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Here's a tip for some single guys.....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx"
Don't assume all couples want what you want. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good points 
But don't assume all single Men do this or don't know how to talk to couples  "
We know there are single guys who know how to approach m/f couples but unfortunately the majority of messages we get are inane/rude/ignorant xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't assume we all need tips
Not assuming anything...read the post..... read it and I still don't need tips "
The clue is in the word 'Some'......get someone to explain it to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't assume we all need tips
Not assuming anything...read the post..... read it and I still don't need tips
The clue is in the word 'Some'......get someone to explain it to you."
OK thank-you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know what you're saying OP.
I don't like it when people get given 'tips' as then they can change their behaviour and fool us into thinking they are decent when in fact they are not. I prefer being able to spot the disrespectful people. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know what you're saying OP.
I don't like it when people get given 'tips' as then they can change their behaviour and fool us into thinking they are decent when in fact they are not. I prefer being able to spot the disrespectful people. x"
Very good point! xx |
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We met on here as we had single profiles and are now a couple so this is a perspective from us for single guys. Its just our opinion to help.
Include both halves in your message. Maybe have 1 cock at most on your profile. Most women prefer bums, torso's and shoulders. Try to include something they have put in their profile when you message so they know you have read it. Dont ask if they can meet right now or fancy a fuck. Try to stand out from the thousands of others guys looking for a meet.
Like we said that is just our point of view and doesnt apply to all couples or females. Just trying to help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We met on here as we had single profiles and are now a couple so this is a perspective from us for single guys. Its just our opinion to help.
Include both halves in your message. Maybe have 1 cock at most on your profile. Most women prefer bums, torso's and shoulders. Try to include something they have put in their profile when you message so they know you have read it. Dont ask if they can meet right now or fancy a fuck. Try to stand out from the thousands of others guys looking for a meet.
Like we said that is just our point of view and doesnt apply to all couples or females. Just trying to help."
Hear hear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
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Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone messaged us following "the rules" of a perfect message or whatever you want to call it.
Personally I think it comes across as being a bit false, for fuck sake just be yourself!
Say what you want to say rather than what you think people want to hear.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
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I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx
Don't assume all couples want what you want."
Absolutely ....Last thing in the world we want is messaging with anyone no matter how funny / polite they are .
Fancy a fuck with a face pic and a cock pic work just nicely thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too "
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose"
it is mate. We are all adults on here. If a adult guy does not know how to be respectful to couples when he would like to meet them. Then he does not deserve to meet . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose"
I agree with you. Sorry I wasn't trying to diss you earlier.
I think it's nice to help people, it is also just a fine line between helping nice people and helping idiots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose it is mate. We are all adults on here. If a adult guy does not know how to be respectful to couples when he would like to meet them. Then he does not deserve to meet . "
He doesn't deserve to meet *those* people. However Gloswingers and people like them meet differently- as they said above, they prefer the 'fancy a fuck' type mail.
Neither types of mail are wrong. It's just a case of finding compatible people that like that same thing. I think... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose it is mate. We are all adults on here. If a adult guy does not know how to be respectful to couples when he would like to meet them. Then he does not deserve to meet .
He doesn't deserve to meet *those* people. However Gloswingers and people like them meet differently- as they said above, they prefer the 'fancy a fuck' type mail.
Neither types of mail are wrong. It's just a case of finding compatible people that like that same thing. I think... "
I agree and that's why I don't like these. " Hey single guys. This is what you have to do to meet us couples " |
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose it is mate. We are all adults on here. If a adult guy does not know how to be respectful to couples when he would like to meet them. Then he does not deserve to meet .
He doesn't deserve to meet *those* people. However Gloswingers and people like them meet differently- as they said above, they prefer the 'fancy a fuck' type mail.
Neither types of mail are wrong. It's just a case of finding compatible people that like that same thing. I think... I agree and that's why I don't like these. " Hey single guys. This is what you have to do to meet us couples " "
Agree that people want different things. Was just trying to put our preference across but of course its not the same as everybody elses. |
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"I can't help but find these kind of threads really condescending.
How can trying to help people be construed as condescending?
Because like Scarlett said. The guys that message you now.
Will not assume they are talking to the female.
Will not ask to meet alone.
Will be respectful.
But will only be doing it to get a meet.
They will still be the same single guys. Who would of assumed they was talking to the lady.
Would of wanted to meet her alone.
Would of been disrespectful.
Yeah I can see that absolutely, but surely nothing wrong with trying to help genuinely nice people that just aren't very good at initial conversation/contact?
I agree but surely it's best to just look after yourself and meet the ones who are respectful and not try to change the others. I can see what you are trying to do. But I hope you see my point as a single guy too
I do get what you are saying, it's a fine line between trying to help genuine people and giving chancers an opportunity to con couples I suppose it is mate. We are all adults on here. If a adult guy does not know how to be respectful to couples when he would like to meet them. Then he does not deserve to meet .
He doesn't deserve to meet *those* people. However Gloswingers and people like them meet differently- as they said above, they prefer the 'fancy a fuck' type mail.
Neither types of mail are wrong. It's just a case of finding compatible people that like that same thing. I think... I agree and that's why I don't like these. " Hey single guys. This is what you have to do to meet us couples " "
Agree with this - I do find couples profile with these "rules" offputting and condescending. But I understand that they are trying to ensure that the right guys contact them, but what if it drives away the right guys who are mature and well brought up and sends the insincere ones your way.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Funny, i always assume i am speaking to the male counterpart.
Op like the above couple suggested you may want to impose filters such as put xx in the title. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Funny, i always assume i am speaking to the male counterpart.
Op like the above couple suggested you may want to impose filters such as put xx in the title."
Yeah, good call |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx"
We agree with you completely but feel it will fall on deaf ears.the good ones already know this and the bad one won't take any notice. Just ignore and block the bad ones. |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx
Don't assume all couples want what you want."
This
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always message first assuming that the male will read it first. And I know a lot of couples that have the female chat, but the male just looks over and steps in if the male goes too far |
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We have this issue every day, however it's from the minority, I would say that the vast majority of guys who contact us do tend to chat to us as a couple. Perhaps we have been lucky.
The biggest issue we have had is women and couples assuming that Mrs O is bi; but that's a different thread. Have fun out there X |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx"
Completely agree with this. I do exactly the same with a couple. Manners cost nothing. X |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
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Tbh that is a valid point..... |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?"
Ah you know she "never went back". |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?
Ah you know she "never went back"."
But...but....but I said 'please'! Thems manners that are. *confusezed* |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?
Ah you know she "never went back".
But...but....but I said 'please'! Thems manners that are. *confusezed* "
You might be nice and polite but are you genuine and fun??  |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx"
I'd thank you to stop giving away the trade secrets of those of us blessed with the valuable gifts of common courtesy and sense. |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?
Ah you know she "never went back".
But...but....but I said 'please'! Thems manners that are. *confusezed* "
How about i suck your dick while we watch her making love to her BF? |
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"This single guy dont need your tips or advice
You know what you can do with it  "
By your response I'd say your probably the exact type that should take note from this post..... |
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"This single guy dont need your tips or advice
You know what you can do with it
By your response I'd say your probably the exact type that should take note from this post..... "
Exactly this.... |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?
Ah you know she "never went back".
But...but....but I said 'please'! Thems manners that are. *confusezed*
How about i suck your dick while we watch her making love to her BF?"
Yo, dude! You IS da man in da hood *high 5* that's a definate from me. |
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"I never understand why couples have so many pics of the woman on their profile and then wonder why messages are mainly aimed at her.
exactly this.
Can I shag your wife please?
Ah you know she "never went back".
But...but....but I said 'please'! Thems manners that are. *confusezed*
You might be nice and polite but are you genuine and fun?? "
You could look at the new verification I got about 5'mins ago |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx
Don't assume all couples want what you want."
..don't assume all couples are couples. ... |
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"When messaging a m/f couple don't assume you are talking to the female, don't try to get a meet with the female alone and don't assume that the male needs 'help' with his partner...any of the above or similar will result in your message being deleted.
We had a brilliant message from a guy a couple of days ago, complimented us on our photos, made us laugh and when requested he sent us the funniest most personalised photo we have ever been sent. We are still in touch, he is assuming nothing and he always addresses us both.
Single guys are everywhere, try not to put people offside from the outset as there is always another single guy typing a message as yours is being deleted xx"
can we have copies so we can copy his messages? |
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"Anyone that needs tips isn't someone I'm interested in 
Anyone that BELIEVES doesn't need tips, isn't someone I'm interested in "
Some people have a brain and know how to use it. No one ever gave me sex tips or how to approach other people for sex tips. |
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"I know what you're saying OP.
I don't like it when people get given 'tips' as then they can change their behaviour and fool us into thinking they are decent when in fact they are not. I prefer being able to spot the disrespectful people. x"
fwa.. Ha ha ha!! My evil plot comes to fruition.. |
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Don't assume either than all couples are the same or that they don't function as distinct individuals. Don't assume all women need to be the centre of attention or need another man ... our couple works for us because we aren't interested in single men who just want to play with pepper, or even those who think she is the one needing to play. Most important tip to everyone, is don't assume you are what everyone else is looking for or presume you have it all and they have nothing |
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"Don't assume either than all couples are the same or that they don't function as distinct individuals. Don't assume all women need to be the centre of attention or need another man ... our couple works for us because we aren't interested in single men who just want to play with pepper, or even those who think she is the one needing to play. Most important tip to everyone, is don't assume you are what everyone else is looking for or presume you have it all and they have nothing"
this reads like an insurance clause |
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