Often I get a reply from someone on here and they seem genuinely interested. I reply to them answering a question normally but never hear from them again. What is going on? i don't think that what I replied with is the issue. |
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Depends what the replies are, a hot young man messaged me this week and all I got was one and two word replies, I thought if he can't make the effort neither can I |
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"Often I get a reply from someone on here and they seem genuinely interested. I reply to them answering a question normally but never hear from them again. What is going on? i don't think that what I replied with is the issue."
They realised you're a banker. |
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"Depends what the replies are, a hot young man messaged me this week and all I got was one and two word replies, I thought if he can't make the effort neither can I "
I got exactly this, messaged a woman, she said she found me attractive etc and it was like pulling teeth getting any conversation from her, so I pulled the plug on it, either she's a boring bugger or she wasn't that into me, either way no point continuing.
OP it depends what you're saying really, hard to say where you're going wrong without any kind of example...but maybe have a look at what you put and imagine you'd received it along with about 50 other messages in the last hour. Is it worth taking the time to respond? |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"Often I get a reply from someone on here and they seem genuinely interested. I reply to them answering a question normally ...."
If ALL you're doing in your second message is answering a question, this isn't a good thing. You need to say something more open-ended, to keep the conversation going. As you're writing your second message, ask yourself what reply you're hoping to get to that message.
I find that too many men treat Fab like a bad job interview, only answering the question, not volunteering any information ... basically waiting to be 'accepted' or 'rejected'. I fear that some of them are actually afraid to let their personality shine through, in case they inadvertently say something that is a turn-off. So they err on the side of saying nothing. But this gives the recipient no 'hook' to keep the conversation going, it's easier to just let the correspondence fade away. |
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"Often I get a reply from someone on here and they seem genuinely interested. I reply to them answering a question normally but never hear from them again. What is going on? i don't think that what I replied with is the issue."
Happens to everyone fish and chip newspaper has a longer lifespan
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Yep, had exactly this only last week. Contacted out of the blue by a local(ish) lady saying that she liked my profile and my pics "so thought it only polite I let you know". She also attached a pic of herself which I found sexy so I replied in a friendly way telling her so, answered her question and asked one to her... and then absolutely nothing. 
I sent her another message the next day with a face pic hoping to start the ball rolling again but still nothing. I didn't want to be too forward or lewd and risk scaring her off but now I'm starting to think I should of been more direct and asked when she wanted to hook up. 
Still, not the first time and perhaps not the last but everyday is a school day for single guys on Fab. |
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If it seems like I am the one keeping the conversation going, asking the questions, changing the subject when topic dries up, then I will no longer bother after a couple of messages. If you seem like hard work in an email I am not prepared to take the risk in taking things further. |
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"Believe me I do try hard but not too hard to appear pushy. I think a lot of females on here are just browsing with no real interest in actually meeting "
That's funny because that's what a couple in a thread on here this evening have said about single men  |
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I tend to feel a conversation flows or it doesn't. Nobody's fault if it doesn't, but to me it just means we don't click. But I do give up if it doesn't flow. Realise some people aren't good at the cyber chat, and are better in person, but we're no longer willing to risk meeting someone, where the chat has been luke warm. |
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"Believe me I do try hard but not too hard to appear pushy. I think a lot of females on here are just browsing with no real interest in actually meeting "
That's probably true to a point, but not in the way you think. In a year and a half we've only met 6 men privately. With repeat meets and parties that we like to go to, that's more than enough to be getting on with. So yes, we are on the whole only browsing, with no real interest in meeting. But we are active swingers, who do meet new men from time to time, so nobody can say we are no using Fab as it is intended. |
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"Often I get a reply from someone on here and they seem genuinely interested. I reply to them answering a question normally but never hear from them again. What is going on? i don't think that what I replied with is the issue."
Change banker to baker and offers will flood in |
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"Believe me I do try hard but not too hard to appear pushy. I think a lot of females on here are just browsing with no real interest in actually meeting "
it may be to do with your profile but as you haven't asked for help with it I cant comment  |
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"Believe me I do try hard but not too hard to appear pushy. I think a lot of females on here are just browsing with no real interest in actually meeting
it may be to do with your profile but as you haven't asked for help with it I cant comment "
You just did comment....  |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Just to add,females and couples do the same, part of my profile has taking photo's etc. If you look I am verified. So when asked about this , I give as much information to message from what they asked. Yet most times do not get a reply even though they have sent message first . If not interested why message in first place ? |
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