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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself"
 have to agree I'm not one for the stereotypical gorgeous guy either |
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Hooray for the ordinary Joe.
All in all though, I'm living proof that it is possible to have a lot of enjoyable
experiences through this site so long as you don't put pressure on yourself by seeing it as a competition.
Be open minded,friendly and polite always. That way you attract the right people for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
have to agree I'm not one for the stereotypical gorgeous guy either "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've a mate who's not blessed(he says so himself) with looks, body or cock and he used to pull constantly when we were all younger and out all the time!
I'd love to have the gift of the gab and have that charm because I think it works far more than looks.
Also, would you rather meet a woman who exudes sex but isn't a size 8 drop dead gorgeous, or a stunner who's like a wet lettuce, I know who I'd rather spend my time with!
I'm not having a go btw, just adding my slant on things!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the head of the great hair brigade I apologise if I have made anyone feel inadequate.
On a more serious note, as an average looking chap, I see your point and at times it does seem and feel like I will easily get passed over for the more conventionally attractive, I'm sure I do alot but then I remember that I don't give a fuck and my confidence in myself isn't based on whether some internet strangers want to fuck me. There is a world outside fab, be happy there and you'll be happier here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We all got different hobbys, some of us prefer to spend it in the gym  "
Having a six pack and great body doesn't mean ass hole.
And I certainly didn't insinuate that.
I appreciate how hard lots of guys have to work to get a great body.
Believe me I work my ass off in the gym and still look like Crap.
Mainly because I am not prepared to make the dietary sacrifices necessary to get ripped. So well done.
Fact is some of us will always be ordinary.
But we are all different.
Viva la difference. As they say on the Isle of Wight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None of my fantasies involve 'average' guys unfortunately for them. I do feel a bit sorry for guys who can't get what they want (but not sorry enough to want to meet them) so good luck to them.
Sometimes it's the same for women though, like some guys i like are too far away and would take too long to get here and i'm all about self gratification when there's nothing invested in me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a good job we all have different opinions on what makes exceptional, that way there is someone for everyone 
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I refer to the trend of women/couples putting in their profile.
Will only meet exceptional men.
But yes there are different ways to be exceptional.
And true we are all exceptional in our own way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all got different hobbys, some of us prefer to spend it in the gym
Having a six pack and great body doesn't mean ass hole.
And I certainly didn't insinuate that.
I appreciate how hard lots of guys have to work to get a great body.
Believe me I work my ass off in the gym and still look like Crap.
Mainly because I am not prepared to make the dietary sacrifices necessary to get ripped. So well done.
Fact is some of us will always be ordinary.
But we are all different.
Viva la difference. As they say on the Isle of Wight. "
That is good and you are right as well, it is all about the diet and lots of commitment do go down to 7% and have to cut out a lot of things and reduce portion sizes, to be in that cutting phase. |
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
One thing I have leaned about myself is that I'm no better and no worse than anyone here. Just different in some respects and not in others.
There are people who won't be looking for someone like me and there will be some who are. And some of them will want to chat, be friends or even meet me.
Whilst I'm naturally a shy person (yes, honest) - I am basically positive. I believe people prefer positivity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional.
One thing I have leaned about myself is that I'm no better and no worse than anyone here. Just different in some respects and not in others.
There are people who won't be looking for someone like me and there will be some who are. And some of them will want to chat, be friends or even meet me.
Whilst I'm naturally a shy person (yes, honest) - I am basically positive. I believe people prefer positivity "
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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ultra, ultra drop dead gorgeous guys tend to be incredibly self obsessed, fairly personality-less and often not very nice people.
They can treat women however they like because they are so easy for them to get.
Then again maybe that's the effect my face pic has on them... 
Looks are good. But so is a sexy smile, charm, wit and some intelligent conversation in there somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the forums can make Fab feel like a competition at times with people trying to get noticed.
Threads along the lines of 'who has the best..tits / arse / lips / torso / big toe' & the forum poster we all fancy etc, etc, etc can make people feel a bit inadequate.
I don't view other women as the competition per se but I do feel at times that we're all 'chasing' the same men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The ultra, ultra drop dead gorgeous guys tend to be incredibly self obsessed, fairly personality-less and often not very nice people.
They can treat women however they like because they are so easy for them to get.
Then again maybe that's the effect my face pic has on them...
Looks are good. But so is a sexy smile, charm, wit and some intelligent conversation in there somewhere. "
couldnt agree more with you looks mean nothing if the personality don't match |
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Most people will be average in many areas but there hasn't been a shortage in the history of the world of average people doing alright.
Personality is incredibly important. As long as the right person finds your personality and physical self attractive then you're going to be fine.
I wonder sometimes about the single guys here but assume that they'll all be pursuing various routes to getting laid and not just online. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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It's a sex site though not dating, people will obviously go for the more aesthetically pleasing if they can get it. It's hard to portray personality online I mean you could be 1 charming motherfucker but if there not attracted to you there not interested. |
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"The ultra, ultra drop dead gorgeous guys tend to be incredibly self obsessed, fairly personality-less and often not very nice people.
They can treat women however they like because they are so easy for them to get.
Then again maybe that's the effect my face pic has on them...
Looks are good. But so is a sexy smile, charm, wit and some intelligent conversation in there somewhere. couldnt agree more with you looks mean nothing if the personality don't match "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself"
To many people are to quick to judge I've not spent time in the gym for over 6 months I don't obsess over looks can get ready in five minutes flat and love a good relaxed chill out any one that's met me I would like to say would agree Iam a down to earth nice guy and that's what I thrive myself on. Not making out Iam an exceptional guy or what ever but what Iam getting at is people judge because rather than sitting and chatting with people in this social networking side of life they judge off a handful of pictures. Iam a social butterfly and talk to any one when Iam at clubs etc I think the social side of life is fading away and everything is turning to asthetics. more social events should be organised like the FFF at xtasias name tags on and people converse. take a minute to converse with some one you may not do normaly. bring back a good blind mass social |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a sex site though not dating, people will obviously go for the more aesthetically pleasing if they can get it. It's hard to portray personality online I mean you could be 1 charming motherfucker but if there not attracted to you there not interested."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a sex site though not dating, people will obviously go for the more aesthetically pleasing if they can get it. It's hard to portray personality online I mean you could be 1 charming motherfucker but if there not attracted to you there not interested."
Even after you met someone, If you are not attracted to them it doesn't matter how good a personality you have it wont go any further then a good chat and maybe a new friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone has their own opinion of what is good looking.
I'd never approach one of the stereotypical guys mentioned as I'd think there's no way they'd ever fancy someone like me being a bigger lady - if they ever approached me as I was their kind of gal then great.
I go for the guys I find attractive who I think may think the same in return.
Each to their own, life wouldn't work if we all liked the same things. |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
To many people are to quick to judge I've not spent time in the gym for over 6 months I don't obsess over looks can get ready in five minutes flat and love a good relaxed chill out any one that's met me I would like to say would agree Iam a down to earth nice guy and that's what I thrive myself on. Not making out Iam an exceptional guy or what ever but what Iam getting at is people judge because rather than sitting and chatting with people in this social networking side of life they judge off a handful of pictures. Iam a social butterfly and talk to any one when Iam at clubs etc I think the social side of life is fading away and everything is turning to asthetics. more social events should be organised like the FFF at xtasias name tags on and people converse. take a minute to converse with some one you may not do normaly. bring back a good blind mass social "
On a sure of this nature, and given the mail load single ladies tend to get, why would she spend time talking to you when she not physically attracted?
Unless you're mailing every women on the site you don't find attractive just in case they are a nice person instead that little rant doesn't hold much weight really |
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Exceptional on fab to me means...
Reading profiles
Sending decent messages
Having personality and banter
Knowing what buttons to press
Enjoy pushing them
Yes there needs to be attraction but not all women think like you suggest. It's very easy for what you term an average man to stand out on here |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i look at it differently.....
I don't see myself as exceptional.... I see myself as unique...
and that "uniqueness" is my selling point... that is what makes me different... and that is why people may want to play with me over other people....
i think you have to be pragmatic.... you are never going to appeal to everyone...and i think that is the trick most single guys miss..... the think speading the next out widest is the best option..... i say its the complete opposite, concentrate on those who like you!!!!!
so whatever "johnny six pack" does isnt affecting what i do and who i am.... because I am being the best "me" i can be... and no one can outdo me on that!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
To many people are to quick to judge I've not spent time in the gym for over 6 months I don't obsess over looks can get ready in five minutes flat and love a good relaxed chill out any one that's met me I would like to say would agree Iam a down to earth nice guy and that's what I thrive myself on. Not making out Iam an exceptional guy or what ever but what Iam getting at is people judge because rather than sitting and chatting with people in this social networking side of life they judge off a handful of pictures. Iam a social butterfly and talk to any one when Iam at clubs etc I think the social side of life is fading away and everything is turning to asthetics. more social events should be organised like the FFF at xtasias name tags on and people converse. take a minute to converse with some one you may not do normaly. bring back a good blind mass social
On a sure of this nature, and given the mail load single ladies tend to get, why would she spend time talking to you when she not physically attracted?
Unless you're mailing every women on the site you don't find attractive just in case they are a nice person instead that little rant doesn't hold much weight really "
I respect that and personally I don't message every one on fab looking for just anything. and I agree there has to be attraction or what's the point I don't get how people can go with just anything to get a LAY
and it wasn't so much a rant just more a give people a chance and there's not a lot on this site that holds weight. people look for what they want a person could say anything but if the other is not interested then so be it |
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
very good post when I joined I felt like I had no chance but after meeting others in clubs and getting to know them and them knowing me I think I have fitted in rather well and about the whole body looks and cock I know what I am a short bald chubby mini me but I thort fuck it iam not going to try and be like every other pretty boy out there and so I guess I went to the 'dark' side lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll bet a lot of the exceptional males are just the same as everyone else, but have a diet and gym routine that's it. There's no make up involved, no huge closets of clothes or jewelry, and guys don't get whistled at every day or stared at when they do their grocery shopping. An exceptional woman is constant getting attention and hit on every fucking day since she was 14. Guys are just guys. Imop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well said.... However, whilst I agree with the sentiments regarding looks. I believe that having an engaging honest personality with a modicum of intelligence helps..... Ladies, am I wrong ? Or is it purely about the looks ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's interesting how this thread turned out in contrast to a similar thread started by a woman a few days ago. 
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Which thread please and what was the difference?
I like discussion and debate. There is no right or wrong just designed to highlight some points.
But q couple of things.
The term exceptional is not something I started it's one that seems to be popping up on quite a few fems and some couples profiles.
Of course guy's with six pack's are the same.
And may or may not have a decent personality.
And I disagree it is a competition, we all have to compete against one and other to stand out from the rest.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself"
Agree 100000% xx |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
Agree 100000% xx"
where are all the ladies like this that want a guy to have a laugh with enjoy going places meals drinks cuddling up with a very big dirty takeaway a beer and films lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's interesting how this thread turned out in contrast to a similar thread started by a woman a few days ago.
Which thread please and what was the difference?
I like discussion and debate. There is no right or wrong just designed to highlight some points.
But q couple of things.
The term exceptional is not something I started it's one that seems to be popping up on quite a few fems and some couples profiles.
Of course guy's with six pack's are the same.
And may or may not have a decent personality.
And I disagree it is a competition, we all have to compete against one and other to stand out from the rest.
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It was a thread started by a woman saying she feels inadequate sometimes. "Feeling inadequate" was the title.
I meant she got sympathy, whereas this thread got some comments bitching about men. The double standards annoy me. x
I agree it IS a competition. Hence I don't compete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think we all need to remember that attraction is in the eye of the beholder. Mr goodnitegirl (Funtime2) often says this about not having a body like he's out of a boyband but to me he's perfect and just what i like to cuddle up to xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I agree it IS a competition. Hence I don't compete."
It is only a competition if you see it as a competition.... That's not the reason I do what I do or meet who I meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's interesting how this thread turned out in contrast to a similar thread started by a woman a few days ago.
Which thread please and what was the difference?
I like discussion and debate. There is no right or wrong just designed to highlight some points.
But q couple of things.
The term exceptional is not something I started it's one that seems to be popping up on quite a few fems and some couples profiles.
Of course guy's with six pack's are the same.
And may or may not have a decent personality.
And I disagree it is a competition, we all have to compete against one and other to stand out from the rest.
It was a thread started by a woman saying she feels inadequate sometimes. "Feeling inadequate" was the title.
I meant she got sympathy, whereas this thread got some comments bitching about men. The double standards annoy me. x
I agree it IS a competition. Hence I don't compete."
The woman's thread was different because she personally felt bad about herself. This OP doesn't appear to feel badly, he was just making a wider comment.
I don't think you can easily compare the thread where the content is different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Average is good for us no six pack and big ego required here thanks . It's all about guys who make an effort I think any guy will only get out of swinging what he puts in . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wanted to add, I have nothing against gym fit guys, and I do have a thing for them.
It's just I've spoken to a couple on here who also had very pretty faces and both happened to be fitness models. And both did have that overinflated ego thing going on. As did a male porn star on here I chatted to once.
The more average guys with gym fit bodies don't seem any different personality-wise to any other guy here.
Obviously I am judging based on my experience of three guys. Maybe some more really gym fit and gorgeous looking guys need to message me for me to test my theory?
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Think the problem with most single guys in here is that most of them are here because they can't get sex anywhere else, can't pull on dating sites or have a sexless marriage.
It's not the fit guys that get all the women it's the ones that are committed to getting fun sex and the ones that actually make an effort to go to events and make a decent profile.
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We find the normal guys who don't claim anything other than being themselves are the most fun usually the guys who claim to be the dogs bollocks in the bedroom are far from it with even less personality. |
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"Think the problem with most single guys in here is that most of them are here because they can't get sex anywhere else, can't pull on dating sites or have a sexless marriage.
It's not the fit guys that get all the women it's the ones that are committed to getting fun sex and the ones that actually make an effort to go to events and make a decent profile.
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Think that comment is stereo typing males on here and is hugely incorrect . Could there be single guys who just prefer to have fun rather than commitment? All the guys we have met I'm sure would have no problem finding a relationship if they wanted one and have been in one in the past , maybe they just want to do what they want and go where they want without any hassle |
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"As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade. "
That describes most of the male halves of most couples on here (me included)
"So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special,"
We're all special in one way or another, although competing based on a few photo's and a bit of text is quite a challenging task, it's amazing how much personality you can squeeze into these two small areas.
Obviously the personality aspect really comes into it's own when you go to clubs and socials. Where the muscle bound and beautified are busy checking themselves in the mirror. Us "normal guys" my friend, would be charming and entertaining our way into everyones hearts (and hopefully knickers).
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
What this guy said, cheers dude it needed to be said |
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"Think the problem with most single guys in here is that most of them are here because they can't get sex anywhere else, can't pull on dating sites or have a sexless marriage.
It's not the fit guys that get all the women it's the ones that are committed to getting fun sex and the ones that actually make an effort to go to events and make a decent profile.
Think that comment is stereo typing males on here and is hugely incorrect . Could there be single guys who just prefer to have fun rather than commitment? All the guys we have met I'm sure would have no problem finding a relationship if they wanted one and have been in one in the past , maybe they just want to do what they want and go where they want without any hassle "
Think you misread what I wrote because your agreeing with me in part of your post. I said the ones that do well are committed to having fun .
And Yes I'm sure that's correct for the guys you have met. What about the thousands you haven't? |
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"Think the problem with most single guys in here is that most of them are here because they can't get sex anywhere else, can't pull on dating sites or have a sexless marriage.
It's not the fit guys that get all the women it's the ones that are committed to getting fun sex and the ones that actually make an effort to go to events and make a decent profile.
Think that comment is stereo typing males on here and is hugely incorrect . Could there be single guys who just prefer to have fun rather than commitment? All the guys we have met I'm sure would have no problem finding a relationship if they wanted one and have been in one in the past , maybe they just want to do what they want and go where they want without any hassle
Think you misread what I wrote because your agreeing with me in part of your post. I said the ones that do well are committed to having fun .
And Yes I'm sure that's correct for the guys you have met. What about the thousands you haven't? "
Totaly agree with the guys that make the effort get the fun but bit unfair to say most guys on here cus they can't get sex anywhere else !! Are you on here for that reason ? I'm sure your not I'm sure your in here just looking fir uncomplicated fun as most of the single guys on here are |
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"We find the normal guys who don't claim anything other than being themselves are the most fun usually the guys who claim to be the dogs bollocks in the bedroom are far from it with even less personality."
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Regardless of gender it does appear that some can't praise one group, this time Joe Average's without putting another one down.
I'm quite happy to admit I am drawn to profiles with aesthetically pleasing body photos, unless I see your personality in the forums I don't have anything else to go on.
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Trust me I am very insecure and know that if it wasn't for being married to jools I would almost definitely be living in a bedsit all alone with a hamster for company.
I can handle not having a perfect body even deal with my less than average size willykins.
What really gives me a complex is going bald. I have have grey hair since my late teens, but was never expecting to go bald.
Hey ho, not wearing a syrup tho!
Overall I am reasonably confident I do hide my insecurity behind humour and talking.
Anyone who has met us knows I can talk.
And talk and talk.....
But I also listen which is a far better attribute to have in my humble opinion, than a great body.
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
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"Trust me I am very insecure and know that if it wasn't for being married to jools I would almost definitely be living in a bedsit all alone with a hamster for company.
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Lol! My hamster's name is...(whoops!) |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself"
Not all men who are obsessed by their looks are shallow or arrogant.
I've met sexy men of here and they lovely |
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"Trust me I am very insecure and know that if it wasn't for being married to jools I would almost definitely be living in a bedsit all alone with a hamster for company.
I can handle not having a perfect body even deal with my less than average size willykins.
What really gives me a complex is going bald. I have have grey hair since my late teens, but was never expecting to go bald.
Hey ho, not wearing a syrup tho!
Overall I am reasonably confident I do hide my insecurity behind humour and talking.
Anyone who has met us knows I can talk.
And talk and talk.....
But I also listen which is a far better attribute to have in my humble opinion, than a great body.
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
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Are you allowed another hamster after the last "incident "? |
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"Trust me I am very insecure and know that if it wasn't for being married to jools I would almost definitely be living in a bedsit all alone with a hamster for company.
I can handle not having a perfect body even deal with my less than average size willykins.
What really gives me a complex is going bald. I have have grey hair since my late teens, but was never expecting to go bald.
Hey ho, not wearing a syrup tho!
Overall I am reasonably confident I do hide my insecurity behind humour and talking.
Anyone who has met us knows I can talk.
And talk and talk.....
But I also listen which is a far better attribute to have in my humble opinion, than a great body.
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
Are you allowed another hamster after the last "incident "?"
Well hammy is still having trauma counselling.
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"
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
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I can't explain what attracts me to some and not to others apart from everyone I've met has a certain something about them.
Actually, I'm wondering if it's like an inner confidence..... |
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"
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
I can't explain what attracts me to some and not to others apart from everyone I've met has a certain something about them.
Actually, I'm wondering if it's like an inner confidence....."
Do you mean knowing who they are, being comfortable in their own skin and generally liking where they are in life? |
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"
So really is the secret to being successful on here.
Not saying what you want, but asking and listening to what others want.
Above looks and penis size?
I can't explain what attracts me to some and not to others apart from everyone I've met has a certain something about them.
Actually, I'm wondering if it's like an inner confidence.....
Do you mean knowing who they are, being comfortable in their own skin and generally liking where they are in life? "
Yeah, I think that's probably what I mean. |
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I prefer to meet men who I find attractive and who like themselves because whatever you look like you have to like yourself. There are all different types on here so it doesn't matter what you look like, the only time it does is if you only want to meet people who are attractive and is also your type of person. |
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
These men will always be exceptional to someone though xx |
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
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Plenty of average looking people thrive in the swinging environment, individuals always have their own tastes and chemistry etc works in different ways for sure... |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
Not all men who are obsessed by their looks are shallow or arrogant.
I've met sexy men of here and they lovely "
Most of the men we meet are the very good looking or exceptional .
And they have all been lovely too .
What's with the sycophantic bullshit from so many on this thread which suggests the average guys have much better personalities etc ?
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never mind the exceptional males...
what about the exceptional females who have to blow smoke up the arses of most men on here...telling them what a great fcuk they are when in reality they are anything but....and then have to write overenthusiastically gushing verifications in order to get something half decent back |
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"Conventionally good looking men with 6 packs do nothing for me.
I like men with interesting faces and don't take longer than me to get ready.
In my experience guys who obsess over their looks can be arrogant and shallow.
I want some one to relax and have a laugh.. So don't try to compete, be yourself
Not all men who are obsessed by their looks are shallow or arrogant.
I've met sexy men of here and they lovely
Most of the men we meet are the very good looking or exceptional .
And they have all been lovely too .
What's with the sycophantic bullshit from so many on this thread which suggests the average guys have much better personalities etc ?
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Well competition is healthy to a point, but then we have to remember that images can be deceiving and one persons beauty is another horror. Theres space for us all out there.
Make the best of, and be proud of, what you have! |
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"Well competition is healthy to a point, but then we have to remember that images can be deceiving and one persons beauty is another horror. Theres space for us all out there.
Make the best of, and be proud of, what you have!"
with you there mate |
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"Well competition is healthy to a point, but then we have to remember that images can be deceiving and one persons beauty is another horror. Theres space for us all out there.
Make the best of, and be proud of, what you have! with you there mate"
Did I say something sensible? Wow! I must be ill |
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When ever I see only meet exceptional males I think they mean someone with a nice personality, who is quite inteligent and experienced, not just good looking because just being good looking isn't always enough as you have to get on with each other ok as well.
What they mean is they wont meet just anyone only someone who is different from the others or a bit special. |
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"Well competition is healthy to a point, but then we have to remember that images can be deceiving and one persons beauty is another horror. Theres space for us all out there.
Make the best of, and be proud of, what you have! with you there mate
Did I say something sensible? Wow! I must be ill"
na mate iam with you be happy and proud of who you are |
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over a year ago
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Although it is hard to be ignored a thousand times, I figure out that ladies and couples are overflowed by guy's messages.
In my case, apart from my self-esteem, there is the respect for others' intimacy.
I usually don't send messages. The ladies and couples I met, knew how to find me... |
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"Didn't really know how to title this thread.
But here it is.
As a very ordinary looking chap, not particularly well hung, on the wrong side of 40,grey hair and let's be honest balding. A bit of a tummy and most definitely not part of the six pack wielding, 8 inch cock and amazing hair brigade.
Part of a couple, we have an amazing sex life and get on extremely well, I consider myself very fortunate to be in a relationship.
I personally am not driven by meets my pleasure comes from enjoying Jools with other's, I am not on the hunt for another female.
If it happens cool, if not then I am not losing sleep.
And here is my point.
I do think though.
If I were single and was trying to find a way of getting meets I would lose faith and confidence in myself very quickly.
So the guy's on here who like myself are nothing special, take constant knocks, kick back's and rejection.
But keep getting up and trying.
Well done chap's .
There are many guy's on here who appear to have it all in the looks, body and trouser department.
Competing against them does seem to be a one horse race.
Yet despite the seemingly fussy, picky unmatchable demands by a percentage of the female's.
Some guy's just keep at it and don't let it beat them.
So let's give a big hand to ordinary,looking guy's everywhere.
Just like me.
Proof that there's more to life than just being incredibly good looking.
There is no real point to this thread.
Just highlighting the non exceptional. "
you say your a average bloke but you managed to get a hot wife |
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"i think it shows a lot about the profile if they insist on"exceptional only need apply"
shocking
OP i'd like to buy you a beer"
It depends on which way you look at it.
There are some men on here who think they are exceptional, whether they are or not so it wouldn't put them off. |
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I'm not in competition with any such guys. I get awesome sex with my wife and they only get neer her, if she finds them funny or good to chat too.
I've given up believing other women have any intrest in me though, but meh. |
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I have no idea what an exceptional male is as I'm not looking for one
I find it mildly amusing that some treat swinging like some kind of Olympic type of competition.
If a male keeps himself in good shape he should be complimented on that, some males on here seem to be quite jealous/envious of such males.
They they come out with the old chesnut about apparently having a better personality etc, that is quite irrelevant even if true.
Same goes with males with small or averages cocks it's great to see that cock envy is still very much around
Some males on here seem to have an inferiority complex and try to get one over on well hung good looking males.
Funny how you never get well hung good looking males putting down males with much less physical attributes to offer.
There is no accounting for taste and I believe there is something out there for everybody.
If they're seeking exceptional males that's their business and whinging about it will just reinforce to them, why they're seeking such males.
Life is all about choices and preferences what kind of swinging scene would it be without them ? |
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I'd say I was a fairly average looking guy, but what seems to count for a lot is:
Being
friendly
Respectful
Self Confident
Smiley
Interested
Well scrubbed, clean, groomed, polished
Well dressed
Smart
Plus other indeterminate things
Some of these are difficult if you're not naturally self confident, but friendliness, politeness and being washed and brushed are easy to achieve and give you an advantage over a good proportion of the population.
I can't compete with Adonis on the same playing field, if a lady wants an Adonis so she can bounce off his six pack, then I'm stuffed.
But then I prefer women to be women with shape and not skinny toned model-esque
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"When ever I see only meet exceptional males I think they mean someone with a nice personality, who is quite inteligent and experienced, not just good looking because just being good looking isn't always enough as you have to get on with each other ok as well.
What they mean is they wont meet just anyone only someone who is different from the others or a bit special."
Exactly this! Exceptional is someone who has read my profile, thinks we would get on, writes a decent message and meets when arranged. Exceptional isn't a Brad Pitt lookalike (or insert any 'hot' mans name you prefer). It's not a six pack or a gym buff body. It's someone who 'gets' my attention through a well written message and a great profile with decent photos. Someone who is on my wavelength. Maybe that's just me tho |
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I like to go to the gym and stay in shape and I'm proud of my achievements, I'm not arrogant nor do i think I'm God's gift, be humble, nice and appreciate everyone for whom they are, were all unique one way or another. |
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"I like to go to the gym and stay in shape and I'm proud of my achievements, I'm not arrogant nor do i think I'm God's gift, be humble, nice and appreciate everyone for whom they are, were all unique one way or another."
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"I like to go to the gym and stay in shape and I'm proud of my achievements, I'm not arrogant nor do i think I'm God's gift, be humble, nice and appreciate everyone for whom they are, were all unique one way or another."
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Yes well said. Hard going on fab especially with better contenders. I do find being myself sometimes does not get me far. Thought being genuine, having manners and being social would get me a bit farther on fab. I live in hope! |
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"Average is good for us no six pack and big ego required here thanks . It's all about guys who make an effort I think any guy will only get out of swinging what he puts in . "
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On a previous profile I met 3 women without seeing a picture, purely met based on a connection chatting. One of them turned out to be a part-time model, we met several times and I'm very average looking |
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From what I understand from my meets, its the guys confidence that carries the yes/no, after initial attraction. Respectful, polite and confident..
Of course there are people that only play with certain physical types, thats just preference, but to get the most out of fab, you have to actually enjoy fab.... negative statuses; a readable profile, nice pics...
the effort put into a profile and a message tells people alot about your intentions. Some of the really "buff" guys on here have really great profiles too, they make an effort.... I am not buff, but I like to make an effort too... my profile is perhaps the first thing that people are going to make a judgement on, so I try quite hard with that (yes, I know, it needs a change, its WIP, lol) |
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The best and easiest way to get a woman is to have the confidence and approach her. I have had no success directly off this site but from gping out.
Pictures also portray something and maybe i look better in person or i exude more confidence.
Thirdly guys as much as people dont want to play with you, i certainly wouldnt want to play with certain couples as im not attracted to them. If you gonna fret and be on here constantly you gonna be frustrated.
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