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Spontaneous vs. Planned

By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

In light of a recent experience of mine, I'm curious to know what, on the whole, the Fab community prefers - spontaneous meets, or meets that are some time in the making!

One offers excitement, the other a little more security. Which type of meet do you lean towards more?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im a planner ahead..a long time ahead..partly because my work patterns require that, and partly becasue thats how i prefer it....having said that, ive just arranged a meet for tomorrow night,very very quickly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer a little planning. So i know when to shave me minge

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By *enuinedannyMan over a year ago

walsall

I like spontaneous social meets but planned meets for fun not that ive ever had either hope your all having a gd night

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer a little planning. So i know when to shave me minge"

yes! dont shave my minge, but i must admit ive done a quick recce to check ive razors to do my legs in the morning...

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By *uncan LynnCouple over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Both have a place I love the planning and anticipation . Also when out with hubby or alone and you chat to somebody and know it will be good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off."

Not the worst thing....someone wanting to meet you x

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By *unover40Couple over a year ago

yeovil

both are good but spontaneous can be amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off.

Not the worst thing....someone wanting to meet you x"

I get put off by guys keeping messaging about an arranged me too. I dunno, it seems kinda desperate imo. I want someone to be cool.

On topic,I hate spontaneous. Always planned with me, or else I can't relax.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us it's usually planned well in advance with couples but spontaneous if Dee feels like adding a single guy , more exciting that way for some reason .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like planning. I enjoy the build up. Its part of the fun for me.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

Always spontaneous for us although some guys don't quite understand the term e.g. "Do you fancy a spontaneous meet next Thursday"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

much prefer spontaneous. planned i get anxious and more than often put off x

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"In light of a recent experience of mine, I'm curious to know what, on the whole, the Fab community prefers - spontaneous meets, or meets that are some time in the making!

One offers excitement, the other a little more security. Which type of meet do you lean towards more? "

With known people, spontaneous

With unknown people, planned with social first

I had a playmate when I first joined this site and he got beaten up on a spontaneous meet ( it looked like it was a planned 'revenge' attack)

So I learnt valued safety lessons, one being that it isn't just us females that have to think safe when horny

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Always spontaneous but always in clubs. The most spontaneous was when I was giving a blow job and a guy came up and fucked me from behind. He never spoke and I never saw who it was (though my partner did). Still turns me on just thinking about it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have to plan the date but I (jaz) hate discussing what would happen- prefer go with the flow spontaneous

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By *espectful rogueMan over a year ago

aylesbury

I prefer spontaneous myself

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Planned.

I meet at home so want to ensure I'm attracted to the person I'm opening my door to. Social meet always. I've dodged many a bullet I can tell you... (shudders).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Generally all mine are planned well in advance. I have done the odd spontaneous meet which were enjoyable but not in the same way as a planned one is.

I guess I like the build up, flirty messages, getting to know someone so when you finally meet the anticipation is in overdrive

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By *issnwtyWoman over a year ago

manchester

I have 2 plan these thing due 2 my circumstances

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Like both, spontaneous because of the instant fun.

Planned because you can build up delicious anticipation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer a little planning. So i know when to shave me minge"

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha !!! ??????????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A little bit of planning so I know what a woman is into...

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By *enatton2Couple over a year ago

West Midlands

We've kind of arrived at Ben doing the planning so it's as good as spontaneous for Tan. She gets nervy when its planned too far ahead.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Planned are good for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have done both and mainly all been good meets.

We do find though, been let down more often if it was a planned meet

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

Little bit of plan

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman over a year ago

Bathwyche

Planned.

Gives me enough time to suss out what he's like.

Unless Im super horny and I totally fancy the guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off.

Not the worst thing....someone wanting to meet you x"

i know, it is nice to be on someones mind i suppose. it's just i'm not a planner and don't get excited about future things, probably in case i get let down, so the more they talk about it the more it moves my brain into the future and not the right now.

i probably made no sense there but tried to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely planned for me because of my circumstances..

However I have been in the position of being able to meet spontaneously and it worked out rather well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm very spontaneous mainly but I like it to be with people I know, unless he's drop dead gorgeous and then I can't resist! Planned meets are great to look forward to, dream about and build up the sexual tension

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on my mood

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Planned every time. My free time is rare as rocking horse shit.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Planned, always.

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By *eedsbig9inMan over a year ago

leeds

"i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off."

This

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

I much prefer planned meets. Life keeps me busy, and spontaneous meets often don't work out...or are executed poorly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't seem to get a meet for love nor money.

Spontaneous seems to work for me....

Why can't I get a meet?!?!?!

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By *eedsbig9inMan over a year ago

leeds

"I can't seem to get a meet for love nor money.

Spontaneous seems to work for me....

Why can't I get a meet?!?!?!"

Coz you have got blocks on people who message you

Your fit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I have any blocks on people....

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By *eedsbig9inMan over a year ago

leeds

"I don't think I have any blocks on people...."

I can't message u or I would have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't seem to get a meet for love nor money.

Spontaneous seems to work for me....

Why can't I get a meet?!?!?!"

You have verifications that suggest otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i preferred spontaneous. love wanting sex then just having some and not having to mess about.

when i planned meets i found the guys kept messaging me about the meet looking forward to it, etc and that put me off."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Planned. I rarely have free time so am always planning to make the best use of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to enjoy spontaneous until I had a bad experience. Planning ahead and spending some time chatting I feel is safer. Plus the build up and excitement of looking forward to a meet increases the sexual tension and pleasure when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think I have any blocks on people....

I can't message u or I would have

You are outside her age range ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always planned. I like the build up & anticipation.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Planned meets work best for us.