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Hi all,
I know Fab isn`t a "dating" site, but I would love to find someone who enjoys this lifestyle and but who is also looking for more..ie love,romance and a committed relationship.
So if any single women read this and are looking for more than just sex..and please pm me and we can go from there. Thanks.
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Can you actually find love on here? In my experience on here they make out they maybe want more then you have sex and all of a sudden they only ever wnted fun....would be nice to find someone whos into this scene too. |
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"Can you actually find love on here? In my experience on here they make out they maybe want more then you have sex and all of a sudden they only ever wnted fun....would be nice to find someone whos into this scene too."
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"Hi all,
I know Fab isn`t a "dating" site, but I would love to find someone who enjoys this lifestyle and but who is also looking for more..ie love,romance and a committed relationship.
So if any single women read this and are looking for more than just sex..and please pm me and we can go from there. Thanks.
Gx"
If I was single,this is the site I would look to find my soul mate too!
I wish you look in your Search OP.
Much lv B x |
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"Hi all,
I know Fab isn`t a "dating" site, but I would love to find someone who enjoys this lifestyle and but who is also looking for more..ie love,romance and a committed relationship.
So if any single women read this and are looking for more than just sex..and please pm me and we can go from there. Thanks.
Gx
If I was single,this is the site I would look to find my soul mate too!
I wish you look in your Search OP.
Much lv B x"
Thanks B. You're a diamond.
Gx
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Thing is.... people need to approach with more honesty and respect if that is what they seek. Get to know someone a little....instead of assuming based on their own interpretation of what they read. It's impossible to understand someone just from what they write . It rarely comes across well. For example... I am much softer in reality than I come across on here.
Too much assumption and guessing what someone is looking for or what they like /don't like....
For example my profile clearly states I am submissive but I am actually not sub to just anyone. In truth. ... it's rare...because I actually need the emotional involvement as well.
I can play at the subby games I guess but it will never be more than that. ...
So would I like love in my life? Absolutely! Would I like it with someone who will be sexually compatible with me? Yes! What is the likelihood of finding that on here???? Slim.... probably...
I am fine with nsa sex etc..... but submitting in a one off nsa situation? No. Too much trust required which takes time 90% of guys on FAB don't want anyway.
So it's the nirvana for most singles at some point..... to fall in love with someone who is also your perfect sexual partner...
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"Can you actually find love on here? In my experience on here they make out they maybe want more then you have sex and all of a sudden they only ever wnted fun....would be nice to find someone whos into this scene too."
Yes these women are such liars... They tell you what you want to hear before a meet . Then after they get sex they disappear and don't leave a Verifaction ...  |
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This is only a personal take on this, but I think that if you enjoy the Swinging life-style, and want to find someone to Swing with and also have a relationship outside of Swinging as well, this is probably as good a place as any. On some other dating websites it seems to be more difficult to find sexual compatibility.
I wouldn't be averse to finding someone to have a Swinging relationship with as well as something else. I have met a few couples who met Swinging and then went onto have a deeper relationship and even marriage, so it is possible.
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"This is only a personal take on this, but I think that if you enjoy the Swinging life-style, and want to find someone to Swing with and also have a relationship outside of Swinging as well, this is probably as good a place as any. On some other dating websites it seems to be more difficult to find sexual compatibility.
I wouldn't be averse to finding someone to have a Swinging relationship with as well as something else. I have met a few couples who met Swinging and then went onto have a deeper relationship and even marriage, so it is possible.
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this is exactly my stance but there seems to be a culture on here about meeting people for more meaningful aspirations I'm continually told I'm in the wrong place |
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It's interesting isn't it? It seems perfectly acceptable amongst the swinging community, to acknowledge the social side of the scene and the friendships that have been made but many people on FAB take the view that anyone who seeks more than just NSA should go on a dating site.
Swinging is surely a lifestyle choice regarding sexuality? If someone is seeking a loving relationship with someone who is sexually compatible with them, going on a dating site is much more difficult as you have to broach that subject and from my personal experience, it hasn't gone well because people don't understand it so they judge you.
Whilst we know there are always going to be those who lie , on the whole I think that swingers are generally more open and honest and that is certainly an important factor in a relationship for me. So I think that it's perfectly ok to seek a relationship within the swinging community and hence via a swinging website such as FAB. As long as you are upfront from the start then everyone knows where they are and I see no problem. There is room for everyone. Some enjoy a purely nsa meet and others would welcome more. All is good in my view. |
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"It's interesting isn't it? It seems perfectly acceptable amongst the swinging community, to acknowledge the social side of the scene and the friendships that have been made but many people on FAB take the view that anyone who seeks more than just NSA should go on a dating site.
Swinging is surely a lifestyle choice regarding sexuality? If someone is seeking a loving relationship with someone who is sexually compatible with them, going on a dating site is much more difficult as you have to broach that subject and from my personal experience, it hasn't gone well because people don't understand it so they judge you.
Whilst we know there are always going to be those who lie , on the whole I think that swingers are generally more open and honest and that is certainly an important factor in a relationship for me. So I think that it's perfectly ok to seek a relationship within the swinging community and hence via a swinging website such as FAB. As long as you are upfront from the start then everyone knows where they are and I see no problem. There is room for everyone. Some enjoy a purely nsa meet and others would welcome more. All is good in my view. "
Funny that you should say about Swingers being more honest, I was going to say that, as in my past experience, that is more true than for people I have met off Swinging sites. (That said, I did meet up with a less-than-honest guy on here, who strung me along for a very long time and who comprehensively and compulsively lied to me). But it is more difficult on a dating website, people expect monogamy and I am not sure that I can do that. |
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"It's interesting isn't it? It seems perfectly acceptable amongst the swinging community, to acknowledge the social side of the scene and the friendships that have been made but many people on FAB take the view that anyone who seeks more than just NSA should go on a dating site.
Swinging is surely a lifestyle choice regarding sexuality? If someone is seeking a loving relationship with someone who is sexually compatible with them, going on a dating site is much more difficult as you have to broach that subject and from my personal experience, it hasn't gone well because people don't understand it so they judge you.
Whilst we know there are always going to be those who lie , on the whole I think that swingers are generally more open and honest and that is certainly an important factor in a relationship for me. So I think that it's perfectly ok to seek a relationship within the swinging community and hence via a swinging website such as FAB. As long as you are upfront from the start then everyone knows where they are and I see no problem. There is room for everyone. Some enjoy a purely nsa meet and others would welcome more. All is good in my view. "
The problem is that most vanilla relationships build a foundation before they start swinging.
The problems I have found with swinging relationships is that us men have lower standards than the female half of the couple. When meeting other couples.Then it becomes constantly someone taking one for the team.  |
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"It's interesting isn't it? It seems perfectly acceptable amongst the swinging community, to acknowledge the social side of the scene and the friendships that have been made but many people on FAB take the view that anyone who seeks more than just NSA should go on a dating site.
Swinging is surely a lifestyle choice regarding sexuality? If someone is seeking a loving relationship with someone who is sexually compatible with them, going on a dating site is much more difficult as you have to broach that subject and from my personal experience, it hasn't gone well because people don't understand it so they judge you.
Whilst we know there are always going to be those who lie , on the whole I think that swingers are generally more open and honest and that is certainly an important factor in a relationship for me. So I think that it's perfectly ok to seek a relationship within the swinging community and hence via a swinging website such as FAB. As long as you are upfront from the start then everyone knows where they are and I see no problem. There is room for everyone. Some enjoy a purely nsa meet and others would welcome more. All is good in my view.
The problem is that most vanilla relationships build a foundation before they start swinging.
The problems I have found with swinging relationships is that us men have lower standards than the female half of the couple. When meeting other couples.Then it becomes constantly someone taking one for the team. "
An interesting perspective! So how do you suggest the best way for a swinger to find a relationship is? Because personally it hasn't worked out when I have been in vanilla relationships. It's not even so much that I necessarily want sex with others but having a conversation about sex with a vanilla partner is awkward because whenever they ask me if I have ever done X, Y or Z, I am met with a mixture if intrigue but also disapproval. So then the next time I am more cautious about being so open. But that has an impact too because I cannot be so honest about my sexual fantasies. So the relationship is already flawed because I am keeping this huge secret! Even though I am faithful! Because they an never truly know me. |
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I sometimes wonder if discovering the swinging scene has been a positive or negative impact on my relationships. It certainly makes it more challenging to meet someone longterm.
Once you open Pandoras box.... can you ever close it? If you meet the man /woman of your dreams but they are not swingers, would that be OK or would you always long for more? |
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"I sometimes wonder if discovering the swinging scene has been a positive or negative impact on my relationships. It certainly makes it more challenging to meet someone longterm.
Once you open Pandoras box.... can you ever close it? If you meet the man /woman of your dreams but they are not swingers, would that be OK or would you always long for more? "
For the right person, I'd give up swinging in a heartbeat. |
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"I sometimes wonder if discovering the swinging scene has been a positive or negative impact on my relationships. It certainly makes it more challenging to meet someone longterm.
Once you open Pandoras box.... can you ever close it? If you meet the man /woman of your dreams but they are not swingers, would that be OK or would you always long for more? "
Perfectly said!!! That's why I've not jumped in as yet! Do I.. Don't I?? |
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"It's interesting isn't it? It seems perfectly acceptable amongst the swinging community, to acknowledge the social side of the scene and the friendships that have been made but many people on FAB take the view that anyone who seeks more than just NSA should go on a dating site.
Swinging is surely a lifestyle choice regarding sexuality? If someone is seeking a loving relationship with someone who is sexually compatible with them, going on a dating site is much more difficult as you have to broach that subject and from my personal experience, it hasn't gone well because people don't understand it so they judge you.
Whilst we know there are always going to be those who lie , on the whole I think that swingers are generally more open and honest and that is certainly an important factor in a relationship for me. So I think that it's perfectly ok to seek a relationship within the swinging community and hence via a swinging website such as FAB. As long as you are upfront from the start then everyone knows where they are and I see no problem. There is room for everyone. Some enjoy a purely nsa meet and others would welcome more. All is good in my view.
The problem is that most vanilla relationships build a foundation before they start swinging.
The problems I have found with swinging relationships is that us men have lower standards than the female half of the couple. When meeting other couples.Then it becomes constantly someone taking one for the team.
An interesting perspective! So how do you suggest the best way for a swinger to find a relationship is? Because personally it hasn't worked out when I have been in vanilla relationships. It's not even so much that I necessarily want sex with others but having a conversation about sex with a vanilla partner is awkward because whenever they ask me if I have ever done X, Y or Z, I am met with a mixture if intrigue but also disapproval. So then the next time I am more cautious about being so open. But that has an impact too because I cannot be so honest about my sexual fantasies. So the relationship is already flawed because I am keeping this huge secret! Even though I am faithful! Because they an never truly know me."
The problem you will find at your age, is that most of the men you like will be divorced with children.. Most are still bitter about the divorce and tend to focus on their children until they are out of the house.
So most just want flings.... You might have to start dating younger men that aren't tainted with divorce or baby mama drama |
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"I sometimes wonder if discovering the swinging scene has been a positive or negative impact on my relationships. It certainly makes it more challenging to meet someone longterm.
Once you open Pandoras box.... can you ever close it? If you meet the man /woman of your dreams but they are not swingers, would that be OK or would you always long for more? "
You know something.... You're very intelligent..
Swinging is not the end all to life. It's a candy shop you visit to get a sugar fix and leave ...
Trust me you would much rather have a vanilla relationship because it's less sexual over tones when interacting with people.
If you married a swinger.. Would you be happy to have to separate your vanilla friends from your swinging friends at your wedding? Would every activity you do with friends have to end with sex? These are questions I wouldn't want to answer.
So for love stay vanilla
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Yes OP, I guess I fall into the same group as yourself. Not looking purely for dating, but it would be super, super nice if it did happen. It would be nice to find someone to share fun things with out of the bedroom too. |
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"This is only a personal take on this, but I think that if you enjoy the Swinging life-style, and want to find someone to Swing with and also have a relationship outside of Swinging as well, this is probably as good a place as any. On some other dating websites it seems to be more difficult to find sexual compatibility.
I wouldn't be averse to finding someone to have a Swinging relationship with as well as something else. I have met a few couples who met Swinging and then went onto have a deeper relationship and even marriage, so it is possible.
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Yes, you hit the nail right on the head with the words "sexual compatability". I have met girls off dating sites, they were very nice but about as un-compatable as you could wish to find! Being a naturist and downright dirty bugger is pretty hard to find in a girl (apart from on here) |
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I met my partner of 5 years at a swingers social,and we kept in touch on here.
It worked for us,some people expect too much though it takes time even if you are both players j. |
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