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Is it healthy for a marriage to have a threesome?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.
Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"
If both are in agreement and have a solid trusting relationship and will be happy to stop if one of you feels uneasy. Why not try it. X it has to be a mutual agreement not just one half calling the shots x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a single guy I wldnt know much about couple dynamics, but when I eventually do find a partner then yes 'do think couples shld enjoy a 3some lol'
Just 1 of those things u just gotta have fun & give a try. I've enjoyed joining in 3somes & am sure will enjoy again with future partner   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes definitely . What they say is true swinging will not save a bad marriage but it will enhance a good one . We've been married 26 years and Have a solid trusting relationship we love mmf threesomes and have fantastic sex life between the two of us after we have had one  . If you love and trust each other go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had quite a few threesome experiences with different people, and loved every one of them. We took our time exploring how we both felt about the idea before we decided to meet anyone, and when we did feel ready to take the next step, we spent time finding the right person, and our patience really paid off. We've met our first threesome tag-team partner quite a few times over the last few years and are planning to meet him again soon...he was definitely worth the time it took to find him, we've had the most incredible fun together over the years!
Lots of honest communication is really important, all the way along. It's so important to repeat each other's wishes, to only do what you both feel 100% comfortable with, and to never try and coerce each other into something you're not genuinely happy doing.
Exploring this kind of thing has opened up our relationship to a new level of openness and trust between us, and the sex that we have when it's just the two of us, has gone from fantastic to out of this world! It's quite wonderful how giving each other more freedom to express our sexual natures, has brought us so much closer, strengthened the bond between us and enhanced our relationship in a way we never expected, but wholeheartedly embrace.
As a couple who've been enjoying this kind of fun for 5-6 years now, and only had positive experiences, I'd definitely recommend exploring further if that's what you both want.
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it's something you both want to try, then why not go for it. You can always just start with soft play or always just do that if that's your preference. There are no hard and fast rules.
We enjoy the different dynamic a threesome with either another male or female can bring. Plus like others say - it turns us on together afterwards as well. Just go at your own pace.
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"If it's something you both want to try, then why not go for it. You can always just start with soft play or always just do that if that's your preference. There are no hard and fast rules.
We enjoy the different dynamic a threesome with either another male or female can bring. Plus like others say - it turns us on together afterwards as well. Just go at your own pace.
Sarah "
Definitely this |
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"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.
Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"
Depends on the marriage but it's only sex, no big deal. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.
Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"
We've had and enjoyed threesomes.
We both have to be agreement and feel comfortable with the person joining us. It's important that they feel comfortable with us too.
They can be great fun with the right people.  |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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MFM threesomes are amazing fun when the right people get together for the right reasons.
Sometimes mfm's aint thought out by all involved and for one reason or the other aint a good experience. However as above whent the right people get together for the right reasons, quite amazing |
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"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.
Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"
Oh yes we love it , and a bonus for me due to hubby not being that good in bed  |
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We both enjoy threesomes together and it adds to our relationship. We both love spoiling the third person and watching each other having fun.
As others have said, communication is important, as is making sure everyone is up for going ahead. You have to be strong as a couple, as there can be moments where things get tricky. But talking and listening to each other before, during (to a degree) and after will allow you to both be confortable and everyone to enjoy themselves.
The moments you experience and the memories you create together can be out of this world. Making us both horny with flashbacks now 
Must have another threesome soon... |
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It's healthy to have a truly open and honest relationship, able to discuss anything without fear of upsetting your partner. If that includes discussing fantasies and potential scenarios involving others, then that's the healthy part. If either have any doubts, then it's not healthy to go through with it regardless. Keep the communication open and one day that 3some is likely to come true.
At the very core of the relationship has to be a solid foundation of trust, love and respect for each other, with the focus on wanting to see your partner do whatever they want which will make them happy. There's also the ability to know the difference between love and sex. They are two separate things, each can be enjoyed without the need of the other, yet when the two come together, it takes you to a completely different level and puts a smile on your face and a warm, fuzzy feeling in your heart for days. It's as though everything has fallen into place, that final, missing piece of your jigsaw that you never realised had been missing and it all makes sense now. Reading each other's thoughts and bizarre coincidences are often experienced too, or is that just me?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes it healthy as long as your both on the same page as a couple we've been married 16 years and been swinging 16 years works for us we are very very happy married  |
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By *ifuwMan
over a year ago
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I agree it is healthy and as long as every one is on the same page. Other things have developed from having threesomes. We had a mfm and after that we found a couple at a club and had a full swap. We have that strong of a bond we allow each other to play solo with other people. We make sure that the other person is happy and as long as my partner says yes that's fine and soon as she says no you back off and see to her needs. But hey I have a horny wife and I haven't had her say no yet. |
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Threesomes are fun. You're not looking for a replacement male or female , you're looking for an added dynamic into the play. Most guys/girls here who are invited into that dynamic know and understand that it's not a relationship, just playtime. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's just play.....
Playing as a threesome, foursome or moresome....
The dynamic should be all on an equal footing, all enjoying the fun and you go home as a couple at the end of the night, if you have doubts about it, then talk, talk, talk. Jeolousy shouldn't come into it, it's just play..... |
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