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No public pics, short slightly ranty / negative profile tells people nothing about you.
Of course it's your prerogative to have no public pics, but when 'window shopping' don't be surprised if people stop and look at those with a nice window display and walk on by those with nothing to see. You can have public pics without revealing your identity. There are loads of people on here who require discretion due to jobs etc.
Good luck fella, hopefully the meets will follow soon!  |
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Ok critique... Please take it in the spirit intended, just a friendly critical assessment.
1. No public pics. If I'm window shopping I want to see pics. No need for dozens of cock shots, no need for face pics in public profile either. However some good clothed and nude body shots are very welcome!
2. Profile text is to be honest utter shite. Starts with a whinge (I mean really? You're selling yourself and you begin with a rant!). Tells me nothing about what you look like, what you enjoy, fantasies, hard limits or no-no's. Do you only want safe sex?, what body types do you prefer?, what are your personal talents?
Rants are ok... Heck even I (we) have them, but I'm afraid there is prejudice against single guys and nothing is more off putting than moaning fellas who claim everyone who isn't interested is a time waster (that may not be your intention but it is the impression I get).
3. Perhaps some of the problem is your approach too, what sort of messages do you send? As a single guy the onus is definitely on you to contact potential playmates. If they are along the lines of one liners, hi fancy a fuck today or just a "great pics ", many of us will just delete or ignore... Especially without a good profile to back up any message.
Try getting along to your local socials and clubs. Meet folk, chat to them and I'm sure you will be more successful.
Hope that helps
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"Ok critique... Please take it in the spirit intended, just a friendly critical assessment.
1. No public pics. If I'm window shopping I want to see pics. No need for dozens of cock shots, no need for face pics in public profile either. However some good clothed and nude body shots are very welcome!
2. Profile text is to be honest utter shite. Starts with a whinge (I mean really? You're selling yourself and you begin with a rant!). Tells me nothing about what you look like, what you enjoy, fantasies, hard limits or no-no's. Do you only want safe sex?, what body types do you prefer?, what are your personal talents?
Rants are ok... Heck even I (we) have them, but I'm afraid there is prejudice against single guys and nothing is more off putting than moaning fellas who claim everyone who isn't interested is a time waster (that may not be your intention but it is the impression I get).
3. Perhaps some of the problem is your approach too, what sort of messages do you send? As a single guy the onus is definitely on you to contact potential playmates. If they are along the lines of one liners, hi fancy a fuck today or just a "great pics ", many of us will just delete or ignore... Especially without a good profile to back up any message.
Try getting along to your local socials and clubs. Meet folk, chat to them and I'm sure you will be more successful.
Hope that helps
Red x"
I knew there was a reason I liked you Red!
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When i message people I'll say hi and how are you. Not great so now i message with
Hi how you doing? Having fun?
I'm nice genuine guy who wants fun. That's what life is about? Having fun and enjoying yourself. I'm slim, shaved and have my own place which i moved into recently. |
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"When i message people I'll say hi and how are you. Not great so now i message with
Hi how you doing? Having fun?
I'm nice genuine guy who wants fun. That's what life is about? Having fun and enjoying yourself. I'm slim, shaved and have my own place which i moved into recently. "
How about having a read of their profile? Base your message on their individual wants and tastes. Perhaps a couple of questions such as asking them what they look for in a meet, or what their limits are. Try to add a bit of wit and humour too. You need to stand out from the crowd and that means effort. A bog standard cut n paste message is boring and obviously lacks effort.
We may well all be here for sexy fun, but that doesn't mean we are an easy lay or that we aren't particular about our playmates. If all we want is a quick fuck we go to a club, if we want an actual play meet them for us there has to be a connection. I need to be intellectually stimulated and my mind seduced along with the body. |
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For me it's not the effort that's the problem. Sometimes my brain just can't think properly so not sure what to say lol. I have had couple of decent convos with people but never really got anywhere. Could of met couple last night but since i don't drive atm it was bit far  |
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"When i message people I'll say hi and how are you. Not great so now i message with
Hi how you doing? Having fun? "
I absalutely cannot bare it when we get a message like from a complete stranger. Along with cock pics, its my pet hate. I don't know who this person is, they haven't introduced themselves, yet they ask me if I'm having fun!! I just think 'that's none of your business' when I get these random questions from random men. At best, what am I supposed to do with a question like that? |
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"No public photos and whinge style profile.
There's an equation: No pics + whinge = no meets + sad and lonely wank "
At least now you have public photos and the profile is non whinge-like. The meet curve is on the up. |
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I know which is why I've now changed it and added bit about me lol. Though I'm not sure that is enough. I think another problem is while I'm 27 i look so much younger. Think that is also a put off. |
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"No public photos and whinge style profile.
There's an equation: No pics + whinge = no meets + sad and lonely wank
At least now you have public photos and the profile is non whinge-like. The meet curve is on the up. "
Agreed! Already a vast improvement |
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