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Blocking after a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So here's the thing. I met a guy, really nice social meet, flirted, chatted for ages, nice kiss as he leaves and left feeling really positive. We message to say do we want verification's...I reply saying yes...nice to get feedback and he does too. I write a great veri...from the heart. Three days later, I receive no feedback yet he has displayed my verification. I had noticed he had been on-line at least 8 times! My message to him about feedback was left unread. So I blocked him! Just felt he wasn't keen. Was that wrong of me??? Thoughts appreciated xx

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Sounds a bit stalky if you know he had been online 8 times!?

I think I would have just messaged and see where it went? If nothing then make a private note and leave him be.....

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have mixed feelings about this. My personal opinion is that, if they don't verify you, they didn't enjoy the meet. However no-one is entitled to anything on here, verifications included.

I doubt I would have blocked him though. I'd just forget about him and move on to the next guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He might have wanted to put more thought into it. He might not have enjoyed it so much. Hard to say. No need to block though.

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By *ay BrowerMan over a year ago

Oldham

It's not wrong. It's just your choice.

As its his choice not to read/reply to your message. Which as per the sites FAQs is also not rude

Just move on and try not to take it personal

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

It's 'men' in general..

They think differently to us women..

He deserves the dreaded 'block'

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

No reply means no thanks...

I really don't block folk , I've only ever blocked one person , it wasn't for not sending a verification , your profile your choices.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

System glitches mean feedbacks aren't always received so you may have been harsh in blocking.

I upset someone before on more than one occasion because I hadn't displayed so they thought only it hadn't shown up on my end.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems a bit unfair to display your veri to him yet not give one back .. but ultimately it's their prerogative and much like sending a face pic on Face Pic Friday people should only send if they're prepared not to get one back.

The standard advice to anyone male or female in these situations is to move on and not worry about it - plenty more people on here looking to meet

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice; I feel a bit of a shit as really don't block many people, not my style but I'm fed up of being so nice and being made to feel like I'm nothing. I know it's a sex site, but I do have feelings. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Brilliant u did the right think ,

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By *scottMan over a year ago

Irvine

The good thing about blocking him means that your verification won't show on his page.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"System glitches mean feedbacks aren't always received so you may have been harsh in blocking.

I upset someone before on more than one occasion because I hadn't displayed so they thought only it hadn't shown up on my end."

This is probably not the Ops problem but filters can prevent verifications from coming through.

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By *ermaeMan over a year ago

co down

on-line at least 8 times! My message to him about feedback was left unread. So I blocked him! Just felt he wasn't keen. Was that wrong of me??? Thoughts appreciated xx"

Strange behaviour indeed , I say he's mad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So here's the thing. I met a guy, really nice social meet, flirted, chatted for ages, nice kiss as he leaves and left feeling really positive. We message to say do we want verification's...I reply saying yes...nice to get feedback and he does too. I write a great veri...from the heart. Three days later, I receive no feedback yet he has displayed my verification. I had noticed he had been on-line at least 8 times! My message to him about feedback was left unread. So I blocked him! Just felt he wasn't keen. Was that wrong of me??? Thoughts appreciated xx"

If you felt like blocking him why would you be wrong?

You run your account the way you choose the same as he does his

He chose not to verify you, his call, you block him your call

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"The good thing about blocking him means that your verification won't show on his page."

I would of blocked the bastard as well OP

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By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

We had something similar. Did a veri but got nothing back (no veri or mail) from the guy even though we thought we'd all had a good time. Easier as a couple to just move on, but it still felt rude! We blocked and moved on as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You live and learn ... Fab is like a candy shop pick and mix and we cant like them all. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's 'men' in general..

They think differently to us women..

He deserves the dreaded 'block' "

Why is that then?

Sorry to say but in hindsight maybe he decided that he didn't have a good time after all and was just too polite to say at the time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have had this after what was a good meet. They wrote saying how much they enjoyed themselves and asked if we would verify them. Which we did. Then nothing. We wrote after a few days and it wasn't opened. So we put it down to experience. There are some strange folk on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he's been busy

Bit rash

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi dose a lot of blocks go on this site then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he just wanted a coffee meet to get a verification, once he got what he wanted he moved on *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was asked for a verification which I said I'd do. I needed time to think about what to put because basically other than turn up on time I hadn't really got much to say. He messaged me 5 times going on about it. I blocked him instead

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"System glitches mean feedbacks aren't always received so you may have been harsh in blocking.

I upset someone before on more than one occasion because I hadn't displayed so they thought only it hadn't shown up on my end.

This is probably not the Ops problem but filters can prevent verifications from coming through."

True sometimes you never get to know especially once the blocks on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He sounds selfish. Think yourself lucky you didn't share your body with him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people read too much into this verification lark. Had a recent good meet who then spat her dummy out as I didn't verify her straight away after, I don't live on this place and had been away for the weekend but had planned to verify on my return

Cut a long story short I blocked her because of the grief, she blocked me and now she's UNLOS.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's 'men' in general..

They think differently to us women..

He deserves the dreaded 'block' "

And there it is

Why fab is do shit nowadays

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block

Block for this

Block for that

It's like a virtual sticking your tongue out

Nerrrr ner ne nerrrrr nerrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked for a verification which I said I'd do. I needed time to think about what to put because basically other than turn up on time I hadn't really got much to say. He messaged me 5 times going on about it. I blocked him instead

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling "

Such a charmer

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling

Such a charmer

I am a sweetheart........ To nice people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling

Such a charmer

Children children ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a bunny rabbit and boil the kettle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling

Such a charmer

Children children .... "

Sorry mom but she started it

Did

Did tooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just do as you said you would rather than play games ??

Hmmm I'd say you'd got the hump with me because I blocked you too

Sorry to burst you ego filled button

But I didn't even know you had

And frankly

Don't care

Way too far up your own bottom darling

Such a charmer

Children children .... "

It's childish to be rude just because your message was deleted without a response. It should be taken as a polite no thanks

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Was it his first veri? And putting that status up, people will see it on their local updates.....

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy? "

Maybe he was thinking what to write back, looks like the damage is done now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It was his 8th veri. Ah well, stuff it. Probably won't write anymore from now on, it's just not worth the bother!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy? "

Un block and say oops accidentally blocked u

And next time chill out !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clearly he wasn't wired up quite right in my view. I think the OP had a lucky escape. Better to block and move on the end up in little pieces under his patio

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By *eteinhantsMan over a year ago

Southsea

I dont think you were unreasonable to block him, manners cost nothing.

I have been on here about 8 years and i have this year started blocking those who i think are plain rude or timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all the advice; I feel a bit of a shit as really don't block many people, not my style but I'm fed up of being so nice and being made to feel like I'm nothing. I know it's a sex site, but I do have feelings. x"

Wife had a meet. She sent him a good veri, he said he'd do one back next day. No veri came. Five days later he finally sent it, was a really good one too. Some people take time getting round to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get why people are so hung up on verification even more so if they already have several

Surely if you had a good meet that's all that matters and to not meet somebody again because they didn't verify you is just nuts to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy? "

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had this before where it has just taken the guy a while to veri but sometimes I'm like that...I take longer writing veris for meets that were amazing I like to do them justice! So if I were you I'd unblock like the lady above said and just say it was a mistake x

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By *at-cWoman over a year ago

Ballyshannon

It was a social meet, as after care seems as important to you as the actual time you spent together then just try to move on and tell yourself it's best this happened now than after a 'proper' meet.

When it comes to Fab you don't have the ability to edit veris once you leave them, it's understandable you feel let down but let it go, you've taken the veri off public view and lesson learnt, wait to see if you're expectations of treatment are met in future before leaving one.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I have mixed feelings about this. My personal opinion is that, if they don't verify you, they didn't enjoy the meet. However no-one is entitled to anything on here, verifications included.

I doubt I would have blocked him though. I'd just forget about him and move on to the next guy.

I feel this way too and tend not to veri now until they do.

Unless it's a newbie and they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?"

Sounds to me like he was just after getting verified, this status sounds like a way of drawing attention to it

Good question by the way

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?"

They still show on local updates I think.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy? "

how did you read his status if you'd blocked him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He might have wanted to put more thought into it. He might not have enjoyed it so much. Hard to say. No need to block though."

I agree. I have to say that we've gone well over a week before posting some verifications, but that is only because we want to make sure we get the wording just perfect.

Generally the longer we leave it, the better our experience has been. If we get a good meet from anyone, we want to be 110% sure the verification we post reflects that.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think."

oh! Scrap the above then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get why people are so hung up on verification even more so if they already have several

Surely if you had a good meet that's all that matters and to not meet somebody again because they didn't verify you is just nuts to me "

I agree. Some of my best meets neither of us verified each other and we had repeat meets. It was between the two of us, we didn't need a verification to show everyone else that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not bothered meet yes if I get a verification then bonus but don't like seeing loads and loads of verifications kind of off putting been seeing a guy off here for a few weeks he comes back for more that's all the verification I need x

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I don't get why people are so hung up on verification even more so if they already have several

Surely if you had a good meet that's all that matters and to not meet somebody again because they didn't verify you is just nuts to me

I agree. Some of my best meets neither of us verified each other and we had repeat meets. It was between the two of us, we didn't need a verification to show everyone else that."

I'm meeting a guy tomorrow night for the third time. The bugger has never verified me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think.

oh! Scrap the above then"

I don't think they do.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think."

Not if you block someone

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think.

Not if you block someone "

Hmmmm dunno then. Maybe she unblocked him for a sneaky peek.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think.

Not if you block someone

Hmmmm dunno then. Maybe she unblocked him for a sneaky peek."

Or had more than one profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a question .::

Are you meeting people just to get verifications or are you meeting people because you want to meet them ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"But his status after I blocked said "Great social, amazing veri from her, then blocked... Wtf... so he clearly did enjoy?

How did you read his status if you had blocked him?

They still show on local updates I think.

Not if you block someone

Hmmmm dunno then. Maybe she unblocked him for a sneaky peek.

Or had more than one profile "

Cunning!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not meeting just for a verification, no sense at all in that. I meet for the most obvious of reasons!

And yes, I had a sneaky peak... My bad!

It's helpful hearing all your different opinions, many thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he wanted to write a verification that did you justice rather than a quick off the cuff one. Looks like you lost out to your own paranoia and need to "win".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he wanted to write a verification that did you justice rather than a quick off the cuff one. Looks like you lost out to your own paranoia and need to "win"."

How long does it take to compose a good verification?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he wanted to write a verification that did you justice rather than a quick off the cuff one. Looks like you lost out to your own paranoia and need to "win".

How long does it take to compose a good verification?

Maybe it wasn't top of his priority list. This reminds me of that photo of the couple on the sofa. The woman wondering what she's done to upset her other half, he's wondering why his motorcycle misfires...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

His loss just move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, I would have messaged him along the lines of ~ I see you've displayed my veri, I'm looking forward to receiving mine ~ and left it at that.

Takes me ages to write a veri but I do pre warn people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"His loss just move on"