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over a year ago
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I used to find men I liked and mail them but of all the guys I made first contact with not a single one ever mailed me back, so I figured the guys I liked didn't like me and I was making poor choice's so stopped mailing first and just stuck to reply to guys I liked that mailed me first |
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I'm one of them all of my current verifications are from people I've messaged first I'm also proactive on the club scene if I see what I like o go get it, ok I don't always get it I do naturally get some knock backs but I'm sure you get what I mean, but they are rare in my experience guys especially find it a huge turn on when the woman's making the first move |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to find men I liked and mail them but of all the guys I made first contact with not a single one ever mailed me back, so I figured the guys I liked didn't like me and I was making poor choice's so stopped mailing first and just stuck to reply to guys I liked that mailed me first "
If you're willing to break that chain and message someone 8 years younger than your profile suggests, I would surely reply .
Just putting it out there  . |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few."
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is? "
Your a female  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is? "
That is a good point
So many guys on here have pics that are really hard to make a dissision on public
Loads of guys just have cock shots of shots of women with just their cock in
So even though they could be just your type your not going to message them based on that type of public pic |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female "
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse! "
Have had the long boring profile. Plenty of clear,up to date pictures. Now i have none on public display and no profile. It makes no difference for a single guy. The forum folk say sort you pictures,profile out and yet thats just a 2% of fab. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
That is a good point
So many guys on here have pics that are really hard to make a decision on public
Loads of guys just have cock shots of shots of women with just their cock in
So even though they could be just your type your not going to message them based on that type of public pic"
Exactly, but of course it takes another female to see the point I am making.....men make no effort or maybe just a half arsed one and wonder why aren't I knee deep in pussy? 
I've never seen a cock yet and thought I must meet the owner of that cock! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse!
Have had the long boring profile. Plenty of clear,up to date pictures. Now i have none on public display and no profile. It makes no difference for a single guy. The forum folk say sort you pictures,profile out and yet thats just a 2% of fab. "
Yeah I agree with that
It's totally different for men
On the flip side I've had just one line on my profile before and just one or two crap pics like close up arse shot and still got loads of messages saying nice profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse!
Have had the long boring profile. Plenty of clear,up to date pictures. Now i have none on public display and no profile. It makes no difference for a single guy. The forum folk say sort you pictures,profile out and yet thats just a 2% of fab.
Yeah I agree with that
It's totally different for men
On the flip side I've had just one line on my profile before and just one or two crap pics like close up arse shot and still got loads of messages saying nice profile "
Yes because your a female  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse!
Have had the long boring profile. Plenty of clear,up to date pictures. Now i have none on public display and no profile. It makes no difference for a single guy. The forum folk say sort you pictures,profile out and yet thats just a 2% of fab. "
Well if it works for you stick with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
Your a female
No because I have an actual bloody profile and pictures to peruse!
Have had the long boring profile. Plenty of clear,up to date pictures. Now i have none on public display and no profile. It makes no difference for a single guy. The forum folk say sort you pictures,profile out and yet thats just a 2% of fab.
Well if it works for you stick with it "
Both have worked for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to find men I liked and mail them but of all the guys I made first contact with not a single one ever mailed me back, so I figured the guys I liked didn't like me and I was making poor choice's so stopped mailing first and just stuck to reply to guys I liked that mailed me first "
I'm not a single woman, but as a woman in a couple I had the same thing - they either didn't message back or they said they don't meet couples (despite their profile saying they do...). Anyway, I gave up. Marc tried messaging for me for a while, only guys I liked obviously, but he gave up too.
Now we just see which single guys message us and go from there. Lazy, yeah. But at least if they message us I know they are probably ok with meeting a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
That is a good point
So many guys on here have pics that are really hard to make a decision on public
Loads of guys just have cock shots of shots of women with just their cock in
So even though they could be just your type your not going to message them based on that type of public pic
Exactly, but of course it takes another female to see the point I am making.....men make no effort or maybe just a half arsed one and wonder why aren't I knee deep in pussy?
I've never seen a cock yet and thought I must meet the owner of that cock! "
Hey! That's hurtful  . Some of us do try to make effort into pics, sorry we're not all artistic or creative. It took me 10 minutes, 2 cameras and 20 hours of photoshop to get my profile pic! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
That is a good point
So many guys on here have pics that are really hard to make a decision on public
Loads of guys just have cock shots of shots of women with just their cock in
So even though they could be just your type your not going to message them based on that type of public pic
Exactly, but of course it takes another female to see the point I am making.....men make no effort or maybe just a half arsed one and wonder why aren't I knee deep in pussy?
I've never seen a cock yet and thought I must meet the owner of that cock!
Hey! That's hurtful . Some of us do try to make effort into pics, sorry we're not all artistic or creative. It took me 10 minutes, 2 cameras and 20 hours of photoshop to get my profile pic!"
Well perhaps next time you take some pics you might need someone to hold your *ahem* camera |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I regularly send messages to men....often after reading a post and liking their opinion or comment about something m x"
See I have never done that
I have never mailed a guy from the forums because I have liked his post
Even though there is a few guys I've got the impression from what they have written seem quite nice
I always think forums are for open chat and replies should be kept on the forum, I kind of think a guy wouldn't be impressed if I mailed him privately because of a public comment and would sooner I replied on the thread |
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"I used to find men I liked and mail them but of all the guys I made first contact with not a single one ever mailed me back, so I figured the guys I liked didn't like me and I was making poor choice's so stopped mailing first and just stuck to reply to guys I liked that mailed me first
I'm not a single woman, but as a woman in a couple I had the same thing - they either didn't message back or they said they don't meet couples (despite their profile saying they do...). Anyway, I gave up. Marc tried messaging for me for a while, only guys I liked obviously, but he gave up too.
Now we just see which single guys message us and go from there. Lazy, yeah. But at least if they message us I know they are probably ok with meeting a couple. "
^^ exactly the same for us tbh x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to message men but no one ever replied so now I wait, because I've got a lot of tattoos I am aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I have messaged people from the forums about forum stuff however. |
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"I regularly send messages to men....often after reading a post and liking their opinion or comment about something m x
See I have never done that
I have never mailed a guy from the forums because I have liked his post "
I have and it's worked out great some times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go for the fab a pic approach, because for some reason men always message me saying 'thanks for the fab' "
I've never had that either
I'm proper shit at this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I regularly send messages to men....often after reading a post and liking their opinion or comment about something m x
See I have never done that
I have never mailed a guy from the forums because I have liked his post
Even though there is a few guys I've got the impression from what they have written seem quite nice
I always think forums are for open chat and replies should be kept on the forum, I kind of think a guy wouldn't be impressed if I mailed him privately because of a public comment and would sooner I replied on the thread "
I think you might be wrong about this... now, how could I demonstrate my theory?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I regularly send messages to men....often after reading a post and liking their opinion or comment about something m x
See I have never done that
I have never mailed a guy from the forums because I have liked his post
Even though there is a few guys I've got the impression from what they have written seem quite nice
I always think forums are for open chat and replies should be kept on the forum, I kind of think a guy wouldn't be impressed if I mailed him privately because of a public comment and would sooner I replied on the thread
I think you might be wrong about this... now, how could I demonstrate my theory? "
Mail a guy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go for the fab a pic approach, because for some reason men always message me saying 'thanks for the fab'
I've never had that either
I'm proper shit at this "
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?"
I think women generally message guys that they fancy...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go for the fab a pic approach, because for some reason men always message me saying 'thanks for the fab'
I've never had that either
I'm proper shit at this "
I've often thought about trying the 'fancy a fuck' message on a man ...
on second thoughts, maybe not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?"
If I see one that fits what I'm after then I'll Message but to be honest they tend to get to me first |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?
I think women generally message guys that they fancy... "
No way?!!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?"
Yes occasionally. If I see something that I think may be what we are looking for, then we will send a wink. This doesn't happen very often though, because most profiles don't really give enough information, or I get turned off in the first instance by a series of cock pics. Also it's easier to wait for men to message us because a face pic is usually included in a message. |
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By *ChicaWoman
over a year ago
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It's a very interesting and important discussion. I'm so glad so many ladies are saying yes. In my experience I find it very difficult to keep up with the flow of my inbox because of that I dont usually. However, I have tried a few times and to be honest found it very disappointing.
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?
I think women generally message guys that they fancy...
No way?!!!!! "
You'd be surprised how many guys haven't grasped the basic fact that PEOPLE need to be turned on in order for sex to take place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?
I think women generally message guys that they fancy...
No way?!!!!! "
I tried messaging guys I didn't fancy....then realised it was a waste of time!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I regularly send messages to men....often after reading a post and liking their opinion or comment about something m x
See I have never done that
I have never mailed a guy from the forums because I have liked his post
Even though there is a few guys I've got the impression from what they have written seem quite nice
I always think forums are for open chat and replies should be kept on the forum, I kind of think a guy wouldn't be impressed if I mailed him privately because of a public comment and would sooner I replied on the thread
I think you might be wrong about this... now, how could I demonstrate my theory?
Mail a guy? "
That's not what I meant (thought it is something I've done ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go for the fab a pic approach, because for some reason men always message me saying 'thanks for the fab'
I've never had that either
I'm proper shit at this
I've often thought about trying the 'fancy a fuck' message on a man ...
on second thoughts, maybe not "
I tried it once, I think he wet himself. Never saw him on here again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I've mailed maybe one man off my own bat as he totally wow'ed me (but was in Aberdeen) Booooo. Other than that it's hard enough trying to keep up with messages who you ARE chatting to and having time to search also |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I'll message first if I see a profile that appeals to me and the person is within a reasonable distance.
However, in order to appeal to me, a profile does need to be completed to a reasonable degree, lead me to think the profile owner may be interested in hearing from me and have pictures from which I'm able to determine there may be some attraction.
They don't have to have public face pics. Although that helps, I understand why many don't want to do that.
As mentioned above, however, I have found when looking for myself, very few profiles with enough information and adequate photos to appeal.
It seems to be a rule that the guys with profiles that attract me are on the other side or at the far end of the country. Or in another country entirely!
The two most recent guys I'd love to meet were in Manchester and Glasgow respectively. I did message them both, although I knew the distance would probably mean meeting isn't realistic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mail guys sometimes. I don't care if they have no pics or no verifications, I'm attracted to what they've said in their profile. I have met men I mailed first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a few messages from women, and it's been a pleasent and welcome suprise when it happens. "
is it a bit of a anti climax when you get a message from a woman and when you view her profile shes not what you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a few messages from women, and it's been a pleasent and welcome suprise when it happens.
is it a bit of a anti climax when you get a message from a woman and when you view her profile shes not what you want "
No, not at all. It's lovely to recieve a message that isn't a faceless penis, or a straight guy offering to......
And even if they are miles away, or not necessarily my type, that doesn't preclude a fun conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a preference for proactive women. I like a gogetter. Although the percentage of women that are proactive and send a decent message rather than a "Hi" or a one sentence message is very small indeed.
It seems what is good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't search often but if I come across someone who catches my eye- I will make a move.
I get rejected too you know- it's no biggy xx"
I would like to place my penis inside you and wiggle it about for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't search often but if I come across someone who catches my eye- I will make a move.
I get rejected too you know- it's no biggy xx
I would like to place my penis inside you and wiggle it about for a while."
I think I messaged you first, did I not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't search often but if I come across someone who catches my eye- I will make a move.
I get rejected too you know- it's no biggy xx
I would like to place my penis inside you and wiggle it about for a while.
I think I messaged you first, did I not! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't search often but if I come across someone who catches my eye- I will make a move.
I get rejected too you know- it's no biggy xx
I would like to place my penis inside you and wiggle it about for a while.
I think I messaged you first, did I not!
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you want to put your thumb where! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I barely get profile views, nevermind a message from a woman haha
Most women view in stealth.  You don't know I looked. "
iv not altered my profile since I joined because I get so little views, maybe a should because of these ninja viewers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there actual proactive women out there msgng men...looking to chat, meet...etc...or are they waiting for us to contact them?"
Yes. Although I do prefer to be contacted as guys get off ideas if you make the first move. That's my experience anyhow!! |
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By *ugatits76Woman
over a year ago
somewhere over the rainbow |
"Check out my post on the other forum topic that's currently running on this. Or quick answer, very few.
Here you go again despite people disagreeing with you!
Yes women look for themselves, but they find very few profiles that are interesting with decent pictures, I receive a few messages saying they like my profile and pics, I wonder why that is?
That is a good point
So many guys on here have pics that are really hard to make a decision on public
Loads of guys just have cock shots of shots of women with just their cock in
So even though they could be just your type your not going to message them based on that type of public pic
Exactly, but of course it takes another female to see the point I am making.....men make no effort or maybe just a half arsed one and wonder why aren't I knee deep in pussy?
I've never seen a cock yet and thought I must meet the owner of that cock! "
totally agree with you |
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