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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesnt bother me as much if a guy is married, as long as theyr honest from the start

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

"It doesnt bother me as much if a guy is married, as long as theyr honest from the start

xx"

but surely if the partner doesn't know,then they are not being honest. .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't bother me either .swinging is less complicated .When two people want different things in a marriage it's hard .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably because it's wrong , sanctity of marriage

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know it's not honest. But if she doesn't know.....etc. I can't understand why it bothers so many people when they keep stating 'harmless,fun,nsa' and so on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've tested the water, tried to get her interested in dogging, sex clubs, other people and she hates the idea of it.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I know it's not honest. But if she doesn't know.....etc. I can't understand why it bothers so many people when they keep stating 'harmless,fun,nsa' and so on."

Just stick to the people who aren't bothered don't try and understand.

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Am not one to judge.. and also in the past in my younger days having seen married women.

Its not something I would do again now. My attitude has changed (kids, family, partner, divorces, deceits, heartache etc etc) now would put me off from seeing a married person be it off fab or elsewhere

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I've tested the water, tried to get her interested in dogging, sex clubs, other people and she hates the idea of it."

If she doesn't know you're here don't discuss her behind her back, that just adds insult to injury.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

As ur wife how she feels about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Most people think cheating is morally wrong. Why would you expect swingers to be any different?

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Swinging isn't purely NSA for many on here. I like the social side of this only had a handful of one offs, most turn into FB or FWBs.

I'm a hypocrite perhaps but I won't play with cheaters in my private life yet will in my professional one.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Sigh...if only married people would just get on with it!

We won't ask you to justify why you re here, don't expect us to justify why we won't meet you!

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By *riskynriskyCouple over a year ago

Essex.

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

A few women have posted how they have had visits or phone calls from disgruntled wives.

Most don't want that sort of grief...

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"It doesnt bother me as much if a guy is married, as long as theyr honest from the start

xx"

Yeah...like they're going to be honest to a woman they meet off here but not their wife...yeah honey, right!

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"I've tested the water, tried to get her interested in dogging, sex clubs, other people and she hates the idea of it."

Personally I think you would be worse if you kept on going on and on at her and eventually she gave in and emotionally it destroyed her. We have both had 'vanilla' partners and out the idea to them, but to no avail. This was before we found each other on the scene ...

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

I don't judge cheaters any more. I remember being shocked at how many married people were cheating on Fab and other social networks. No judgement of the individuals but it does disappoint me and make me cynical about monogamous relationships.

No relationship could ever be so bad for me (and I've been in some terrible ones) that I could justify to myself cheating.

Wish more people had the courage to walk awayand make themselves happy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because in the end wives find out. Feminine intuition; someone tells them; you make a mistake etc.

then the shit hits the fan for the NSA woman. I don't judge. Remain upfront on here. Some will, some won't. But at least they will know the risks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If she doesnt know that makes it ok...

Just like me shagging her when your out is okay too as you don't know about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you can't be honest with her it's wrong.

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By *uck princess and himCouple over a year ago

washington

I just wouldn't want some woman, coming on here, realising we have met (and read all about it by veri) to go and take a screen shot and post it all over Facebook or Twitter because that, my friend... would be horrendous!

Single guys all the way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't bother us. Your private life, is just that private. At least you're telling everyone your married.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesnt bother me as much if a guy is married, as long as theyr honest from the start

xx"

Lol I'd love to get to know you then

But I'm out of your age range !

Yes I'm married too

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"I just wouldn't want some woman, coming on here, realising we have met (and read all about it by veri) to go and take a screen shot and post it all over Facebook or Twitter because that, my friend... would be horrendous!

Single guys all the way

You'd be okay if a single guy did that?

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Wow way to go I've met nobody in two years I'm in a complicated sexless relationship looking for female fun n friendship so keep going if the lady's wanna meet u

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

Single guys all the way

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't judge at all! Relationships are hard as fuck. But being in an completely honest relationship makes this so much better. ??

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Imagine being in your wife's position and finding out your hubby was fucking people without your knowledge... Harmless nsa to her in won't be... My ex did it to me and I was hurt by the fact he lied to me.

Your honest on here with strangers but you should be honest with your wife.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married guys for me are too complicated!

Not available when I want them, can't do socials in case they get 'spotted', watching the clock, excuse upon excuse & more baggage than Heathrow's carousel!

I'd rather play with myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

This is just shocking.... The swinging community has a moral code

I think some people use the not playing with married cheaters excuse because they are very clingy and Are looking for a relationship.

Use this as a filter and avoid these people like the plaque... Ideally you would want to meet a woman playing away. So you guys can be in cheaters paradise... You guys can also split the cost of a solicitor if you get caught....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know it's not honest. But if she doesn't know.....etc. I can't understand why it bothers so many people when they keep stating 'harmless,fun,nsa' and so on."

Because her not knowing is you know cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it's just nsa fun,harmless".

for me meeting married guys would not be this. genuinely single guys yes it probably would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Married guys for me are too complicated!

Not available when I want them, can't do socials in case they get 'spotted', watching the clock, excuse upon excuse & more baggage than Heathrow's carousel!

I'd rather play with myself

I rest my case

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you've asked your wife to participate in swinging and dogging, she's said no. so you decided to lie to her and go behind her back.

does she love you? does she trust you? if so then your actions are not harmless to her.

shouldn't ask if you don't like that answer but tbh i am at the angry stage of being cheated on and fucked about by a cheating, liar who i trusted.

this angry stage is helping push me to do more wiht my life now he's out of it but pisses me off when others try to justify treating their partner like they are a stupid dick who deserves no respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

This is just shocking.... The swinging community has a moral code

I think some people use the not playing with married cheaters excuse because they are very clingy and Are looking for a relationship.

Its actually called some people dont want to help dishonest married men to cheat and potentially destroy a marriage and have the grief from the wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Because some of us have been on the receiving end and think its shit x

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Just a thought though.. you say its harmless fun with nsa.. is it though..? Fun is with no guilt or reprecussions..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

This is just shocking.... The swinging community has a moral code

I think some people use the not playing with married cheaters excuse because they are very clingy and Are looking for a relationship.

Its actually called some people dont want to help dishonest married men to cheat and potentially destroy a marriage and have the grief from the wife"

Trust me ... If someone is cheating the marriage is already over..

If you get called by a wife/husband. Try to do some damage control instead of informing on them. It's the nice thing to do because at least the person told you they were married.

Anytime a husband called me .. I just told him I was a marriage counselor and his wife was trying to set up a appointment for the both of them . They usually hang up after that or talk my ear off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Having had a quickread of your profile you wrote 9 months ago it states you have a gf is this as well as your wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile states you have a gf who knows nothing of what your up to, is this in addition to the wife you cheating on?

My personal opinion on your question is that you already know your a cheating husband, you can't be trusted and you lie to the person that should be your closest friend.

But hey that's just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

This is just shocking.... The swinging community has a moral code

I think some people use the not playing with married cheaters excuse because they are very clingy and Are looking for a relationship.

Its actually called some people dont want to help dishonest married men to cheat and potentially destroy a marriage and have the grief from the wife

Trust me ... If someone is cheating the marriage is already over..

If you get called by a wife/husband. Try to do some damage control instead of informing on them. It's the nice thing to do because at least the person told you they were married.

Anytime a husband called me .. I just told him I was a marriage counselor and his wife was trying to set up a appointment for the both of them . They usually hang up after that or talk my ear off.

"Trust me ... If someone is cheating the marriage is already over.. "

Usually only on one side though. The cheater conveniently denies the faithful one the choice of leaving.

The cheater might just be a selfish, manipulative, dickhead who wants it all and doesn't give a shit what damage that causes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The cheater might just be a selfish, manipulative, dickhead who wants it all and doesn't give a shit what damage that causes.

And tbh who wants to fuck someone like that?^^ Or even associate with them?

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By *ngel_screwballCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Personally swinging is not about going behind partners backs it is about enjoying each other in the company of mutual friends, never quite grasped cheaters classing themselves as swingers rather than just people having and affair.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Is it really worth destroying someones trust and causing so much pain,for the sake of sex?.

I would never knowingly help someone cheat ,karma is a bitch.

Miss.

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By *andp01Couple over a year ago

here n there

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

Ask your wife if she thinks it just harmless fun!

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Swinging is great, but it is no where near as good as a great relationship.

If you are having the cheat then maybe there is something wrong with the relationship?

Life is too short for rubbish relationships in my opinion, but its your life OP and I might be well wide of the mark.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"Swinging is great, but it is no where near as good as a great relationship.

If you are having the cheat then maybe there is something wrong with the relationship?

Life is too short for rubbish relationships in my opinion, but its your life OP and I might be well wide of the mark."

I like your comment. Unlike some couple on here you are not judgemental and your posts are always measured. Op I think you should take the time to put some effort into your relationship, if that is what you are invested in .... invest in that.

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By *limaxinnylonCouple over a year ago

CHESTER

Having had an ex husband who cheated and devastated me and my kids I am now with a gorgeous guy who I have tonnes of fun with who I adore and love very much. We would not knowingly meet anyone married due to the devastation it does cause but it's your life and your relationship and only you will know if the NSA fun is worth the fallout if she ever finds out.

Jayne

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Being honest about being dishonest.

Is it really bein honest?

We certainly wouldn't entertain it but that's us. If people are willing to meet you then that is for your conscious and there's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

I don't really have an answer for that besides how would you feel if you found out your wife was shagging other men behind your back

I'm not saying it's right or wrong I really don't care what you do with your marriage but just think about how you would feel if you found out the person you shared your life with was lying and cheating on you, maybe that's what people find so disgusting? *shrugs*

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By *heHoneymonstersCouple over a year ago

cambridge

Marriage is a vow of trust, commitment, openness and honesty that's what we believe, whether you sleep with someone of here or someone from the vanilla world it's still taking everything u vowed to ur wife on ur wedding day and destroying it, be honest, even before we entered the swinging world we were very honest about what we needed from each other in the bedroom as well as out even if it hurt the other person

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By *umpFuzzyRascalsCouple over a year ago

ashford

Harmless to you...soul crushing to your wife. Have to wonder what sort of person can live a lie with the person they vowed to devote their life too. Maybe you should talk to your wife rather than us...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well people change. I know someone who's married. The wife's great and they're great friends, have children but she's left to live a four-hour drive away cos she doesn't like where he lives. They see each other very rarely. They sleep together even more rarely. He's highly sexed but she has lost her sex drive since her last pregnancy and is perfectly happy without any sex. What should he do? Many of his friends tell him to play away. He isn't moving to be with her because of his work and doesn't want to divorce but he needs what he's not getting. She insists on fidelity. So he's pissed off! Where in the moral maze does he stand, my friends?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people change. I know someone who's married. The wife's great and they're great friends, have children but she's left to live a four-hour drive away cos she doesn't like where he lives. They see each other very rarely. They sleep together even more rarely. He's highly sexed but she has lost her sex drive since her last pregnancy and is perfectly happy without any sex. What should he do? Many of his friends tell him to play away. He isn't moving to be with her because of his work and doesn't want to divorce but he needs what he's not getting. She insists on fidelity. So he's pissed off! Where in the moral maze does he stand, my friends?"

Up to them to sort it out really.

But if he respects her he won't lie to her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The reason people are so put off by it is because it isn't harmless, many have been on the receiving end of a partner who was unfaithful and it isn't harmless I have seen the hurt it can cause people.

But for us. It's all about the drama, we don't want your wife turning up at our door causing shit because you came to our house and cheated on her even if we didn't know you were married and playing away. But we would be complicit if we did know so could only blame ourselves.

And for me personally if you can't respect your wife then how can you respect me as a playmate. I can't see that you would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely divorce and remain friends

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

In my opinion its unfair for either partner to insist that initial expectations of fidelity are adhered to when they are not for one reason or another prepared or able to adhere to the expectation that the relationship will be sexual. The problem is that loads of people can't be honest with each other.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You're not seriously asking that are you,I haven't read any replies?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time. "

why not...she is.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Is she your wife or your girlfriend? lies lies lies oh dear...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is."

Because he has chosen to let her do that and stay with her. His choice. We all make choices on what we will put up with.. he wants to let his wife up sticks and move hours away but won't join her because of work then that is his choice. She chose to go. He has chosen to stick with her inspite of her choices. If he tells her he is going to sleep with other people then she has the choice to put up with it or change or leave. It is pretty simple really. Don't lie because you don't have the balls to deal with the consequences of your desires.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Do you know why this thread naff's me off (I'm restraining myself here) is the fact you're seriously asking the question in the first place. Go and ask your girlfriend/wife that same question then pop back and let me know what she says if you will...then we'll discuss it further shall we!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is.

he's not lying as far as I can see. His friends have advised him to go elsewhere for sex but he hasn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What she doesn't know won't hurt her. Make sure she doesn't find out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

So let's say you have a bj off a lovely lady and catch an sti. How do you explain it to the woman who is so blissfully unaware you've been cheating on her?

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By *ackett1962Man over a year ago

harrow

What would happen if his wife had a profile on here and he saw it????

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

So let's say you have a bj off a lovely lady and catch an sti. How do you explain it to the woman who is so blissfully unaware you've been cheating on her?"

its fie because apparently what she doesn't know wont hurt her so if she doesn't know he has an STI she can't catch it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*pops in for quick look, see the same ole same ole is being discussed, pops back out again*

OP, these type of threads split the forum regulars into those who always comment & those who abstain, make of that as you will.

Or do what others do and crack on regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

So let's say you have a bj off a lovely lady and catch an sti. How do you explain it to the woman who is so blissfully unaware you've been cheating on her?

its fie because apparently what she doesn't know wont hurt her so if she doesn't know he has an STI she can't catch it

scary thing is sti's such as chlamydia can lay in your body for years woth my visable affects at all

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By *aulus_6000Man over a year ago

Manchester

Can be the other way around. I've had the phone calls from wives because my wife was fucking with their husband. The difference is my wife always told me - well most of the time any way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting with all the varied comments. If everyone is being honest with each other I can't see the issue. However, if not then it's a different story. My tuppence worth, is that sometimes people (m or f) go off sex for lots of different reasons but want a non sexual relationship to continue, again for lots of reasons (kids etc) and won't go for divorce etc. If they agree that you can see others for sex and are happy, then what's the issue? I will now go and get my bullet proof jacket... But hey we are adults

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By *old200Man over a year ago

Congleton

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x "

You gotta be honest from the start mate.

Married men playing away fuck it up for genuine single guys i've found. couples and single ladies first thought is, is this guy playing away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is.

he's not lying as far as I can see. His friends have advised him to go elsewhere for sex but he hasn't. "

The question was a hypothetical, where would he stand morally if he did cheat under those circumstances. That is where the hypothetical lies came in. Because he knows she wouldn't be happy already.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

True, fair comment

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is.

he's not lying as far as I can see. His friends have advised him to go elsewhere for sex but he hasn't.

The question was a hypothetical, where would he stand morally if he did cheat under those circumstances. That is where the hypothetical lies came in. Because he knows she wouldn't be happy already. "

My interpretation of the question is should he cheat or not mainly because it says in the text "what should he do?" Personally I think they're both lost in the moral maze.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

He doesn't want to move and he doesn't want a divorce... so he chose his path which is to stick with his wife. So he should do that and respect her. We can't all have everything we want all the time.

why not...she is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

So let's say you have a bj off a lovely lady and catch an sti. How do you explain it to the woman who is so blissfully unaware you've been cheating on her?

its fie because apparently what she doesn't know wont hurt her so if she doesn't know he has an STI she can't catch it

scary thing is sti's such as chlamydia can lay in your body for years woth my visable affects at all

Exactly.

I've pressed several married guys on the subject of testing and been told the have never. Head in the sand syndrome.

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By *uck princess and himCouple over a year ago

washington

Single guys all the way

You'd be okay if a single guy did that?"

Your comment makes no sence, I'd be ok of a single guy come on here and did that to me because I fucked his....?

My point being, a female or male finding out their partner has been with someone else where there's pictures that are quite easy to take a screen shot of is much more risky compared to a single guy with no partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a married man and I'm on here without the wife knowing. I've had 2 meets now.

All I here is: it's just nsa fun,harmless, it's just sex.

So why are so many here disgusted with idea of going behind a partners back.

Love to hear your feedback.

Thanks x

You gotta be honest from the start mate.

Married men playing away fuck it up for genuine single guys i've found. couples and single ladies first thought is, is this guy playing away. "

It's the not the 1st thought on my mind or on quite a lot of others either when you look at the veri's the "successful" married men have on here. The difference is they don't feel the need to justify their actions in forums, they just get on with it.

And as an FYI only you can *fuck* things up, don't lay the blame at others doors.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He's done the right thing and left The site

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"He's done the right thing and left The site "

he's just deleted this profile. He'll be back but knows to keep his marital status quiet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He's done the right thing and left The site

he's just deleted this profile. He'll be back but knows to keep his marital status quiet."

Which forms part of the forum viscious circle....

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