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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l "
Do you make contact with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they do it just to see more pics or get a thrill from the thought of meeting?
My problem is never get considered in the first place!
It's shame as I'm genuine but as a single guy it's hard to get past that first stage of being considered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them"
this rarely happened to me but really used to piss me off tbh. i'm the type of person who if say i'll meet someone i don't let them down or mess them about.
and trust me plenty of my regular meets used to ask me to turn other guys down to see me again, so it's double annoying to be let down by someone.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l
Do you make contact with them?"
I don't chase if they are interested they will contact us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great! |
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great! "
being negative isn't really going to help matters total turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l
Do you make contact with them?
I don't chase if they are interested they will contact us "
Could end up as a Mexican standoff if they feel the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great! "
It seems you have to do the chasing....but not too much because that will get you blocked for being pushy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great! "
don't take sites like this to heart, they mean nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
being negative isn't really going to help matters total turn off "
Hard not to be, how can you positively spin being rejected constantly if the boot was on the other foot? |
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great! "
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do. "
Warm bath razor blade?
Joking of course, just delete my profile, easiest way to stop the ego dying anymore than it already has. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l "
Once you've agreed a date to meet, do you keep up contact with them?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hear you OP. It can be frustrating  even more so if they arrange a meet. But also with someone else. Then go with that person but when let down by them they contact you just to chance their arm  |
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do.
Warm bath razor blade?
Joking of course, just delete my profile, easiest way to stop the ego dying anymore than it already has."
It won't though will it? You'll think about fab even if you leave the site....all those 'what ifs' and missed opportunities and wondering about the other guys all having sex....
So....don't leave, simply change what isn't working. You look really fit (for a straight dude) so that's a plus, isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do.
Warm bath razor blade?
Joking of course, just delete my profile, easiest way to stop the ego dying anymore than it already has.
It won't though will it? You'll think about fab even if you leave the site....all those 'what ifs' and missed opportunities and wondering about the other guys all having sex....
So....don't leave, simply change what isn't working. You look really fit (for a straight dude) so that's a plus, isn't it? "
Thanks, I know it's not the only thing and I think I'm a nice guy too, maybe that's it, I'm a boring nice  guy, how does a person portray being naughty as well as respectful, or is that the conundrum? |
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do.
Warm bath razor blade?
Joking of course, just delete my profile, easiest way to stop the ego dying anymore than it already has.
It won't though will it? You'll think about fab even if you leave the site....all those 'what ifs' and missed opportunities and wondering about the other guys all having sex....
So....don't leave, simply change what isn't working. You look really fit (for a straight dude) so that's a plus, isn't it?
Thanks, I know it's not the only thing and I think I'm a nice guy too, maybe that's it, I'm a boring nice guy, how does a person portray being naughty as well as respectful, or is that the conundrum? "
You portray your character and personality in words.....for example, you don't give any detail or any hint of a shadow of an idea of what your fantasies or kinks might be. You know people won't ask, so why not tell them? It's not just what you say, it's how you say it. Put more photos up too. Unless my bicep photo has made you body-embarrassed. It can happen.  |
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If this site is your only way to achieve getting fucked, then you are going to be disappointed.
If you use it as a supplement to your other sources, then it's fine ; and then you find the occasional ideal person, and don't get frustrated
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
being negative isn't really going to help matters total turn off
Hard not to be, how can you positively spin being rejected constantly if the boot was on the other foot?"
I'm a fat chick I know all about rejection I just don't bitch about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just st the point of leaving, seems I've nothing to offer anyone on here which is pretty depressing and confidence sapping!
Always had this idea I wasn't half bad, deluded as well as boring and ugly, great!
You have to remember that a person will make contact on here based on a combination of photos, profile text and messages....if any of those are not up to their standard or expectations, they will move on. If it keeps happening via various people.....you know what to do.
Warm bath razor blade?
Joking of course, just delete my profile, easiest way to stop the ego dying anymore than it already has.
It won't though will it? You'll think about fab even if you leave the site....all those 'what ifs' and missed opportunities and wondering about the other guys all having sex....
So....don't leave, simply change what isn't working. You look really fit (for a straight dude) so that's a plus, isn't it?
Thanks, I know it's not the only thing and I think I'm a nice guy too, maybe that's it, I'm a boring nice guy, how does a person portray being naughty as well as respectful, or is that the conundrum?
You portray your character and personality in words.....for example, you don't give any detail or any hint of a shadow of an idea of what your fantasies or kinks might be. You know people won't ask, so why not tell them? It's not just what you say, it's how you say it. Put more photos up too. Unless my bicep photo has made you body-embarrassed. It can happen. "
I didn't think ppl wanted to know the nitty gritty and would rather find out through correspondence, I'll amend that, pics wise I've found it hard to take complimentary pics of myself, they never look like me if you get my drift, but I'll try again, I do have a nice bum apparently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l "
We find just the same. It's bloody hard work, you have to line up x3 the number you want to account for no shows.
Famtasists and dreamers I think.
Then they have cheek to say sorry I couldn't make it, tell me what happened/send pics! As if! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Geee whizz going to express my frustration!!
What is it with couples and especially single males. We have limited time to play because of other commitments when we put a meet up, we have quite a few replies. You have a browse and think yes they look nice sound nice etc etc . Discuss a meet they are really up for it say they will accomodate or get a hotel you agree . Then days go past you don't hear anything in the meantime say no to someone else because of an arranged meet with them, and vica versa it goes on. Why do these people just talk the talk what do they get out of it. ? Surely it's not as good as the real action? Just don't understand it hate timewasters but I suppose they will always be here. Shame for us geninue people. Can honestly say we have only
met a couple of geninue people on here . Rant over l o l "
We don't play on the first meet.
Social to see how things lie.
That way there is always the opportunity to go hunting if it falls through 
Veri's too help as does maintaining contact through here or elsewhere.
If a meet goes quiet ESPECIALLY on the agreed day then they're likely to find themselves getting canned by us instead. |
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