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Can you accomodate?
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Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.
I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?
You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?
Men: put yourselves in our position.
How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?
How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?
The list goes on.
It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).
I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.
Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.
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That's your way of doing thing's,other's have theirs . I do accommodate at times,generally after we've been speaking for a certain amount of time,if something doesn't feel right then I know not to meet them fullstop. Meeting at a pub first is alway's a good way to go first though. |
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The first time I went to a couples house I was convinced I wasn't gonna come out in one piece but I'd told a friend where I was going and texted a code word after to say I was ok and then after that I was fine.
Damned vivid imagination   |
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"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.
I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?
You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?
Men: put yourselves in our position.
How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?
How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?
The list goes on.
It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).
I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.
Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.
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This has nothing to do with you doing what's right for you....only that so many men assume I'm willing to accomodate an unknown stranger. THINK. There may be reasons I won't. |
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over a year ago
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Same with guys who offer to take me dogging
Like as if I'm going to get in your car and let you drive me I to the middle of nowhere
And some guys genuinely don't see your issue |
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over a year ago
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First question I ask is do you accommodate. If they don't then there's no point talking any more. I'm at as much risk going to a man's house as I am him coming to me,although he wouldn't be able to pop back unannounced when he felt like it. |
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over a year ago
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"I had some young chap approach me recently, basically looking for a place where he could shag a young woman he'd found.
I'm like, um... no. "
But,you could have watched  |
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"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.
I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?
You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?
Men: put yourselves in our position.
How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?
How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?
The list goes on.
It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).
I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.
Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.
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My sentiment exactly. |
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over a year ago
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this is where ive changed - when i had single fem account i had guys here at home- not sure i would now unless i had met them a few times - the more i get into fab the more wary i get - have to say my frame of mind wasnt in a good place back then and now im thinking much more sanely and logically (well that might be up for debate  ) |
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over a year ago
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I've done a thread before about the dangers of going to strangers houses.
I was suprised at how many said they didn't have an issue with it and have done it many times and never had a problem?
I personally think your asking for trouble .
But each to their own n all that  |
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over a year ago
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Bad things can happen at your house. At their house. At a hotel room (speaking from experience!).
Remember that couple that got murdered abroad somewhere - Antigua? In a hotel room?
Even in clubs I read quite a few fairly horrific stories. Guys managing to fuck women without permission I've read quite a few times.
You do what you feel comfortable with.
I used to go to guys houses constantly or invite them to mine when I was single. Different guys every week.
These days I'm much more picky.  |
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"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.
I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?
You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?
Men: put yourselves in our position.
How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?
How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?
The list goes on.
It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).
I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.
Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.
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Totally agree with all you say.
No way do I ever let a guy from fab near my home!! Fab life has to be separate from everyday life. I wouldn't even go to anyone's home. |
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over a year ago
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I never ask and always wait for an invite. I can sometimes accom but i would need to trust that person before i do.
There are always otherways not including cars, bus shelters ha ha
If two people connect they will always find a way |
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over a year ago
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"I can't due to son being here
Same here XXX
Son and his mate at mine. They work different shifts too. "
My son came home when I was in bed naked having sex with my FWB, was a bit embarrassing, now son thinks FWB is my boyfriend! Lol xxx |
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over a year ago
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If anything's going to happen to .male /female it's going to happen anywhere you go if that's what they have planed ..me .I have people at mine's when I can
After iv told a friend who they are time there comeing at .and send there pic so if anything happens then at least they would get caught .happy fabbing  |
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By the time its arranged for people to come to your home you should A: have a phone number, B: Car registration, make, model and colour, C: take photographs at available opportunities, D: Clothing fibres, DNA, etc will be left. E: the site has IP address, verifications from others ...... list goes on - its safer than meeting strangers in a pub !! |
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"I've done a thread before about the dangers of going to strangers houses.
I was suprised at how many said they didn't have an issue with it and have done it many times and never had a problem?
I personally think your asking for trouble .
But each to their own n all that "
Asking for trouble?! Are you just talking about when you first meet someone or still after you've had a social and you've got a feel for them. I understand what you're saying,but you can't live in constant fear otherwise you're probably best not being on here. As someone has already said you can be attacked anywhere. |
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I don't invite anyone into my home who won't accommodate me in theirs.
I'm much bigger than my playmates and I have restraints, brackets, harnesses etc. My playmates have to feel comfortable with me and trust I wont hurt/rob them.
I think people are naive if they think hotels are safe. I've read on the forums of women turning up for a hotel meet to be met by several men she didn't know as her meet had arranged a paid gangbang!
It's about using common sense, judgement and basic gut feeling. If you're going to get yourself in a tiswas assuming every meet is a potential black widow/mad axeman stay at home with a good box set! |
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