I don't live with my kids but we're close and they pop over and let themselves in randomly. I have a regular fuckbuddy who is pissed off because now the kids are back from uni I won't do public socialising or have her stay around during the day. She thinks coming over to fuck and leave is the same as me treating her like a whore. So my thoughts are if we have to go out prior to fucking then that makes her an escort in that case. I think it's time to let her go. Am I wrong? |
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It sounds like she likes you more than just as a fuck buddy, it doesn't sound fair I either of you to continue, she wants more than a shag, you don't, your bluntness sounds rather cold towards her  |
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"I don't live with my kids but we're close and they pop over and let themselves in randomly. I have a regular fuckbuddy who is pissed off because now the kids are back from uni I won't do public socialising or have her stay around during the day. She thinks coming over to fuck and leave is the same as me treating her like a whore. So my thoughts are if we have to go out prior to fucking then that makes her an escort in that case. I think it's time to let her go. Am I wrong?"
Yeah let her go
I'm not commenting on the whore and escort bit 
But anybody who even made the slightest complaint to me because I put my kids before them would be gone and I wouldn't need to start a thread on here to get approval |
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Sounds like you are single.
Your kids are at uni.
So what's the problem with them knowing you have a friend with benefits.
Just warn your children to give you some notice, or they might see you in action. |
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I guess only the two of you can come to the 'right' conclusion on that based on what you've previously agreed to.
What are your expectations, when you fancy a shag do you expect to just call her up, invite her in, have your fun, then kick her out again? In that case then I can see why she might think that's a little selfish if this deviates from your previous arrangements / terms of engagement.
If, on the other hand, she will only sleep with you if you pay in some way (meals, events, cash??) first then that might look like she's after some sort of financial or material 'reward' for a fuck.
But expecting to be treated humanely, and have some 'normal' interaction beyond just sex doesn't sound unreasonable to me in my humble opinion - but as I say it all depends on what you agreed at the outset with each other in terms of how your interact...
Overall though, if it's not working for you then maybe you should end it rather than continue in a situation you're not happy with.
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Thanks to everyone. You're all actuall quite right. She seems to have fallen in love with me. I like her but not enough to commit. I've explained how I feel. But the whole jealousy about my kids coming first is quite unacceptable. So now I've got to end something that was supposed to be NSA.
I'm not one of those guys that will tell you what you wanna hear to get you in bed. I find it quite absurd, amusing and paradoxical on the rare occasion I find the tables to be turned. |
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"Thanks to everyone. You're all actuall quite right. She seems to have fallen in love with me. I like her but not enough to commit. I've explained how I feel. But the whole jealousy about my kids coming first is quite unacceptable. So now I've got to end something that was supposed to be NSA.
I'm not one of those guys that will tell you what you wanna hear to get you in bed. I find it quite absurd, amusing and paradoxical on the rare occasion I find the tables to be turned."
I would suspect that rather than being jealousy, she's probably wondering why you're ashamed of her.... Or why as an adult, you can't let your adult children know that you've got a female friend.
I'm confused by your attitude, so imagine how she feels.
Cal |
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"Sounds like you are single.
Your kids are at uni.
So what's the problem with them knowing you have a friend with benefits.
Just warn your children to give you some notice, or they might see you in action. "
Surely it's upto the individual how they run their family
I wouldn't want a fuck buddy at my house while my kids where there either
A fuck buddy is just that, why in earth would you introduce them to your kids  |
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"Thanks to everyone. You're all actuall quite right. She seems to have fallen in love with me. I like her but not enough to commit. I've explained how I feel. But the whole jealousy about my kids coming first is quite unacceptable. So now I've got to end something that was supposed to be NSA.
I'm not one of those guys that will tell you what you wanna hear to get you in bed. I find it quite absurd, amusing and paradoxical on the rare occasion I find the tables to be turned.
I would suspect that rather than being jealousy, she's probably wondering why you're ashamed of her.... Or why as an adult, you can't let your adult children know that you've got a female friend.
I'm confused by your attitude, so imagine how she feels.
Cal"
Some people don't want their kids knowing what they get upto
No strings is just that, I would never introduce a fuck buddie to my kids, why on earth would I? And being a fuck buddie they have no rights to expect to be in your home with your kids, Why would people even think because your single you want your kids to know you meet people just for sex
I find this a little odd  |
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"I don't live with my kids but we're close and they pop over and let themselves in randomly. I have a regular fuckbuddy who is pissed off because now the kids are back from uni I won't do public socialising or have her stay around during the day. She thinks coming over to fuck and leave is the same as me treating her like a whore. So my thoughts are if we have to go out prior to fucking then that makes her an escort in that case. I think it's time to let her go. Am I wrong?"
wow what a catch ......poor woman
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how is she an escort? but yeah you sound not compatible so you should tell her you don't want the same things as her and let her go.
a lot of women don't like being used as a sex service and want more than being a fuck and go. doesn't mean she likes you or is falling for you or anything stupid like that, it means she respects herself as a person and thinks of herself as more than an object or wank sock.
it's why i haven't met for ages on here tbh. hate fuck and go or disrespectful men. |
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