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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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it's nice to see a profile with a few verifications but can too many from different people in a short space of time actually put you off them ? a lady recently went off me before we had met as she thought I was a bit of a honey collector..\i did point out that I was on here to have fun and not too offend anyone nor be exclusive ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We go to parties and i havent played with everyone that verified me but i wouldnt care if i had a verification for every day of the week, its my life  "
we only ever show a few and ussualy the most recent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally i dont care how other people have met, none of my buisness but you right some can be so judgemental, and you will always get the elite swingers who swing correctly annd anyone else who play in a different way are doing it wrong lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Welcome Popshot, as you may see each person has their own way of doing or interpreting things here, no right way or wrong way to do it as long as you do it your way. xx |
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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago
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i dont show mine as a few who have read then ask what happened and want to know exactly what went on and how my meet was, which i think is my businness and the person concerned, if a profile has too many i dont bother ans move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I show my veri's sometimes I don't, been here for years so the list looks a long one. Having met many at clubs and socials not all my veri's are X rated. I occasionally show the most recent. But don't show any that may be too explicit or mention my real name or others names. xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Welcome Popshot, as you may see each person has their own way of doing or interpreting things here, no right way or wrong way to do it as long as you do it your way. xx"
thank you xxx hypocrtites annoy me though but hey ho ! |
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"Welcome Popshot, as you may see each person has their own way of doing or interpreting things here, no right way or wrong way to do it as long as you do it your way. xx
thank you xxx hypocrtites annoy me though but hey ho !"
We don't show many of ours, we don't always play with people from this site anyway! I love the way that some people really do think that verifications are a full diary of all the playing that people do! Oh, I don't like hypocrites either but haven't come across any recently! Z |
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous."
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets "
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it's nice to see a profile with a few verifications but can too many from different people in a short space of time actually put you off them ? a lady recently went off me before we had met as she thought I was a bit of a honey collector..\i did point out that I was on here to have fun and not too offend anyone nor be exclusive !"
Naturally I looked!  I don't know what the woman in question problem is as you don't have that many.
Some of us don't bother with verifications at all. Why on earth would I pay attention to what total strangers have to say about another stranger?!!
Nice to see new people on the forums: welcome and have fun! |
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Some people show them, some dont, some use them as part of their filtration process, some dont.
We have what has been referred to as a "shit stack" of verifs, and we have always posted them on our profile.
However, about two thirds are from ppl we havent played with.
Because we read other peoples verifs to get an idea about what kind of people they are, we show all ours. Horses for courses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think to many looks like a bit of bragging, in all honesty. But then it's also a bit like desperate self-assurance. Wouldn't really want to meet someone that measured themselves by the amount of verifications.
It's all a bit like facebook friends really. "LOOK AT ME GOT LOADS MUST BE POPULAR!!!" |
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact."
thats not nice on the peeps who you meet is it your putting them in the same boat plus how do know the guy with one verifications may go to a club few times week and there are some guys who go to clubs every weekend just start adding there numbers up and thats alot more than few nice verifications just think about that girls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact.
thats not nice on the peeps who you meet is it your putting them in the same boat plus how do know the guy with one verifications may go to a club few times week and there are some guys who go to clubs every weekend just start adding there numbers up and thats alot more than few nice verifications just think about that girls"
...and guys! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact."
Maybe they are just very friendly folk not all verifications are from sexual meets some could just be socials.I thought verifications were just to show you have met someone and they are who they say they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact."
Thats not true though. People who have a lot of verifications may be party animals and enjoy going to these. Some people are new to the scene and are so excited by it they want to indulge all the time. It really does not mean that they will shag anything.
And if you want to feel special I suggest you go and find a boyfriend. |
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact.
Maybe they are just very friendly folk not all verifications are from sexual meets some could just be socials.I thought verifications were just to show you have met someone and they are who they say they are."
And sometimes your between the devil and the deep blue sea shall i leave my verifications and my cock pics or take them off leave them on you get more meets more intrest take them off meets dry up what would do guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will make judgement no matter what
I got a nasty mail reguarding me having 3 on the same day (HAD JUST REJOINED)now i will display all im here for fun and if others look down their small minded noses at me for this hey ho they obviously have nowt better to do ,its swinging we all choose to do things diffrently
Happy swinging to all xxx |
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"People will make judgement no matter what
I got a nasty mail reguarding me having 3 on the same day (HAD JUST REJOINED)now i will display all im here for fun and if others look down their small minded noses at me for this hey ho they obviously have nowt better to do ,its swinging we all choose to do things diffrently
Happy swinging to all xxx"
yes but im sorry to say but it does come from the ladies on the site a lot cpls think differtaly |
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Doesnt bother me in the slightest. I use verifications to get a general idea that the person is who they say they are and thats about it. I did notice one profile the other day with tons of verifications in a short while and thought how the hell did they fit all those in lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes i use verifications to prove that i am genuine and do meet and also to check that other people are genuine and see what sort of person they are according to how others have commented on them , maybe shallow i know but its one of thre few ways we have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There always seems to be a question of numbers on here...the answer to the question is too many meets is when YOU'VE had enough and no-one ought to judge you by their own standards...though we know that ain't gonna happen.
So, you are left with deciding what is going to be an acceptable amount of veri's for the majority...and the answer is? who gives a fuck?! it's your profile...one will say too many, another will say not enough....
Hiding half of your veris doesn't mean you are having less meets, it means you're not exhibiting them....doesn't make you any better or any worse than someone who posts all their veris or none at all
post what you think is right for you and it will attract the people who are right for you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not crying over it, i wont be giving it head space (apart from now as Im writing this response), my point being, if you want to feel special by a guy, then thats your boyfriends job. We all want to be treated respectfully, thats a different thing entirely, but special, come on, its a swinging site - just enjoy the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm personally turned off by people who seem to have been with the rest of my locality.
Though I do realise that the scene is extremely incestuous.
Does that not show that person is real i have always wondered why some of you girls are put off by guys who have a lot of meets
You can also be real with one or two verifications, as I am.
People with a lot come across as 'gagging for a shagging' but not in the good way. Knowing they'll jump on anyone and anything will not make me feel special, fact."
I am quite selective and not at all deperate but I had 3 meets in as many weeks which put off a certian lady whom I was chatting with but hadn't met....she was quite rude and offensive but I noted she had "gangbangs" on her interests so I felt that was a little hypocritical.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not crying over it, i wont be giving it head space (apart from now as Im writing this response), my point being, if you want to feel special by a guy, then thats your boyfriends job. We all want to be treated respectfully, thats a different thing entirely, but special, come on, its a swinging site - just enjoy the sex. "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Im not crying over it, i wont be giving it head space (apart from now as Im writing this response), my point being, if you want to feel special by a guy, then thats your boyfriends job. We all want to be treated respectfully, thats a different thing entirely, but special, come on, its a swinging site - just enjoy the sex. "
thats was bordering on being rude... its like when people use the condescending reply of "use a dating site" when you don't agree....
so i'll ask you this...
if it is just "about the sex" as a lot of people profess.... do you have sex with any old person, or do you still pick and choose who you play with???
of course you pick and choose!
so for people who play a little... or not very often... in that respect then the playing time would be more special.
it may not be "special" for you.... but it may be special for others.. and I do kinda understand what they meant....
whatever way people decide to swing should be respected... if that happens to be part of there criteria then so be it....
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I'm proud of all of my verifications as they are all reminders of a lovely time with lovely people. If people don't want to meet because I have too many, or they disapprove of one of my verifiers (thats happened!) then there are plenty more lovely people to play with. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I am quite selective and not at all deperate but I had 3 meets in as many weeks which put off a certian lady whom I was chatting with but hadn't met....she was quite rude and offensive but I noted she had "gangbangs" on her interests so I felt that was a little hypocritical.
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Just a smidge! I've had 3 meets in 3 days, so she'd probably hate me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am quite selective and not at all deperate but I had 3 meets in as many weeks which put off a certian lady whom I was chatting with but hadn't met....she was quite rude and offensive but I noted she had "gangbangs" on her interests so I felt that was a little hypocritical.
Just a smidge! I've had 3 meets in 3 days, so she'd probably hate me. "
Well I prefer a woman who is adventurous !
Shame your abit far though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just a smidge! I've had 3 meets in 3 days, so she'd probably hate me.
Well I prefer a woman who is adventurous !
Shame your abit far though
Never say never!  "
When is York races on ? xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have to say, i cant stand the judgements made by people re veris!
So im coming to the conclusion that people should just display what they want.
If it puts some off, then its bound to also attract others.
Having had some good advice from forum posters, i now dont show any of my veris, and also when asked i dont discuss previous meets!
If ya dont know, ya cant judge me!!
so neh!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thats was bordering on being rude... its like when people use the condescending reply of "use a dating site" when you don't agree....
so i'll ask you this...
if it is just "about the sex" as a lot of people profess.... do you have sex with any old person, or do you still pick and choose who you play with???
of course you pick and choose!
so for people who play a little... or not very often... in that respect then the playing time would be more special.
it may not be "special" for you.... but it may be special for others.. and I do kinda understand what they meant....
whatever way people decide to swing should be respected... if that happens to be part of there criteria then so be it....
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I accept it was a tad abrupt, but being judgemental over the amount of someones verifications is not on.
Of course I choose the people I swing with, I have criteria that they have to meet; that is that they are respectful, that I can hold a conversation with them, that they are funny to be with. Maybe my understanding of "special" is different from the person I responded to.
The only person that makes me feel special is my partner.
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Ffs another day another example of just how judgemental people are
OK a few suggestions,maybe we could put them on everyones homepage.
1)There is nothing wrong with fucking anything or being incredibly picky,we are all here for different things.
2)Some people swing differently to you.GET OVER IT!
3)Anyone who criticises the number of friends/meets/verifications someone has is a small minded green eyed twunt.
4)this is meant to be fun folks,don't take it so seriously.
And breathe kaz,deep calming breaths... |
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"Ffs another day another example of just how judgemental people are
OK a few suggestions,maybe we could put them on everyones homepage.
1)There is nothing wrong with fucking anything or being incredibly picky,we are all here for different things.
2)Some people swing differently to you.GET OVER IT!
3)Anyone who criticises the number of friends/meets/verifications someone has is a small minded green eyed twunt.
4)this is meant to be fun folks,don't take it so seriously.
And breathe kaz,deep calming breaths..."
and count to 10 lol
there is no rite way or wrong way when it comes to swinging ... everyone has thier own thoughts and requirements .. and nobody should be judged just because they dont conform to what someone else wants or needs (just my little thought on the matter) |
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"Doesnt bother me in the slightest. I use verifications to get a general idea that the person is who they say they are and thats about it. I did notice one profile the other day with tons of verifications in a short while and thought how the hell did they fit all those in lol"
As a single woman on here, meeting guys can be a minefield and for me personally (yes even though I don't display my own), use them as a guide that a guy is genuine and also that others have met him in his own home and felt comfortable etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's nice to see a profile with a few verifications but can too many from different people in a short space of time actually put you off them ? a lady recently went off me before we had met as she thought I was a bit of a honey collector..\i did point out that I was on here to have fun and not too offend anyone nor be exclusive !"
tch, do what you bliddy like, she's not the boss o you is she? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thats was bordering on being rude... its like when people use the condescending reply of "use a dating site" when you don't agree....
so i'll ask you this...
if it is just "about the sex" as a lot of people profess.... do you have sex with any old person, or do you still pick and choose who you play with???
of course you pick and choose!
so for people who play a little... or not very often... in that respect then the playing time would be more special.
it may not be "special" for you.... but it may be special for others.. and I do kinda understand what they meant....
whatever way people decide to swing should be respected... if that happens to be part of there criteria then so be it....
I accept it was a tad abrupt, but being judgemental over the amount of someones verifications is not on.
Of course I choose the people I swing with, I have criteria that they have to meet; that is that they are respectful, that I can hold a conversation with them, that they are funny to be with. Maybe my understanding of "special" is different from the person I responded to.
The only person that makes me feel special is my partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends mine are not all sexual verifications
We only post social verifications
Anyone we've met for sex is between us and them only "
you are allowed to mention sex cos it's a swingers site. |
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"you are allowed to mention sex cos it's a swingers site.
Really? 
wtf we doing on here then?
the f bit probs "
Ah, we're here for the “F” action, doesn't happen often which is why I'd forgot, thanks for the reminder |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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I may have mentioned before - I hide my play verifications as one lady decided to "research" my meets before considering me, at the time I had 4 play verifications displayed... over the space of 2 years. This angered her as she felt I was a tart and she was looking for someone that would want her and her only.
I was so glad she wrote me off!
She has since found a bloke (proceeded to threaten those he met before her o remove his verification from him from their profile) and warns off any other female. All on THIS swing site.
I do feel she fits the bill of "actively seeking a boyfriend". |
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"I may have mentioned before - I hide my play verifications as one lady decided to "research" my meets before considering me, at the time I had 4 play verifications displayed... over the space of 2 years. This angered her as she felt I was a tart and she was looking for someone that would want her and her only.
I was so glad she wrote me off!
She has since found a bloke (proceeded to threaten those he met before her o remove his verification from him from their profile) and warns off any other female. All on THIS swing site.
I do feel she fits the bill of "actively seeking a boyfriend"."
sounds more like a stalker |
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