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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So aside from a tidy fanny what else made you worry? What do you mean "got in your space"?
Secondly if she didn't have a tidy fanny would you still worry?
Thirdly even if she is post op if you felt enough attraction to go there what is the issue?
Fourth, if you didn't want to do it and felt forced to, no ifs buts or maybes, that's rape. Doesn't matter that you are male. It happened to me once (no I don't want to disclose details but it was horrible).
Lastly... Sometimes we do daft stuff. I regret quite a few of my shags. Badly. Just chalk it up and move on.
Next time just be frank and blunt. " sorry I'm just not into this..." and leave. Or ask if they mind if you shoot up with a needle first, offer to share the needle and they will have you out the house fast enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"last point is definitely the scenario here. im a complete knob "
If you didn't suspect she used to be he, would it have changed how you feel? This isn't a loaded question. My point here is to try and remove what actually doesn't matter so you are left with what does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??"
Just be honest with her.....
But why can't a lady at 49 have a neat tidy pussy????
She may do pelvic floor exercises every day?? She might not have kids? She might not have been fucked as many times as you think by multi men at the same time?? She might not play with massive toys!! There is a number of reasons why she has a tidy pussy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think with your big head and not your small one ."
I was thinking he may not have wanted to hurt the other person's feelings or felt embarrassed, not that he was desperate for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just be a proud bisexual man. "
Post op man - yes he should change his wonderful profile (an example to all men - have a look at his) that he is now bi |
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"Think with your big head and not your small one .
I was thinking he may not have wanted to hurt the other person's feelings or felt embarrassed, not that he was desperate for sex. "
I feel its far more embarrassing to find out they fucked you because they felt obliged and not because they really wanted to .
Plus IF the woman's on here how awful to find a whole post about it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just be a proud bisexual man.
Post op man - yes he should change his wonderful profile (an example to all men - have a look at his) that he is now bi "
He does better than I do on here!! |
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Fair play to you for being so honest about what happened OP.
I always set the alarm in my phone with the ringtone sound and set it for 15 mins into the meet.
If it's all going well, tell them your not interrupting this just to answer a call and carry on.
If it's going badly , answer the phone, say "Oh my god, that's terrible, I'll come straight away"
Then grab your shit and run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm curious about post op pussy now lol
I think she was an ex-man "
Only think??? A little fact for you here not sure of you know or not but NOT all pussys feel the same..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??
Just be honest with her.....
But why can't a lady at 49 have a neat tidy pussy????
She may do pelvic floor exercises every day?? She might not have kids? She might not have been fucked as many times as you think by multi men at the same time?? She might not play with massive toys!! There is a number of reasons why she has a tidy pussy x"
Or not had kids or many partners or had c section births |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, but personally (Mr speaking) even if I were feeling very horny, I still would have made up or actually told the truth.
Explain that it doesn't feel right and your not comfortable.
Performance anxiety etc..
Bid a hasty retreat and send a polite private message saying that you are very sorry but do not wish to continue.
Leave it there and move on.
Definitely not, fuck her regardless then post on here about it.
That's just not cricket old chap.
I sure you feel bad but imagine how she feels if she is reading this?
Respect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair play to you for being so honest about what happened OP.
I always set the alarm in my phone with the ringtone sound and set it for 15 mins into the meet.
If it's all going well, tell them your not interrupting this just to answer a call and carry on.
If it's going badly , answer the phone, say "Oh my god, that's terrible, I'll come straight away"
Then grab your shit and run. "
Great idea.. I'm going to use this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair play to you for being so honest about what happened OP.
I always set the alarm in my phone with the ringtone sound and set it for 15 mins into the meet.
If it's all going well, tell them your not interrupting this just to answer a call and carry on.
If it's going badly , answer the phone, say "Oh my god, that's terrible, I'll come straight away"
Then grab your shit and run. "
Great advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??
Just be honest with her.....
But why can't a lady at 49 have a neat tidy pussy????
She may do pelvic floor exercises every day?? She might not have kids? She might not have been fucked as many times as you think by multi men at the same time?? She might not play with massive toys!! There is a number of reasons why she has a tidy pussy x
Or not had kids or many partners or had c section births "
Or he might just be use to well battered pussys who's flaps hang down to her knees and had a head up let alone a fist. .Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest the best way is politely and honestly and probably before you have your cock inside!
Politeness and respectfulness are key in many things (even profiles dear). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would suggest the best way is politely and honestly and probably before you have your cock inside!
Politeness and respectfulness are key in many things (even profiles dear). "
Exactly. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I would suggest the best way is politely and honestly and probably before you have your cock inside!
Politeness and respectfulness are key in many things (even profiles dear). "
A much more polite response to the OP than the one I wanted to write. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Note to self eh be a gent an offer a social 1st that way u dont have the worry of ggetting down and dirty with someone who doesn't float ur boat  "
Exactly this. Social meets work well. I'd not want to agree to sex without meeting as I might not be into them or them into me. No pressure no expectations, just have a laugh. If more comes of it then great, not a problem if not. |
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There's lots of women that keep themselfs in good shape over 50 n I think u may b over reacting . What makes u think she's a transgender op . If she was I would not have gone there n if she was she should not have hidden d fact .i met this lady n she was out of this world n around 50 mark . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??"
I think you are a twat!
For future- have a social first and don't let your cock rule your brain!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
I think you are a twat!
For future- have a social first and don't let your cock rule your brain!! "
I totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"correct "
Try getting to know people before you jump in. You soon find out more when you start talking. Ps can I have her number I'll go and finish the job! |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Being able to decide how for yourself is always a good one but there's nothing wrong with asking for advice.
I'm not sure the additional post meet detail & comments about the fem you met is a respectful move in a forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice"
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked) |
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked) "
I have as well or I've previously blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked)
I have as well or I've previously blocked "
I'll just keep an eye out from my couples profile |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked)
I have as well or I've previously blocked "
Oooh, me too, and that's definitely because of this post. 
not as nice receiving criticism as giving it. |
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked)
I have as well or I've previously blocked
I'll just keep an eye out from my couples profile "
Ooh good idea,me too,thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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fyi she is not on here. im not that cruel. secondly i have agreed with your comments and understand but think the abuse is not necessary and please take this im sorry to those offended. i thought some may have understood even if not agreed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked)
I have as well or I've previously blocked
Oooh, me too, and that's definitely because of this post.
not as nice receiving criticism as giving it."
I've just looked at his verifications.. I was in shock not sure how he has had so many meets with single females... but I guess fab is a strange place after all lol x |
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"Not sure its cricket to maybe humiliate someone on a forum post they might see, if they are on fab, your an adult and as such honest and polite would suffice
No its totally out of order. I'm sure he wouldn't like to be subjected to humiliation like this. I do hope she doesn't see this or indeed verify him as we'll all see who it is as I said earlier (well, I won't as I've been blocked)
I have as well or I've previously blocked
Oooh, me too, and that's definitely because of this post.
not as nice receiving criticism as giving it."
I only said I didn't understand what the problem is,I could have said worse,ah well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fyi she is not on here. im not that cruel. secondly i have agreed with your comments and understand but think the abuse is not necessary and please take this im sorry to those offended. i thought some may have understood even if not agreed. "
Of course she's not, that's why you've blocked us all |
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"I'll just keep an eye out from my couples profile
Ooh good idea,me too,thanks!
Sneaks.
Unfortunately the OP doesn't have t show the verification so we will forever wonder."
I'm not that interested to be honest |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"fyi she is not on here. im not that cruel. secondly i have agreed with your comments and understand but think the abuse is not necessary and please take this im sorry to those offended. i thought some may have understood even if not agreed. "
I didn't abuse you. I agreed with someone else who politely gave you advice but commented on your impoliteness about the poor woman you met last night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one has given any abuse as far as I can see. The majority, like me, cannot see why you'd be so disrespectful and indiscreet as to post such a thing in a public forum. Being attached OP, I'd have thought you'd know the meaning of discretion.
As for your actual question, man up, be an adult and say you're sorry, you don't feel comfortable and don't wish to take things further. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??"
should of stopped being a Beta male and just tell her straight cant be doing with people, you could of met someone else and so could she, time is precious don't waste yours or anybody elses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was supprised at the bit about the tight fanny with reference to sex change
My wife having no children is very tight and don't think anyone has question her past
Back to the subject just be honest and say thanks but you feel the spark was not enough to want another meet
People find honesty better than a pack of lies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would suggest the best way is politely and honestly and probably before you have your cock inside!
Politeness and respectfulness are key in many things (even profiles dear).
A much more polite response to the OP than the one I wanted to write. "
Ditto!
"Why didn't you stop before it got that far op? I do hope the lady in question is not on the site, or reads this
Quite "
Snap! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??"
 what are older women's pussy supposed to look like then? 
People are likely to be 'in your space' when you're having sex.
I'd far rather someone be honest and polite if they're not feeling it. Than go through the motions and feel like they've got to fuck me!
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??
Just be honest with her.....
But why can't a lady at 49 have a neat tidy pussy????
She may do pelvic floor exercises every day?? She might not have kids? She might not have been fucked as many times as you think by multi men at the same time?? She might not play with massive toys!! There is a number of reasons why she has a tidy pussy x"
Agreed! I am 47.....saying no more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??
Just be honest with her.....
But why can't a lady at 49 have a neat tidy pussy????
She may do pelvic floor exercises every day?? She might not have kids? She might not have been fucked as many times as you think by multi men at the same time?? She might not play with massive toys!! There is a number of reasons why she has a tidy pussy x
Agreed! I am 47.....saying no more "
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"So aside from a tidy fanny what else made you worry? What do you mean "got in your space"?
Secondly if she didn't have a tidy fanny would you still worry?
Thirdly even if she is post op if you felt enough attraction to go there what is the issue?
Fourth, if you didn't want to do it and felt forced to, no ifs buts or maybes, that's rape. Doesn't matter that you are male. It happened to me once (no I don't want to disclose details but it was horrible).
Lastly... Sometimes we do daft stuff. I regret quite a few of my shags. Badly. Just chalk it up and move on.
Next time just be frank and blunt. " sorry I'm just not into this..." and leave. Or ask if they mind if you shoot up with a needle first, offer to share the needle and they will have you out the house fast enough"
There's always the risk that she would agree to shoot up together and to use her own needles which she has in her handbag within reach. If you can't get out of sex, how are you now going to get out of something like that, which was your suggestion? Yikes!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She's probably as embarrassed by the whole situation too OP...having looked at your profile, meeting you isn't anything I would have been particularly proud of |
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"Why didn't you stop before it got that far op? I do hope the lady in question is not on the site, or reads this  "
i quite agree. I think he should've made his feelings clear before, not after. The poor love would probably feel really hurt reading this....you are indeed a twat |
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Try meeting people for a social first but definately be honest, you dont have to be tactless or hurtful to be honest. Honesty Seems to be at a premium sometimes. We've met people, decided they're not for us and said so. We do socials first to give us that option, sometimes we've played on a social if everything is swimming along nicely. I think you need to take a more mature approach to swinging. Most people here are on their adventure, testing their boundaries and thats not easy. So honesty, tact and compassion are very useful tools to have, save the sharp end of your tongue for the idiots that make themselves very noticable on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First of all you shouldnt post it in here
the lady in question is most lighly motified no
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and secondly a lot of people myself included will now thing that you will shag any1
and im not being rude oh mean to offend you
just thats the way that i see it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Fourth, if you didn't want to do it and felt forced to, no ifs buts or maybes, that's rape. Doesn't matter that you are male. It happened to me once (no I don't want to disclose details but it was horrible).
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I'm sorry but i can't see where your coming from here
If i met a guy and he didn't like me but didn't have the ball's to tell me but instead he acted like everything was ok and went through with the sex as he felt that was an easier option than hurting my feelings by telling me he didn't fancy me no way does that mean i've raped him, he's put himsef in that situation, he could have told her but made the dessision not to thats not my definition of rape |
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Fourth, if you didn't want to do it and felt forced to, no ifs buts or maybes, that's rape. Doesn't matter that you are male. It happened to me once (no I don't want to disclose details but it was horrible).
I'm sorry but i can't see where your coming from here
If i met a guy and he didn't like me but didn't have the ball's to tell me but instead he acted like everything was ok and went through with the sex as he felt that was an easier option than hurting my feelings by telling me he didn't fancy me no way does that mean i've raped him, he's put himsef in that situation, he could have told her but made the dessision not to thats not my definition of rape "
agreed, absolute daftness to compare it to rape |
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"She's probably as embarrassed by the whole situation too OP...having looked at your profile, meeting you isn't anything I would have been particularly proud of"
I must admit to going but birds of a feather and all that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ?
For future- have a social first and don't let your cock rule your brain!! "
think you're being a twat too ! How to cut your meet chances down .. really indiscreet of you to post this. Lots of reasons why she was neat and tight. Not all of us over 48 have great thick flaps and bucket fannies mate. Not that it would matter if we DID ! You don't get women on here saying a guy had a funny bend in his cock or couldnt keep it up.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi. met someone yesterday and i feel terrible. something was not quite right but u felt i couldn't back down.
she may have even been post op omg. no one at 49 could have such a neat tight pussy and after i quickly finished she was all over me ie in my space.
really sorry if you think im a twat but i actually feel like one.
never want that situation to happen again. ??"
I doubt Sir that will ever happen again so don't hold any fear or distress......I'm sure that person would prefer not to admit meeting such a man as you....your profile suits you and describes you accurately ......I wish you many many loose Fannys in order to reassure your greatest fear...and allow that person the dignity she also deserves.....be at peace Sir.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"fyi she is not on here. im not that cruel. secondly i have agreed with your comments and understand but think the abuse is not necessary and please take this im sorry to those offended. i thought some may have understood even if not agreed. "
Just a thought, stubble can be caused by polycystic ovary syndrome, or one of a number of other female illnesses, none of which can be passed on as they are specific to women and genetic, not viral or bacterial.
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