We appreciate that this is a subject that has been aired before but we would still like a little feedback from other couples.
We have encountered a large number of members who will not accept a message or even a wink unless the sender has public photos.
Our own situation is that we have jobs in the public sector and meet the public everyday. We don't want our private lives becoming public. Non facial photos are entertaining but prove nothing. They are no safeguard against predatory single males.
That is the second reason for us not posting facial photos as we have been the subject of stalking and vile hurtful comments in the past from someone who recognised us. We added our new profile and that did the trick but the episode still haunts us.
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We totally get that OP. Why don't you post pics that don't show your faces. Omit anything that immediately identifies you, ie, your home which maybe recognisable, there's a whole range of scenarios you could conjure up and present publicly. We feel pics are important on profiles and if your discrete pics encourage messages it's then you decide to send face pics. Just our pennies worth.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We totally get that OP. Why don't you post pics that don't show your faces. Omit anything that immediately identifies you, ie, your home which maybe recognisable, there's a whole range of scenarios you could conjure up and present publicly. We feel pics are important on profiles and if your discrete pics encourage messages it's then you decide to send face pics. Just our pennies worth. "
I'd say do this, but only if you feel that your profile isn't working to meet your needs. Otherwise, just do what you wanna do? My profile has no public pics and I still get what I want from the site, though our aims may be slightly different. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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Showing no photos at all though makes you look like either you are fake, or have something to hide.
OK, so you have verifications, so you're not fake, but you are on a site where (whether people like to admit this is the main reason or not) people are looking for sex. The main thing (again, whether people like to admit this or not...) that attracts people is the first impression = What we look like.
If we can't see what people look like, even if there is no face photo it's fine on a profile, but if there are no photos at all then why potentially waste time on people who may not be attractive to the person doing the looking?
Why go through all the trouble of chatting, arranging a social, taking time to travel to this social only to find out that you really aren't their taste at all.
People are less likely to do that especially when they can just click on your competition, check out their photos and know from the start whether there is an attraction there or not.
Why not try at least some body shots? Something that doesn't make you recognisable but still shows what you have to offer?
With people having so many turn ons and turn offs body shape and size is a main one. So actually body shots are very useful.
Not many people meet blind and to be honest I would worry if they did, kind of a "I'm so desperate I'll fuck anyone who offers", plus it's not particularly good for safety not knowing at least what your meet looks like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We work in very public jobs , but we are happily married and don't give a flying fuck if anyone on here recognises us .
They are here for the same reason as us , and no more want to be publicly outed than we do .
So in five years on and off fab , we have shown ourselves on our profile , and apart from a couple of instances where our pics have ended up on xhamster and other porn sites , we've had no problems . |
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Totally understand the point about no faces but Transguy makes an excellant point.
Even without seeing faces it makes it easier to see if someone is your type, body shots or even just arty close ups makes people feel at ease.
Perhaps subconsciously it helps them pass the first fear of someone being hideous (to them) when they see the bits of yourselves you do show look clean and interesting , It helps alleviate a fear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you don't want public pics then don't display them. It's your profile to run as you see fit. But you must also appreciate that you will be overlooked by some who prefer people who have pics on their profile. That's how they choose to run their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Showing no photos at all though makes you look like either you are fake, or have something to hide.
OK, so you have verifications, so you're not fake, but you are on a site where (whether people like to admit this is the main reason or not) people are looking for sex. The main thing (again, whether people like to admit this or not...) that attracts people is the first impression = What we look like.
If we can't see what people look like, even if there is no face photo it's fine on a profile, but if there are no photos at all then why potentially waste time on people who may not be attractive to the person doing the looking?
Why go through all the trouble of chatting, arranging a social, taking time to travel to this social only to find out that you really aren't their taste at all.
People are less likely to do that especially when they can just click on your competition, check out their photos and know from the start whether there is an attraction there or not.
Why not try at least some body shots? Something that doesn't make you recognisable but still shows what you have to offer?
With people having so many turn ons and turn offs body shape and size is a main one. So actually body shots are very useful.
Not many people meet blind and to be honest I would worry if they did, kind of a "I'm so desperate I'll fuck anyone who offers", plus it's not particularly good for safety not knowing at least what your meet looks like. "
Excatly what he said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Whilst we understand your fears we personally would not consider meeting someone without knowing what they look like.
I think most members share our lack of interest in blind dates.
Additionally if they have no posted photos we would not even bother entering into communication with them. Since we wouldn't be meeting them then any communication is pointless. |
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What we don't get is all this "we both have public jobs " do you go to work naked ?? I presume not so how would people recognise you then ? We both have public jobs !!! So what , know body as ever come up to either of us and asked if we're on fab and if they did we'd say "yes so what of it ?" Your indulging in a healthy sex life not committing some horrendous crime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally understand the point about no faces but Transguy makes an excellant point.
Even without seeing faces it makes it easier to see if someone is your type, body shots or even just arty close ups makes people feel at ease.
Perhaps subconsciously it helps them pass the first fear of someone being hideous (to them) when they see the bits of yourselves you do show look clean and interesting , It helps alleviate a fear."
Agree with both xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No profile picture
No public pictures
No friends only pictures
And a long worded profile
Sorry we didn't get past the second line.
Pictures make a profile more interesting, even just a Profile picture |
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"No profile picture
No public pictures
No friends only pictures
And a long worded profile
Sorry we didn't get past the second line.
Pictures make a profile more interesting, even just a Profile picture "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most ppl on here are in a similar situation as you but as said by others that does not stop you posting strategically taken pics without showing your face. We do that and only share face pics with ppl we are interested in mtg.
Although your profile sounds good I probably wouldn't pursue it further as there are absolutely no public pics at all |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"What we don't get is all this "we both have public jobs " do you go to work naked ?? I presume not so how would people recognise you then ? We both have public jobs !!! So what , know body as ever come up to either of us and asked if we're on fab and if they did we'd say "yes so what of it ?" Your indulging in a healthy sex life not committing some horrendous crime "
I couldn't agree more. |
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