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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? |
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I think for me it depends how they respond to a message..if it's a one word answer from a couple then I insist as it's probably just the male getting his kicks..if it's a single female I'll hold off for a bit as I know she'd be swamped by males. But again if the profile looks suspect I would insist from the get go as we all know time is precious |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
I point blank refuse phone chat. If people can't make their mind up from my profile and veris (on my single profile) and insist on a phone chat the meet won't happen. Enough people know me on the NW scene to know I'm genuine. Don't see why I have to prove who I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
If meeting my wife she'd refuse.
I don't mind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I were a man I think I probably would, I would also understand if someone wanted to speak to me first as well  "
common sense and if you have nothing to hide its common decency just to say hello |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now."
sounds like he's not keen either lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.
sounds like he's not keen either lol "
all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's my preference but I still had a bloody awful meet with a guy who sounded ok on the phone. So it doesn't out all the oddballs.
So I've gone to phone call plus social. May seem OTT to some but as a single female I want to be safe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't. If someone insisted, I'd tell them to get lost. Contact via Fab is good enough for me. "
Totally agree with this we never do phone chats,fab is how we organise meets if people aren't happy with that tough although respect that's how they do things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
We don't .
We won't .
Like it or lump it , no skin off our nose  |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.
sounds like he's not keen either lol
all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation. "
yes that must be hard work lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i don't insist on anything. I take each potential meet as a completely different thing to the last. Sometimes there is a need for a chat beforehand sometimes there is the desire for a chat beforehand sometimes there is neither. It really is individual scenario dependent. I'm flexible like that  |
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
I don't insist on anything... But if it's a 1-2-1 then most people I know want to match a voice to a face...
I do always say they will be getting a call from my voice guy though...
As I look nothing like I sound... If that makes sense... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face "
I suppose everyone is different and you have to come to a compromise sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.
sounds like he's not keen either lol
all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation. "
He just likes phone text sex. I'd block his number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like phone calls either. I would meet in a pub beforehand or in a swinging club if they are members.
I don't do anything I don't want to, so if anyone insisted I would simply say no. If it was important to them and they wouldn't meet unless this phone call happened then we don't meet. It's only a hobby, it's not overly that important to me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
We don't .
We won't .
Like it or lump it , no skin off our nose "
yeah there queuing up down the road on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone insisting on a phone call would put me right off, we're easily contactable on here, happy to use Kik, have a few veris, and I don't really see what a phone call establishes. If they really wanted to talk might agree to a brief Skype if it was someone we'd really wanted to meet. But then I'm not a fan of chatting on the phone generally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.
i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.
sounds like he's not keen either lol
all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation.
yes that must be hard work lol "
it's crap mainly because he's supposed to be wanting a relationship with me but it's obvious he only wants sex. |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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"I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face
I suppose everyone is different and you have to come to a compromise sometimes "
Thats why I meet socially beforehand. At least that way you get to meet potential people rather than a voice |
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
i would not meet them... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand a man might want to if meeting a couple (to make sure it is a couple! ) but I don't like to speak on the phone. Kik is better for us, we send pics and videos on there to show we're real. |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it. |
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
It's a tough one, if the woman or couple are genuine I guess they would feel like you don't trust them but I've had a situation where I've been messaging and let's say become suspicious that something's not right so I've asked to chat to the lady or even that the lady leaves a voice message if she is shy(you don't tend to hear again) |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it."
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it."
agreed genuine people are hard to find these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer a social meet first . plenty of coffee shops in public places. I might even buy you a nice cake.
Lemon drizzle ? "
Why not let's throw caution to the wind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never spoken on the phone to anybody I have met off here
I get asked for my number all the time but I never give it out
I does not seem to make a difference I still manage to get meets, some guys are put off by the fact I won't give them my number but if they decide to not meet me because of this as they say there are plenty more fish in the sea and easily replaced |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't. If someone insisted, I'd tell them to get lost. Contact via Fab is good enough for me. "
I feel the same
When I'm off fab I'm off fab, I don't want people from here contacting me when I'm doing my every day things, guys texting me while I'm at work would irritate me enormously |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else."
agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway? "
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to"
so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time? "
It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?
It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. "
well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?
It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework "
I do my homework...just differently to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?
Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?
It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework
I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity? "
I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!
Do you do voices for sat navs? "
Funny you say that. I do. Well I have done in the past!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!
Do you do voices for sat navs?
Funny you say that. I do. Well I have done in the past!!! "
Really?! Wow! Do you do different voices?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" so you could ping pong messages back and forth and never meet? What's the point in that? Surely there's better things to do in life?  "
I don't really see why my way of doing things is coming under such scrutiny. Like i said, it clearly doesn't fit the way you do things so it isn't something you need to worry your head over. |
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By *andp01Couple
over a year ago
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "
We only meet cpl's and always insist on a G/G phone chat, strangely 99% go silent, don't refuse but just don't chat any more. If someone refused we wouldn't meet them. There's way too many fakes on here to keep going out to meet and risk them not turning up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?
We only meet cpl's and always insist on a G/G phone chat, strangely 99% go silent, don't refuse but just don't chat any more. If someone refused we wouldn't meet them. There's way too many fakes on here to keep going out to meet and risk them not turning up"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate talking on the phone. Would rather a face to face chat. "
well obviously don't that happen after you've spoke on the phone or made some brief form of contact? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate talking on the phone. Would rather a face to face chat. well obviously don't that happen after you've spoke on the phone or made some brief form of contact? "
Skype. Still face to face. |
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