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Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do?? |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??"
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here. |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??"
Tell him you are very comfortable being naked as you were born that way ... never heard anything like it and nothing we would do. Mr has one to one meets with males on his single account and they both get naked (so the rumour goes) but I don't think that is what you are getting at. Maybe tell him yuk don't believe his wife would feel comfortable getting naked so she's going to have to come to yours alone first just so you can check .... |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here."
Sounds to me like he is thinking with his big brain. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here."
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking. |
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Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site.  |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking. "
Because you're even asking? Ask a stupid question and expect a stupid reply. |
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"Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site. "
I'm not being told not to go along with it, I had chosen not to go along with it. I'm just asking if there's couples that do actually do this, im not in a couple so I'm unsure. To me it didn't add up, but I'm pretty sure there's a lot of things they wouldn't add up to me either. It was just a topic to discuss...not tell me what decision to make because it's already been made |
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"Not normal, no.
Not normal but we're willing to try
Haha who wants to be normal ay"
If your sixth sense doesn't tell you there is something well dodgy about the whole scenario maybe you should rethink your approach on here  |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here."
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking.
Because you're even asking? Ask a stupid question and expect a stupid reply."
We'll the main thing I was wondering is there was couples that actually done that and to just to highlight it to others that may talk to this 'couple' aswell |
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No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ?? |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking.
Because you're even asking? Ask a stupid question and expect a stupid reply.
We'll the main thing I was wondering is there was couples that actually done that and to just to highlight it to others that may talk to this 'couple' aswell"
Best thing to do is report and block... And move on |
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"Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site.
I'm not being told not to go along with it, I had chosen not to go along with it. I'm just asking if there's couples that do actually do this, im not in a couple so I'm unsure. To me it didn't add up, but I'm pretty sure there's a lot of things they wouldn't add up to me either. It was just a topic to discuss...not tell me what decision to make because it's already been made"
Even though some couples are 'up themselves' they are not a race apart, OP. Its unlikely they would do anything so ridiculous so you can judge other people's behaviour by your own standards and expectations even if they are in a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not normal, no.
Not normal but we're willing to try
Haha who wants to be normal ay
If your sixth sense doesn't tell you there is something well dodgy about the whole scenario maybe you should rethink your approach on here "
My sixth sence was going wild, like I said, I offered alternative ways, ask questions on the situation but it didn't make sence so I declined. But as this was the 1st contact of a couple to go this far I was just curious if any couples have a set up like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site.
I'm not being told not to go along with it, I had chosen not to go along with it. I'm just asking if there's couples that do actually do this, im not in a couple so I'm unsure. To me it didn't add up, but I'm pretty sure there's a lot of things they wouldn't add up to me either. It was just a topic to discuss...not tell me what decision to make because it's already been made
Even though some couples are 'up themselves' they are not a race apart, OP. Its unlikely they would do anything so ridiculous so you can judge other people's behaviour by your own standards and expectations even if they are in a couple. "
I guess this was my point. You made the decision, fair enough, but the very need to ask is what surprises me. And I don't mean only you, this is not the first or last question in the forums where I will slap my hand to my forehead. I've spoken to guys who have actually followed-through with this type of request. It just shocks me a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ?? "
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life |
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Answering your question OP, no that's not normal in our opinion and yes you have dodged a bullet we think. Also, just a little extra info for you, not all couples on this site are the same and fortunately most would show respect and choose to answer your question with a sensible answer as opposed to being a total arse and jumping straight down your throat for absolutely no reason! I very much doubt that you would recieve the same attitude from certain individuals if you were face to face with them! But unfortunately these idiots do exist 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site.
I'm not being told not to go along with it, I had chosen not to go along with it. I'm just asking if there's couples that do actually do this, im not in a couple so I'm unsure. To me it didn't add up, but I'm pretty sure there's a lot of things they wouldn't add up to me either. It was just a topic to discuss...not tell me what decision to make because it's already been made
Even though some couples are 'up themselves' they are not a race apart, OP. Its unlikely they would do anything so ridiculous so you can judge other people's behaviour by your own standards and expectations even if they are in a couple.
I guess this was my point. You made the decision, fair enough, but the very need to ask is what surprises me. And I don't mean only you, this is not the first or last question in the forums where I will slap my hand to my forehead. I've spoken to guys who have actually followed-through with this type of request. It just shocks me a bit. "
Yeah I get what your saying, but surely me bringing it up might give someone who would go through with it anyway more awareness |
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ??
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life"
There is an assumption here, though, OP, that the couples who 'live that life' are different from any other couple ... are they/we? I don't think you could tell us apart from any random couple in the street. I would also tell you this to your face .... I hope you dont think I am one of the ones jumping down your throat, just that I think your idea that 'couples who swing' are a little weird may have partly got you into this way of thinking/doubting yourself or them |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking.
Because you're even asking? Ask a stupid question and expect a stupid reply.
We'll the main thing I was wondering is there was couples that actually done that and to just to highlight it to others that may talk to this 'couple' aswell"
Couples are two people. They really are not in general strange aliens.
As your big brain told you, your "couple" was a man wanting sex with you.
You cannot warn people off, as you cannot name and shame.
Who knows? There might be a man with the intelligence of a fish who might fall for it. It wasn't you. |
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"Answering your question OP, no that's not normal in our opinion and yes you have dodged a bullet we think. Also, just a little extra info for you, not all couples on this site are the same and fortunately most would show respect and choose to answer your question with a sensible answer as opposed to being a total arse and jumping straight down your throat for absolutely no reason! I very much doubt that you would recieve the same attitude from certain individuals if you were face to face with them! But unfortunately these idiots do exist
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I guess I've been a total arse, then. But I do think people using the Internet for sex should be a tad less naive. I'm doubling down on my arsishness.  |
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"Not to be rude, OP, but do people really need to be told not to go along with this type of thing? Even on the off-chance that this is really a couple, why would you even entertain these sorts of people?
I feel like people should read a guide to using the Internet before using this site.
I'm not being told not to go along with it, I had chosen not to go along with it. I'm just asking if there's couples that do actually do this, im not in a couple so I'm unsure. To me it didn't add up, but I'm pretty sure there's a lot of things they wouldn't add up to me either. It was just a topic to discuss...not tell me what decision to make because it's already been made
Even though some couples are 'up themselves' they are not a race apart, OP. Its unlikely they would do anything so ridiculous so you can judge other people's behaviour by your own standards and expectations even if they are in a couple.
I guess this was my point. You made the decision, fair enough, but the very need to ask is what surprises me. And I don't mean only you, this is not the first or last question in the forums where I will slap my hand to my forehead. I've spoken to guys who have actually followed-through with this type of request. It just shocks me a bit.
Yeah I get what your saying, but surely me bringing it up might give someone who would go through with it anyway more awareness "
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??"
Do you really need others to confirm what you already know?
If something doesn't feel right don't do it,you don't need others to tell you.you are a grown man. |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Do you really need others to confirm what you already know?
If something doesn't feel right don't do it,you don't need others to tell you.you are a grown man."
I think he missed out on a good game of tummy sticks... |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??"
This seems legit
I mean it's only normal for two guys to hangout naked. So they can have sex with a girl later.  |
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ??
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life
There is an assumption here, though, OP, that the couples who 'live that life' are different from any other couple ... are they/we? I don't think you could tell us apart from any random couple in the street. I would also tell you this to your face .... I hope you dont think I am one of the ones jumping down your throat, just that I think your idea that 'couples who swing' are a little weird may have partly got you into this way of thinking/doubting yourself or them"
No no not at all, ive spoke to a few a couples who live far away who haven't given me any sort of weird vibe to think any different way of them. This is 1st time I've spoke about meeting tho, im still fairly new to this so living and learning. I just thought it would be better to ask then assume, I don't think couples are weird on here at all. |
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ??
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life"
Well as Mrs p4k is a genuine bi fem seeking girls we kinda think its the best approach for us so the girls are confident its not just a male forced approach that you hear about so much, that plus Mrs p4k is an absolute outrageous flirt and is very alluring when she finds a girl she likes, im akways around for her safety of course but this dynamic has always worked for us and has been 100% effective |
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ??
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life
There is an assumption here, though, OP, that the couples who 'live that life' are different from any other couple ... are they/we? I don't think you could tell us apart from any random couple in the street. I would also tell you this to your face .... I hope you dont think I am one of the ones jumping down your throat, just that I think your idea that 'couples who swing' are a little weird may have partly got you into this way of thinking/doubting yourself or them
No no not at all, ive spoke to a few a couples who live far away who haven't given me any sort of weird vibe to think any different way of them. This is 1st time I've spoke about meeting tho, im still fairly new to this so living and learning. I just thought it would be better to ask then assume, I don't think couples are weird on here at all. "
The problem you will find is that if you ask you're damned and if you don't ask...guess what you're damned  . Some couples do have various hoops they require a single man to jump through and I'd advise you to avoid them because it's a sign that they don't see you as an equal. Men will often ask to meet you alone first (even couples) to check that you're suitable for their partner and I would say that this is never, ever genuine, if the woman isn't included every step of the way she either doesn't know, doesn't want to be involved or doesn't exist.
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"No this is not normal, we arrange for the girls only to meet socially wine/coffee ect in a mutual public place to make sure there is chemistry and that the girl is a 100% comfy and feels safe and confident enough prior to a play date.
To answer your question, would you consider it acceptable for a guy in a couple to meet the woman on his own and get her naked to check "nerves" ??
Me personally if I was in a couple I'd go with my partner to the meet. But I'm not in a couple and never have been...that's why I'm asking the opinions of couples who live that life
There is an assumption here, though, OP, that the couples who 'live that life' are different from any other couple ... are they/we? I don't think you could tell us apart from any random couple in the street. I would also tell you this to your face .... I hope you dont think I am one of the ones jumping down your throat, just that I think your idea that 'couples who swing' are a little weird may have partly got you into this way of thinking/doubting yourself or them
No no not at all, ive spoke to a few a couples who live far away who haven't given me any sort of weird vibe to think any different way of them. This is 1st time I've spoke about meeting tho, im still fairly new to this so living and learning. I just thought it would be better to ask then assume, I don't think couples are weird on here at all.
The problem you will find is that if you ask you're damned and if you don't ask...guess what you're damned . Some couples do have various hoops they require a single man to jump through and I'd advise you to avoid them because it's a sign that they don't see you as an equal. Men will often ask to meet you alone first (even couples) to check that you're suitable for their partner and I would say that this is never, ever genuine, if the woman isn't included every step of the way she either doesn't know, doesn't want to be involved or doesn't exist.
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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I know a guy who fell for this. Arranged to go to the house of a 'couple', having never spoken to the lady. Got there, only man was there - lady was apparently 'late getting home from work'. Man says "we may as well get naked and watch some porn while we wait for her".... needless to say, she never showed. Some people really are so naïve. |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
Sounds to me like he is thinking with his big brain. "
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"I know a guy who fell for this. Arranged to go to the house of a 'couple', having never spoken to the lady. Got there, only man was there - lady was apparently 'late getting home from work'. Man says "we may as well get naked and watch some porn while we wait for her".... needless to say, she never showed. Some people really are so naïve."
That happened to him too |
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"I know a guy who fell for this. Arranged to go to the house of a 'couple', having never spoken to the lady. Got there, only man was there - lady was apparently 'late getting home from work'. Man says "we may as well get naked and watch some porn while we wait for her".... needless to say, she never showed. Some people really are so naïve.
That happened to him too "
Who's him? Because it wasn't me |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??"
We can only speak for ourselves but would suggest if only the male was going to meet you he was possibly single.
We would think a couple may ask to meet for a drink first in a public venue but both would be there not just the male |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
We can only speak for ourselves but would suggest if only the male was going to meet you he was possibly single.
We would think a couple may ask to meet for a drink first in a public venue but both would be there not just the male"
Yeah that was my trail of thought...and that I don't need to be put through some test on basically a blind meet. I'm no fool lol |
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Definitely not something a couple would do that I believe?! Social meet with both of them would be the way to see if female in to you etc..... Don't understand why he would need to see if you are comfortable naked!!
Think you dodged a very wierd bullet there!
We have had issues the same only the male available to be spoken to as female is walking the dog or shopping or washing her hair! HA! Block button happens soon after as you know she doesn't exist!
Stick with it there are some of us who are genuine
Jayne xx |
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"Definitely not something a couple would do that I believe?! Social meet with both of them would be the way to see if female in to you etc..... Don't understand why he would need to see if you are comfortable naked!!
Think you dodged a very wierd bullet there!
We have had issues the same only the male available to be spoken to as female is walking the dog or shopping or washing her hair! HA! Block button happens soon after as you know she doesn't exist!
Stick with it there are some of us who are genuine
Jayne xx "
I have faith in the legit people x
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id like to think we are a normal couple in the play stakes and no we have never heard or asked to meet one person to see if theyre comfy about being naked - |
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"id like to think we are a normal couple in the play stakes and no we have never heard or asked to meet one person to see if theyre comfy about being naked - "
I'd like to think most coupled on here are pretty normals...there's obviously just odd few fruity loops |
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"Ok so this morning got chatting to a couple, all seemed fine, general chat getting to know 1 another. They told me what they was looking for etc, now I asked for pics, they sent some with no faces showing saying they don't show faces because of bad experiences, fair enough
So we've spoke on the phone (male half) about meeting up for a social, they do accomm but 1st he would like to come to my place to see if im comfortable with being naked....
I said I'm very comfortable with being naked but would like to meet in a public place 1st off, covering my own back like they was as I'm yet too see anything of female half. This seemed to hit a dead end there as there was no compromise, I mean I have veris and pictures they can vouch for me aswell...did I make the right call in playing it safe or is this a thing couples tend to do??
Have you considered thinking with your big brain? The small one in your pants is not relevant here.
We'll I obviously thought with my big brain as it didn't happen, kind of stupid reply is that.
This was my 1st encounter with a 'couple' so I'm just asking. "
This is definitely not normal - we are very picky but wouldn't contemplate anything like that - lucky escape if you ask me |
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"I know a guy who fell for this. Arranged to go to the house of a 'couple', having never spoken to the lady. Got there, only man was there - lady was apparently 'late getting home from work'. Man says "we may as well get naked and watch some porn while we wait for her".... needless to say, she never showed. Some people really are so naïve."
This made me laugh!!!! Hahaha
Not naive, more stupid like!! Some people don't seem to realise the brain in their head is for free and not pay-as-you-think!!
That made my evening.. |
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"I know a guy who fell for this. Arranged to go to the house of a 'couple', having never spoken to the lady. Got there, only man was there - lady was apparently 'late getting home from work'. Man says "we may as well get naked and watch some porn while we wait for her".... needless to say, she never showed. Some people really are so naïve.
This made me laugh!!!! Hahaha
Not naive, more stupid like!! Some people don't seem to realise the brain in their head is for free and not pay-as-you-think!!
That made my evening.."
Common sence aint all that common these days |
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OK...on a similar theme...is this normal?
Just swapped a few messages with the male of a local couple (they are verified and I knowxa couple of folks who have verified them...but not met the actual couple myself).
He has just given me his wife's number, asked mento text her and invite her around one evening.... Cuckold not listed as in their interests tho....
Hey ho...will send a text and see how it goes!
Normal? |
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"OK...on a similar theme...is this normal?
Just swapped a few messages with the male of a local couple (they are verified and I knowxa couple of folks who have verified them...but not met the actual couple myself).
He has just given me his wife's number, asked mento text her and invite her around one evening.... Cuckold not listed as in their interests tho....
Hey ho...will send a text and see how it goes!
Normal?"
It might be a hotwife situation. Not every guy, who likes his wife to enjoy herself and meet other men, is a cuckold.
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"OK...on a similar theme...is this normal?
Just swapped a few messages with the male of a local couple (they are verified and I knowxa couple of folks who have verified them...but not met the actual couple myself).
He has just given me his wife's number, asked mento text her and invite her around one evening.... Cuckold not listed as in their interests tho....
Hey ho...will send a text and see how it goes!
Normal?"
Sounds abit more believable then my encounter |
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