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Meeting someone with no face pic
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I am getting this 'invitation ' a lot.
I don't post my face on my public profile because like many, I value my privacy. But I do have 'other' photos.
I also have a face pic that I can selectively send privately if I am chatting to someone and there is some potential interest in possibly meeting.
My issue is when men expect me to do a 'blind' meet because they refuse to show their face even privately and these can be deleted by the sender anyway once seen.
Physical attraction is important as is chemistry.
But I am getting invites to 'pick me up' (so I get in a total strangers car ???? WTF? ?) to allegedly be driven to a club where I 'don't have to play' (oh thanks for that!) with the faceless stranger who could be a complete psychopath !!!
Yet too many men think this is perfectly reasonable! !!!!
My rules, my safety;
1) Face pic privately by whatever preferred means
2) Social meet = Coffee /drink/public place to see if there is attraction and chemistry.
3) Make further arrangements thereafter 
I think this is more than reasonable and SAFE! I am AMAZED at the risks some people take! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I did a couple of blind meets a long while ago from a different site as the women were worried about sending face pixs.I met socially and tho both wanted to play it wasn't for me. Can't see why anyone would blind date. Can't see why someone cannot supply a face pic in private at all. I had a couple approach me several times on here wanting to meet...profile said they would send face pics but they refused so we never met. Just wouldn't go there again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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deffo wudnt meet without seeing a face pic and I'm even thinking of requesting a phone call too without withheld number and if all too much for the guys then we simply not going to meet x |
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I agree. I am very careful about face pics so I do understand people's worries but if there comes a point when you have to use judgement and take a leap of faith.
Of course a face pic doesn't say anything about safety but it does give an indication of attraction. I suppose one could argue that someone could send a fake picture but is always the risk.
I guess it's in the behaviour of someone when they are overly secretive and want to pick me up and take me 'somewhere'. That freaks me out. |
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"deffo wudnt meet without seeing a face pic and I'm even thinking of requesting a phone call too without withheld number and if all too much for the guys then we simply not going to meet x "
I think you can tell a lot from someone when you speak to them. Nothing is cast iron guaranteed of course. Even people in longterm relationships have had partners become violent later on. But you make a judgement as best you can. Safety first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would never meet without face pics either. Amazingly we find its mainly women and couples who seem to think they don't have to share just because they are at more of a premium and singles should be grateful! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apart from men who post a lot in the forums, I wouldn't even message a guy on here who didn't have any face pics on his profile for me to see.
I just wouldn't waste my time sending a message to someone I might not be attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd also add the whole privacy thing is a bit mute. I'm very well known in my job so resisted for ages, but once it was up I realised no one actually cares as we are all here for the same thing! |
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There's no way I would meet up with anyone who doesn't send me a photo. I need to know that I'm attracted to them and I would expect to be asked for a face pic after messaging for sometime, but men just don't seem to be worried they already like what they see, strange my face is far prettier than my body x |
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I personally don't have a problem with no face pics on public profiles but if someone wants to meet me then come on! Face pic please?
The invite to take me to a club from a faceless stranger is crazy! I actually chatted quite a bit to this guy as he sounded nice but he was persistently reluctant to send a photo or meet on my terms so I ended the conversation. |
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"There's no way I would meet up with anyone who doesn't send me a photo. I need to know that I'm attracted to them and I would expect to be asked for a face pic after messaging for sometime, but men just don't seem to be worried they already like what they see, strange my face is far prettier than my body x"
Then you must be stunning because you have a beautiful body too! |
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"I'd also add the whole privacy thing is a bit mute. I'm very well known in my job so resisted for ages, but once it was up I realised no one actually cares as we are all here for the same thing! "
I still prefer to keep my face photos private. You just never know where these photos can end up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I'm meeting it's no face pic, no chat. I don't have the energy or the inclination to chat to people without knowing there's an attraction from the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face pic on open profile;
1. Not married
2. No kids
3. If work colleagues see, well its "you are on Fab too? great lets hook up"
I get more messages since having a face pic on open than at any other time (logged in to 20 yesterday!! woot woot, okay so they were all insulting me, but, come on peeps, its progress!!) |
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"Face pic on open profile;
1. Not married
2. No kids
3. If work colleagues see, well its "you are on Fab too? great lets hook up"
I get more messages since having a face pic on open than at any other time (logged in to 20 yesterday!! woot woot, okay so they were all insulting me, but, come on peeps, its progress!!)"
LOL. ...well it's your choice whether you make your face pics private or public but the point I make is.... I won't meet someone without seeing a face pic first. I might not even fancy him! I am too busy to waste time running all the place meeting random faceless strangers!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's simple , no face pic , no chat , never mind a meet !
Ours are on our public pics , and while we appreciate some prefer to keep them private , we feel if someone sees them they are after the same thing as we are so game on  |
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Well it's official. .. one thing we all agree on is definitely not doing a blind meet!
Whether you choose to put photos public or private is personal choice and i like a face pic early on during chat. If it isn't forthcoming then it's goodnight! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a fan of social meets first, there has to be a physical and mental attraction.
And this was confirmed to me recently when I met someone for a drink who clearly was sending out a very old pic of himself!!
Needless to say we didn't arrange another meet.
So stick with what you feel comfortable with.
If others don't like it then too bad!
Xx |
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"Totally agree OP, and my approach to meeting is the same as your three steps. Don't be persuaded, like you say it's our safety first! Xx
By the way I love your profile pics. I am so surious as to what your face is like.
Surious? ??? No I am not Surious. ... unless that's a good thing??  "
curious damm fat fingers and phones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People are free to run their profiles and meets as they so wish. If someone doesn't like the way you do something then they can simply move on. Many on here moan about the way others do something, usually because it doesn't fit with how they do things asking why do they do this or don't do this or ask for this when they don't do that etc etc.
I've spoken to a few people over the years who don't have face pics on here and only exchange them via another media. I totally respect that but I won't be taking it further with them as I don't wish to give out personal details to someone I haven't agreed to meet via here first.
Do what works for you and let others do the same I say |
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"I'm a fan of social meets first, there has to be a physical and mental attraction.
And this was confirmed to me recently when I met someone for a drink who clearly was sending out a very old pic of himself!!
Needless to say we didn't arrange another meet.
So stick with what you feel comfortable with.
If others don't like it then too bad!
Xx "
That happened to me... my first ever FAB meet for coffee. I didn't even recognise him! He had posted a photo of a much younger guy with a ripped body. The guy that turned up ....... wasn't! !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a fan of social meets first, there has to be a physical and mental attraction.
And this was confirmed to me recently when I met someone for a drink who clearly was sending out a very old pic of himself!!
Needless to say we didn't arrange another meet.
So stick with what you feel comfortable with.
If others don't like it then too bad!
Xx
That happened to me... my first ever FAB meet for coffee. I didn't even recognise him! He had posted a photo of a much younger guy with a ripped body. The guy that turned up ....... wasn't! !!! "
How do you get out of that at that point? Do you say "But.. you're old! And fat?"
Or is that considered impolite? |
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"I'm a fan of social meets first, there has to be a physical and mental attraction.
And this was confirmed to me recently when I met someone for a drink who clearly was sending out a very old pic of himself!!
Needless to say we didn't arrange another meet.
So stick with what you feel comfortable with.
If others don't like it then too bad!
Xx
That happened to me... my first ever FAB meet for coffee. I didn't even recognise him! He had posted a photo of a much younger guy with a ripped body. The guy that turned up ....... wasn't! !!!
How do you get out of that at that point? Do you say "But.. you're old! And fat?"
Or is that considered impolite?"
LOL. .no.... I couldn't bring myself to be rude so I had a coffee with him then made my excuses. To be honest he was a nice man. Polite etc... so he was harmless and fortunately I met him somewhere local so I hadn't gone out of my way. But I learnt my lesson! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a fan of social meets first, there has to be a physical and mental attraction.
And this was confirmed to me recently when I met someone for a drink who clearly was sending out a very old pic of himself!!
Needless to say we didn't arrange another meet.
So stick with what you feel comfortable with.
If others don't like it then too bad!
Xx
That happened to me... my first ever FAB meet for coffee. I didn't even recognise him! He had posted a photo of a much younger guy with a ripped body. The guy that turned up ....... wasn't! !!!
How do you get out of that at that point? Do you say "But.. you're old! And fat?"
Or is that considered impolite?
LOL. .no.... I couldn't bring myself to be rude so I had a coffee with him then made my excuses. To be honest he was a nice man. Polite etc... so he was harmless and fortunately I met him somewhere local so I hadn't gone out of my way. But I learnt my lesson! "
I should of said "Blimey your nothing like your photo"
But I'm not like that... So yes had a drink and chatted. Nice guy but wasn't for me.
Funny how as adults we can't seem to be more honest with one another. |
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We never send out face pic's and we never ask for them from other couples.
Been rejected lots of times but we live with that. On a few occasions we have run into couple's that have turned us down usually run into them at parties most of them have asked to play. But the way we see it is if you wouldn't meet us for a social why should we play with you and never have and never will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always my rules too, no face pic no chat let alone meet.
Well that was until someone I've been chatting to the last few weeks has intrigued me enough to meet for a social without one.
I do have a feeling this way of meeting will be an exception rather than the rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never ever post face pics on fab and if if means no meet then I can live with that.
My privacy is important.....saying that ..in turn I will never ask for anyone's face PIC either but I do expect to see pics of the guy equivalent to what I have myself on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not ever meet without a phone chat and not from a witheld number either! I am always happy to give mobile number out if I think we will be a good match |
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It's crazy to trust someone that much to meet a faceless profile with no photos exchanged and whilst it's probably a minority who set out with bad intentions in mind, just one is more than enough. Most guys seem to be so naive and unaware of the dangers involved, so I tend to explain to them and they understand.
One person said 'I don't know how to take photos, so we can meet somewhere secluded and you can take some photos then'. Yeah, right!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My rules, my safety;
1) Face pic privately by whatever preferred means
2) Social meet = Coffee /drink/public place to see if there is attraction and chemistry.
3) Make further arrangements thereafter
I think this is more than reasonable and SAFE! I am AMAZED at the risks some people take! "
I think your rules are spot on. That's what we do too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't actually understand how people recognise each other if they don't swap face photos... do they ask them to get various body parts out to match them against the pictures on their profile?  |
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Lol I don't meet without Skypeing first. I drove 45 mins to meet up with a bloke that was 20yrs older and bigger than his prof pics. Nice enough bloke but his prof also said that he was single too and he was wearing a wedding ring. He apologised and said he gets more meets saying that he was single. It didn't bother me him being married (grabbing a cushion to hide behind) but if he's lied about his age, weight and marital status...... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We never send out face pic's and we never ask for them from other couples.
Been rejected lots of times but we live with that. On a few occasions we have run into couple's that have turned us down usually run into them at parties most of them have asked to play. But the way we see it is if you wouldn't meet us for a social why should we play with you and never have and never will"
How do you know it's them and vice versa if you don't know what each other looks like?
With my eyesight I struggle to recognise meets when I have seen their face pics. I would never arrange a meet with someone if I don't know what they look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never meet or arrange a meet without seeing some sort of face pics or verification on cam. There's a lot of couples out there (many who've messages me) that think I'll just meet them without seeing any sort of pics.
I've had people just try to add me or send me a message asking to meet without any sort of pics on their profile or without sending a face pic. I may be a single guy, but I'd like to see a face before going any further please.
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