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"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "Calm down .....  | |||
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"Who's mum says they are ugly?" Freddie Flintoff - did you ever see league of their own and the baby pics hilarious https://youtu.be/9bZGuXZHUmg | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "I know what you mean. What happens is people who read profiles skip them, so they get ever more messages from people who don't. So they add more rants, more good people skip......and so on.... | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent
Calm down ..... "Haha i'll try | |||
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"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. " You've missed his point entirely but hey he's a single guy so auto pilot the indignation reply it is. | |||
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"Is mine aggressive?" Humorous and to the point.  | |||
"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. You've missed his point entirely but hey he's a single guy so auto pilot the indignation reply it is." Not really since just a cpl of months ago I was a single guy on here so they don't get replys like that from me | |||
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"Well look at it on the bright side, with all those demands and selectivity it leaves room for real people to swing, the ugly ones, the fat ones, the small cocked ones, the old ones, the short ones.. Hang on isn't that most of us in reality.. Give me a real person anytime rather than someone with such high demands and expectations. " | |||
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"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. " You miss my point, Its the profiles where they are arrogant and demanding that im on about. There's ways and means of talking to people that get your point across without being a total aresehole. Everyone has types i know, i do too. | |||
"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. You miss my point, Its the profiles where they are arrogant and demanding that im on about. There's ways and means of talking to people that get your point across without being a total aresehole. Everyone has types i know, i do too." Nah sorry don't buy it, I like direct and straight to the point plus with this place if your not direct you can end up dealing with all the ones who give everyone else a bad name and we don't want to waste our very precious time back and forwarding to discover they aren't to our preferences. | |||
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"I'm not horrible or passive agressive but I can see why some females and couples get to the point in the way they do. Some there is no need for such unrealistic demands when they themselves maybe arnt something that "special" My only 'must' is shaven balls, and that's because hairy ones are not going in my mouth, I have simply stated what I like/prefer. Tone xx "See you two get to the point without looking arrogant | |||
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"I'm not horrible or passive agressive but I can see why some females and couples get to the point in the way they do. Some there is no need for such unrealistic demands when they themselves maybe arnt something that "special" My only 'must' is shaven balls, and that's because hairy ones are not going in my mouth, I have simply stated what I like/prefer. Tone xx " | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "That's not arrogant just selective, we have our own criteria for a meet, it would seem because you don't match there criteria you are labelling arrogant | |||
"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. You've missed his point entirely but hey he's a single guy so auto pilot the indignation reply it is. Not really since just a cpl of months ago I was a single guy on here so they don't get replys like that from me "Again missing a point. I'm talking about your reply on this thread. | |||
"If I put all my likes and preferences on my profile I'd never get any bastard messages, better to lull guys into a false sense of security. I like smooth pink bum holes so if a guys rocking ass pubes he's straight on all 4's so I can put hair removal cream on his arse hole. If a guy sleeps in my bed I pre warn him that I'm gonna suck his dick whilst he sleeps and stick my tongue up his arse. " Sounds like fun..... haha | |||
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"How dare people pick who they want to sleep with and list out what they want from this lifestyle and not just put out for every one! What were they thinking!! The bastard eh. You've missed his point entirely but hey he's a single guy so auto pilot the indignation reply it is. Not really since just a cpl of months ago I was a single guy on here so they don't get replys like that from me
Again missing a point. I'm talking about your reply on this thread. "Well actually you've missed my point but hey ho. | |||
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"The thing about profiles like this OP is you just think "nah", and wonder why they don't just black everyone and do the searching for themselves... ..if they did the searching for themselves they wouldn't have to put so much angst in their profile. But then they wouldn't get the adoration they think they deserve and they would have to be proactive and run the risk of being told "no"... and that won't happen. So the kind of profile you write about will always exist and I will always ignore them." This | |||
"I don't think there's much passive about their aggression OP!!" Haha yea! | |||
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"The thing about profiles like this OP is you just think "nah", and wonder why they don't just black everyone and do the searching for themselves... ..if they did the searching for themselves they wouldn't have to put so much angst in their profile. But then they wouldn't get the adoration they think they deserve and they would have to be proactive and run the risk of being told "no"... and that won't happen. So the kind of profile you write about will always exist and I will always ignore them." I don't get the adoration I so obviously deserve. How can I change things so I do?  | |||
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"Well I'm in tip top condition and I'll ask for certain requirements and only meet those that meet these requirements. So long as there are people willing to meet me I'll continue to seek out guys over 6ft with a penis that's minimum 8 inches in length with a circumference of at least 5.5 inches at the base who also have dark hair and handsome faces with a good jawline and thick eyebrows. " He's not complaining about people having requirements. He's talking about the aggressive ones. Such as: "Look fuckwits, we don't want this we want that." "Sick of saying this, read our lips ... we want x, y and z!" "ALL BLOCK CAPITAL SHOUTY SHOUTY" There are plenty of those about. Nothing wrong at all in stating your requirements, saves people time all round. | |||
"Well I'm in tip top condition and I'll ask for certain requirements and only meet those that meet these requirements. So long as there are people willing to meet me I'll continue to seek out guys over 6ft with a penis that's minimum 8 inches in length with a circumference of at least 5.5 inches at the base who also have dark hair and handsome faces with a good jawline and thick eyebrows. He's not complaining about people having requirements. He's talking about the aggressive ones. Such as: "Look fuckwits, we don't want this we want that." "Sick of saying this, read our lips ... we want x, y and z!" "ALL BLOCK CAPITAL SHOUTY SHOUTY" There are plenty of those about. Nothing wrong at all in stating your requirements, saves people time all round." Spot on chap | |||
"Well I'm in tip top condition and I'll ask for certain requirements and only meet those that meet these requirements. So long as there are people willing to meet me I'll continue to seek out guys over 6ft with a penis that's minimum 8 inches in length with a circumference of at least 5.5 inches at the base who also have dark hair and handsome faces with a good jawline and thick eyebrows. He's not complaining about people having requirements. He's talking about the aggressive ones. Such as: "Look fuckwits, we don't want this we want that." "Sick of saying this, read our lips ... we want x, y and z!" "ALL BLOCK CAPITAL SHOUTY SHOUTY" There are plenty of those about. Nothing wrong at all in stating your requirements, saves people time all round. Spot on chap "It's usually buzzards that have those type of profiles too! | |||
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"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " I would | |||
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"Well I'm in tip top condition and I'll ask for certain requirements and only meet those that meet these requirements. So long as there are people willing to meet me I'll continue to seek out guys over 6ft with a penis that's minimum 8 inches in length with a circumference of at least 5.5 inches at the base who also have dark hair and handsome faces with a good jawline and thick eyebrows. " But Haven't you posted before that you have a boyfriend and are not meeting anyone as your in a relationship? ? | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " I would and have, several times. You haven't even read what he's put, you've just seen 'single male' and gone straight into derision mode. | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " Again a generalisation, because the OP is a single guy.... I have turned down people with this kind of profile (2 last week in fact), because I wouldn't be relaxed in their company, and that is key for ME to have fun (there, I did it, I mentioned ME). The kind of profile the OP has described isn't about stating choice (it would be more simple for them to block everyone and CHOOSE their prospectives themselves, which as I say, they won't do.... but they will bitch about getting messages from inappropriate profiles....strange eh?) | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " Yes of course some men will and have done. Just the same as I'm Sure lots of women turn down men who are gorgeous but have such a profile !! You have a very low opinion of men if you think that all because a woman is gorgeous we will automatically excuse their arrogance and personality in order to fuck them. I think you need to get yourself out in the "real world" more! | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "I don't think you'll have to worry much about it really | |||
"One persons ugly is anothers lets get it on "this exactly - | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? I would and have, several times. You haven't even read what he's put, you've just seen 'single male' and gone straight into derision mode." So a gorgeous woman contacts you. You are over 6ft tall, but because she has specified that she only likes guys who are 6ft tall, you politely decline, because she is "arrogant"? Sorry, but I'm going to call bullshit on this one. | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? I would and have, several times. You haven't even read what he's put, you've just seen 'single male' and gone straight into derision mode. So a gorgeous woman contacts you. You are over 6ft tall, but because she has specified that she only likes guys who are 6ft tall, you politely decline, because she is "arrogant"? Sorry, but I'm going to call bullshit on this one." That is a crazy analogy; it's not about how "gorgeous" the woman is (and to be frank, I don't think many women will specify must be exactly 6ft tall.... ). If I am to have sex/fuck/shag/play with someone; it's because we can connect, if their profile wording puts me off (bit up themselves, arrogant, a bit of a princess etc. I won't meet them, regardless of how good they look, because if we can't connect on a mental level how on earth can we connect on a physical level....
....of course if I just treated women like meat and didn't give a fuck what was going on in their head as we fucked; then yes you are right; but you seem to have a pretty low opinion of men (and women for that regard) if you think most members would ignore someones personality just to get laid.... | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? I would and have, several times. You haven't even read what he's put, you've just seen 'single male' and gone straight into derision mode. So a gorgeous woman contacts you. You are over 6ft tall, but because she has specified that she only likes guys who are 6ft tall, you politely decline, because she is "arrogant"? Sorry, but I'm going to call bullshit on this one." Again you haven't read what's been said. The 6' is a preference and is fine. Read my post above, the one with a caps lock sentence. | |||
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"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? " First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me. | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me."So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you. | |||
""Must be 6ft or over"" Too many short guys are approaching us and we don't find them attractive. ""has to be gym fit"" Too many unfit guys are approaching us, we don't find you attractive. ""over 8 inch only"" We don't like small dicks so don't bother contacting us. ""no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are"" We haven't specified what ugly is so we do make no sense here, but most of you messaging us we do consider ugly. ""we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why"" Stop asking why we don't accommodate, we're entitled to keep swinging separate from out private life. ""has to be able to go all night"" Too many men we have met are after quickies, cum and go, blow and go, are shit in bed and leave us feeling unfulfilled. | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you. "firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true. | |||
"Or maybe you can read demands as something else? "Must be 6ft or over" Too many short guys are approaching us and we don't find them attractive. "has to be gym fit" Too many unfit guys are approaching us, we don't find you attractive. "over 8 inch only" We don't like small dicks so don't bother contacting us. "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" We haven't specified what ugly is so we do make no sense here, but most of you messaging us we do consider ugly. "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" Stop asking why we don't accommodate, we're entitled to keep swinging separate from out private life. "has to be able to go all night" Too many men we have met are after quickies, cum and go, blow and go, are shit in bed and leave us feeling unfulfilled." but with such a list of requirements, why invite messages? Why not just block everyone and do the choosing themselves; less angst, less forum posts and status messages, telling everyone how shit single men are.... It truly is baffling how people put up so many demands and then are surprised that the only people that message them are people that ignore their demands and are unsuitable....... there may be a reason for that.... | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you.
firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true."I mention clubs because the people inside them usually have fab profiles. The OP is saying he won't meet people who have profiles that say X Y and Z, but if you meet them in a club, or a house party etc. then you wouldn't know what they say? I don't have a shit opinion of single guys, I'm just saying that guys who aren't getting meets seem to be the ones complaining all the time. I guess the ones who are getting meets have got better things to do. Stating a preference, such as height or cock size or whatever is not a hoop to jump through. You either meet it or you dont. If people don't meet that preference then they tend to turn to the forums to rant or vent or throw their toys out of the pram. | |||
"Who's mum says they are ugly?" Mine | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you.
firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true.
I mention clubs because the people inside them usually have fab profiles. The OP is saying he won't meet people who have profiles that say X Y and Z, but if you meet them in a club, or a house party etc. then you wouldn't know what they say? I don't have a shit opinion of single guys, I'm just saying that guys who aren't getting meets seem to be the ones complaining all the time. I guess the ones who are getting meets have got better things to do.
Stating a preference, such as height or cock size or whatever is not a hoop to jump through. You either meet it or you dont. If people don't meet that preference then they tend to turn to the forums to rant or vent or throw their toys out of the pram. "As i think has been said before; this post was not about preferences, we all have those; it's about the way those preferences come across in a profile text; some people write "aggressively" (hence passive aggressive profile text - OP's post) and as such, I would avoid them, even if I met their requirements, if I don't like the way someone sounds from their profile, we aren't going to meet. I also make notes against profiles that have antagonistic status messages and other things (however I have never blocked a user). The club point is moot, this was about profiles on here, the OP has made his point; saying "you are just pissed because they won't meet you" well, its a bit easy and low. Everyone has preferences; the way they put those preferences across can tell other members a lot about that person/couple and it certainly is great that we can read those and decide for ourselves. What is annoying is the number of threads and angsty status messages from people complaining about single guys, and when you go to their profile, their profile is usually as the OP has described; so what can be gleaned from this? Have an "aggressive" profile and you will attract "aggressive" belligerent messages that ignore all your requirements, the guys that you are actually looking for have taken one look at the profile and gone "woooah"  and gone off to find someone chilled out who won't be marking them out of 10.... | |||
"Or maybe you can read demands as something else? "Must be 6ft or over" Too many short guys are approaching us and we don't find them attractive. "has to be gym fit" Too many unfit guys are approaching us, we don't find you attractive. "over 8 inch only" We don't like small dicks so don't bother contacting us. "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" We haven't specified what ugly is so we do make no sense here, but most of you messaging us we do consider ugly. "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" Stop asking why we don't accommodate, we're entitled to keep swinging separate from out private life. "has to be able to go all night" Too many men we have met are after quickies, cum and go, blow and go, are shit in bed and leave us feeling unfulfilled. but with such a list of requirements, why invite messages? Why not just block everyone and do the choosing themselves; less angst, less forum posts and status messages, telling everyone how shit single men are.... It truly is baffling how people put up so many demands and then are surprised that the only people that message them are people that ignore their demands and are unsuitable....... there may be a reason for that...." it's easier to let men message you. a lot of men don't even have profiles that you would be able to work out what they're actually after on here. i have my 'hoops' that guys need to 'jump' through, i'm also aware that people will say anything for a fuck so i don't let them know what my hoops are. i let people be themselves and if they aren't for me i can tell and it saves more hassle than meeting people who will say anything for a meet. ideally people would be honest and we'd all find someone compatible, unfortunately there are more men than women and couples on here and so men are willing to say anything to get meets so being compatiable ends up being random. women and couple then get shittier meets than they wanted, start getting fed up, think that telling men what they want will help but it hardly does. although it will make some people think twice about messaging you and this makes it easier to concentrate on those who do and to figure them out. nobody wants a hard time on here, everyone is trying to make it easier for themselves. | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you.
firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true.
I mention clubs because the people inside them usually have fab profiles. The OP is saying he won't meet people who have profiles that say X Y and Z, but if you meet them in a club, or a house party etc. then you wouldn't know what they say? I don't have a shit opinion of single guys, I'm just saying that guys who aren't getting meets seem to be the ones complaining all the time. I guess the ones who are getting meets have got better things to do.
Stating a preference, such as height or cock size or whatever is not a hoop to jump through. You either meet it or you dont. If people don't meet that preference then they tend to turn to the forums to rant or vent or throw their toys out of the pram.
As i think has been said before; this post was not about preferences, we all have those; it's about the way those preferences come across in a profile text; some people write "aggressively" (hence passive aggressive profile text - OP's post) and as such, I would avoid them, even if I met their requirements, if I don't like the way someone sounds from their profile, we aren't going to meet.
I also make notes against profiles that have antagonistic status messages and other things (however I have never blocked a user).
The club point is moot, this was about profiles on here, the OP has made his point; saying "you are just pissed because they won't meet you" well, its a bit easy and low.
Everyone has preferences; the way they put those preferences across can tell other members a lot about that person/couple and it certainly is great that we can read those and decide for ourselves.
What is annoying is the number of threads and angsty status messages from people complaining about single guys, and when you go to their profile, their profile is usually as the OP has described; so what can be gleaned from this?
Have an "aggressive" profile and you will attract "aggressive" belligerent messages that ignore all your requirements, the guys that you are actually looking for have taken one look at the profile and gone "woooah" and gone off to find someone chilled out who won't be marking them out of 10....""If only they had nice profiles they could have lovely single guys like me, instead of horrible single guys who meet their preferences!" | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you.
firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true.
I mention clubs because the people inside them usually have fab profiles. The OP is saying he won't meet people who have profiles that say X Y and Z, but if you meet them in a club, or a house party etc. then you wouldn't know what they say? I don't have a shit opinion of single guys, I'm just saying that guys who aren't getting meets seem to be the ones complaining all the time. I guess the ones who are getting meets have got better things to do.
Stating a preference, such as height or cock size or whatever is not a hoop to jump through. You either meet it or you dont. If people don't meet that preference then they tend to turn to the forums to rant or vent or throw their toys out of the pram.
As i think has been said before; this post was not about preferences, we all have those; it's about the way those preferences come across in a profile text; some people write "aggressively" (hence passive aggressive profile text - OP's post) and as such, I would avoid them, even if I met their requirements, if I don't like the way someone sounds from their profile, we aren't going to meet.
I also make notes against profiles that have antagonistic status messages and other things (however I have never blocked a user).
The club point is moot, this was about profiles on here, the OP has made his point; saying "you are just pissed because they won't meet you" well, its a bit easy and low.
Everyone has preferences; the way they put those preferences across can tell other members a lot about that person/couple and it certainly is great that we can read those and decide for ourselves.
What is annoying is the number of threads and angsty status messages from people complaining about single guys, and when you go to their profile, their profile is usually as the OP has described; so what can be gleaned from this?
Have an "aggressive" profile and you will attract "aggressive" belligerent messages that ignore all your requirements, the guys that you are actually looking for have taken one look at the profile and gone "woooah" and gone off to find someone chilled out who won't be marking them out of 10....
"If only they had nice profiles they could have lovely single guys like me, instead of horrible single guys who meet their preferences!" "That's not what i am saying, but as you are now just "baiting" I will let you get on with your man-bashing. Cheers | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent
I know what you mean. What happens is people who read profiles skip them, so they get ever more messages from people who don't. So they add more rants, more good people skip......and so on...."This, ive found the positive you are the nicer the people who message you are. The more negatives and insults you have the nice people don't bother wnd you end up with only those who didnt read your profile | |||
"So what if you met someone in a club? Would you check their fab profile first? First; I don't go to clubs for this reason; there is actually less choice, here on Fab, I can take my time, communicate with someone, understand them, and when (if) we have a meeting the connection is better (for me) and therefore the sex is more enjoyable. Second; If I did go to a club, and these people with the type of profile the OP is describing were there, it's highly unlikely they would choose me anyway; unless of course as it's a club they will just fuck anyone? and abandon their requirements.....
However, as I say, I don't go to clubs, because that kind of sex doesn't interest me.
So you say you don't meet their requirements? So that's basically what you are pissed off about, not that they have them, but that they exclude you.
firstly you don't seem able to read and its a little insulting; I take the effort to read your posts and you just react, weird
I dont care if I do or dont meet requirements of people with such profiles; I would avoid them regardless, give me realistic, relaxed people over this type, any day of the week.
You mentioned clubs, but it has no relevance to the OPs post and so you have dragged it out into "well you cant get with them anyway" I am not "pissed" about anything, I was commenting on the OPs post. You really have the shitest opinion of single guys, but maybe thats your experience. Strangely, the couples and single females that I meet, have only good experiences with other single guys from the site, but maybe thats because they are relaxed and realistic about what swinging is.
Some couples/females think that the single guys are here to jump through hoops; I don't jump through hoops (as many single men don't), but you seem to think that all single men will abandon common sense just to get laid, and that is simply not true.
I mention clubs because the people inside them usually have fab profiles. The OP is saying he won't meet people who have profiles that say X Y and Z, but if you meet them in a club, or a house party etc. then you wouldn't know what they say? I don't have a shit opinion of single guys, I'm just saying that guys who aren't getting meets seem to be the ones complaining all the time. I guess the ones who are getting meets have got better things to do.
Stating a preference, such as height or cock size or whatever is not a hoop to jump through. You either meet it or you dont. If people don't meet that preference then they tend to turn to the forums to rant or vent or throw their toys out of the pram.
As i think has been said before; this post was not about preferences, we all have those; it's about the way those preferences come across in a profile text; some people write "aggressively" (hence passive aggressive profile text - OP's post) and as such, I would avoid them, even if I met their requirements, if I don't like the way someone sounds from their profile, we aren't going to meet.
I also make notes against profiles that have antagonistic status messages and other things (however I have never blocked a user).
The club point is moot, this was about profiles on here, the OP has made his point; saying "you are just pissed because they won't meet you" well, its a bit easy and low.
Everyone has preferences; the way they put those preferences across can tell other members a lot about that person/couple and it certainly is great that we can read those and decide for ourselves.
What is annoying is the number of threads and angsty status messages from people complaining about single guys, and when you go to their profile, their profile is usually as the OP has described; so what can be gleaned from this?
Have an "aggressive" profile and you will attract "aggressive" belligerent messages that ignore all your requirements, the guys that you are actually looking for have taken one look at the profile and gone "woooah" and gone off to find someone chilled out who won't be marking them out of 10....
"If only they had nice profiles they could have lovely single guys like me, instead of horrible single guys who meet their preferences!" "But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences | |||
), then I often stop and move on straight away. It's a turn off and I know my mind needs to be drawn in...It just didn't. | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences " What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. " The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. | |||
"If it starts with conditions or ...'if you haven't read my profile....'(btw I'm just reading it ), then I often stop and move on straight away. It's a turn off and I know my mind needs to be drawn in...It just didn't. "pretty much the same view I take | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive." You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys?" Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile? | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile?" I have just looked at the first 3 pages of the swingers chat forum and listed the complaint threads from single guys, compared to from women and couples. Complaints from Single guys: Be honest! How many of you are..... Passive agressive profiles Handsome or not older Any women on couple for asian/black guy? New Women tab Out of town meets Hiding who you view Women..... Really Complaints from Women & Couples: Mistakes and Moans I want muscles! whatever happened to good old fashioned manners?? | |||
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"My profile is "passive aggressive" as you call it. It's written to be off putting so that it limits the people who contact me. I don't want to meet anyone I wont get on with so its very clear. Quite sure personal preference hasn't been banned yet" But do you not find itbputs ofd the p3ople who want to meet and leaves you with just the mesages from thoae who dont give a fuck/dont read it | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile? I have just looked at the first 3 pages of the swingers chat forum and listed the complaint threads from single guys, compared to from women and couples. Complaints from Single guys: Be honest! How many of you are..... Passive agressive profiles Handsome or not older Any women on couple for asian/black guy? New Women tab Out of town meets Hiding who you view Women..... Really Complaints from Women & Couples: Mistakes and Moans I want muscles! whatever happened to good old fashioned manners??" You should probably re read those thread "i want muscles" for instance is started by a single female referencing a song. but thank you for answering my question with the answer of 0 threada from men compaling no one reads thier profile. | |||
"My profile is "passive aggressive" as you call it. It's written to be off putting so that it limits the people who contact me. I don't want to meet anyone I wont get on with so its very clear. Quite sure personal preference hasn't been banned yet" I wouldn't put yours in that category personally. Only thing I'd say to you is were you aware you could set it so only those in your age range can contact you? Yours is to the point and clearly states what you're looking for but I definitely wouldn't call it aggressive. In fact it's good to know what you're looking for as someone reading it. The aggressive kind are such as: "Look fuckwits, we don't want this we want that." "Sick of saying this, read our lips ... we want x, y and z!" "ALL BLOCK CAPITAL SHOUTY SHOUTY" | |||
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"Guys who have a tirade against bi guys in their profile. I've seen some which are purely that. No other info at all. " That's 'active aggressive'. | |||
"Guys who have a tirade against bi guys in their profile. I've seen some which are purely that. No other info at all. " Clearly they're frustated by the lack of cock | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile? I have just looked at the first 3 pages of the swingers chat forum and listed the complaint threads from single guys, compared to from women and couples. Complaints from Single guys: Be honest! How many of you are..... Passive agressive profiles Handsome or not older Any women on couple for asian/black guy? New Women tab Out of town meets Hiding who you view Women..... Really Complaints from Women & Couples: Mistakes and Moans I want muscles! whatever happened to good old fashioned manners?? You should probably re read those thread "i want muscles" for instance is started by a single female referencing a song. but thank you for answering my question with the answer of 0 threada from men compaling no one reads thier profile." I said threads about men complaining, not specifically about men complaining about people contacting them who haven't read their profile. As lots of men complain about no one contacting them, I doubt too many people contracting them will be a complaint for many. The i want muscles thread did mention a song, but also how it was hard to find a a man with muscles. However if you want to take it off the list, its 9:2 instead of 9:3. | |||
"Well I'm in tip top condition and I'll ask for certain requirements and only meet those that meet these requirements. So long as there are people willing to meet me I'll continue to seek out guys over 6ft with a penis that's minimum 8 inches in length with a circumference of at least 5.5 inches at the base who also have dark hair and handsome faces with a good jawline and thick eyebrows. But Haven't you posted before that you have a boyfriend and are not meeting anyone as your in a relationship? ?" Pffft I don't have a boyfriend. If I did I wouldn't be on here looking for people. | |||
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"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "Totally agree | |||
"Is mine aggressive? Humorous and to the point. "Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about, but do any of the guys here have the balls to say that? Or do they tell you how humorous your profile is instead? | |||
"Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about" Nope. Again, you're just being blatant about not reading what people are putting both on the thread and directly to you. You're either winding people up, or you're just so stubbornly set in what you want to say you're going to go right on and say it no matter what people say. I personally think it's a mixture of both. Teabags profile is not aggressive, it's humorous. That isn't because she is fit, it's because it is what it is. If you don't see her humour that's your problem not hers or mine. | |||
"Is mine aggressive? Humorous and to the point.
Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about, but do any of the guys here have the balls to say that? Or do they tell you how humorous your profile is instead? "Firstly Teabags has not asked for a profile review, so won't get one from anyone in here.... Secondly, Teabags profile demonstrates "preferences", it isnt full of insults, CAPITAL text and there appears to be no "hoop" jumping in order to start communication or possible meet.... ...I don't think you have read the OP's original post, or understood it if you have........ Preferences are good, in fact they are great, if people read profiles with preferences and don't match them, it saves everyone a lot of time, preferences that are full of expletives and insults, the "aggressive" ones the OP was writing about (which is nothing like Teabags) are the ones that get people's backs-up...... however, it is a bloody useful filter. | |||
"Is mine aggressive? Humorous and to the point.
Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about, but do any of the guys here have the balls to say that? Or do they tell you how humorous your profile is instead? "Except its not at all. Ahe says what she wants in positive terms i want xyz not negative terms "dont message me if you're abc" And fulfills non of the ceitieria of the this thread really shows how couples would implode if theyhad to put up with the shit single guys dobon this site though lol | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile? I have just looked at the first 3 pages of the swingers chat forum and listed the complaint threads from single guys, compared to from women and couples. Complaints from Single guys: Be honest! How many of you are..... Passive agressive profiles Handsome or not older Any women on couple for asian/black guy? New Women tab Out of town meets Hiding who you view Women..... Really Complaints from Women & Couples: Mistakes and Moans I want muscles! whatever happened to good old fashioned manners?? You should probably re read those thread "i want muscles" for instance is started by a single female referencing a song. but thank you for answering my question with the answer of 0 threada from men compaling no one reads thier profile. I said threads about men complaining, not specifically about men complaining about people contacting them who haven't read their profile. As lots of men complain about no one contacting them, I doubt too many people contracting them will be a complaint for many. The i want muscles thread did mention a song, but also how it was hard to find a a man with muscles. However if you want to take it off the list, its 9:2 instead of 9:3. " but its started by a woman.... Hownis a thread started by a single woman a thread started by single men moaning. And yes i know you moves the goal posts because you couldnt substantiate your argument. In this case i admit though im not sure which logical falacy it falls under I'd like to say strawman as youre aruging against an argument that that never existed but it doesnt quite fit as rather than fasley asserting ther other parties point youre just ignoring it. | |||
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"I am on mobile and completely lost the plot with this thread.. Getting fed up of aggressive, argumentative threads. I am so glad we only do club meets, with genuinely nice, polite, fellow swingers .... Ffs stop being so aggressive people xxxx Suzi"If i ever meet you I'll lick your nose | |||
" But from thier frequent complaints they're not getting the guys who meet thier preferences theyre getting the guys who never even looked at thier preferences What complaints? You have a hell of a lot more complaints from single guys who dont match the preference, than you do from women and couples saying men don't read the profiles. The threads that we have daily, complaining about the messages we get. There certainly seems to be a direct correlation between agressiveness of profile and likleyhood of posting a thread whining about the messages they recive. You think there are more from women and couples than single guys? Complain£ng about people not reading thier profile? Yeah 100%. How often do you see a single guy posting a thread complaining no one reads his profile and how many of those threads does th guy have a list of demands for a profile? I have just looked at the first 3 pages of the swingers chat forum and listed the complaint threads from single guys, compared to from women and couples. Complaints from Single guys: Be honest! How many of you are..... Passive agressive profiles Handsome or not older Any women on couple for asian/black guy? New Women tab Out of town meets Hiding who you view Women..... Really Complaints from Women & Couples: Mistakes and Moans I want muscles! whatever happened to good old fashioned manners?? You should probably re read those thread "i want muscles" for instance is started by a single female referencing a song. but thank you for answering my question with the answer of 0 threada from men compaling no one reads thier profile. I said threads about men complaining, not specifically about men complaining about people contacting them who haven't read their profile. As lots of men complain about no one contacting them, I doubt too many people contracting them will be a complaint for many. The i want muscles thread did mention a song, but also how it was hard to find a a man with muscles. However if you want to take it off the list, its 9:2 instead of 9:3. but its started by a woman.... Hownis a thread started by a single woman a thread started by single men moaning. And yes i know you moves the goal posts because you couldnt substantiate your argument. In this case i admit though im not sure which logical falacy it falls under I'd like to say strawman as youre aruging against an argument that that never existed but it doesnt quite fit as rather than fasley asserting ther other parties point youre just ignoring it. " Yeah its started by a woman, thats why its under the complaints from women and couples heading, rather than the complaints from single guys heading. | |||
"I am on mobile and completely lost the plot with this thread.. Getting fed up of aggressive, argumentative threads. I am so glad we only do club meets, with genuinely nice, polite, fellow swingers .... Ffs stop being so aggressive people xxxx Suzi
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"Is mine aggressive? Humorous and to the point.
Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about, but do any of the guys here have the balls to say that? Or do they tell you how humorous your profile is instead?
Firstly Teabags has not asked for a profile review, so won't get one from anyone in here.... Secondly, Teabags profile demonstrates "preferences", it isnt full of insults, CAPITAL text and there appears to be no "hoop" jumping in order to start communication or possible meet....
...I don't think you have read the OP's original post, or understood it if you have........
Preferences are good, in fact they are great, if people read profiles with preferences and don't match them, it saves everyone a lot of time, preferences that are full of expletives and insults, the "aggressive" ones the OP was writing about (which is nothing like Teabags) are the ones that get people's backs-up...... however, it is a bloody useful filter."I know i am only quoting one of you, but its aimed at the three that respond. Teabags did ask if hers was aggressive, so I hope she doesn’t mind (or the mods) me commenting on it. The OP mentions listing a heigh preference, Teabags mentions tall, so Im going to say its meets that criteria. OP says “gym fit”, Teabags doesn’t mention it, so it doesn’t meet that criteria OP says “Over 8 inches” Teabags says “big dick” so I say that meets the criteria OP says “no ugly people” Teabags says “handsome” so I say it meets that criteria OP says “won’t accommodate and don’t ask why” Teabags won’t accommodate but doesn’t say don’t ask why, pass/fail? Not sure OP says about going all night, Teabags doesn’t mention that, so doesn’t meet that criteria. So the OP has 6 criteria and Teabags meets 3 or 4 of them, so 50% or more. Other people have also mentioned about parts in all caps, if we add that as another criteria that is 4 or 5 that Teabags has or potentially 70% of the criteria. I think Teabags has every right to run her profile how she sees fit. The OP is the only one who truly knows what kind of profiles he is talking about, but I think that Teabags matches it fairly closely. On a side note, the OP was talking about “passive aggressive” profiles, not “aggressive" profiles. | |||
"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent "Sorry but I have to comment. I am not sure that expressing preferences suggests 'passive aggression' Maybe some express it more aggressively than others. All down to interpretation but PASSIVE aggressive is different. Secondly... as has been stated endless times, we are all entitled to express our preferences and fortunately everyone's preferences are different. Many people assume that because I am slim, that I will get more attention but it isn't true at all. In fact, I have read profiles of men who fit MY preferences but I don't meet theirs. They often state they want to meet curvy ladies, or ladies into particular sexual acts that I don't enjoy etc... I find it helpful to know so I don't waste my own time sending them a message. I simply cannot fathom out why some people take offence to that or think people who write their preferences are arrogant. I do get irritated with anyone who doesn't read my profile who claims they have but are clearly totally the opposite of what I clearly state I seek. I don't understand why anyone would deliberately set themselves up for rejection and then complain about it. | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " | |||
"Is mine aggressive? Humorous and to the point.
Teabags your profile seems to be what they are talking about, but do any of the guys here have the balls to say that? Or do they tell you how humorous your profile is instead?
Firstly Teabags has not asked for a profile review, so won't get one from anyone in here.... Secondly, Teabags profile demonstrates "preferences", it isnt full of insults, CAPITAL text and there appears to be no "hoop" jumping in order to start communication or possible meet....
...I don't think you have read the OP's original post, or understood it if you have........
Preferences are good, in fact they are great, if people read profiles with preferences and don't match them, it saves everyone a lot of time, preferences that are full of expletives and insults, the "aggressive" ones the OP was writing about (which is nothing like Teabags) are the ones that get people's backs-up...... however, it is a bloody useful filter.
I know i am only quoting one of you, but its aimed at the three that respond. Teabags did ask if hers was aggressive, so I hope she doesn’t mind (or the mods) me commenting on it.
The OP mentions listing a heigh preference, Teabags mentions tall, so Im going to say its meets that criteria.
OP says “gym fit”, Teabags doesn’t mention it, so it doesn’t meet that criteria
OP says “Over 8 inches” Teabags says “big dick” so I say that meets the criteria
OP says “no ugly people” Teabags says “handsome” so I say it meets that criteria
OP says “won’t accommodate and don’t ask why” Teabags won’t accommodate but doesn’t say don’t ask why, pass/fail? Not sure
OP says about going all night, Teabags doesn’t mention that, so doesn’t meet that criteria.
So the OP has 6 criteria and Teabags meets 3 or 4 of them, so 50% or more. Other people have also mentioned about parts in all caps, if we add that as another criteria that is 4 or 5 that Teabags has or potentially 70% of the criteria.
I think Teabags has every right to run her profile how she sees fit. The OP is the only one who truly knows what kind of profiles he is talking about, but I think that Teabags matches it fairly closely.
On a side note, the OP was talking about “passive aggressive” profiles, not “aggressive" profiles."I put SOUTH WALES in capital letters because that's where I am and I get messages from people all over the shop which is pretty unrealistic for a friends with benefits set up which is what I want. | |||
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"When you read them it just puts you off (well it does for me) I just viewed a profile and the couple were stating what they were looking for etc and it just read like a list of demands. "Must be 6ft or over" "has to be gym fit" "over 8 inch only" "no ugly people, because your mum says you are it doesn't mean you are" "we wont accom and and its got nothing to do with you why" "has to be able to go all night" etc etc And i see this kind of thing all the time with couples and women and it just makes them come across like total pricks. Arrogant people are such a turn off for me. At the end of the day we all shit out of the same hole and the sun doesn't shine out of yours. Sorry for going on a bit but i just had to vent ".....if you weren't a single guy and on the side of desperate you could be picky too , dont slate cpls or singles on what they want , their letting you into their sex life remember that , and I've seen guys profiles exactly the same as you've stated , why pic on fems and cpls , something tells me your a tad bitter and frustrated on here lol | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? " ....hell yes couldn't agree more | |||
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"People can put whatever they want, the whole point of a profile is to give the people reading it a clue as to what those writting it are like. So these type of profiles with lots of rules and demands work really well for me - tells me that there's a very high chance that they wouldn't be the person/people for me. " ....shame the op cant see it this way , just your typical judgemental guy who struggles on fabs and that pissed him off , I think he likes the profiles that say , very little and ill fuck anything that comes my way lol | |||
"People can put whatever they want, the whole point of a profile is to give the people reading it a clue as to what those writting it are like. So these type of profiles with lots of rules and demands work really well for me - tells me that there's a very high chance that they wouldn't be the person/people for me. ....shame the op cant see it this way , just your typical judgemental guy who struggles on fabs and that pissed him off , I think he likes the profiles that say , very little and ill fuck anything that comes my way lol" and hilarious when someone comes along with exactly the kind of profile the OP was complaining about and everyone is tripping over themselves to say how hilarious it is! | |||
"People can put whatever they want, the whole point of a profile is to give the people reading it a clue as to what those writting it are like. So these type of profiles with lots of rules and demands work really well for me - tells me that there's a very high chance that they wouldn't be the person/people for me. ....shame the op cant see it this way , just your typical judgemental guy who struggles on fabs and that pissed him off , I think he likes the profiles that say , very little and ill fuck anything that comes my way lol and hilarious when someone comes along with exactly the kind of profile the OP was complaining about and everyone is tripping over themselves to say how hilarious it is! "O why you still going on about my profile it's absolutely fuck all like what the op was describing. My profile states my preferences, I've explained why I put single and my location in capitals, it's because they are the two most important things to me when looking for a regular fwb, I need someone local and unattached. | |||
"Has anyone else noticed that these kind of threads seem to be posted by single guys who aren't getting any? Are we supposed to believe that if a gorgeous couple or single female got in contact with you that had such a profile, that you would turn them down? I would and have, several times. You haven't even read what he's put, you've just seen 'single male' and gone straight into derision mode. So a gorgeous woman contacts you. You are over 6ft tall, but because she has specified that she only likes guys who are 6ft tall, you politely decline, because she is "arrogant"? Sorry, but I'm going to call bullshit on this one. That is a crazy analogy; it's not about how "gorgeous" the woman is (and to be frank, I don't think many women will specify must be exactly 6ft tall.... ). If I am to have sex/fuck/shag/play with someone; it's because we can connect, if their profile wording puts me off (bit up themselves, arrogant, a bit of a princess etc. I won't meet them, regardless of how good they look, because if we can't connect on a mental level how on earth can we connect on a physical level....
....of course if I just treated women like meat and didn't give a fuck what was going on in their head as we fucked; then yes you are right; but you seem to have a pretty low opinion of men (and women for that regard) if you think most members would ignore someones personality just to get laid...."Spot on, fella!! You do get it. | |||
