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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. Never give out our number.
Just do t need the hassle of having hundreds of people knowing our number.
Learnt the hard way with getting calls from d*unk and lonely people at 3am!!! "
same here. Dont give out my number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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they could be genuine.
i refused to give out my number and kik, skype, anything where people could contact me off site because of all the wankers who wanted kik sex chat, cam sex etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you think it was a messer?
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In a relationship most likely. Pretty much any phone now can block people so you'd only keep your number secret if you didn't want someone else seeing messages to it that you shouldn't be getting. Don't sweat it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I will give out my number, others I haven't. Maybe I have been lucky, but you can confirm a lot more in a phone call than you can by messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After stupidly giving out my number last year I NEVER would again !! The trouble it caused is still going on today 
Most phones have a block the caller section on them  "
Done that but he's rather clever and uses literally any phone he can up and down the country ... yes I know I could change my number however it's used for buisness so not as simple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After stupidly giving out my number last year I NEVER would again !! The trouble it caused is still going on today
Most phones have a block the caller section on them "
they still know your number and can get a new number themselves though. only way to be sure of getting rid of someone is to change your own number. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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If anyones is nervous about speaking on the phone, simple & obvious texts per meet or en route then they're going to make themselves look a bit suspect.
It doesn't stop there. Some wont chat one phone, wont show who they are, wont give an address yet hand over post code with the advice to mail them via here once you've arrived lmfao.
Some people must think others are as daft as them or no clue what they make themselves come across as. Then wonder why they struggle for meets. |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
Bury/Bolton |
We never give out our number, so according to some we must be messers.
We have had people refuse to meet because we wouldn't swap numbers, ironically we had been verified as genuine by more meetings in person than they have.
So who in this scenario is the messer?
Like anything else there is no substitute for common sense, and a phone number is no more proof of sincerity than any other means of verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you think it was a messer?
If you cant talk to them its bound to be a con,scam,wind up.
Get another cheap phone just for this."
I hardly ever talk on the phone prior to a meet...
What's the point in speaking to someone you've never met in order to say they are who you think they? You could be talking to anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"have 3 SIM cards, so no probs "
Don't most people have a "fab" phone? (Actually I don't..but as a single guy I dont give a shit who has my number). Generally I have the number of most people I've met. Some have now become friends...others if I don't intend to meet again, then I would never consider contacting them again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you think it was a messer?
If you cant talk to them its bound to be a con,scam,wind up.
Get another cheap phone just for this."
Really? We're not any of the above, but have enough phones between personal and work ones. Everyone has their own requirements but we think we're plenty open enough without being required to provide our phone numbers. |
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Yes but we'd rather not waste our precious time sitting around hpoing someone we have never spoken to on the phone is genuine and turns up. 99% of so called 'couples' where the female half won't say hello to the other female on the phone are timewasters (males collecting pics to wank to) with no active female half. If someone is so concerned about giving out their phone number then just get a second £20 cheap or pay as you go 'fab phone' and away you go ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me I'm happy to give my number if required or not if not. Not fussed either way.
On her account my wife would refuse totally to swap numbers. If you Google her number you'd get business address home address the lot so not gonna happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you think it was a messer?
In a relationship most likely. Pretty much any phone now can block people so you'd only keep your number secret if you didn't want someone else seeing messages to it that you shouldn't be getting. Don't sweat it!"
But they can just ring withhel unless you block all witheld numbers which can be a pain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a couple initiate contact with me. Said they wanted to speak with me on phone as a requirement. I said no problem. Only they wanted me to give them my number but not them give me theirs. Their requirements they should have sent the number first.
Many people prefer not giving a number out. It does not mean they aren't genuine. It just means they prefer not to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never give out our number, so according to some we must be messers.
We have had people refuse to meet because we wouldn't swap numbers, ironically we had been verified as genuine by more meetings in person than they have.
So who in this scenario is the messer?
Like anything else there is no substitute for common sense, and a phone number is no more proof of sincerity than any other means of verification. "
Well said. Our feelings exactly  |
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I think there isn't a better way to gauge what someone is actually like that talking to them. I'd hope that that's something everyone would think was pretty important.
I don't mind if people give me a ring from a withheld number to start with. And I have never sent or reviewed a call at 3 o'clock in the morning as a result of exchanging numbers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would want to speak on the phone before a meet,there is what'sapp etc so you can block them if there is any issues.I wouldn't just meet someone without talking that's me personally I like to get a feel for someone and if you don't give your kik or what'sapp or number out you have something to hide |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would want to speak on the phone before a meet,there is what'sapp etc so you can block them if there is any issues.I wouldn't just meet someone without talking that's me personally I like to get a feel for someone and if you don't give your kik or what'sapp or number out you have something to hide "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. Never give out our number.
Just do t need the hassle of having hundreds of people knowing our number.
Learnt the hard way with getting calls from d*unk and lonely people at 3am!!! "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never give out my number. My varifications speak for themselves and prove I am a genuine person that does meet if I say I do "
same here
if my verifications don't prove i'm not a time waster they can have a look at the other 200+ i don't show
i have never had a need to swap numbers i do ok without doing so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no number = no meet for me ive been time wasted far too often agreed and it's getting worse with the timewasters "
how does swapping numbers not make you a time waster?
it seems lots of people have 'play phones' so whats to stop somebody buying a cheap phone just to piss people about on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd never meet anyone who wouldn't give me a way to contact them. But then, that's me. to each his/her own."
Even if we'd met in a club first and wanted to meet again elsewhere I wouldn't dream of going anywhere without having swapped numbers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having a phone number is no guarantee someone will turn up, I can think of at least three occasions where we've swapped numbers and they didn't turn up, one guy had even insisted on a phone call, maybe he didn't like my voice  |
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By *ike_78xMan
over a year ago
Ashbourne |
One thing everyone should be aware of is if you're on Facebook and your number is linked to it then the person who has your number will get a message asking do they know this person. So more of your private info is exploited. If you're saying well have a secondary number then that's not exactly being genuine either is it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing everyone should be aware of is if you're on Facebook and your number is linked to it then the person who has your number will get a message asking do they know this person. So more of your private info is exploited. If you're saying well have a secondary number then that's not exactly being genuine either is it. "
Why on earth are you not genuine if you have a second phone? I have one specifically for this lifestyle as I want to keep it separate and having nearly sent a naughty photo to a family member with the same name as someone on here thought it was a good idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would never meet without a chat first. Particularly when its a couple where we can speak to both.
Having bought a cheap pre paid phone for this purpose there are absolutely no security concerns.
If on the big night someone is lost or running late then the problems are easily solved. |
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By *ike_78xMan
over a year ago
Ashbourne |
While I agree keeping your private info as such, using anything that could keep you anonymous, burner phone or kik, means there's always going to be crazies! I should've said messers instead of genuine and yes I know not everyone is like that. Even sending someone a photo can exploit you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"While I agree keeping your private info as such, using anything that could keep you anonymous, burner phone or kik, means there's always going to be crazies! I should've said messers instead of genuine and yes I know not everyone is like that. Even sending someone a photo can exploit you "
I have two phone numbers... does that make me a 'messer'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have given out my number twice and on both occasions ended up being bombarded
one women ended up stalking me for 6 months and made me leave her for a few months - it was a nightmare
the other was a guy - I'm bisexual - and he went even further and kept turning up where I parked my car at work
So my policy is simple really - first meet agree social only at mutually agreed location and see how things go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as your 0H (if youre a couple) knows about it then surely getting messages wouldnt be a problem? Or just block...
We'd be happy to give out our number in prep for a meet, but it would be the last step. |
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