards. And you know what? I think myself and the people who I meet both benefit.
I have not read all the thread, but I suspect I'm being controversial here |
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"I hate to say it, but I lower my standards.
On this site I am not looking for love, or even a connection, sex will do. If love or a connection comes about I will take that as a bonus.
For example I'm 35 and the other week got talking to a very much older married lady in a club. We had a connection and both felt we wanted each other. Some of the best sex I've had.
But I can't see me introducing her to my parents etc.
If I was on a dating site my preferences would be for a woman who was 25-40, curvy, interlectual and got my quirks.
On here I want to meet people for mind blowing sex, if I get a real connection thats a bonus, and if it progresses to a proper relationship all the better.
But we have to get real - people like me do change their standards. And you know what? I think myself and the people who I meet both benefit.
I have not read all the thread, but I suspect I'm being controversial here "
Some find honesty hard to digest. Especially if they suspect the subject of that honesty applies to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Im guilty when I was new on here over 4 years ago .
Meeting ladies that id no way chat up in pubs .
I've seen lots of guys doing this on here.
I may get slated for this but we all know its true .
Does the need for sex affect our judgement?
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Why don't you just go to the pub then.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think many people, guys especially start a new lifestyle/fetish whatever and go in all guns blazing and "fill their boots" the buzz of the situation being the over riding factor rather than who they are with. Once the shiny newness wears off you look deeper into what you actually want. It's human nature.
Mrs x"
Totally agree with that.
Appearance and reality are opposite to each other.
Most people, not all, join in order to fulfill fantasies created through porn watching, once reality hits (eventually at some point it will) you do realise that you were looking for yourself via something that doesn't, even slighty represent who you really are.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate to say it, but I lower my standards.
On this site I am not looking for love, or even a connection, sex will do. If love or a connection comes about I will take that as a bonus.
For example I'm 35 and the other week got talking to a very much older married lady in a club. We had a connection and both felt we wanted each other. Some of the best sex I've had.
But I can't see me introducing her to my parents etc.
If I was on a dating site my preferences would be for a woman who was 25-40, curvy, interlectual and got my quirks.
On here I want to meet people for mind blowing sex, if I get a real connection thats a bonus, and if it progresses to a proper relationship all the better.
But we have to get real - people like me do change their standards. And you know what? I think myself and the people who I meet both benefit.
I have not read all the thread, but I suspect I'm being controversial here "
Good for you.
Love that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a "sex standard" and a "dating standard". Single men can't exactly have their cake and eat it, by bringing up the oft-used complaint that couples and single females here are too uppity and picky because of the skewed demographics of this site and yet feeding into the very same people's egos here by only going for stereotypical model looks/bodies and judging everyone else.
That's the reason why people say Fab isn't for dating. My personal _iew? Swinging is to broaden one's sexual horizons. So as long as we're sexually compatible in the mental sense (both want the same thing) and physically compatible (no awkwardness physically matching up in bed) then I'm quite good to go.
Some of my best and most memorable meets have been with people whom I wouldn't typically have considered had I stuck to physical "standards"! But that's just my two cents anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I that's why I'm always suspicious when a guy with a 6 pack contacts me on here. Because in actuality I doubt they would look twice at me if they met me in a club or out and about. I think I would just rather have sex with someone who would genuinely find me attractive in every scenario. Don't think it's the nicest thing being good enough on fab but not in real life. |
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How can you judge someone else's "standards" though? Just because I don't find someone attractive, if someone else does that doesn't mean they have lower standards, just different taste.
My other half is 6ft 1 and has a Bruce Willis/Jason Statham look going on. He has a six pack and Adonis Belt he's always admiring. I met him on here and we've been together nearly three years. I'm 5ft 6 and fat.
To people on Fab he'd be seen as lowering his standards, in the real world I'm seen as lowering mine because he lives with me in my house. I pay for everything as his business is struggling. Good looks is not legal tender/value of worth.
You've also got to factor in the fact that no matter what "standard" you may aspire to on Fab some people would not acknowledge you in public, in fact they wouldn't touch you with someone else's.
Enjoy your playmates for who/what they are and drop the misplaced superiority and snobbery: it's ridiculous.
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"How can you judge someone else's "standards" though? Just because I don't find someone attractive, if someone else does that doesn't mean they have lower standards, just different taste.
My other half is 6ft 1 and has a Bruce Willis/Jason Statham look going on. He has a six pack and Adonis Belt he's always admiring. I met him on here and we've been together nearly three years. I'm 5ft 6 and fat.
To people on Fab he'd be seen as lowering his standards, in the real world I'm seen as lowering mine because he lives with me in my house. I pay for everything as his business is struggling. Good looks is not legal tender/value of worth.
You've also got to factor in the fact that no matter what "standard" you may aspire to on Fab some people would not acknowledge you in public, in fact they wouldn't touch you with someone else's.
Enjoy your playmates for who/what they are and drop the misplaced superiority and snobbery: it's ridiculous.
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this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And people wonder why single guys get blocked.
Reason we get blocked is because people make the assumption we're all the same "
not a truer word spoken! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because lads think with their dick and will shag anything when they need their hole. The end |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Going ugly early" or "moose hunting" has always been a popular activity in low end Night clubs. Fab is no different. Some women get to punch above their weight for an hour or two while a guy gets his rocks off. Good luck to them both i say. "
Yes and im very happy if it means I get to shag a guy who's way out of my league |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How can you judge someone else's "standards" though? Just because I don't find someone attractive, if someone else does that doesn't mean they have lower standards, just different taste.
My other half is 6ft 1 and has a Bruce Willis/Jason Statham look going on. He has a six pack and Adonis Belt he's always admiring. I met him on here and we've been together nearly three years. I'm 5ft 6 and fat.
To people on Fab he'd be seen as lowering his standards, in the real world I'm seen as lowering mine because he lives with me in my house. I pay for everything as his business is struggling. Good looks is not legal tender/value of worth.
You've also got to factor in the fact that no matter what "standard" you may aspire to on Fab some people would not acknowledge you in public, in fact they wouldn't touch you with someone else's.
Enjoy your playmates for who/what they are and drop the misplaced superiority and snobbery: it's ridiculous.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to know how people decide what their standards are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd like to know how people decide what their standards are. "
when i lower mine i don't actually fancy the guy. i still enjoyed fucking him, just he wasn't what i really wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate to say it, but I lower my standards.
On this site I am not looking for love, or even a connection, sex will do. If love or a connection comes about I will take that as a bonus.
For example I'm 35 and the other week got talking to a very much older married lady in a club. We had a connection and both felt we wanted each other. Some of the best sex I've had.
But I can't see me introducing her to my parents etc.
If I was on a dating site my preferences would be for a woman who was 25-40, curvy, interlectual and got my quirks.
On here I want to meet people for mind blowing sex, if I get a real connection thats a bonus, and if it progresses to a proper relationship all the better.
But we have to get real - people like me do change their standards. And you know what? I think myself and the people who I meet both benefit.
I have not read all the thread, but I suspect I'm being controversial here "
I think you've been really honest, nothing controversial about that |
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To people on Fab he'd be seen as lowering his standards, in the real world I'm seen as lowering mine because he lives with me in my house. I pay for everything as his business is struggling. Good looks is not legal tender/value of worth.
You've also got to factor in the fact that no matter what "standard" you may aspire to on Fab some people would not acknowledge you in public, in fact they wouldn't touch you with someone else's.
Enjoy your playmates for who/what they are and drop the misplaced superiority and snobbery: it's ridiculous.
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Well said. The thing that gets me about threads like this is the total inability to see other people's perspective. In my opinion nearly EVERYONE, male and female, can end up lowering their standards on here - ffs, it's a SEX site!!!
Jeeze, I don't lower my standards low enough to 'chat men up in pubs' ever! I would not go out with 90% of men I have met off the net or introduce them to my friends who would say 'What ARE you thinking woman, what on earth do you want with some vapid 30 yr old male model?' and the answer is bugger all in 'the real world'!
In the real world my 'standard' is men of substance - intelligent, educated, accomplished, authoritative, charismatic. I am looking for exceptional character - authenticity, honesty, empathy, compassion as well as wit and charm. Luckily for me all my relationships have been with really good-looking, intense, passionate, well-endowed men too - that has simply been a given for me.
But I don't NEED all that to have a rollicking good night or two, any more than the average bloke needs to be seen with the kind of 'babe' on his arm that will stroke his fragile ego in front of his shallow friends.
There's no way I am going without sex when I want it because Mr Darcy Mk II cannot be found, so yes, we can all be said to be lowering our standards at times. Get over it, it comes with the turf - casual sex is less than everyone's best anyway IMO. |
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