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What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time ! |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !"
you were a backup option she must of got a better offer unlucky fella it happens. Women have all the power on here |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
Let downs happen to us all. I had one the other day - been chasing me for a coupla months for a meet and he was persistant. I agreed to it for Monday and he never showed - luckily it was only a local pub. He deleted the message I sent whilst there and the one I sent hours later saying 'what happened' but hasn't even dained to block me!
He was reported and an accquantaince on here said the same guy did the same to her.....
WHY do they do it?! I don't see what they get from it?!  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
From FAQs:
Don't put yourself in a situation where if someone doesn't turn up, you'll be upset. So don't travel 100s of miles and book into a hotel in the expectation of meeting someone unless you've met them beforehand. |
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We arrange hotels a lot but always somewhere where if we get let down we will still have an enjoyable break.
We have been let down maybe a couple times out of 50 or 60 meets but have always found a local replacement. |
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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago
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We've been let down the past times we've arranged to meet someone. It's either the night before or the day of the meet it happens. They either go silent or offer up some completely lame excuse and it's got to the point where we're considering leaving this site and trying others |
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !"
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol"
Not sure anyone else finds it funny |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We've been let down the past times we've arranged to meet someone. It's either the night before or the day of the meet it happens. They either go silent or offer up some completely lame excuse and it's got to the point where we're considering leaving this site and trying others "
Timewasters are a facet of the lifestyle. You will get the same messers on any other site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny "
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it "
Wow, you're full of the milk of human kindness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The mistake you did was booked a hotel. You could wait her in a public place which you could google it then book the hotel.
Secondly, she might change her mind however, she could apologise. I think you need to report FB. I had a same let down but never booked hotel. The person gave me an address which was for sale in market. The user is no more.
I am also thinking whether it is a good idea to publish their user ID so that others would be not cheated. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it "
I posted on here after I was stood up the first time and, although I got a lot of fun poked at me, I also got advice. I changed the way I met and reduced my chances of being stood up again. That's why, although it does get wearing to see constant posts from people who really should have read the FAQs, I always give people advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens ..... I had a fellow insist on a super expensive pretentious restaurant
... I've been there before ...
Snobby ... Food passable ....
I said I prefer less showy and better steak ....
After weeks of chat he insisted again ..... I said I had friends staying however I would keep the afternoon free - he said he could come from the office.....
He was a no show...
I was hungry after 30 min.....
Sent him a picture of the bill and me drinking a cocktail and said I'm a coach ... As he needs training in being a gentleman ....
I just reported him in here and paid my £50 for lunch for one .....
He's been online ... Received messages .....
One last year insisted on taking me out for my birthday ... He contacted me only last week to apologise 6 months later .... Said he got cold feet in September when he was at my door ..... Keyboard and phone warriors and shakey knees in real life people exist..... NEXT!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The mistake you did was booked a hotel. You could wait her in a public place which you could google it then book the hotel.
Secondly, she might change her mind however, she could apologise. I think you need to report FB. I had a same let down but never booked hotel. The person gave me an address which was for sale in market. The user is no more.
I am also thinking whether it is a good idea to publish their user ID so that others would be not cheated. "
and all they will do is create a new profile and do it again.
Guys and ladies like that give this place a bad name.
I am at least honest about my situation and would never miss a meet unless there was an emergency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it "
 the bloke was just looking for advice and shared experience. |
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We (as a couple) have been let down at least 5 times, baring in mind we have to arrange child care and be back for a reasonable hour. We have had either no shows and no messages ect, so as we have got childcare we end up trying to sort a last minute meet in a club, some single men won't pay to get in. (There loss! Lol) so we have ended up playing alone and then going home!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup my bi fem friend and I set up a meet with someone who had been after a meet with us for ages. He was even going to pay my train fare to get there as I was doing it at the time I could least afford it. He text to say he had to do something then never turned up. Later that day he displayed a verification from an mf couple. So me out of pocket and 2 ladies bored and frustrated. His loss since he was after us for so long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's the not showing up that bothers me. It's more you think you're getting on well, chatting lots, texts, flirting and then bang - silence! You think what did or didn't I do?  |
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Luckily I've not been messed about to that degree, but I've had plenty of let downs. Arranged meets them the day we have supposed to have been meeting I've been blocked. Gets a bit annoying and it doesn't seem to matter about how many verifications people have either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it
the bloke was just looking for advice and shared experience. "
Should of read fab do and don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it
I posted on here after I was stood up the first time and, although I got a lot of fun poked at me, I also got advice. I changed the way I met and reduced my chances of being stood up again. That's why, although it does get wearing to see constant posts from people who really should have read the FAQs, I always give people advice."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time ! you were a backup option she must of got a better offer unlucky fella it happens. Women have all the power on here"
wow ...how crass! hope it never happens to you |
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it
the bloke was just looking for advice and shared experience.
Should of read fab do and don't "
Did you, before you were let down last week? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it "
its hardly a rant...more of an explanation...
either way, its not nice what happened to him and he was asking if it had happened to others....
and unfortunately it does, often, but its never funny |
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it
its hardly a rant...more of an explanation...
either way, its not nice what happened to him and he was asking if it had happened to others....
and unfortunately it does, often, but its never funny "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a meet arranged for tomorrow but he's deleted his account this evening, said sorry and fed me a load of bull about this bird he wants to see again... waste of my time, and decent guy wouldn't do that!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't worry OP I need another pair of hands to count the amount if times I've been stood up. It's most annoying when there are large cost implications but all you can do it put it down to experience and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got let down on one meet after quite a long drive....it did sound genuine....and I continued to chat on here to her afterwards tho didn't try to meet again. Only time it has happened to me...she should have at least answered your messages and apologised even if that didn't help in terms of your costs and time. |
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"What's the worst you have been let down. I was chatting to a woman on here good pics well verified so obviously genuine . We chatted on and off for a few weeks and arranged a meet for one Sunday at hers . She messaged a couple of days beforehand to say time of the month and could we rearrange. So I said ok and arranged for last night and as her daughter was staying with her and she was 50 miles away I said I would book a hotel. Do last Sunday before I booked it I checked we were still on for the meet sbd she said yes. So £100 later I booked the room, nice hotel, and yesterday sent a message during the day to say looking forward to meeting u.
Got to the hotel around 8.30 and no message , so I messaged on kik to say I'm here what time will you get here . No reply so message on fab. Saw she was online but not read the message so sent one to say, you want to meet in the bar or come straight to the room?. No reply not read. Twice during the evening she was online and still no messages read on fab or kik. At 1 am I gave up £100 porer and no meet . I cant name her here but did report to fab. Anybody else had this? And they complain about men wasting time !
Lol
Not sure anyone else finds it funny
How do you know they don't
I'm laughing how he is ranting about it on a forum
I was let down last week!
I don't recall doing a Post about it
Get over it
the bloke was just looking for advice and shared experience.
Should of read fab do and don't
Did you, before you were let down last week?"
I had a back up plan. Plus I didn't spend £100 on a hotel, I wasn't out of pocket plus he wasn't of fab!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get them all the time. I'd met and played with a chap on Monday, Thursday he was gonna take me out to dinner ect. So baby sitter booked, got already ect ect. He was a no show, so dinner for one around 9pm, p'd off as was starving by then but did find a rather nice replacement for the ect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I already have but cant see it doing any good "
She may not of blocked you. Administration may have banned her. You get the same message as if blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From FAQs:
Don't put yourself in a situation where if someone doesn't turn up, you'll be upset. So don't travel 100s of miles and book into a hotel in the expectation of meeting someone unless you've met them beforehand. "
Good advice
Sorry to hear you've been let down, onwards & upwards. |
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