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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?"
I don't know the answer for anyone else but it hasn't happened to us yet .
Emotions are for each other , sex with others is about fun and definately not emotional baggage . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved? "
Yes.. Because sex is just a physical act. Emotions don't come into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?"
Emotions never become involved with me. I have a husband where all my emotional needs are taken care of. So it's completely possible to have a completely sexual relationship with someone. I have a regular guy...we meet, we have sex. We chat about mundane stuff. We have a laugh. We go our separate ways until next time. No emotions, no ties. I insist on things being that way. Keeps it simple and Drama free. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?
Emotions never become involved with me. I have a husband where all my emotional needs are taken care of. So it's completely possible to have a completely sexual relationship with someone. I have a regular guy...we meet, we have sex. We chat about mundane stuff. We have a laugh. We go our separate ways until next time. No emotions, no ties. I insist on things being that way. Keeps it simple and Drama free."
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?"
I think it is easier for couples, since (in the main) their emotional needs are already being met.
With singles I imagine it depends on the person, and their situation, but there will be no answer which fits everyone. Just like most subjects.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?
I think it is easier for couples, since (in the main) their emotional needs are already being met.
With singles I imagine it depends on the person, and their situation, but there will be no answer which fits everyone. Just like most subjects.
Mr ddc"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved?
The person who asked this is a registered member of a swingers site...."
You Must be new here.... The forums are a social experiment. These questions are quite common..
Ohh to answer your question OP... The answer is no... If you have sex with me you're mine.
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved?
The person who asked this is a registered member of a swingers site....
You Must be new here.... The forums are a social experiment. These questions are quite common..
Ohh to answer your question OP... The answer is no... If you have sex with me you're mine.
I roll like a caveman "
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment"
I get enjoyment from cake, chocolate and reading. But I will never form an emotional attachment to them. Understanding the pleasure one receives from sex is just the same is fundamental to understanding swinging.
One also needs to understand there is a difference between having sex and making love. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I get enjoyment from cake, chocolate and reading. But I will never form an emotional attachment to them. Understanding the pleasure one receives from sex is just the same is fundamental to understanding swinging.
One also needs to understand there is a difference between having sex and making love."
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Yes.
I have a few people I fuck I now consider mates. We chat, we laugh, we introduce each other to other people we think they'd like to fuck and we fuck. In that sense emotions are involved but they're kept in separate compartments. Platonic and sexual but still with no strings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment"
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clearly yes.....or this site would be empty!"
Not sure it is that simple, one off sex I think we all get, but meeting someone both alone and with others on a more regular basis, does it lead to emotional attachment? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I have a few people I fuck I now consider mates. We chat, we laugh, we introduce each other to other people we think they'd like to fuck and we fuck. In that sense emotions are involved but they're kept in separate compartments. Platonic and sexual but still with no strings."
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"Yes.
I have a few people I fuck I now consider mates. We chat, we laugh, we introduce each other to other people we think they'd like to fuck and we fuck. In that sense emotions are involved but they're kept in separate compartments. Platonic and sexual but still with no strings."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Clearly yes.....or this site would be empty!
Not sure it is that simple, one off sex I think we all get, but meeting someone both alone and with others on a more regular basis, does it lead to emotional attachment?"
With some it does, as a few people on here have got together and got married or are planning on getting married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?
I think it is easier for couples, since (in the main) their emotional needs are already being met.
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It's pretty easy to have a one off meet without any emotion, but why would you even want regular meets with someone you didn't at least like! There's a long way between like and love, but it can get confusing for some people. Particularly if you believe you can love multiple partners...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes.
I have a few people I fuck I now consider mates. We chat, we laugh, we introduce each other to other people we think they'd like to fuck and we fuck. In that sense emotions are involved but they're kept in separate compartments. Platonic and sexual but still with no strings."
Exactly this....I have a few ladies I consider to be friends now but also we have sex. That includes my best friend. But none of us consider it a "relationship" as such.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?
I think it is easier for couples, since (in the main) their emotional needs are already being met.
It's pretty easy to have a one off meet without any emotion, but why would you even want regular meets with someone you didn't at least like! There's a long way between like and love, but it can get confusing for some people. Particularly if you believe you can love multiple partners...
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Why would you want to meet regularly ?
To experiment and fulfill more fantasies . To have different types of meet , all sorts of reasons .
Liking someone doesn't need to be an emotional tie , we've had multiple meets with lots of people and they've left the scene , or we've become bored of them and vice versa , and don't give it a second thought .
The thought of loving multiple partners has never crossed our mind to be honest .
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either"
I suppose the definition varies person to person.
Personally I need to feel some connection to anything that I do otherwise I switch off and just go thru the motions.
I'm not an emotional person but what I need to feel towards a lady sexually definitely isn't love but I need a deeper connection than just physical attraction. Without it sex just becomes sticking my dick in a Vagina and it just becomes nothing more than a notch on the bedpost. I like to feel something more, something to remember. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either
I suppose the definition varies person to person.
Personally I need to feel some connection to anything that I do otherwise I switch off and just go thru the motions.
I'm not an emotional person but what I need to feel towards a lady sexually definitely isn't love but I need a deeper connection than just physical attraction. Without it sex just becomes sticking my dick in a Vagina and it just becomes nothing more than a notch on the bedpost. I like to feel something more, something to remember."
Well try going bareback with all your meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either
I suppose the definition varies person to person.
Personally I need to feel some connection to anything that I do otherwise I switch off and just go thru the motions.
I'm not an emotional person but what I need to feel towards a lady sexually definitely isn't love but I need a deeper connection than just physical attraction. Without it sex just becomes sticking my dick in a Vagina and it just becomes nothing more than a notch on the bedpost. I like to feel something more, something to remember."
I guess I'm able to make a distinction between sexual connection and emotional involvement. The 2 to me are completely different things. |
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"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved? "
Depends on what kind of emotions we're talking about I guess. There are emotions driving just about everything we ever do, otherwise we just wouldn't bother doing anything.
If sex didn't involve some sort of emotions then we'd just stick with wanking. You're being intimate with someone. How could you do it and what would the point in doing it be if there wasn't emotions involved? Obviously you don't need to get all deep and meaningful emotionally. It doesn't have to get all lovey dovey and possessive and all that cobblers but there has to be some emotions swilling around there somewhere...unless you're a zombie or something. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
NW London |
"I've never liked the term nsa because I feel that there have to be some emotional connection for it to be meaningful and fulfilling, otherwise sex is just intercourse just robotic and mechanical. But feelings I don't mean love or a deep emotional connection but enough to feel lust and to care enough about the other person(s) to want to give them pleasure and fulfilment
I disagree. Sex has to involve lots of orgasms to be fulfilling and i need no meaningful connection for that....and I've never had mechanical sex either
I suppose the definition varies person to person.
Personally I need to feel some connection to anything that I do otherwise I switch off and just go thru the motions.
I'm not an emotional person but what I need to feel towards a lady sexually definitely isn't love but I need a deeper connection than just physical attraction. Without it sex just becomes sticking my dick in a Vagina and it just becomes nothing more than a notch on the bedpost. I like to feel something more, something to remember.
I guess I'm able to make a distinction between sexual connection and emotional involvement. The 2 to me are completely different things."
That is sort of what I meant. There's a difference in what you feel towards someone you are in a relationship with and the sexual connection. A difference between being in lust and being in love.
All my point was is that I think there needs to be a connection beyond physical attraction for sex to be fulfilling, not a long term emotional involvement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it is.
Why get attached to someone you're fucking? It makes no sense.
Get attached to people who genuinely care for you and have your best interests at heart, not users. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At what point do emotions get involved? Or is it possible to have a sexual relationship free of emotional baggage?
I think it is easier for couples, since (in the main) their emotional needs are already being met.
It's pretty easy to have a one off meet without any emotion, but why would you even want regular meets with someone you didn't at least like! There's a long way between like and love, but it can get confusing for some people. Particularly if you believe you can love multiple partners...
Why would you want to meet regularly ?
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Because there's inevitably a bit of trial and error with a new partner and we find the sex is much better on the second and third meet.
Like most computer games but films not so much |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I've had fuck buddy arrangements throughout my life - purely sexual.
One person in particular I saw for 3 years and beyond a bloody good session once a week there was NO other contact."
That's the way it should be!  |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved?
The person who asked this is a registered member of a swingers site...."
Exactly my thinking! Doesn’t sound as though he has really understood swinging does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our opinion is there is always emotion involved.
The trouble is guys confuse a mild level of affection with something much deeper. I could never fuck a guy without at least some appreciation of his personality
But love??? Be serious. Lol
That is reserved for my husband not some guy I meet and fuck on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it possible to have a sexual relationship with someone without emotions becoming involved?
Yes.
Next....
Easier for men than women??"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends which emotions you are talking about. If you mean sex with out love, then yes.. If you mean sex without any emotions then I'd say no and you must be a cyborg.... and seriously feckin boring! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it really depends why your involved in this game. I personally don't bring emotions to the table anyway, just in this case I don't have to fake having them. Emotions are hard to define, I feel personally it's something some people look for too hard and get lust mixed up with other things. Even more if your having good sex but again that's jut my opinion so I could be wrong in many people's opions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I definitely want some chemistry and a level of connection and friendship if it becomes a regular meet kind of thing and some respect along with that...but this is the wrong place to look for love although it seems some people find it here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I definitely want some chemistry and a level of connection and friendship if it becomes a regular meet kind of thing and some respect along with that...but this is the wrong place to look for love although it seems some people find it here! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have no emotions, then your sociopathic. Emotions are there if your functioning normally. Separating them is the key "
didn't say I have no emotions, haha just said I don't have to fake having them. And "normal" is a strange term.
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