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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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has any body been swinging then either you or your other half fell for the other person in the group? i only ask as wife is afraid that would happenif we had 3/4 sum , ive told her that if it happens ,it happens, but we will discuss it through, thanks  |
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To be honest its something that has never entered my head. You could easily fall for someone in the supermarket as far as im concerned. My mind seems to be pre programmed that it is emotionless sex and cant imagine thinking any differently |
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"i only ask as wife is afraid that would happenif we had 3/4 sum"
May I just clarify, are you a couple or single, only your profile states:
i am attached, but seeking that bit extra
In answer to your question, I doubt it would happen, however, should it happen, I’d assume it’s because their lacking something from their partner  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does happen, but I wouldnt think if people were in a secure relationship..
Saying that if it happened with me then Master would be happy as long as they accepted that Master is always my number one.. but then I am allowed emotional and even romantic feelings for others as it only enhances what Master and I share..
( not happened as yet)
OP I think needs to take things slow with his other half...
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ive asked wife if she is interested but she worries that one of us will for some one we meet, ive told her that im happy with her its just something we could try as a one of and see how we feel afterwards |
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"but then I am allowed emotional and even romantic feelings for others "
Errr, you’re no different to others, we all have romantic / emotional feelings for others when swinging, the art is not allowing those feelings to cross the line, no reason they should, if one’s “comfortable” within their relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well for a start if I was nervous about swinging and voiced my fears like your wife did, then the response, "if it happens, it happens" wouldnt do much to allay my insecurity.
This is just a guess and please correct me if Im wrong but my guess is that you opened up a single guy profile on here to seek "something extra" away from your wife. You have found that the swinging world is not millions of women gagging to have sex with you but that its fierce competition for a single guy. And you have learnt that couples seem to fair better. So have asked your wife if she will now join you in the swinging world, in the hope that you will, with her contribution, get some action. If that is correct, and your wife is asking these kind of questions, signifies to me, she isnt happy to swing.
Its just a guess though and I really hope Im wrong, I admit im a cynical old bugger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and to the OP, I wasnt pointing the finger or judging, I have no right to judge you, but just be careful in this one, if shes voicing concern and its just in conversation, seeing you pay attention to another woman and the worry you will fall for the other woman, probably will cause problems for you.
You can fall in love in the most unlikely of places, but the majority of swingers are quite happy within their own relationships and probably wouldnt be looking to run off with the male playmate  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"but then I am allowed emotional and even romantic feelings for others
Errr, you’re no different to others, we all have romantic / emotional feelings for others when swinging, the art is not allowing those feelings to cross the line, no reason they should, if one’s “comfortable” within their relationship "
I don't have romantic or emotional feelings for any of our meets, and won't ever be. For me it is NSA sex, no emotion attached. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"has any body been swinging then either you or your other half fell for the other person in the group? i only ask as wife is afraid that would happenif we had 3/4 sum , ive told her that if it happens ,it happens, but we will discuss it through, thanks "
Ok, before we started playing these games I had the same thoughts. I didn't know if I could have emotionally detached sex with someone as I had only ever had sex with two people who I have had long term relationships with. Maybe your wife is thinking the same, emotional attachment goes with sex?
When it came to it, I realised I could , but the way for me to be able to carry on doing it is to not be over friendly with them...ie we don't have any contact with our meets other than to arrange meets as if I get to know people too well I wouldn't want to play anymore....not because I would be falling for them but because it takes away the almost stranger bit for me.
I know I will never be in a position to fall for anyone.
Your wife may not feel very secure that your answer is " if you go off with someone so be it" as she may think you might do the same.
I know she seems like she is warming to the idea, but I still wouldn't push her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but then I am allowed emotional and even romantic feelings for others
Errr, you’re no different to others, we all have romantic / emotional feelings for others when swinging, the art is not allowing those feelings to cross the line, no reason they should, if one’s “comfortable” within their relationship "
I haven't had any emotions for any meets as yet... I don't have to if its just sex. I rarely kiss meets, and emotions are left out, well romantic ones... I may lust after the cum and cock.
I'm allowed a full on relationship with another was what I meant... but only as part of my primary relationship.
I never get any feelings for meets... its pure sexual gratification and a way to get my thrills.
KAtie x |
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I suppose it depends what your looking for when swinging. But to have an emotional relationship would require both parties from both sets of couples to have that connection.
We are fairly new to this world of swinging and for us it has mainly been one off meetings in clubs, although we did meet the same couple twice, but that was by chance.
I'm sure for other swingers they make good friendships over the years which could create that emotional link. Emotion for me (man) would require more than simply a good shag, or seeing an attractive looking woman.
We all see sexy women every day, but it does not mean we have sudden stiring o emotion and want a deep meaningful relationship with every new woman we set our eyes on.
Which does not even take into account the womens side of this.
Nothing is impossible but I would very much think that the odds of a swinging couple, that would come across a love at first shag senario, with a member of another couple, or even a single are very very low.
Emotional relationships are more than sex, at least for me anyway, but maybe I'm weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose it depends what your looking for when swinging. But to have an emotional relationship would require both parties from both sets of couples to have that connection.
We are fairly new to this world of swinging and for us it has mainly been one off meetings in clubs, although we did meet the same couple twice, but that was by chance.
I'm sure for other swingers they make good friendships over the years which could create that emotional link. Emotion for me (man) would require more than simply a good shag, or seeing an attractive looking woman.
We all see sexy women every day, but it does not mean we have sudden stiring o emotion and want a deep meaningful relationship with every new woman we set our eyes on.
Which does not even take into account the womens side of this.
Nothing is impossible but I would very much think that the odds of a swinging couple, that would come across a love at first shag senario, with a member of another couple, or even a single are very very low.
Emotional relationships are more than sex, at least for me anyway, but maybe I'm weird."
No, not weird at all. Nice post too. |
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I love the way the op keeps changing his profile - from a thread stating he is married but now his profile says ' attached' i really, really feel sorry for the guys wife - this is not pertinent to the thread but come on - what about a little tiny ickle bit of honesty! Z |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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http://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules
No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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one last word on subject, my wife knows i watch cams, and chat but not when she is around, its my bit of naughtyness, and itgets me frisky and she dont mind when i get frisky, cos she is my sole object of attention, and im not cheating in her !!!! |
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"one last word on subject, my wife knows i watch cams, and chat but not when she is around, its my bit of naughtyness, and itgets me frisky and she dont mind when i get frisky, cos she is my sole object of attention, and im not cheating in her !!!!"
What about Queenie then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"one last word on subject, my wife knows i watch cams, and chat but not when she is around, its my bit of naughtyness, and itgets me frisky and she dont mind when i get frisky, cos she is my sole object of attention, and im not cheating in her !!!!
What about Queenie then?"
You're not supposed to have noticed!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have romantic or emotional feelings for any of our meets, and won't ever be. For me it is NSA sex, no emotion attached.
Well I love you!! "
took me bliddy ages to work out what your avatar was, did not dare to ask. phew got it now, what a relief. |
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"one last word on subject, my wife knows i watch cams, and chat but not when she is around, its my bit of naughtyness, and itgets me frisky and she dont mind when i get frisky, cos she is my sole object of attention, and im not cheating in her !!!!"
lol - my last word too - how can she be the sole object of your attention when you want to meet other people for sex? Am I missing the point? I couldn't really care less but am seriously confused! Z |
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