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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging?" Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. | |||
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"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past. "good luck , I hope it works out for you..  | |||
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"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past.
good luck , I hope it works out for you.. " | |||
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"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past.
good luck , I hope it works out for you.. "Thanks, I do believe you are destined to meet certain people, when the time is right. Will I miss the mad sex in a few months? Time will tell, but never met such a kind, generous, intelligent man, and would hate to hurt him, in any way. | |||
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"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past. " | |||
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"Great way too start a relationship on a lie, how would you feel if it was the other way round??? " If you are referring to me! How is it a lie? since the day I met him, I haven't seen anyone else, or attended any events, he no doubt has a past too. What matters is the present and the future. Good God! | |||
"I could give up the swinging but I'm not sure I could give up the social side." This | |||
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"If it was no longer fun or if hubby wanted to." You're married 
I'm done with you | |||
"If it was no longer fun or if hubby wanted to. You're married
I'm done with you "Done with me?? | |||
"If it was no longer fun or if hubby wanted to. You're married
I'm done with you
Done with me?? "Sorry , I didn't know you were married. This is what happens when people don't read profiles and just send out " Can I Pee on you " messages with cock pics | |||
"If it was no longer fun or if hubby wanted to. You're married
I'm done with you
Done with me??
Sorry , I didn't know you were married. This is what happens when people don't read profiles and just send out " Can I Pee on you " messages with cock pics "Ssshhhh...those are my favourite messages | |||
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"Discovering that it was Nigel Farage on the other side of a glory hole. Not just swinging, I'd never want sex with anyone else ever again  " | |||
"Death." But think how hard he'll be. | |||
"Death. But think how hard he'll be. "I was talking about my death! | |||
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"I'd give up the swinging/fetish/club scene if someone that was really important asked me to and could justify reasons for doing so. Providing, I felt fulfilled by them... I wouldn't need anyone or anything else. " Same here Lilac and just seen porky the pig fly past the window lol | |||
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"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. " No offence intended.....on a swinging site??   | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site?? "Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken.. | |||
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"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken.."Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around. | |||
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"Death. But think how hard he'll be.
I was talking about my death! "Oops.   | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around."Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man | |||
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"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man "So couples who swing have no love and respect? | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So couples who swing have no love and respect?"Oh God, I'm not suggesting that, just me as a single lady on here! I've recently started a relationship, and can't even think about swinging anymore, I'm just going on what I have experienced in 2 and half years. I truly admire couples that can do it, but I've just seen so many failed relationships. It's a shame. | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So couples who swing have no love and respect?
Oh God, I'm not suggesting that, just me as a single lady on here! I've recently started a relationship, and can't even think about swinging anymore, I'm just going on what I have experienced in 2 and half years. I truly admire couples that can do it, but I've just seen so many failed relationships. It's a shame. "Well that's exactly how it came across. It's great that you're in a new relationship and he's fully supportive of you on a swinging site. | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So couples who swing have no love and respect?
Oh God, I'm not suggesting that, just me as a single lady on here! I've recently started a relationship, and can't even think about swinging anymore, I'm just going on what I have experienced in 2 and half years. I truly admire couples that can do it, but I've just seen so many failed relationships. It's a shame.
Well that's exactly how it came across. It's great that you're in a new relationship and he's fully supportive of you on a swinging site. "Ha ha cheeky, love you too.  | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site?? " | |||
" Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. " That seems utterly bizarre to me. Love isn't finite, it's infinite. You never run out of love to give. Your post to me is like saying 'I could only love one child, I wouldn't have a second because I couldn't love it'. Or 'I can't have a child, I already love my husband and I don't have any more love to give'. The more love you give away, the more you have to give away. It just keeps getting more and more. The feelings I have for my partners are very precious. But I assure you - they are not diminished because I have those feelings for more than one person. And having casual sex with others doesn't use up those feelings either. | |||
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"Lottery win" Wouldn't you be knee deep in ladies if that was the case? | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging?" A full time relationship and im gone! | |||
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"When I get to the age when I need a stairlift and Chams refuses to install one "Just hire a cherry picker and be placed onto the sun area on the roof. | |||
"I wouldn't give up having multiple partners (of the casual and/or less casual kind) because someone asked me too. If someone did ask me to do that, it would just show that we were utterly incompatible. When I meet people who I hope to have an ongoing thing with (i.e., more than a one off) I try and suss out if they're the kind of person that will 'go mono' with someone they meet in the future - and if I think they are, then I generally don't take it any further." | |||
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" Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. That seems utterly bizarre to me. Love isn't finite, it's infinite. You never run out of love to give. Your post to me is like saying 'I could only love one child, I wouldn't have a second because I couldn't love it'. Or 'I can't have a child, I already love my husband and I don't have any more love to give'. The more love you give away, the more you have to give away. It just keeps getting more and more. The feelings I have for my partners are very precious. But I assure you - they are not diminished because I have those feelings for more than one person. And having casual sex with others doesn't use up those feelings either." I have 6 children, and love them all equally, love for your children, is a totally different love that you feel for a lover. You have totally misread me, and you don't even know me! I'm just asking a general question! Ask me six months ago? Would be a totally different answer, I was exploring all sorts of different relationships. But I've met someone, and my perceptions have totally changed. I'm not judging anyone, just asking for opinions. | |||
"Finding love if he was totally against the scene." | |||
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"I have stopped playing because I met a guy n lost all interest in playing with anyone else...and I was loving playing with lots of guys so it freaked me out a bit...especially as I was trying really hard to avoid anything like this...guess ya can't forever eh? "I know the feeling. | |||
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"Lottery win Wouldn't you be knee deep in ladies if that was the case?" Yes of course....that's why I wouldn't need Fab | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. " L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. | |||
"Lottery win Wouldn't you be knee deep in ladies if that was the case? Yes of course....that's why I wouldn't need Fab "Ah I see. The OP was whether you'd give up swinging though, not Fab. | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. " This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. | |||
"I'm not a swinger as such, but suppose I have somewhat spicy needs and desires to ever be classed as vanilla. Like someone else mention, sites such as this suit my needs whereas dare I say normal dating sites don't. Not that I'd use this sort of site to meet a long-term partner. But i suppose lightning can strike at anytime and sometimes things just happen then it'd be rather like trying to stop a speeding train. . With that in mind if I were to fall truly madly deeply in love I probably wouldn't hesitate to abandon sites such as this. As deep down I'm a wee woman that doesn't like to share when it comes to affairs of the heart. "Going by other threads half of other dating sites are on here anyway  | |||
"Lottery win Wouldn't you be knee deep in ladies if that was the case? Yes of course....that's why I wouldn't need Fab
Ah I see. The OP was whether you'd give up swinging though, not Fab. "Swinging and Fab are the same....but I know what you mean.So I may not give it entirely up. | |||
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"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past. " | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. " but it's ok for her to have a dig at swinging couples? | |||
"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past. "That's nice.....good luck | |||
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"I have stopped playing because I met a guy n lost all interest in playing with anyone else...and I was loving playing with lots of guys so it freaked me out a bit...especially as I was trying really hard to avoid anything like this...guess ya can't forever eh? "I now swing with my partner but while he is happy for me to swing alone I have absolutely no interest in doing so, what we have built up as a couple means way more than a fab meet ever could! | |||
"If it got in the way of our marriage " | |||
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"I have stopped playing because I met a guy n lost all interest in playing with anyone else...and I was loving playing with lots of guys so it freaked me out a bit...especially as I was trying really hard to avoid anything like this...guess ya can't forever eh?
I now swing with my partner but while he is happy for me to swing alone I have absolutely no interest in doing so, what we have built up as a couple means way more than a fab meet ever could!
"As does my marriage....but i still have room for others. That's what swinging is and why there's a website devoted to it.... | |||
"Feeling a complete lack of interest in it,a bit like now really "Let me rekindle it for you | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. but it's ok for her to have a dig at swinging couples?" How am I having a dig? I'm just looking for insights, I've fallen in love, and can not imagine sharing my man, or myself enjoy another cock, but I've been a swingle for 2 and half years, and enjoyed loads of great times. Now I'm hooked up, I'm just wondering how you couples manage the jealousy, and as I've said I've seen many a couple shot down in flames. I'm not been nasty, just curious. | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. " | |||
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" Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. That seems utterly bizarre to me. Love isn't finite, it's infinite. You never run out of love to give. Your post to me is like saying 'I could only love one child, I wouldn't have a second because I couldn't love it'. Or 'I can't have a child, I already love my husband and I don't have any more love to give'. The more love you give away, the more you have to give away. It just keeps getting more and more. The feelings I have for my partners are very precious. But I assure you - they are not diminished because I have those feelings for more than one person. And having casual sex with others doesn't use up those feelings either." I've been trying to explain this to women for years... I call it spreading my love , they call it cheating | |||
" Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. That seems utterly bizarre to me. Love isn't finite, it's infinite. You never run out of love to give. Your post to me is like saying 'I could only love one child, I wouldn't have a second because I couldn't love it'. Or 'I can't have a child, I already love my husband and I don't have any more love to give'. The more love you give away, the more you have to give away. It just keeps getting more and more. The feelings I have for my partners are very precious. But I assure you - they are not diminished because I have those feelings for more than one person. And having casual sex with others doesn't use up those feelings either. I've been trying to explain this to women for years... I call it spreading my love , they call it cheating "Looooooooooool | |||
"Feeling a complete lack of interest in it,a bit like now really
Let me rekindle it for you "I do need some help,well a lot actually | |||
"Feeling a complete lack of interest in it,a bit like now really "Me too | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. " I noticed you only said single guys. But it's ok for single women to use swinging as a stop gap and not share their man
Please read the post by all the single women in this thread , that said the same thing I did. | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. " Exactly | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. but it's ok for her to have a dig at swinging couples? How am I having a dig? I'm just looking for insights, I've fallen in love, and can not imagine sharing my man, or myself enjoy another cock, but I've been a swingle for 2 and half years, and enjoyed loads of great times. Now I'm hooked up, I'm just wondering how you couples manage the jealousy, and as I've said I've seen many a couple shot down in flames. I'm not been nasty, just curious. " Many times you have referred to couples regarding issues and jealousy....completely ignoring the complete unconditional love and absolute trust they have in each other. I've had 23 years with my partner....sharing...You are starting your relationship hiding part of your life. Interesting huh? | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. " It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid. | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. L You don't have to justify yourself to the haters. There are too many people quick to criticise others. but it's ok for her to have a dig at swinging couples? How am I having a dig? I'm just looking for insights, I've fallen in love, and can not imagine sharing my man, or myself enjoy another cock, but I've been a swingle for 2 and half years, and enjoyed loads of great times. Now I'm hooked up, I'm just wondering how you couples manage the jealousy, and as I've said I've seen many a couple shot down in flames. I'm not been nasty, just curious. Many times you have referred to couples regarding issues and jealousy....completely ignoring the complete unconditional love and absolute trust they have in each other. I've had 23 years with my partner....sharing...You are starting your relationship hiding part of your life. Interesting huh?" You don't have to justify yourself to the hater. There are too many people quick to criticise others. | |||
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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. " So people should only 'swing' if they will offer up their future partner for others to fuck? | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging?" Seeing my mum on here! Lol Harry | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. So people should only 'swing' if they will offer up their future partner for others to fuck? "I prefer 'serve' them up..... | |||
"Love!!!!! 2 months in with a vanilla guy, and not feeling the urge for my usual parties, clubs, gang bangs, group sex, God, some great memories, but it's lost all its appeal, since I met this guy randomly, replaced with cuddles and talking politics, but can't delete my account, as I'm a nosey sod on the forums, and updates as to what my friends are up too. Early days, but feel I have met the male equivalent of myself. No........he knows nothing of my mad past. "If you can't delete your profile then he ain't the one believe | |||
"Finding love if he was totally against the scene." Same but I would add job promotion or job future in there to. | |||
"We were replying to a single guy. Swinging should be about mutual fun and respect. If you cannot stand the idea of sharing with someone you love then we would question your idea of true swinging. " I'm a little different. When I get married I'm done having sex with other people.. I've been at it for 10 years. In that time I've lived out every fantasy I could dream of. I don't want to be 60 still chasing sex. If I haven't experienced all the kinky things I like by 40 then I wasn't meant to experience it. Forgive for trying to retire from being a swinger and trying monogamy | |||
" Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man "To be fair I don't like the idea of sharing my man!. and up to now the situation has not arisin, I'm not sure what will happen when it does.(we have some great swinging friends who understand my worries and have been great, boundaries are there for reasons) But him sending me out hotwifing and mfm 3sums (with him and 1 other) really turns him on. And we both enjoy it and have fun.. x | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid." No worries | |||
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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. So people should only 'swing' if they will offer up their future partner for others to fuck? "Not at all. Just saying that it's odd to be up for swinging, but to be closed to the idea of sharing a future partner. | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. So people should only 'swing' if they will offer up their future partner for others to fuck?
Not at all. Just saying that it's odd to be up for swinging, but to be closed to the idea of sharing a future partner.
"Fair enough.
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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. This is everything that is wrong with some single guys. We went into this together and have loved all of it. Totally hipocritical for a guy to be ok with swinging alone, but not to swing with a future wife. Swinging should not be a stop gap for a future relationship. So people should only 'swing' if they will offer up their future partner for others to fuck?
Not at all. Just saying that it's odd to be up for swinging, but to be closed to the idea of sharing a future partner.
Fair enough.
In some (many?) swinging couples only one of them has sex with other people."Not us. We are totally in this together. We have been swinging a while and both of us are totally into it | |||
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"I dont ever want to stop. Love clubs and meeting people with fuck buddy and getting up to all sorts of mischief. My ideal would be to find a partner who is happy to join the scene. Also swingle is just a nice term for fucking about. When i meet couples or men alone thats not swinging. Thats just fucking "I like you , I want to ask you this question 10 years from now. It gets boring and old fast | |||
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"Great way too start a relationship on a lie, how would you feel if it was the other way round??? If you are referring to me! How is it a lie? since the day I met him, I haven't seen anyone else, or attended any events, he no doubt has a past too. What matters is the present and the future. Good God! " | |||
"Now I'm hooked up, I'm just wondering how you couples manage the jealousy, and as I've said I've seen many a couple shot down in flames. I'm not been nasty, just curious. " It's very simple - I'm not jealous of any of my partners being romantically or sexually intimate with anyone else. I'm just... not jealous. In fact I'm *happy* for them. It's called compersion. Compersion is when you are happy because your partner is involved with someone else too. It's a lovely, fluffy feeling and it's one of the best things in the world. I can't imagine being jealous because my partner was enjoying themselves. It seems utterly crazy. I'm happy when they're happy. If I meet people who seem jealous of the things that their partners do with others, then I think that they must just have something wrong in their relationship that they're not fixing. Because otherwise you'd love their happiness. | |||
"I have stopped playing because I met a guy n lost all interest in playing with anyone else...and I was loving playing with lots of guys so it freaked me out a bit...especially as I was trying really hard to avoid anything like this...guess ya can't forever eh? "Pretty much sums up my position. | |||
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"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man "So your in a new relationship and your new partner has no idea your on a swingers site? Even if your not playing your still on this site? If you where serious about this guy you would delete your profile | |||
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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. " That's lovely. | |||
" It's very simple - I'm not jealous of any of my partners being romantically or sexually intimate with anyone else. I'm just... not jealous. " This. I love my partners, and I love for them to be happy and to have enriching lives. If some of that enrichment comes from having sex with or feelings for other people, I am not jealous. I am happy for all parties. | |||
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"When I get to the age when I need a stairlift and Chams refuses to install one "I'd offer to carry you up (hopefully flik posted that lol) | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid." This is the exact reason why we do not allow singles to contact us. After that post i will be surprised if he ever hears from a couple again. | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So your in a new relationship and your new partner has no idea your on a swingers site? Even if your not playing your still on this site?
If you where serious about this guy you would delete your profile"I find the forums very entertaining, am I not allowed to be on here then? I have some wonderful friends and memories on here, surely, I'm allowed to put it all on the back burner for now!. As I stated it's early days, with this man. Nobody knows what's round the corner! I had a message today, an invite to a foursome, with people I've met before, 3 months ago, I would of jumped on the train, rearing to go. My heart is just not in it at the moment, as I know the guilt would kill me. I just couldn't do it to him. | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid. This is the exact reason why we do not allow singles to contact us. After that post i will be surprised if he ever hears from a couple again. " What.... I'm beating couples away with a stick. You didn't know I'm up to my neck in minge  | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid. This is the exact reason why we do not allow singles to contact us. After that post i will be surprised if he ever hears from a couple again. What.... I'm beating couples away with a stick. You didn't know I'm up to my neck in minge " | |||
"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So your in a new relationship and your new partner has no idea your on a swingers site? Even if your not playing your still on this site?
If you where serious about this guy you would delete your profile
I find the forums very entertaining, am I not allowed to be on here then? I have some wonderful friends and memories on here, surely, I'm allowed to put it all on the back burner for now!. As I stated it's early days, with this man. Nobody knows what's round the corner!
I had a message today, an invite to a foursome, with people I've met before, 3 months ago, I would of jumped on the train, rearing to go. My heart is just not in it at the moment, as I know the guilt would kill me.
I just couldn't do it to him. "I know the feeling. Stay the course and keep your profile. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't go to the pub with your girlfriends and have a drink. Don't let the moral police get to you. They are just jealous | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid. This is the exact reason why we do not allow singles to contact us. After that post i will be surprised if he ever hears from a couple again. What.... I'm beating couples away with a stick. You didn't know I'm up to my neck in minge "but only when you've paid the monthly allowance and her rent | |||
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"OK, let's put the cat amongst the pigeons.....I have been a swingle for 2 and half years, and the experience's I have had, of people meeting on here, and becoming a couple, or couples in general! There is always some issue going on in the relationship. Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. No offence intended.....on a swinging site??
Yea I know, lol, offence is always taken..
Er....you basically just said that all couples swinging have issues...... Just goes to show that you may have been on the scene but you know nothing about being a couple. In fact, as a single one could argue you've just been fucking around.
Oh yea, I've been fucking around a lot, and had a wonderful time. But love and respect is a totally different thing. I ain't sharing my man
So your in a new relationship and your new partner has no idea your on a swingers site? Even if your not playing your still on this site?
If you where serious about this guy you would delete your profile
I find the forums very entertaining, am I not allowed to be on here then? I have some wonderful friends and memories on here, surely, I'm allowed to put it all on the back burner for now!. As I stated it's early days, with this man. Nobody knows what's round the corner!
I had a message today, an invite to a foursome, with people I've met before, 3 months ago, I would of jumped on the train, rearing to go. My heart is just not in it at the moment, as I know the guilt would kill me.
I just couldn't do it to him.
I know the feeling. Stay the course and keep your profile. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't go to the pub with your girlfriends and have a drink. Don't let the moral police get to you. They are just jealous "I like you | |||
"Age ... I don't want to end up being the oldest swinger in town so a couple more years and then I'm bowing out gracefully " bless ya. | |||
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"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging? Getting married. Once I get married I'm done with swinging. I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. It's guys with this attitude I hope to avoid. This is the exact reason why we do not allow singles to contact us. After that post i will be surprised if he ever hears from a couple again. What.... I'm beating couples away with a stick. You didn't know I'm up to my neck in minge but only when you've paid the monthly allowance and her rent " | |||
"Just that. What, if anything, would make you decide to stop Swinging?" I guess if it threatened our marriage, we'd have to stop, and we did have a monogamous marriage for 8 years. But I really feel monogamy is unnatural for me, and together we just enjoy too many things now. | |||
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"Look at it from his point of view if he found you had a swingers profile would he be happy? Your keeping secrets from him before the relationship started. How would you feel if he was the swinger and you wasn't? Ive got a feel this is your safety net in case the relationship doesn't work " If been a swinger was his past, then I won't have a problem. He has already told me, there have been a lot of women in his life, so he's not Mr innocent, as for my safety net?? I could always delete my profile and make a new one, if this doesn't work out. As I have said, I love the debates on the forum, where else could people have conversation's like this on the net. I also have some good friends on here, so been here for the laughs and banter, can't see a problem with it. | |||
"Look at it from his point of view if he found you had a swingers profile would he be happy? Your keeping secrets from him before the relationship started. How would you feel if he was the swinger and you wasn't? Ive got a feel this is your safety net in case the relationship doesn't work " Do you always give relationship advice for free? | |||
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"Look at it from his point of view if he found you had a swingers profile would he be happy? Your keeping secrets from him before the relationship started. How would you feel if he was the swinger and you wasn't? Ive got a feel this is your safety net in case the relationship doesn't work Do you always give relationship advice for free? "
Secrets from him before the relationship? ?? That doesn't make sense. I'm not doing anything now, so why should my past matter, the same as his past doesn't matter to me, I wouldn't pry, and not really interested tbh. It's what we have now that matters. | |||
"Look at it from his point of view if he found you had a swingers profile would he be happy? Your keeping secrets from him before the relationship started. How would you feel if he was the swinger and you wasn't? Ive got a feel this is your safety net in case the relationship doesn't work " So you're saying if we start dating a guy we have to close our profiles down? | |||
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"If I found love Wouldn't want to share my partner lol x" Not according to some on this thread. You must share your partner when you get into a relationship | |||
" Maybe it's just me, but when I love someone, which has only happened maybe twice in my life, I wouldn't dream of them sharing me, or visa versa, love is precious, and should be treasured between 2 people, exclusive of others. Maybe I'm wrong, but it's just my experience of been on the scene. Please beg me to differ. No offence intended. That seems utterly bizarre to me. Love isn't finite, it's infinite. You never run out of love to give. Your post to me is like saying 'I could only love one child, I wouldn't have a second because I couldn't love it'. Or 'I can't have a child, I already love my husband and I don't have any more love to give'. The more love you give away, the more you have to give away. It just keeps getting more and more. The feelings I have for my partners are very precious. But I assure you - they are not diminished because I have those feelings for more than one person. And having casual sex with others doesn't use up those feelings either." You talk an awful lot of sense, as ever. I'm permanently baffled by people who don't want to date me when they find out that I have a daughter.... as if my love is finite, and the love I have for a 7yr old child is in any way comparable to the love I'd have for a woman...... There's plenty of love to go round.... | |||
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"Now I'm hooked up, I'm just wondering how you couples manage the jealousy, and as I've said I've seen many a couple shot down in flames. I'm not been nasty, just curious. It's very simple - I'm not jealous of any of my partners being romantically or sexually intimate with anyone else. I'm just... not jealous. In fact I'm *happy* for them. It's called compersion. Compersion is when you are happy because your partner is involved with someone else too. It's a lovely, fluffy feeling and it's one of the best things in the world. I can't imagine being jealous because my partner was enjoying themselves. It seems utterly crazy. I'm happy when they're happy. If I meet people who seem jealous of the things that their partners do with others, then I think that they must just have something wrong in their relationship that they're not fixing. Because otherwise you'd love their happiness." Have read your posts in this thread and completely agree with your outlook. This isn't a choice that I can make/unmake. It is who I am. It is how I approach life. It took me many years and partners to find someone who truly loves me as I am. She wants me to be happy as much as I want her to be. She is my soul-mate, and we explore our love for others together and separately. Even if we gave up for a valid reason (eg illness), it wouldn't change who we are. This thread just goes to show how few there are on here who think or feel the same as we do. Maybe "swinging" isn't the right word for us as most seem to see it just as a means to a fuck. Or maybe it is them that don't really understand what swinging means to those of us who love our partners dearly and want to see them happy and experience happiness ourselves. Whichever way it is, this lifestyle is the one that I feel most at home in. Living any other way (and I have done previously) is lying to myself. | |||
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