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Things you have learned since swinging
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Most of my best meets have been after 12am
90% of the time you're speaking to the male half of a couple
Being successful in the lifestyle is more about being in the right location at the right time.
Being willing to travel and being able to accommodate will help your success rate 50%
Pictures don't always tell the full story
Never ask a woman her dress size
If meeting a couple for the first time and the husband says " MY wife is very nervous " always have a backup plan
All black guys don't have big cocks
DP / DV is not gay
Never ask for a verification
Always let the couple book the hotel room , then give them half the money when you show up.
Most couples are done with you after meeting 3 times for sex
Some husbands that take pics and videos of don't like to give you copies of the pics/vids
Don't get offended if a husband ask to suck your cock.
It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.
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This surprised me. I was expecting it to be far easier as a couple than it was when i was single. In reality its far harder, especially when the girl is bi and you are only really looking for single females in the main.
You end up with two types of prospects:
1: The kind who seem perfect and flake at the last minute.
2: The kind who claim to be bisexual but are actually near enough lesbian and will sideline the male at the first opportunity.
As for what ive learned, well ive learned how to effectively communicate with my main partner, though i was a swinger before L so we've always had good and open communication. Ive learned not to pay any mind to other peoples judgements of me. Ive learned not to expect people to treat others as they want to be treated themselves.
Probably a lot of other things as well but those are the main ones |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.
This surprised me. I was expecting it to be far easier as a couple than it was when i was single. In reality its far harder, especially when the girl is bi and you are only really looking for single females in the main.
You end up with two types of prospects:
1: The kind who seem perfect and flake at the last minute.
2: The kind who claim to be bisexual but are actually near enough lesbian and will sideline the male at the first opportunity.
As for what ive learned, well ive learned how to effectively communicate with my main partner, though i was a swinger before L so we've always had good and open communication. Ive learned not to pay any mind to other peoples judgements of me. Ive learned not to expect people to treat others as they want to be treated themselves.
Probably a lot of other things as well but those are the main ones"
As a single it's easier because you have to get 3 people to get on the same page to have sex. When I use to meet as a couple , it's very hard to get 4 people on the same page. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1.Always trust your instincts
2.If they been here more than a month & no veris 90% chance fake profile
3.Be prepared 4 plenty of let downs & cancellations
4.Don't take swinging to serious! It's just bit of fun
5.If its stiff, stick it in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Expect to be treated with utter contempt even if you are actually, very nice.
Don't go by veris.
The women in couples profiles don't always know they're on here.
And finally,
There are some really great people on here who's company I've really enjoyed. And many more still to meet.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People rarely look as good as their photos make out  "
Also for men add 5 years to their age and minus 3 inches from their height.
For women add 10 pds to their weight. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"People rarely look as good as their photos make out
Also for men add 5 years to their age and minus 3 inches from their height.
For women add 10 pds to their weight. "
I am actually 35 and 6ft 1 and a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm also quite surprised at how a lot of the time there's a clique and whether online or at social events people can be quite intimidating and bully others |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I have learnt that my women's intuition isn't as finely tuned as I thought it was.
That my bullshitomitter needs new batteries.
That there's not much point in writing a decent profile.
On a more positive note there are some lovely people on here.
I can be very social.
I'm quite good with a camera
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found I like quite a few things I had never even considered doing before
And I am way more confident naked than dressed...go figure lol 
And I rarely ever fancied both the male and female of a couple
Oh...and the older male halves would contact me without their younger wives, even tho it was only her that was young enough to contact me, and still expect to play
But mostly people on here have been brilliant and have made alot of lovely friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have learned:
1. Patience
2. Have no expectations of others, clubs, or the site
3. Don't tolerate expectations from others
4. Don't judge a book by its cover
5. Don't compromise your principles rules, it inevitably goes wrong when you do
6. Don't be judgmental, the swinging scene is massively diverse
7. The swinging scene is bigger and more popular than we ever imagined
8. Not to take the scene seriously
We're still trying to learn how to overcome our lack of confidence in a club and approach people to break the ice! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Negatives...
A worrying amount of men think 10 dick pics is a guaranteed entry to a woman's bed.
Just because a guy is older than my dad doesn't mean he won't react to rejection by acting like a child.
If you think people won't take dick pics while sitting on the toilet, you're wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Positives...
There is WAY less competitive bitchiness between single women than I anticipated & I've made great friends.
Everything is someone's 'thing' so no matter how weird you are, you're normal on here.
Butt plugs are the best invention ever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That men can think you are 'stunning' in one message then think you are a 'time wasting fat slut' who 'wouldn't even be noticed in real life' in the next.... Grumble grumble x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sort of knew most of the things posted on this thread already, Having a healthy interest in sex and life in general had already taught me most of what I needed/wanted to know,
Well apart from some of the facts and statements people come out with in the forums
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only thing we have learnt is don't close your account if there's a chance of you coming back!
We have been very lucky as in 2.5 years we have only had 1 fake couple and never had a no show! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1.Always trust your instincts
2.If they been here more than a month & no veris 90% chance fake profile
3.Be prepared 4 plenty of let downs & cancellations
4.Don't take swinging to serious! It's just bit of fun
5.If its stiff, stick it in "
I will go with 1,3&4  |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
Lancaster area |
-Out of every 100 people on a Swingers website, there are 10 couples, 5 females, and 75 single guys
-About 98 percent of women claim to be bi-curious
-Compatible 4-way chemistry is almost as as rare as a living dinosaur
-Swinging involves much, much more time and effort than a person would imagine
-You should set your expectations below ground level
-As a man, go in knowing that most women have NO interest in you, but it doesn't mean anything is actually wrong with you
-Other hobbies can be far more rewarding
-JD |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"-Out of every 100 people on a Swingers website, there are 10 couples, 5 females, and 75 single guys
-About 98 percent of women claim to be bi-curious
-Compatible 4-way chemistry is almost as as rare as a living dinosaur
-Swinging involves much, much more time and effort than a person would imagine
-You should set your expectations below ground level
-As a man, go in knowing that most women have NO interest in you, but it doesn't mean anything is actually wrong with you
-Other hobbies can be far more rewarding
-JD"
So the other 10 are ts/tg/cd ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've learnt that there are plenty of great 'normal' couples on here that don't lie, don't mess you about and are as they say on their profile.
We've also learnt that there are plenty of complete fuckwits on here that lie, mess you about and are not even the person shown in the pics.
What we now need to learn is how to easily tell the two apart from stage 1. |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
Lancaster area |
"i am very very bi "
Oh, I know that there are loads of Bi females out there. But in our experience, there have been many women who say they are Bi simply because their hubby has talked them into it.
-JD |
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"We have learned:
1. Patience
2. Have no expectations of others, clubs, or the site
3. Don't tolerate expectations from others
4. Don't judge a book by its cover
5. Don't compromise your principles rules, it inevitably goes wrong when you do
6. Don't be judgmental, the swinging scene is massively diverse
7. The swinging scene is bigger and more popular than we ever imagined
8. Not to take the scene seriously
We're still trying to learn how to overcome our lack of confidence in a club and approach people to break the ice! Lol "
Couldn't have said this any better. |
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I've learnt that I can overcome and be who I want to be.
I've learnt that if messaging single women, be one of the first to get in there, or probably forget it because you'll be lost in the 100 messages per day.
I've learnt to be thick skinned and quickly move on when people mess you around or aren't as genuine as they make out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single women's profiles can consist of 'will fill in later' and have no pics, and will still receive 100's of messages a day
It is harder to find a decent,patient,respectful single male than you think..
The couple /couple dynamic is hard to get right
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