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Who should pay?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Got a meet coming up next week and very excited we've decided to meet in a hotel now we said we'd go 50/50 and book the room now the meet as messaged back saying well it should be us who pay 75% and him 25% as there's two of us. Not sure what to do we thought 50/50 was fair

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By *ustyWoman over a year ago

inverclyde

50/50 take it or leave it

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

Stick to your 50/50.....to be honest if he is nit picking over the percentage then he is my opinion probably not worth meeting....that would be my view anyway if it was my meet.

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By *oDownEasyMan over a year ago

Ayrshire

What a tight git!

And his maths is wrong-should be 66.66/33.33% based on his reasoning!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i will never pay for any 1 else

its be

50/50 or tara

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"What a tight git!

And his maths is wrong-should be 66.66/33.33% based on his reasoning!"

Who pays the other 0.01% then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Got a meet coming up next week and very excited we've decided to meet in a hotel now we said we'd go 50/50 and book the room now the meet as messaged back saying well it should be us who pay 75% and him 25% as there's two of us. Not sure what to do we thought 50/50 was fair"

Should be 65%-35% if he's a mathematition

If you made first move maybe you should pay lions share.

50-50 is fair though

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

seems rather poor form to haggle over the room - the guy is gonna get laid FFS (and Cecilia is a peach!!)

what more does he want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

50/50, without a doubt, bloody cheek lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

say bye bye, we had something similar last year.

Had agreed 50/50, all was fine then just before the meet he tried the same sort of thing.

When we said 'all was ok last week'? he declined to meet.

We think all along he had no intention of meeting and wanted an 'excuse'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe his wife looks after their finances

Would have thought he was just a tight git if he had said a third, but a quarter is taking the biscuit

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Tell you what - blow him out and drive to swansea - cost you about the same as the hotel in petrol and I'll put you up for free and supply the half-time pizza and beer

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By *ideboyMan over a year ago

Suffolk

Seeing as he is a single male (assumption) he should pay 100%, and be grateful for his opportunity.

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Seeing as he is a single male (assumption) he should pay 100%, and be grateful for his opportunity."

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't bother meeting him. He will either turn up and skip out and as you booked the room you wont get the money. Or he wont turn up at all.

50/50 is more than fair.

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By *ideboyMan over a year ago

Suffolk

"Seeing as he is a single male (assumption) he should pay 100%, and be grateful for his opportunity.

Why?

Ever so slightly tongue-in-cheek old chap.

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Seeing as he is a single male (assumption) he should pay 100%, and be grateful for his opportunity.

Why?

Ever so slightly tongue-in-cheek old chap."

Thanks for your answer to my question!

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By *evonTallGuyMan over a year ago

Newton Abbot

"seems rather poor form to haggle over the room - the guy is gonna get laid FFS (and Cecilia is a peach!!)

what more does he want?"

Agree on all points!

As others have said, sounds like a potential excuse to wriggle out of the meet.

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple over a year ago

Manchester

suggest he pays the whole bill this time around and you two cover the costs next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

instead of a hotel ask him to put you two up see wot he says then lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It sounds like he married and wonta a quick shag and go and not stay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

stick by what you said its you that set the rules - they don't want to play by them then tell them where to go!

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By *aravancoupleMan over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

As soon as he said 75% for you and him 25% he would have been blocked.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If you jointly made the decision to meet in a hotel I actually dont think its unreasonable to split the cost by 3 if there are 3 people playing...

Unless there is some other agreement for example if one party is keeping the room for the night, or one has travelled a long way to meet the other etc.

Main thing for me though would that if I felt a bit uncomfortable about the 'negotiations' - would I still feel comfortable playing with him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fuck it come round to ours. its free!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you jointly made the decision to meet in a hotel I actually dont think its unreasonable to split the cost by 3 if there are 3 people playing...

Unless there is some other agreement for example if one party is keeping the room for the night, or one has travelled a long way to meet the other etc.

Main thing for me though would that if I felt a bit uncomfortable about the 'negotiations' - would I still feel comfortable playing with him? "

To be fair we usually split it that way (my hubby and I pay an even split) but in this case the person is trying to use it as a bargaining chip and yes it does make for a bad atmosphere (we have had it happen to us) where someone is trying to wriggle out of paying - what if the OP has booked a more expensive room thinking they were paying less?

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By *inky24big35Couple over a year ago

blackpool

it shud be a fair split 50/50

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell him to get lost, mean git

Anyway 3 into 100% is 33.33%.

So he should pay 33.33% not 25% and you 66.66%.

If his maths is that bad, I bet his 12" cock is only 4" really.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I was just talking about it generally, but if I felt it was 'bargaining' Id be outta there anyways as I wouldnt then feel comfortable about the meet. Hope you get it sorted x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"say bye bye, we had something similar last year.

Had agreed 50/50, all was fine then just before the meet he tried the same sort of thing.

When we said 'all was ok last week'? he declined to meet.

We think all along he had no intention of meeting and wanted an 'excuse'

That was my initial thought reading the OP. He's losing his nerve and looking for an excuse so the OP can call off meet. Can't see the reason for the nit picking and I most certainly wouldn't meet him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As soon as he said 75% for you and him 25% he would have been blocked."

Well we did message back and say if that was the case we will leave it. To us 50/50 is fair to him it wasn't so we'd rather not play with someone like that x

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"it shud be a fair split 50/50"

but a fair split between 3 people isnt 50/50

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By *unlovers2009Couple over a year ago

chester

Tell him to feck off and find someone else!!!! Cheeky or what!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it shud be a fair split 50/50

but a fair split between 3 people isnt 50/50"

Neither is 75/25 though, would be as bad if he said split it three ways

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldnt meet someone who haggled over room prices - would make me feel cheap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seeing as he is a single male (assumption) he should pay 100%, and be grateful for his opportunity.

Why?

It's mutual fun. Why should he be grateful and fund the cost of the evening?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

eh...there's three folk sharing in the fun surely...or does one of you not approve?!

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

Whenever I have met in a hotel, whether it be with a single or a couple I have always gone 50/50....I wouldn't dream of asking a couple to pay more than half.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would cancel, my instincts would be screaming "steer clear" and I would make it clear in my profile that any future hotels would be 50/50. Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"eh...there's three folk sharing in the fun surely...or does one of you not approve?!

We all approved until he said he wouldn't go 50/50 with us and we should pay more. We was happy to go forward with the meet until he started spitting hairs over the cost.

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"eh...there's three folk sharing in the fun surely...or does one of you not approve?!

We all approved until he said he wouldn't go 50/50 with us and we should pay more. We was happy to go forward with the meet until he started spitting hairs over the cost. "

Going on past experience I would guess he is looking for an excuse NOT to meet you.....stick with things, you will find plenty of genuine guys willing to meet you.....on your terms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Your probably right x

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable."

Does that really happen???

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

3 people go out to dinner... you'd split the bill 3 ways.

3 people go to the theatre... you'd split the cost 3 ways.

3 people share the cost of a taxi... 3 way split.

3 people playing in a hotel room.......... 3 way split.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

Does that really happen???

Some couples on here really do think they are God's Gift when it comes to us lowly single males.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"3 people go out to dinner... you'd split the bill 3 ways.

3 people go to the theatre... you'd split the cost 3 ways.

3 people share the cost of a taxi... 3 way split.

3 people playing in a hotel room.......... 3 way split."

totally!

it really pisses me off when i go out with couple friends and the rounds come in at my round and their round....

why should the guy be greatful just because there's others willing to pay 50% or even 100%.

he's unreasonable to expect you to pay 75%, but not unreasonable to think that 50% is unfair.

good on him for standing his ground I say

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

Does that really happen???

Some couples on here really do think they are God's Gift when it comes to us lowly single males. "

God that came across as a very bitter remark....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

Does that really happen???

Some couples on here really do think they are God's Gift when it comes to us lowly single males. "

Not all of us x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

God that came across as a very bitter remark...."

don't call him God....you may feel his wrath

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

Does that really happen???

Some couples on here really do think they are God's Gift when it comes to us lowly single males. "

Well more fool the single guys that do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Dances alone I never said the guy should be grateful all I said and what I've seen most couples say is 50/50 is the norm. We came on here to ask this and got our answer. We was unsure of the etiquette towards this but we thought 50/50 sounded reasonable and we did that on another meet

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

Look at it this way.....you are likely to be getting more mail from guys wanting to meet you than he is getting mail from couples wanting to meet him....

50/50 is the norm in my experience, if you feel he is nit picking then view him as a bus....there will another one along in no time at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who said it should be 50:50

if there's four people there it's split 4 ways three people 3 ways

Sorry but this guy doesn't seem unreasonable a compromise of split 3 ways equally is fair not 50:50

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dances alone I never said the guy should be grateful all I said and what I've seen most couples say is 50/50 is the norm. We came on here to ask this and got our answer. We was unsure of the etiquette towards this but we thought 50/50 sounded reasonable and we did that on another meet "

nope, but the comment was made on this thread.

if you want to split 50/50 then you ought to put that on your profile.

personally, i wouldn't even consider it. as i said, theres three of you in there having fun, why should the single person have to pay more than a third?

there is only couples that have this attitude and it's in life in general, not just swinging.

there seems to be an attitude that if you consider yourself as one unit, so should the rest of us!

couples are just the cheapest folk to go out with....i speak up now as i got so pissed off with paying for being single!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Look at it this way.....you are likely to be getting more mail from guys wanting to meet you than he is getting mail from couples wanting to meet him....

50/50 is the norm in my experience, if you feel he is nit picking then view him as a bus....there will another one along in no time at all."

yes, take advantage of the fact that he's fighting against hundreds of other single males.

that's totally fair that is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He only wanted to pay a quarter though, it wouldn't have been as bad if he said a third

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He only wanted to pay a quarter though, it wouldn't have been as bad if he said a third

they asked for 50% before he offered 25%...i consider that returning the favour!

i agree they shouldnt pay 75...no more than he should pay 50

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well to me 50:50 ain't fair if 3 people are playing

it should be equal jeez it ain't hard.

I don't play with many couples but I think I'll stick with the single man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well to me 50:50 ain't fair if 3 people are playing

it should be equal jeez it ain't hard.

I don't play with many couples but I think I'll stick with the single man "

i agree, as you said earlier...if it was two couples would the op think that the other couple should pay more than 50%...as they're meeting two people and not one?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

IMHO, there are two participating parties, a couple and a single gent.

Hence I believe 50/50 split is fair.

If the single gent argues the toss about 25% of the room, then IMHO, he is not worth the bother, and is trying to pull a fast one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Many couples would not dream of offering anything towards the cost so I think most single guys would see that as reasonable.

Does that really happen???

Some couples on here really do think they are God's Gift when it comes to us lowly single males.

God that came across as a very bitter remark...."

Not at all jane, just an observation on SOME couples. It's not important enough in my life to make me bitter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

wow, so many opinions!!

for us, we'd normally pay for the room and never even consider a split.

most hotels aren't that expensive, so it's a small amount to be haggling over.

and... to be haggling over that small amount, considering what your really sharing with they guy, i.e. yourselves etc, is that really the sort of person you want to bring into your playtime ??

just our thoughts..

S n T x

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

it was the haggling not the split that got me, it just seemed seedy somehow.

At the end of the day, the way I see things as a single guy, I'm being invited in to someone elses sex life, so I either accept what's on offer and enjoy the ride or go elsewhere.

I wouldnt say to a couple where the wife didnt like anal "ok well how about I only put it half way up your bum then?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let me put this to you you've all gone out for dinner and decided to split the bill 5 ways. Do you let some off paying less? Do you bollocks it's equal. Sorry but times are hard for all us. I accomidate so don't have this problem or should I start charging my meets the price of water when he goes for a shower? In all my years I've never come across this it's always been split equally I even go 1/2 on a pizza that's my way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was meeting a couple and they said 50:50 to me I'd tell them to trot on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you send a Christmas card to a couple Janelle would you expect two cards back?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it was the haggling not the split that got me, it just seemed seedy somehow.

At the end of the day, the way I see things as a single guy, I'm being invited in to someone elses sex life, so I either accept what's on offer and enjoy the ride or go elsewhere.

I wouldnt say to a couple where the wife didnt like anal "ok well how about I only put it half way up your bum then?"

and they are using him to feed their fantasies...there's gain for all parties surely...it's not a fricking charity!

you might say it's not on to haggle...i would say it's not right to make assumptions and dictate what the split would be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you send a Christmas card to a couple Janelle would you expect two cards back? "

no as I've only wasted one card. Plus I don't do crimbo cards only send to family x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it was the haggling not the split that got me, it just seemed seedy somehow.

At the end of the day, the way I see things as a single guy, I'm being invited in to someone elses sex life, so I either accept what's on offer and enjoy the ride or go elsewhere.

I wouldnt say to a couple where the wife didnt like anal "ok well how about I only put it half way up your bum then?"

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you send a Christmas card to a couple Janelle would you expect two cards back? "

you're one of those couples that expect a single person to split the bar bill 50/50 with a single friend huh?

3 glasses of wine.....50/50 split

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haggling over who should pay for what would deflate my hard on it's wouldn't be worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To the OP why not find a nice dogging spot and do it in the car, it's free

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't drink, but for someone who says it's not right to make assumptions and dictate to others, your doing a better job than anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you send a Christmas card to a couple Janelle would you expect two cards back? "

That's awesome! lol

50/50 doesn't sound bad anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you send a Christmas card to a couple Janelle would you expect two cards back?

That's awesome! lol

50/50 doesn't sound bad anyway.

But I've only sent one card so I'd expect one card back. But this is money we are talking about not some charity Xmas card lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree haggling is not pretty, and I prefer peeps that are generous and easy going.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

50/50 If not you will feel like a mug ... not fair one side should pay more . its not a good start to a new meet ....... no matter how nice would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont get me wrong I wouldn't start haggling over percentages but what I love about this thread is that singletons routinely get the dirty end of the stick.

Nice to see a few counter arguments.

In the ideal world I'd say split 3 ways if 3 people.

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

and they are using him to feed their fantasies...there's gain for all parties surely...it's not a fricking charity!

you might say it's not on to haggle...i would say it's not right to make assumptions and dictate what the split would be"

fair enough - so if I invite someone to my place, should I ask them to bring some 50p's for the meter?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

50/50 and if you booking on 3rd March with travellodge its only a tenner so whys he complaining is he a student

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont get me wrong I wouldn't start haggling over percentages but what I love about this thread is that singletons routinely get the dirty end of the stick.

Nice to see a few counter arguments.

In the ideal world I'd say split 3 ways if 3 people."
the couple comes as 1 ........ the single comes as 1 ... theres two profiles . If i had this i would tell them to go take a run and jump .......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

50/50 is not fair.

I don't see why couples think they should be subsidised.

As for the remark that he should happy to pay as 'the lady is a peach' .... that turns my stomach.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's why I say "in the ideal world" and my post above says split 50/50 and I wouldn't haggle.

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"..... but what I love about this thread is that singletons routinely get the dirty end of the stick.

I don't agree.

For example last weekend a couple invited me to their hotel - took me to dinner in the restaurant, and wouldn't accept a penny from me for anything.

Their reasoning was that for what I was bringing to the party they could have just as easily come to my place - but they had a very specific fantasy that included the dinner and the hotel - so they didn't feel it was appropriate to ask me to contribute towards the cost

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

personally i would dump a guy who started changing his mind regarding costs etc........... i would be concerned if he would actually turn up , leaving you to pay the full cost !!!!!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

Therefore the split should be 50/50/If it were 3 separate individuals meeting then it should be a third each.Sex between ppl who dont know each other is very different to when 2 of the players know each other well.

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

That's exactly how I see it

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

As for the remark that he should happy to pay as 'the lady is a peach' .... that turns my stomach."

In which case I suggest you study english comprehension because that isn't what I said - nor was it the implication

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

That's exactly how I see it"
thats how i see it too x all i know it would put me off them even before i meet them .. saying about the money side takes away from the sexy fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I believe there is a lesson to be learnt here - always agree on how the meet should be financed up front before paying for anything to avoid any unpleasantries later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id tell him to shove his 25% where the sun dont shine

and tell him he should be paying 100% of the hotel room lol

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

As an alternative ask him to bring a friend and then its 50% whichever way you do the maths and 25% more fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

That's exactly how I see it"

+1... or is that 2?... seeing as though we are a couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and they are using him to feed their fantasies...there's gain for all parties surely...it's not a fricking charity!

you might say it's not on to haggle...i would say it's not right to make assumptions and dictate what the split would be

fair enough - so if I invite someone to my place, should I ask them to bring some 50p's for the meter?"

is that your best answer....?!

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

That's exactly how I see it

+1... or is that 2?... seeing as though we are a couple

The real question, which part of the couple pays the 50% share?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

That's exactly how I see it

+1... or is that 2?... seeing as though we are a couple

The real question, which part of the couple pays the 50% share?

The male obviously

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

We would pay, so we can have the room once the fun is over

There was a couple of points I read ( but as the thread is long and my memory is going I can't remember who posted it) but someone mentioned something along the lines of the man should go by your terms? I thought this playing game was equals, we would never demand people play on our terms, we like everyone to be happy with the arrangements and we don't want to meet people who say " whatever you want is ok with me" so our meets are on both peoples terms.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"..... but what I love about this thread is that singletons routinely get the dirty end of the stick.

I don't agree.

For example last weekend a couple invited me to their hotel - took me to dinner in the restaurant, and wouldn't accept a penny from me for anything.

That's one example and it's great that you had a good time. However...

when the threads come up on here for example of single guys being asked to pay all kinds of money at meets I think quite often singles pay proportionately more.

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By *rT30Man over a year ago

Munster

50/50 is very fair.

If anything he should pay 75/25

I know i would !!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

I must admit haggling would be a turn off.

I suppose we don't really know the whole story though and does anything else get taken into account, ie is the man doing the travelling etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Okay while I agree if you're out with a couple at the pub and they think they can just buy one joint round and you have to buy three drinks is wrong, in this situation, I think it's more fair to split the hotel 50/50.

Yeah there's two of them but they're on here as a couple, if it was three singletons getting together for a 3some, split three ways, but a couple profile and single profile should be split halves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

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By *stwoCouple over a year ago

anywhere

we do a lot of our meeets in hotels and we always pay 100%.we like our fun they leave we have more fun then enjoy brekkie.and we do use nice hotels.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey guys wise up tell him to take a hike the penny pinching sob never heard such tosh in all my life. Next he, ll be saying you pay the room and he will give you his half when he gets there !!!!!!! Then won't turn up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay"

Saying they;ll go 50/50 on a hotel room is not dictating, it offering

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id cancel the meet simply for his cheek, if i met a couple i wouldnt dream of expecting them to pay more, there maybe two of you but your still one unit and i think you should pay 50/50, but id tell him to bugger off simply for being a tight, penny pinching bastard lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

Saying they;ll go 50/50 on a hotel room is not dictating, it offering

if it's an offer then he has a right to counter-offer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

Saying they;ll go 50/50 on a hotel room is not dictating, it offering

if it's an offer then he has a right to counter-offer"

its not setting the mood for a good meet tho is it? when someones bartering over saving a few quid

if i meet someone in a hotel i expect to go halfs, even if i met a couple id still expect to go halfs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"50/50 If not you will feel like a mug ... not fair one side should pay more . its not a good start to a new meet ....... no matter how nice would put me off."

Love the new pic Jo very nice sweets x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who gets to eat the all-in brekkie????

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay"

So do you meet couples?

If so do you meet them at a hotel.....and who pays?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Who gets to eat the all-in brekkie????

It depends on who pays for the room, damn thats us back to the beginning again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a tight git!

And his maths is wrong-should be 66.66/33.33% based on his reasoning!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stick to your 50/50.....to be honest if he is nit picking over the percentage then he is my opinion probably not worth meeting....that would be my view anyway if it was my meet."

yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who gets to eat the all-in brekkie????

It depends on who pays for the room, damn thats us back to the beginning again!

lol the brekkie is a dealbreaker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would pay, so we can have the room once the fun is over

Bang! There you go!

You negotiate.... if you can't agree on who pays for what portion then leave it! This is meant to be fun! We have had singles offer to pay for everything... not for us, smacks sex trade :S

The way we see it... we look for a single, they are looking for a couple... we are happy 50/50, they are happy 50/50... all willing to play on these terms?... Yes? Oh happy days

Not many will question it if a single guy pays full for a hotel room to play with a single lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who gets to eat the all-in brekkie????

It depends on who pays for the room, damn thats us back to the beginning again!

lol the brekkie is a dealbreaker

Especially a buffet breakie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd question it if the bloke wanted to pay for the room I always go halves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/20539#last

this thread was done on exactly the same issue but from a single guys perspective.

it seems it depends on pecking order...if you're a single fem playing with a couple then the couple are happy to play, but if you're a single man you ought to be happy that you've been selected out of the many thousands.

you chose the man because you liked him, or so i would assume.

why should he not have a say as to how the bill is split? this is a couple taking the upper hand

if this is how you want meets to go then it wouldn't be unreasonable to state it on your profile to save the poor guy the effort of trying to impress you before you fleece him of his share of the hotel bill.

i wonder if like other couples you would expect the chap to leave after the deed is done and you want to b e alone together to enjoy the rest of the night in the hotel?

maybe he could ask for a refund pro-rata?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As for the remark that he should happy to pay as 'the lady is a peach' .... that turns my stomach.

In which case I suggest you study english comprehension because that isn't what I said - nor was it the implication"

Thank you for the suggestion. No need though was there?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

So do you meet couples?

If so do you meet them at a hotel.....and who pays?"

nope, when i started i got put of by the first couple i talked to.....it was all about their play and their interest.

every couple that has mailed me since has the same attitude...you can do this cant do this, we will want to do this to you and expect this

fuck that

i know what i want and if you're not willing to share the experience then the answer is a definite no

btw...that couple wanted me to pay 50% and wanted to have the room to themselves for the rest of the night too

i realise now that it's not my idea of fun and i have no interest in going that route

if i was meeting numbers it would be split equally...they will not pay for my affections nor will i pay for theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could be worse, they could have asked him to meet at a swinging club where everything is split evenly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Could be worse, they could have asked him to meet at a swinging club where everything is split evenly

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By *andy muncherMan over a year ago

Nottingham

all i can say im glad i can accomadate saying that you have pay for your breakfast only kidding

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

So do you meet couples?

If so do you meet them at a hotel.....and who pays?

nope, when i started i got put of by the first couple i talked to.....it was all about their play and their interest.

every couple that has mailed me since has the same attitude...you can do this cant do this, we will want to do this to you and expect this

fuck that

i know what i want and if you're not willing to share the experience then the answer is a definite no

btw...that couple wanted me to pay 50% and wanted to have the room to themselves for the rest of the night too

i realise now that it's not my idea of fun and i have no interest in going that route

if i was meeting numbers it would be split equally...they will not pay for my affections nor will i pay for theirs."

So you haven't met any couples.....well I do meet couples and they NEVER try to make me dance to their tune, in fact quite the opposite, the couples that I have met and do meet respect what I bring into their relationship sex wise and treat me with utmost respect.

I often have to insist on paying half as generally they are happy to foot the hotel bill, but that would make me feel awkward.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's swinging....it's not a feckin Morroccan market stall, anyone who wanted to haggle over a hotel bill would get short shrift from me.

it is indeed swinging...haggling would not have occurred had the op not assumed the split in the first place.

it should have been discussed....not dictated.

i'd never let anyone tell me what i'm going to pay

So do you meet couples?

If so do you meet them at a hotel.....and who pays?

nope, when i started i got put of by the first couple i talked to.....it was all about their play and their interest.

every couple that has mailed me since has the same attitude...you can do this cant do this, we will want to do this to you and expect this

fuck that

i know what i want and if you're not willing to share the experience then the answer is a definite no

btw...that couple wanted me to pay 50% and wanted to have the room to themselves for the rest of the night too

i realise now that it's not my idea of fun and i have no interest in going that route

if i was meeting numbers it would be split equally...they will not pay for my affections nor will i pay for theirs.

I often have to insist on paying half as generally they are happy to foot the hotel bill, but that would make me feel awkward.

to be fair its nothing to do with couples, as a single woman i have met couples in the past and some have been great while others have been right arses

Its just pot luck on if you get a good couple or not, but you can say that about single men and women too

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

I thought the thread was about singles meeting couples and couples meeting singles......and the hotel bill for these meets?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and then you would need a whole other discussion about who pays for the condoms?

What if you each bring some and only use yours? do you pinch some of theirs or ask them to pay towards whats been used?

What if there's one left - who's was it - who takes it home?

oh its so complicated!!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

is this the place to mention single people arent swingers anyway,,,,,,,,,,,

moves back a safe distance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is this the place to mention single people arent swingers anyway,,,,,,,,,,,

moves back a safe distance

i actually agree with that

im not nor have i ever clsssed myself as a swinger, i still pay my way tho lol

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"Id tell him to shove his 25% where the sun dont shine

and tell him he should be paying 100% of the hotel room lol

Why should he pay 100%?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Id tell him to shove his 25% where the sun dont shine

and tell him he should be paying 100% of the hotel room lol

Why should he pay 100%?"

for his damn cheek lol

he should be ok tho just shove a lump of coal up his arse you can pay with the diamond that comes out at the end of the night lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"is this the place to mention single people arent swingers anyway,,,,,,,,,,,

moves back a safe distance

i actually agree with that

im not nor have i ever clsssed myself as a swinger, i still pay my way tho lol

As do i,and i don't class myself as a swinger either.But this whole thread has become a whinge by ppl who want sex with couples.Face facts,if that is what you want there may be a price to pay.

Or do what we did 20 years ago and try to pick up in bars.No fancy names for it,no claim of a lifestyle,just ppl having sex .

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"and then you would need a whole other discussion about who pays for the condoms?

What if you each bring some and only use yours? do you pinch some of theirs or ask them to pay towards whats been used?

What if there's one left - who's was it - who takes it home?

oh its so complicated!!

I would make sure there wasn't any left though, if there was it would have been such a waste of my 49% contribution to the hotel room cost!

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

Face facts,if that is what you want there may be a price to pay.

A price to pay or a contribution to the cost of the room?

Both have totally different meanings!

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"Those saying each part of the couple should pay are missing the point.This meet is between a couple(one unit)and a single guy(the other unit).That is the sexual experience all are hoping to explore.

Does that mean that if a bi-couple meet up with a bi-singleton, the singleton should only concentrate on pleasuring one person within the couple at a time, and the other half of the couple would have to wait their turn?

Would the singleton be within their rights to ask for financial recompense if they're expected to kiss one person whilst fucking the other?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to be honest i think it depends on the situation of the meet as much as how manys there as to who pays

I booked a room for a 3sum a few weeks back, i booked and paid for the room and set about looking for two guys to join me, i never asked either of them for any money towards the room, and to be honest why should they have paid? it was me who wanted the 3sum, it was me who mailed them asking if they would like to join me, i feel it would be rude of me to them say..oh by the ways thats £20 towards the room, after all they was doing me tyhe favour not tyhe other way round

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"As do i,and i don't class myself as a swinger either.But this whole thread has become a whinge by ppl who want sex with couples.Face facts,if that is what you want there may be a price to pay.

Or do what we did 20 years ago and try to pick up in bars.No fancy names for it,no claim of a lifestyle,just ppl having sex ."

But... but... but... presumably the couple are only doing this because they're getting something out of it too, i.e. getting to have a threesome, and not simply because they're feeling generous towards the single person?

If it's beneficial for all parties, then all parties should contribute.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol cant believe i miss spelt the word the wrong twice there with the same typo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often have to insist on paying half as generally they are happy to foot the hotel bill, but that would make me feel awkward.

you insist on paying half do you?

is that not the same as haggling....?!

something you don't advocate.

....i must say, it may be your experience of meeting couples...and is also the experience of other single women who meets couples (single women who meet couples being the lowest denominator, the rare breed, the top of the food chain), but you are not speaking of the experiences of single men on here.

he is exercising his right to decide what he pays in much the same way as the op.

yet, this thread seems to wish to vilify him for this. I mean, how damn cheeky of the guy to even speak to the couple eh...he certainly doesn't know his place quite clearly...as all the chaps so desperate to meet couples that they will say anything to appease them will content

what happened to applying your own standards on here?

or is it because he is a single man he should accept anything that's thrown his way?!

such despicable double standards, as we all know what the majority of the posts would say if a single woman was asking this question.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"As do i,and i don't class myself as a swinger either.But this whole thread has become a whinge by ppl who want sex with couples.Face facts,if that is what you want there may be a price to pay.

Or do what we did 20 years ago and try to pick up in bars.No fancy names for it,no claim of a lifestyle,just ppl having sex .

If it's beneficial for all parties, then all parties should contribute."

And if the single wanted sex with one man or woman,why dont they go off and do it?The fact is the singleton wants the couple as a unit,they have arranged the meet because the threesome idea is the sexual experience they want to explore.Therefore either member of the couple alone would be unsatisfying.....or or or,single men on here meet couples to shag the woman cos its easier than pulling down the pub.

Now that would never happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i think it depends on the situation of the meet as much as how manys there as to who pays

if it was a threesome you missed a trick...two of you should have ganged up on the other person and made him pay part of your share....quite acceptable and the set standard

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

I often have to insist on paying half as generally they are happy to foot the hotel bill, but that would make me feel awkward.

you insist on paying half do you?

is that not the same as haggling....?!

something you don't advocate.

he is exercising his right to decide what he pays in much the same way as the op.

what happened to applying your own standards on here?

or is it because he is a single man he should accept anything that's thrown his way?!

such despicable double standards, as we all know what the majority of the posts would say if a single woman was asking this question.

Why double standards?

If I didn't agree with paying half that would make me the same as a single guy who didn't agree with paying half....

If I were the person meeting the OP's as a bisexual woman....and I tried to insist on paying only 25% then I would be expecting to be told to sling my hook, like the majority of single guys on here I expect to pay half....

So no double standards.....just the way I and many others (including single males) do things as standard with meets.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"to be honest i think it depends on the situation of the meet as much as how manys there as to who pays

if it was a threesome you missed a trick...two of you should have ganged up on the other person and made him pay part of your share....quite acceptable and the set standard"

jesus do you have a chip on your shoulder or what!

Seperate individuals meeting for sex ,why shouldnt they each pay a third.A couple meeting a singleton,each pays half as each unit has agreed to meet for a joint reason.

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"to be honest i think it depends on the situation of the meet as much as how manys there as to who pays

if it was a threesome you missed a trick...two of you should have ganged up on the other person and made him pay part of your share....quite acceptable and the set standard

jesus do you have a chip on your shoulder or what!

Seperate individuals meeting for sex ,why shouldnt they each pay a third.A couple meeting a singleton,each pays half as each unit has agreed to meet for a joint reason.

Why is everyone talking about "units" are we not all people then? I always thought a 3-some was 3 people and not 2 units?

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

PS - Before I get hung, drawn and quartered; Admin can we please get a tongue in cheek smiley, pretty please!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often have to insist on paying half as generally they are happy to foot the hotel bill, but that would make me feel awkward.

you insist on paying half do you?

is that not the same as haggling....?!

something you don't advocate.

he is exercising his right to decide what he pays in much the same way as the op.

what happened to applying your own standards on here?

or is it because he is a single man he should accept anything that's thrown his way?!

such despicable double standards, as we all know what the majority of the posts would say if a single woman was asking this question.

Why double standards?

If I didn't agree with paying half that would make me the same as a single guy who didn't agree with paying half....

So no double standards.....just the way I and many others (including single males) do things as standard with meets."

surely the standard is that you agree between yourself who pays what...not one side decide what the other pays?

you pay 50% as it IS YOUR CHOICE. this chap opted not to pay half as is HIS CHOICE.

the op don't have to take him up on it...he doesnt have to take them up on it.

stalemate

yet everyone here has said this man is wrong

NO, he is EXERCISING HIS RIGHT TO CHOOSE

I use caps as i'm fed up of the facts being lost in figures.

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"Why is everyone talking about "units" are we not all people then? I always thought a 3-some was 3 people and not 2 units?

It's because the Government guidelines refer to the number of "units" you should be limiting yourself to in a week... incidentally, I think it's more for men than it is for women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?"

not a third....50%

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

not a third....50%"

is half not 50% now then? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

not a third....50%

is half not 50% now then? lol"

just feeling a teensie bit demonic

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Why is everyone talking about "units" are we not all people then? I always thought a 3-some was 3 people and not 2 units?

It's because the Government guidelines refer to the number of "units" you should be limiting yourself to in a week... incidentally, I think it's more for men than it is for women."

So how many single lady units am I allowed to meet in a week then? And if the husband decides he is going to tag along, what does the Government say about the unit count then? This is so complicated, I might need to go lie down soon!

Yup, I'm still looking for that elusive smiley.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is everyone talking about "units" are we not all people then? I always thought a 3-some was 3 people and not 2 units?

It's because the Government guidelines refer to the number of "units" you should be limiting yourself to in a week... incidentally, I think it's more for men than it is for women.

Yup, I'm still looking for that elusive smiley.

it's the calories not the units you need to worry about....

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

You don't get it do you?

The reason so many people think the single guy was wrong is that with most people on here a 50/50 split is the 'Industry Standard' or the normal way of doing things.

For every guy that writes to this couple and are not willing to pay 50% of a hotel room there will be a dozen that will think this is the normal thing to do, and will have a night of fun in all probability.

For a single woman you do seem to have very strong feelings that guys are hard done by on this site, in fact your feelings are stronger on this than most men I have spoken to.....

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"You don't get it do you?

The reason so many people think the single guy was wrong is that with most people on here a 50/50 split is the 'Industry Standard' or the normal way of doing things.

For a single woman you do seem to have very strong feelings that guys are hard done by on this site, in fact your feelings are stronger on this than most men I have spoken to....."

Swinging is an industry now? Has the Government privatised it yet and if so where do I buy shares in this industry cause its gonna take off one of these days!

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?"

In truth most men on here are not quibbling....they just want meets and are only too happy to pay half....it's women fighting their corner on their behalf.....even if most guys think 50% is fair enough and don't need their battles fought for them.

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"You don't get it do you?

The reason so many people think the single guy was wrong is that with most people on here a 50/50 split is the 'Industry Standard' or the normal way of doing things.

For a single woman you do seem to have very strong feelings that guys are hard done by on this site, in fact your feelings are stronger on this than most men I have spoken to.....

Swinging is an industry now? Has the Government privatised it yet and if so where do I buy shares in this industry cause its gonna take off one of these days!

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Why is everyone talking about "units" are we not all people then? I always thought a 3-some was 3 people and not 2 units?

It's because the Government guidelines refer to the number of "units" you should be limiting yourself to in a week... incidentally, I think it's more for men than it is for women.

Yup, I'm still looking for that elusive smiley.

it's the calories not the units you need to worry about...."

Don't you be going worrying about my calorie count, I do my best to burn them off; I don't waste my 49% contribution to the hotel costs ya know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has anyone considered how far they have to travel to the hotel ??

May be the guy had 9.8 more miles to go and the price of petrol now

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

i did'nt say men did i?

And im not fighting anyones corner on anyones behalf, im just voicing my opinion like everyone else, not everyones going to agree with me and i dont expect them to, like i dont agree with everything others say, im still allowed my opinions tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a guy takes me to chams i pay half of petrol and usually pay for them to get in as they are driving it only seems fair. Oh and the blow job on the way too lol i get bored travelling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

tell him to go else where if he cnt pay 50/50 at end day ...he is get his pleasure 2 weather he stays all night or not ..............if he says no well i would take he be a time waster wnt turn up so his loss u gain .

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"tell him to go else where if he cnt pay 50/50 at end day ...he is get his pleasure 2 weather he stays all night or not ..............if he says no well i would take he be a time waster wnt turn up so his loss u gain .

What do they gain though apart from a booked hotel room that they now have to pay 100% themselves and they don't have a meet arranged for the fun it was meant to be booked for.

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By *ickens CiderMan over a year ago

taunton

Well I guess you could add into the mix the fees for a night at a club...

Single Women... Free or £5

Couples... £20-25

Single Men £25-30

(price scales for example say?) is that then fair or not?

It baffles me when most clubs don't allow you to just turn up at the door... you need to contact them in advance?

Surely all things being equal everybody would be going to the club for the same reason... for the same sort of fun? So why can't everybody pay the same... say £15 per head? If the club owner was good and on the ball they'd allow the right sort of mix surely?

Does the single woman then feel "Pimped" if she has got in for free and the single guy has stumped up £30 for the night?

The single guy is sat there "expecting" to get his money worth... while the single woman has just saved £30 in effect? The place is awash with single guys that happily paid £30 epecting it to be full of women because they get in for free!? Because the guys are the cash cow for the club in effect?

Sorry... possible this is a thread in its own right? BUt if a club is managed well it would have the right mix and everybody would pay equally... surely... or is that a case of if Carlsberg did Swingers Clubs? lol

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Well I guess you could add into the mix the fees for a night at a club...

Single Women... Free or £5

Couples... £20-25

Single Men £25-30

(price scales for example say?) is that then fair or not?

It baffles me when most clubs don't allow you to just turn up at the door... you need to contact them in advance?

Does the single woman then feel "Pimped" if she has got in for free and the single guy has stumped up £30 for the night?

Supply and demand. More single males around for few club places so therefore the price goes up. Single fems are the rarer commodity, so they need enticing in with a lower price.

I (personally) wouldn't expect to pay the same going as a single fem in a club that a single man paid. Although I do think single men are overcharged on the whole.

Then again, as a female and statistically a safer risk, I don't expect to pay similar car insurance to a man....

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

My opinion is that I'm meeting them as a couple, a unit if you will, so a 50/50 split would be reasonable.

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"My opinion is that I'm meeting them as a couple, a unit if you will, so a 50/50 split would be reasonable.

And back to the original point, I agree with Invictus - the cpl come as a 'unit'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The whole inequality in swinger club pricing has been covered in another thread anyway, but basically its all about supply and demand. Men are more "into" sex with multiple partners than the vast majority of women, therefore they pay more. They also on average earn more than women do so therefore, again only on average, have more disposable income. Is it necessarily fair? Perhaps not, but such is life, and rather than complain about it I make the best out of my lot that I can. There are plenty of ways that it pays to be a man, for example if I were suddenly without a car for whatever reason I would stroll home from work, which would take me the quickest way through a couple of dodgy neighbourhoods that if I was a woman I would be terrified of walking through on my todd. If the garden needs landscaping (done most of mine, sorry for being smug) I can probably dig and level away for for longer and harder than if I had been born without a penis, silly though it sounds. Inequality exists in everything, its about making the best out of what you have got.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My opinion is that I'm meeting them as a couple, a unit if you will, so a 50/50 split would be reasonable.

We think the same and we are going to stick with 50/50 split and are happy with that.

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By *im halpertMan over a year ago

redditch

its the fact that hes quibbling over paying his share ....It would put us off a bit...I think I would be inclined to cancel ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it me? Why so many posts on this?

What the guy did was just plain rude! Whatever you agreed in the beginning is irrelevant,who the hell tries to negotiate the terms of a meet?

Sack him off and find a nicer guy.

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By *unmaleswingMan over a year ago

Hinckley

Personally if a couple or single female agree to meet a single male out of courtsey we as the single males should pay the whole tab, well thats what i do as grateful they have given me their time

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By *aughty_kittyWoman over a year ago

finger licking good

"Personally if a couple or single female agree to meet a single male out of courtsey we as the single males should pay the whole tab, well thats what i do as grateful they have given me their time"

bend over bitch?!

why should u be grateful? if thats how u feel why dont u just pay someone for their time?

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By *unmaleswingMan over a year ago

Hinckley

bend over 4 u anytime lol i just think that sometimes shows courtsey and money well spent if you have a good night with like minded people why pay to meet someone as that kind of fun is cold and unenjoyable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally if a couple or single female agree to meet a single male out of courtsey we as the single males should pay the whole tab, well thats what i do as grateful they have given me their time"

Then we can take our 'ladies' on a carriage ride through the park and make sure she has her parasol for fear the sun may blush her cheek. *Waves cane and doffs top hat*

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By *john121Man over a year ago

staffs

Great reason for not doing hotel meets! Haggling in certain parts of the world is expected and an insult if you don't! but this does seem to dampen the mood some what!

For me if the hotel was at the suggestion of the couple as it's their own method of meeting or a fantasy then they pay.

If after conversation you agree to meet at a hotel then the cost should be equally split and you all leave the hotel together so as not to allow the couple to have more fun with other single guys they have booked for later caus as we all know the single guy will have to get home to his wife after an hour or two! hmmm now we're starting to make a profit? lol cynical or what? Will breakfast be for 3?

Ok so travel lodge are cheap and if you're talking about a tenner split it does seems some what ludicrous to be having the conversation but if you make an offer you shouldn't be surprised to receive a counter offer; after all if he said 25/75 as the first suggestion would you reply 33/66 or 50/50 ?

As others have said generally when you go for a meal it's usual to split 3 ways or many ways as you want...does the non drinker driver of a group on a night out pay for rounds? not in my world!

And have been caught out by those who order the most expensive and then expect to an equal split well not any more...sussed out and no longer invited.....

Make it clear your expectations around costs if any and stick to it....the balls then in their court if they want to meet. Nothing wrong with making another offer I never pay full price for a TV or anything else if I can get it less expensive and always shop around and if you say you don't.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if i meet someone at a hotel and hes staying there anyway then i wont offer anything as i wont be staying but i will buy a few drinks ( not a tighty)

if i book a room and i let the person stay i wouldnt ask him for nothing but if he didnt offer to buy a drink or nothing i would say something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't get it do you?

The reason so many people think the single guy was wrong is that with most people on here a 50/50 split is the 'Industry Standard' or the normal way of doing things.

For a single woman you do seem to have very strong feelings that guys are hard done by on this site, in fact your feelings are stronger on this than most men I have spoken to....."

nope...you don't get it

what industry standard...and what a very sad way to reference sex. there is a sex industry, this isnt it and i'm not prostitute or escort or porn star so would rather not be part of the industry.

i don't care what you think is acceptable, the guy didnt think it was and he said so.

it comes down to personal choice...or is that not industry standard?

since when did this site forbid someone to say no?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here."

Can't a single person be a unit in exactly the same way as a couple or even, outwith swinging, a whole family?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, this thread has really heated people up!

all this haggling over sharing the bill would totally put us off, as we said earlier, we'd be happy to pay the whole bill - if the other(s) offered, that's up to them, but not expected in any way.

For us, it's about the playtime - once we've chosen who to meet and when, that's it, the excitement starts.

it should be about fun, friends and frolics - not splitting the bill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day does it really matter who pays?

I have paid for hotels fully and never asked for a penny on a few occasions simply because i would sooner pay for a room out right if it got me to meet who i wanted to meet and do what i wanted to do than meet someone i wasnt that bothered abour because he was offering to pay

You get what you pay for in this game

i have no problem at all paying for rooms or towards rooms the only thing that pisses me off is when people start penny pinching and working out to the penny your share, i just think bartering over a few quid for a room isnt sexy or mood setting

I remember going into chams with a guy once and he asked the staff if they would do us seperate tabs so he knew which drinks was his at the end of the night

made me laugh as 99% of the time i will always pick up the bar bill even tho i very rarely drink soft drink, i guess its just my way of saying thanks if they take me home after, but because he had asked in such a tight fisted way it put me off him and i didnt play with him once inside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, this thread has really heated people up!

all this haggling over sharing the bill would totally put us off, as we said earlier, we'd be happy to pay the whole bill - if the other(s) offered, that's up to them, but not expected in any way.

For us, it's about the playtime - once we've chosen who to meet and when, that's it, the excitement starts.

it should be about fun, friends and frolics - not splitting the bill.

We agree,we can accom so rarely use hotels but when we have we have paid as we have been the ones who are inviting people to join us so we feel we should foot the bill x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

These are the reasons I dont do hotel meets. Club meets only plus get more of a variety and options to play. Jacuzzi, Round room, couples room etc. And its cheaper for the guys to buddy up with a female than go as a single guy and awhole lot more fun.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

We are all going to have different views on it and people have the right to question it if they don't like. Of course they do.

My view is 50/50, if you ever meet me in a hotel then we'll discuss it. If its a room I'm already staying in I wouldn't expect a penny from you.

The OP's question was asking opinions on the matter, not having a pop at anyone.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here."

A bit like their profiles.

I'm not quite sure what you mean to be honest.

A couple is a unit, they are married. It doesn't matter how they play or have fun, ultimately they are a unit that has to make joint decisions and judgements together, perhaps compromises sometimes. But they are a unit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here.

A bit like their profiles.

I'm not quite sure what you mean to be honest.

would you feel the same if two people off here, not a couple, but occasional playmates, decided to expand their party...would you pay half? what if there were 5 people...2 couples and one single man, would he pay a third...the dynamics of the relationship is their business...not the people they chose to play with...they just want to fuck with them. what they do outside of the site is their business.

by your reckoning if a woman met 2 guys for a mmf, she should pay 50%....as they come as a unit.....plenty of mm profiles on here...one unit....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

had that before, ewas asked to pay for room myself,, errr,, dont think so, even more cos you have to pay up front for a room, ,, not good if you end up on your own for the night,,,50 50 all the way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here.

A bit like their profiles.

I'm not quite sure what you mean to be honest.

by your reckoning if a woman met 2 guys for a mmf, she should pay 50%....as they come as a unit.....plenty of mm profiles on here...one unit...."

The thing is if a male was on here saying the same or a male couple no one would have stuck up for him/them.

50:50 to me is not right and I don't class a couple as one person they are two people. Do the math

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"Pretty funny people who usually proclaim themselves to be free spirits and straight talkers now happy to be considered par of "a unit".

Folks turn it on and off on here.

A bit like their profiles.

I'm not quite sure what you mean to be honest.

by your reckoning if a woman met 2 guys for a mmf, she should pay 50%....as they come as a unit.....plenty of mm profiles on here...one unit...."

The 'unit' reference was a response to married people and 'free spirits and straight talkers' - a couple who are married are two individuals who make up a unit, a married unit. If they are completely 'free spirits' and 'straight talkers' then they won't be married for long I can assure you! That was my point (I think...I sometimes loose the will to live on these threads...)

But, other 'units' and groups all have their own complications in this matter, I agree. If they brought more people I'd be too happy to worry about a few quid back of the bill to be honest!!! I refuse to answer that one as it's off the OP's original topic!! (phew! neatly sidestepped).

My take is still 50/50 for a 'couple', but your swing will vary.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hahahaha ferking hells bells .....jeez!! what a carry on ...

Theres no prescriptive right or wrong..play with peeps who share the same vibe as yerselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My take is still 50/50 for a 'couple', but your swing will vary.

exactly..as did the gents who they wanted to play with.

they don't have to agree to his terms any more than he has to agree to theirs.

everyone seems to think he should pay and is being cheeky for having an opinion of his own though.

if he doesn't want to pay, no play..it cant be his loss as clearly he's not so desperate as to compromise his position.

each to their own...usually the mantra on this site, alas, not a right of the humble single male so it seems

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what I call a great debate and it shows you how different we all are when it comes to swinging. So glad I accommodate as I could'nt be arsed with it all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally if a couple or single female agree to meet a single male out of courtsey we as the single males should pay the whole tab, well thats what i do as grateful they have given me their time

Then we can take our 'ladies' on a carriage ride through the park and make sure she has her parasol for fear the sun may blush her cheek. *Waves cane and doffs top hat*"

*Giggles*...oh Bertie - priceless!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally if a couple or single female agree to meet a single male out of courtsey we as the single males should pay the whole tab, well thats what i do as grateful they have given me their time

Then we can take our 'ladies' on a carriage ride through the park and make sure she has her parasol for fear the sun may blush her cheek. *Waves cane and doffs top hat*

*Giggles*...oh Bertie - priceless!

Would you put your coat over a puddle for me too Bertie? Your such a gent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hahahaha ferking hells bells .....jeez!! what a carry on ...

Theres no prescriptive right or wrong..play with peeps who share the same vibe as yerselves

Yes folk...it really is THAT easy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is what I call a great debate and it shows you how different we all are when it comes to swinging. So glad I accommodate as I could'nt be arsed with it all. "

Likewise! Reading this carry on...I won't be changing to hotel meets anytime soon either!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am taking cucumber sandwiches on the lawn...should anyone wish to join me.No charge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am taking cucumber sandwiches on the lawn...should anyone wish to join me.No charge.

hope you cut the crusts off...a lady could choke on such inedible crudities...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a tight git!

And his maths is wrong-should be 66.66/33.33% based on his reasoning!"

or perhaps he just couldn't afford it and the couple are insisting on a hotel he can't afford.

so judgmental of you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am taking cucumber sandwiches on the lawn...should anyone wish to join me.No charge.

"Ooooh Bertie", she sighed, breasts heaving watching as he delicately trimmed the crusts of the cucumber sandwiches.

Lowering her eyelids, coy, not wanting Mr Bertie to see the flush rising in her cheeks, she breathed..."may I have a glass of Pimms to accompany that?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am taking cucumber sandwiches on the lawn...should anyone wish to join me.No charge.

hope you cut the crusts off...a lady could choke on such inedible crudities..."

Tut!...but of course.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hahahaha ferking hells bells .....jeez!! what a carry on ...

Theres no prescriptive right or wrong..play with peeps who share the same vibe as yerselves

Yes folk...it really is THAT easy!

Keep it simple...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hahahaha ferking hells bells .....jeez!! what a carry on ...

Theres no prescriptive right or wrong..play with peeps who share the same vibe as yerselves

Yes folk...it really is THAT easy!

Keep it simple...

You missed a word!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*Idly strokes crumbs from the silk topper then reaches for silver ice bucket*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hahahaha ferking hells bells .....jeez!! what a carry on ...

Theres no prescriptive right or wrong..play with peeps who share the same vibe as yerselves

Yes folk...it really is THAT easy!

Keep it simple...

You missed a word!

Beslubbering ? ( its my fave )

Profuse gabberings o apology..."maam"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel if everything had been planned and arranged and then if later he turned around and said actually I don't want to keep to the arrangement, I'd rather pay only a quarter then yes this is very cheeky and would totally put me off meeting someone! The haggling is so not what I would find fun or put me in the mood. If my hubby and I were meeting in a hotel, had one booked and we then "recruited" people to join us and Play I wouldn't expect or want a penny, but if it was male who contacted the couple and asked to play I think 50 50 is more than reasonable. If I was playing alone with a couple I'd say 50/50 too. No working it into 3rds sooo not worth it.

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

i did'nt say men did i?

Actually that wasn't a reference to you and I'm sorry if you think it was, it was to one or two women who always seem to be rushing in to slag off couples....even if they have never themselves met any.

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By *ustylikesgentsCouple over a year ago

North wales coast

omg

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"What a tight git!

And his maths is wrong-should be 66.66/33.33% based on his reasoning!

or perhaps he just couldn't afford it and the couple are insisting on a hotel he can't afford.

so judgmental of you"

Or perhaps you have assumed that, because I can't see any reference from the OP that says they insisted on a hotel room in the first place....let alone a hotel the guy can't afford.

Maybe the guy suggested a hotel?

You are trying to make a case for the guy being ripped off....when in fact the OP hasn't said anything that suggests this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fascinating thread, enlightening too

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If the men folk want to split the cost between them and go 50/50 because of some dated being a gent thing... fair enough.

But this rubbish about a couple being one unit.... what a load of tosh.

They are two individual people... two bodies.... two humans. When they go down for breakfast they'll expect a plate each! The staff won't say "oh you are a couple, so we'll only charge you for one".

Many couples expect to have two profiles, so they can both use the chatrooms at the same time..... they are not happy to be considered one unit then are they? One unit, so you get to use one keyboard on only one profile... yeah that would go down well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i was a bit concerned when i saw all the 666 bits coming up , thought it was a thread on devil worship , xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to be honest i really dont get why so many people are so hung up on money

Hotel rooms are not that expensive now days that you have to quibble about wether your playing a half or a thrid surely?

i did'nt say men did i?

i always do that do i?

hahahahahahahahahhahahahhaha...referencebeing oh queen of facts?!

btw...look a couple of posts down and you did the same, responded to a comment i made to someone else.

you are most certainly a twin set!

i can make whatever point i want,...the fact you often take it off on a tangent and never directly answer my comments but add to them shows that you know there is fact in my original statement...and it applies to couples, singles or any other mixture, it is the individuals right to chose how much they pay...you have no right to say they MUST be willing to pay 50% because it's what YOU do....more fool you.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, this thread got argumentative, didn’t it?

I’m with the ‘common sense’ camp. If you feel uncomfortable having the money discussion with somebody, you’re likely to feel uncomfortable in bed with them too.

With reference to the OP, if the guy in question was pushy when trying to change the financial plans in his favour, then he’s likely to be just as pushy and selfish in the bedroom. If he had a genuinely fair reason for asking, then he should have been friendly and fair about the discussion!

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

Soo... If we arrange a threesome with a guy and we meet in a room at a hotel, even though I don't get to play with anyone other than my wife and this is her fantasy. I am there for her protection and I have to be taken into the equasion?

Nah! 50/50 is what we would expect! Unless of course I suddenly become Bi and give the straight guy one up the arse! So there you go, if the plonker wants to pay less, Reno can shaft him up the tradesmans!!!

Love these threads... Confirms out thoughts about meeting single guys from Fabs! We don't do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What do they gain though apart from a booked hotel room that they now have to pay 100% themselves and they don't have a meet arranged for the fun it was meant to be booked for.

there gain cos there saving 50% and he not gettinhg his meet at end day is he ????? but they still have each other derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

What do they gain though apart from a booked hotel room that they now have to pay 100% themselves and they don't have a meet arranged for the fun it was meant to be booked for.

there gain cos there saving 50% and he not gettinhg his meet at end day is he ????? but they still have each other derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!

ermmmmmm why derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr?

If they have the room booked and paid for and it can't be cancelled they aint saving 50% they are paying 100%

And as for having each other they can do that anytime without the need to go to a hotel, but they wanted a 3some aka a 3 person unit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love these threads... Confirms out thoughts about meeting single guys from Fabs! We don't do it!"

This thread, for the most part, makes me think that you're all fukin nuts! But I'm putting it down to a thread frenzy or something. Seriously, read it back lol and then step back into reality.

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

Love these threads... Confirms out thoughts about meeting single guys from Fabs! We don't do it!

This thread, for the most part, makes me think that you're all fukin nuts! But I'm putting it down to a thread frenzy or something. Seriously, read it back lol and then step back into reality."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

der when you book a room you dnt pay untill you check in and you can cancel up till 1pm on the day ,unless you book a cheap hotel like travel lodge for 19 quid you loss it but at end day for 19 quid its a dirty night for 2 you innit .....der common sense tells u if he not happy with paying half ya not gan meet r ya ffs ............. cos i def wnt be i move on and find other male for 3 somme ffs aint hard to find is it ....and advice is should they do or not well simple as if he not willing to pay fuck him and dnt go there simle ass

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"der when you book a room you dnt pay untill you check in and you can cancel up till 1pm on the day ,unless you book a cheap hotel like travel lodge for 19 quid you loss it but at end day for 19 quid its a dirty night for 2 you innit .....der common sense tells u if he not happy with paying half ya not gan meet r ya ffs ............. cos i def wnt be i move on and find other male for 3 somme ffs aint hard to find is it ....and advice is should they do or not well simple as if he not willing to pay fuck him and dnt go there simle ass

I did say IF it can't be cancelled - so derrrrrrrr right back at ya!

I will still stick with my 49% contribution though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well u a tight fucker then lol

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By *orders-cplCouple over a year ago

middx cpl

cancel the meet u can do better than a tight git. ur worth more than that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

def agree there cancel it

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"well u a tight fucker then lol

Nah there is a reason for me keep saying 49% that no one has actually worked out yet on here because you are all so caught up with arguing about whether or not it should be 50/50.

And for the record, if I am travelling somewhere and need a hotel room to stay in because I am away from home (where i normally have meets anyway) or not going to their house, then I am quite capable of paying for the room myself, seeing as I am the one who will be staying in the room all night and eating the breakfast in the morning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

49% less 1% is that for single occupence then lol

well i travel for meets but have booked hotel paid as man to join me but never charged so am nee tight fucker ha ha ...have booked hotel manchester for june but payed for it me self lol but if man wants to join i dnt mind

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

It would very much depend on the meet... I view it on a 50/50 basis, although I generally squabble with my playmates as to who's paying.

Whether it be a couple or a single bloke, I'd still pay half. I'm not saying that's right or wrong, it's just how I do things.

If I play as a couple and invite someone over to spend time with us, I wouldn't ask them for a contribution to the hotel bill as I wouldn't expect them to stay the night.

Convention isn't for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

haha OMG i cant belive SO many people care so much about what other people are doing and who is paying for it

haha i only read a few bit OMG its funny as

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

You are ALL wrong and only I possess the true formula of who pays what!!

Mwahahahahahahah!

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS over a year ago

Cheadle

tell him to feck off, cheeky sod, hugz, Ruby, xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was the op saying the single guy was not prepared to pay halves for the room or breakfast? I'm sure some people on here always have the opposite opinion of the majority purely for the sake of it.

It alway seems to be the same posters who would rather say black was white

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have designed an excel sheet to calculate this for you!! I have taken into consideration all the variables eg. Number of people, mileage spent to get there, whether breakfast is taken, whose idea it was. Oh and for the real thrifty among you I've also included for biscuits, tea, coffee and number of bog roll sheets consumed. You hit enter and it gives you your answer = tight arsed bastards! Lol. I thought this was supposed to be fun not about haggling! If it's that much of an issue use a lay-by, they're free

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By *john121Man over a year ago

staffs

"Wow, this thread has really heated people up!

all this haggling over sharing the bill would totally put us off, as we said earlier, we'd be happy to pay the whole bill - if the other(s) offered, that's up to them, but not expected in any way.

For us, it's about the playtime - once we've chosen who to meet and when, that's it, the excitement starts.

it should be about fun, friends and frolics - not splitting the bill.

We agree,we can accom so rarely use hotels but when we have we have paid as we have been the ones who are inviting people to join us so we feel we should foot the bill x"

sensible response....and i would follow your stance....if some one offers to share I may suggest get the drinks if you want or some similar suggestion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have designed an excel sheet to calculate this for you!! I have taken into consideration all the variables eg. Number of people, mileage spent to get there, whether breakfast is taken, whose idea it was. Oh and for the real thrifty among you I've also included for biscuits, tea, coffee and number of bog roll sheets consumed. You hit enter and it gives you your answer = tight arsed bastards! Lol. I thought this was supposed to be fun not about haggling! If it's that much of an issue use a lay-by, they're free

Stick another column on ......those are MY batteries he can hear whirrin ..... !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol maybe the angle here is all wrong. Maybe instead of figuring out what's right or fair maybe we should try to charge and make profit!! Prostitution I hear you cry!! No.. I am thinking room entry £20 per head. Condoms £2 a head ( tee hee hee) , glass of crap coop lager £3, spend a penny £1+ 20p a sheet of loo roll used. Tea and coffee pls order in advance at £2.50 a cup biscuits 75p each.

Right gangbang anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since you're meeting as a couple + single guy I think it should just be 50/50.

I'd demand that either he books it though or that he paypals you half the reservation deposit so that a) he'll think twice before skipping out on you and b) if he does cancel, then at least you won't be the losers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Since you're meeting as a couple + single guy I think it should just be 50/50.

I believe that is a good idea to request for half the cost up front via PayPal etc., however, not everyone is au fait with PayPal, so it may proof difficult to practice for some.

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By *erendipityWoman over a year ago

Hertfordshire

And where is the calculation for wear and tear on "parts" eh? Tsk

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By *untimes11Man over a year ago

cardiff

If he's a bloke he should consider himself lucky to have a meet lol

Should be 50/50 no question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is such a massive thread now so I am going to admit I have not read all of the posts, but most of them.

But, both myself and Mr Now would have a question mark over our heads if a single guy/girl (declaring no partner back at home) started to haggle down their share of a hotel bill.... do they need to justify the higher than expected amount of money spent on a 'few beers' with lads/ladies to someone when they get home?

Just for the record, we opt for 50/50 unless we plan to use the room for ourselves for the night, in that case we would foot the bill.

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By *BW38jWoman over a year ago

Dudley/Telford

50/50 his choice

had similar discussions about club entry fees as a single women i pay 5 quid bargain. i get pestered to take non member single men in so we go in as couple 25 quid and they want to split it 50/50

i might be mean but still think i should pay my 5 quid as its a bit of a pain having to stick to their arrangements

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one hotels shud be free lol

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"This is such a massive thread now so I am going to admit I have not read all of the posts, but most of them.

Just for the record, we opt for 50/50 unless we plan to use the room for ourselves for the night, in that case we would foot the bill.

lol I find it amazing that every time something comes up on here it translates to " the person is probably married/attached"

They may just be doing what most seem to be doing lately and watching the pennies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol I find it amazing that every time something comes up on here it translates to " the person is probably married/attached""

lol! We need to put the trilby hat and magnifying glass away!

"They may just be doing what most seem to be doing lately and watching the pennies.

We are only interested in folk who bank with Coots

(blatant lie!)

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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