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Why don't people read?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Annoyed! Just been having a great chat with someone and finally did the friend invite thing and he didn't like what he saw. Now I'm glad he was honest but my profile is quite clear that I'm a bbw, if you had read the read the profile in the first place there would have been no need to to message. Humph! And rant over!

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

"Annoyed! Just been having a great chat with someone and finally did the friend invite thing and he didn't like what he saw. Now I'm glad he was honest but my profile is quite clear that I'm a bbw, if you had read the read the profile in the first place there would have been no need to to message. Humph! And rant over!"

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Just because you say BBW, that means little to many as there are people declaring themselves the same from size 16 to 30

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hate that too, knocks my confidence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I've always been fascinated with water, especially moving water. Nothing better than a stroll along a river bank.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?"

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

"Hate that too, knocks my confidence

See my response to the OP.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Hate that too, knocks my confidence

Would you rather they weren't honest and used you for a shag and verification

Swinging is not the ideal pastime for people with confidence issues

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just because you say BBW, that means little to many as there are people declaring themselves the same from size 16 to 30"

I'm not putting my bloody dress size on my profile!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Some people do seem to be a little selective with which bit's they do read!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Just because you say BBW, that means little to many as there are people declaring themselves the same from size 16 to 30

I'm not putting my bloody dress size on my profile!

Cool

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I am like that with my profile as it clearly states I only play school hours and that I like tall men.....

Yet I still get lots of 5ft 6ers asking if I fancy a fuck Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hate that too, knocks my confidence

It hasn't knocked me, just annoyed me. I know that there are guys who love what I have to offer! It's just putting the investment into really chatting and lengthy messages, saying all the stuff you want to hear from someone you with think you would get along with. But it's fine!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am like that with my profile as it clearly states I only play school hours and that I like tall men.....

Yet I still get lots of 5ft 6ers asking if I fancy a fuck Saturday night

Don't even start me on the tall thing! Lol!!!!!

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Unashamedly showing the type of body you have should stop you having to start any similar threads. It may also help to attract people who are turned on by your body shape.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hate that too, knocks my confidence

Would you rather they weren't honest and used you for a shag and verification

Swinging is not the ideal pastime for people with confidence issues

OK wrong choice of words but as far as I was aware there are no rules on fab and having a profile with a glimpse of the kind of person you are is key but if it's ignored then it's frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?"

Exactly this.

This is a reason why i have so many pics...honest

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Well my names apparently Emma according to a few guys that "have read my profile and found it interesting" but seriously men are generally more sexually physical that women so it's the pics they will naturally gravitate to.

I have a wide variety of pics on my profile to give people a good idea of what I look like so they can make an informed choice of wether to message/meet me that to me has always been the logical approach to save wasting time chatting on both peoples parts, though I usually get told I'm slimmer than my pics portray (but then again they do say the camera adds 10lbs) and one guy did turn me down after meeting me for being too small to be a BBW its all about personal perspective and where people draw the line

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Hate that too, knocks my confidence

Would you rather they weren't honest and used you for a shag and verification

Swinging is not the ideal pastime for people with confidence issues

OK wrong choice of words but as far as I was aware there are no rules on fab and having a profile with a glimpse of the kind of person you are is key but if it's ignored then it's frustrating"

Very curvy

Amble

A pic of your nipples

Yeah I am getting a realistic image

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?"

I didn't realise I had!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally respect him for honesty though that's refreshing and appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It probably won't help that BBW seems to be a very broad term on here! It covers anything from size 16 - 30s.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Exactly this.

This is a reason why i have so many pics...honest

Is it buggery you know your just a down right poser

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

We have men message us who claim to love BBW and won't meet smaller women, men who love oral and kissing and use it as their main selling point in their message, men who want last minute meets or to come to our home. Sometimes this doesn't become clear until we've chatted for a while we just raise our eyebrows and move on thinking "you can't blame a guy for trying"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It probably won't help that BBW seems to be a very broad term on here! It covers anything from size 16 - 30s.

Yeah I totally get that actually again perception!! Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

I didn't realise I had! "

"On to bigger and better" might be seen as an insult.

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

I didn't realise I had! "

"...hey, onto bigger and better." can be interpreted as you think it was his loss (not his thought, obviously) and you'll find better than him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all have a 'type' that we find attractive and I clearly state my size on my profile and show photos which show that, if they aren't interested they can see that and it saves us both a bit of wasted time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nice to see another tall lady on here

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

I didn't realise I had!

"On to bigger and better" might be seen as an insult."

Or she thought he went on to look for bigger and better?

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I'm fat so I put some pics on that show it! If I just had a pic of my tits or legs I would be paranoid someone would show and be disappointed!

Anywho, no, people can't read, I've had loads of messages asking if I want to meet since I updated my profile

even had someone say they loved my profile

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

I didn't realise I had!

"On to bigger and better" might be seen as an insult.

Or she thought he went on to look for bigger and better?

Maybe

How are you Mr C?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Or you could display public pics that show what your figure is actually like?

Lol, really don't want to scare people!! It's does specifically say that I'm a bbw. And I know people don't always like that, which is fine. But hey ho, onto bigger and better

Are you implying that because he decided you weren't his cup of tea and was honest with you about it (something that women are encouraged to do and praised for) it's o.k. to passively insult him?

I didn't realise I had!

"...hey, onto bigger and better." can be interpreted as you think it was his loss (not his thought, obviously) and you'll find better than him."

Bloody hell, it's just a saying!!! Good lord, i apologise will rephrase to, I will continue to chat to people who like what I have on offer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile pic which is what attracted him to write to you doesn't show you as a BBW

You look very curvy and curvatious xx

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Your profile pic which is what attracted him to write to you doesn't show you as a BBW

You look very curvy and curvatious xx"
m

I can easily tell from her pic she's a BBW, just not to what extent she is one

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I'm fat so I put some pics on that show it! If I just had a pic of my tits or legs I would be paranoid someone would show and be disappointed!

Anywho, no, people can't read, I've had loads of messages asking if I want to meet since I updated my profile

even had someone say they loved my profile

I think you are rather bloody stunning Roger!

There are always prats about

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By *BWandhusbandCouple over a year ago

Midlands

When we were doing meets, I always wrote on our profile that I was a very large lady. For those that didn't bother reading it, I made sure there were plenty of body pics too. No false advertising, they knew exactly how I looked and we were never short of offers.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When we were doing meets, I always wrote on our profile that I was a very large lady. For those that didn't bother reading it, I made sure there were plenty of body pics too. No false advertising, they knew exactly how I looked and we were never short of offers.

Katie."

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

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By *BWandhusbandCouple over a year ago

Midlands

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

There's a great device that you link to your phone, that lets you take pics from across the room. It comes with a little tripod kinda thing that helps prop your phone up to the correct angle. You then click away. Very handy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that."

Sounds very technical! And I could guarantee that it would be the one moment that one of my children would walk in! Lol, would much rather find a willing volunteer

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that.

Sounds very technical! And I could guarantee that it would be the one moment that one of my children would walk in! Lol, would much rather find a willing volunteer

Take all mine on timer once the kids are in bed for night it's not full proof but there is less chance of them walking in on you

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By *BWandhusbandCouple over a year ago

Midlands

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that."

I can never get into position quick enough. I like my little clicker in my hand. I can take a dozen or so, hate them all, take 20 more, delete those and then finally take one I like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that.

Sounds very technical! And I could guarantee that it would be the one moment that one of my children would walk in! Lol, would much rather find a willing volunteer

Not really. i turn my Camera on position it. Get into position and shout "smile" at it. Simple as that!

....not as much fun as s volunteer, granted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that.

Sounds very technical! And I could guarantee that it would be the one moment that one of my children would walk in! Lol, would much rather find a willing volunteer

Take all mine on timer once the kids are in bed for night it's not full proof but there is less chance of them walking in on you "

I could guarantee they would even at night time!! And after one son telling my mum that I have a hairy front bottom

I wouldn't risk it!! Lol

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By *BWandhusbandCouple over a year ago

Midlands

Katie.

I will have to find someone to take pics for me

Or just use the timer feature. Mine has voice command also. I mainly use that.

Sounds very technical! And I could guarantee that it would be the one moment that one of my children would walk in! Lol, would much rather find a willing volunteer

Take all mine on timer once the kids are in bed for night it's not full proof but there is less chance of them walking in on you

I could guarantee they would even at night time!! And after one son telling my mum that I have a hairy front bottom

I wouldn't risk it!! Lol"

We have a bolt on our bedroom door. When asked why it was there, I replied that it was because they kept walking in when their step dad was getting changed. They seemed to accept that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reading of profiles is a rare thing OP

So like everyone else has suggested - just put a full body pic up sorted!

What's the point of putting up 5 artful pics in lingere at different angles making you look 5 sizes smaller!

I'm fat and if I'm going to get jiggy with someone then I reckon they're going to notice!

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

I thought (M) a big busted women was a women that had a big bust.Did not know it was code for a woman that was overweight.Everyday is a school day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Reading of profiles is a rare thing OP

So like everyone else has suggested - just put a full body pic up sorted!

What's the point of putting up 5 artful pics in lingere at different angles making you look 5 sizes smaller!

I'm fat and if I'm going to get jiggy with someone then I reckon they're going to notice!"

So pic changed, best I can do for today!! Lol stomach fat clearly visible!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I thought (M) a big busted women was a women that had a big bust.Did not know it was code for a woman that was overweight.Everyday is a school day. "

Most define BBW to mean big beautiful woman not big busted woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reading of profiles is a rare thing OP

So like everyone else has suggested - just put a full body pic up sorted!

What's the point of putting up 5 artful pics in lingere at different angles making you look 5 sizes smaller!

I'm fat and if I'm going to get jiggy with someone then I reckon they're going to notice!

So pic changed, best I can do for today!! Lol stomach fat clearly visible! "

Fair play to you!

And you are a sexy woman so you will still get 100 quality messages a day asking you how you are lol

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

"I thought (M) a big busted women was a women that had a big bust.Did not know it was code for a woman that was overweight.Everyday is a school day.

Most define BBW to mean big beautiful woman not big busted woman "

Oh I see that's where I went wrong. Thank you for that. See everyday is a school day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Reading of profiles is a rare thing OP

So like everyone else has suggested - just put a full body pic up sorted!

What's the point of putting up 5 artful pics in lingere at different angles making you look 5 sizes smaller!

I'm fat and if I'm going to get jiggy with someone then I reckon they're going to notice!

So pic changed, best I can do for today!! Lol stomach fat clearly visible!

Fair play to you!

And you are a sexy woman so you will still get 100 quality messages a day asking you how you are lol

Here's hoping!

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

'Curvy' also seems to indicate anythjng from size 16 to 30!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rooney will definitely be in the starting line up with Kenneth Moore and David Niven on the wings.

What was this thread about? I didn't bother reading it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP did he actually say that your size is the issue? Or just that he wasn't attracted to you after all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'Curvy' also seems to indicate anythjng from size 16 to 30! "

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"'Curvy' also seems to indicate anythjng from size 16 to 30! "

Not in my experience ...

Curvy is a shape not a size.

You can be a curvy size 8 or a curvy size 20.

I'm curvy and a size 14

Nita

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

Curvy can be anything from size 8-30.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Oh and OP.

Your profile photo clears shows your size type.

There are plenty of guys looking for a larger lady

Nita

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By *laction manMan over a year ago

Nottingham

It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am like that with my profile as it clearly states I only play school hours and that I like tall men.....

Yet I still get lots of 5ft 6ers asking if I fancy a fuck Saturday night

Some fabulous people even block you for being under 6ft

another escape thank god

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying "

Are you on 'repeat'?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying "

It's important to have a varied vocabulary rather than just saying the same thing over and over again.

Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Intrigued... some women & couples don't read either

And even when you do read sometimes they seem to forget that it's on the profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BBW ranges from different sizes, so in this case it is not people not reading. Maibe put the size after the bbw.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying "

See you next Tuesday

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh and OP.

Your profile photo clears shows your size type.

There are plenty of guys looking for a larger lady

Nita"

Thank you. Had to change it to keep everyone happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying "

Oh I know that I'm not a great weight but would much rather use bbw than negative connotations otherwise people will think I'm a right miserable cow!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying

Oh I know that I'm not a great weight but would much rather use bbw than negative connotations otherwise people will think I'm a right miserable cow! "

I don't use fat as a negative connotation, it's just fact

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For a long time I used to think BBW was big black woman... Till my eyes ere opened

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"It's important to learn the difference between 'Big and Beautiful' and 'Morbidly obese'

Just saying "

A) obese is big, so it qualifies. So does morbidly obese, and so does super morbidly obese. At no point does 'big' mean 'small'.

B) beautiful is totally subjective.

So OP qualifies as BBW, and I don't understand the point of your inference?

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I am like that with my profile as it clearly states I only play school hours and that I like tall men.....

Yet I still get lots of 5ft 6ers asking if I fancy a fuck Saturday night

Some fabulous people even block you for being under 6ft

another escape thank god

Good job I'm not that petty or I'd block half the damned site

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