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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Has anyone turned down a meet request or even ignored a message from someone who you think is out of your "league"?
If so, then why?
I know that most people have a certain perception of themselves and not find it to be attractive but everyone has a different idea to what sexy means.
Your avererage might be someone else's ideal.
So why hold back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before  "
Ditto.
That or they see my pictures and start imagining something completely different to what I am. I had one guy earlier going in depth about how he loves long legs and how mine are just like some other girls he'd met and were long and slender.....
I used to play rugby, long and slender are not two words I'd use to describe my legs.
Immediate turn down... I don't want to be accused of misrepresentation when I turn up and he sees my two stumps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone turned down a meet request or even ignored a message from someone who you think is out of your "league"?
If so, then why?
I know that most people have a certain perception of themselves and not find it to be attractive but everyone has a different idea to what sexy means.
Your avererage might be someone else's ideal.
So why hold back?"
your question isn't very clear....in fact there are three of them so here goes...
no ive never turned a meet request down because I thought someone was out of my league but I might have done for other reasons...
and in answer to your third question I never hold back if I really fancy someone |
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I admit I don't initiate contact very often but on the occasion that I do, it is because I am chancing my luck that the man in question will answer. I am always a bit stunned if he does because he is definitely going to be out of my league! !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison."
That's actually really cute and endearing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
The girls you think are "stunners" might of been average for the guy and you were the stunner
He must of liked what he saw to message you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has anyone turned down a meet request or even ignored a message from someone who you think is out of your "league"?
If so, then why?
I know that most people have a certain perception of themselves and not find it to be attractive but everyone has a different idea to what sexy means.
Your avererage might be someone else's ideal.
So why hold back?
your question isn't very clear....in fact there are three of them so here goes...
no ive never turned a meet request down because I thought someone was out of my league but I might have done for other reasons...
and in answer to your third question I never hold back if I really fancy someone "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've turned men down when I've thought they are too good looking for me.
I don't want to feel I'm just a prostitute to them and I know they wouldn't look twice at me on a night out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
Ok...now you've got my attention. Why?
At a minimum, I would think it would raise your self evaluation to be on their short list.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison.
That's actually really cute and endearing "
I think it's neurotic and mental, but I'm not changing it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned men down when I've thought they are too good looking for me.
I don't want to feel I'm just a prostitute to them and I know they wouldn't look twice at me on a night out."
This ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison.
That's actually really cute and endearing
I think it's neurotic and mental, but I'm not changing it "
Neurotic and mental trumps easy and boring  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not blokes so much, but yes I regularly turn down couples who I think are out of my league.
I haven't played with a couple yet, but the really hot couples make me far too intimidated. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've turned men down when I've thought they are too good looking for me.
I don't want to feel I'm just a prostitute to them and I know they wouldn't look twice at me on a night out.
This ^^ "
Why would you assume they wouldn't look twice at you on a night out?
You might be just their type. You have pics on your profile so they must like what they see |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone turned down a meet request or even ignored a message from someone who you think is out of your "league"?
If so, then why?
I know that most people have a certain perception of themselves and not find it to be attractive but everyone has a different idea to what sexy means.
Your avererage might be someone else's ideal.
So why hold back?"
No cos I'm like a bag of awesome! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not blokes so much, but yes I regularly turn down couples who I think are out of my league.
I haven't played with a couple yet, but the really hot couples make me far too intimidated."
You're pretty hot yourself as your pics and your username states so why feel intimidated? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I don't believe the league nonsense. There are people who you're attracted to and people you aren't. Simple. "
I don't think it's like that, there's just times where you know you're not good enough for them lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't think that way on here.
If I allowed myself to do so I would probably end up trying to second guess everyone's motives for wanting to meet instead of taking it for face value. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has anyone turned down a meet request or even ignored a message from someone who you think is out of your "league"?
If so, then why?
I know that most people have a certain perception of themselves and not find it to be attractive but everyone has a different idea to what sexy means.
Your avererage might be someone else's ideal.
So why hold back?
No cos I'm like a bag of awesome!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison.
That's actually really cute and endearing
I think it's neurotic and mental, but I'm not changing it
Neurotic and mental trumps easy and boring "
What do you mean by easy & boring  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I don't believe the league nonsense. There are people who you're attracted to and people you aren't. Simple. I don't think it's like that, there's just times where you know you're not good enough for them lol"
I dunno. I have said this before, but I have some close friends who are super hot. They have a thing for kinda dorky/geeky guys. How would anyone know until they ask? How do you know that your perception of yourself is accurate never mind whether it matches the other person's perception of attractiveness.... |
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I think it's difficult to be objective about ourselves because we can't see how others see us.
But I know i have always struggled with self confidence and body image and maybe my photos are my way of working through that in a safe way.... or maybe I am wrong. Not sure.
But even in everyday life, I wouldn't initiate a conversation with a stranger who is really hot. I just feel i would make an idiot of myself with the fear of rejection. So it isn't just on FAB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (jane) think like this alot
Sometimes you just look and think "jeez guess they want to try downgrading" but it's my own silly insecurities and low self confidence that makes me over analyse......I never ignore messages just panic when they make a compliment and usually end up trying to explain how I'm not as hot as they may think, usually something like
" just your average friendly person, definitely not supermodel material" x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I don't believe the league nonsense. There are people who you're attracted to and people you aren't. Simple. I don't think it's like that, there's just times where you know you're not good enough for them lol
I dunno. I have said this before, but I have some close friends who are super hot. They have a thing for kinda dorky/geeky guys. How would anyone know until they ask? How do you know that your perception of yourself is accurate never mind whether it matches the other person's perception of attractiveness...."
That just sounds like the people who say girls go for average guys because they like to be the hot one lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I see someone attractive I just message away & see what happens. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all, so to me i don't aknowledge the league thing. Only time wld say 'no' is if their profile is bit too cocky or too nit picky like ' i only meet fit, clean, suit wearing guys with six packs etc'.
Then u look at the person & she ain't none of the things herself she desribes want's the guy to be like e.g. fit or clean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I don't believe the league nonsense. There are people who you're attracted to and people you aren't. Simple. I don't think it's like that, there's just times where you know you're not good enough for them lol
I dunno. I have said this before, but I have some close friends who are super hot. They have a thing for kinda dorky/geeky guys. How would anyone know until they ask? How do you know that your perception of yourself is accurate never mind whether it matches the other person's perception of attractiveness.... That just sounds like the people who say girls go for average guys because they like to be the hot one lol"
Oh. I don't mean it that way. I just mean how do you know if someone will find you attractive or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there's no physical attraction then that's usually when I make my excuses. I have turned down meets after looking at their veris but that's very rare. I never feel as though I'm punching above my weight but I do see it regularly on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks wise, if some lady who is very hot and would be interested in me, I wouldn't turn her down. If she made a conscious choice to meet with me I'm fine with that.
However there are some profiles on here, where another persons chooses meets for their partner. In that case I would not contact them and I would certainly turn them down if they contacted me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I don't believe the league nonsense. There are people who you're attracted to and people you aren't. Simple. I don't think it's like that, there's just times where you know you're not good enough for them lol
I dunno. I have said this before, but I have some close friends who are super hot. They have a thing for kinda dorky/geeky guys. How would anyone know until they ask? How do you know that your perception of yourself is accurate never mind whether it matches the other person's perception of attractiveness.... That just sounds like the people who say girls go for average guys because they like to be the hot one lol
Oh. I don't mean it that way. I just mean how do you know if someone will find you attractive or not?"
I just assume they don't lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison."
This is for me also.. |
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By *olo199Man
over a year ago
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Amen brother that's so true!!! And don't you get pissed off when girls are like looking for meet tonight single guys only etc etc etc so yiu msg them no reply you think to yourself why even bother even a no love sorry fine but shot ladies and gets we all got needs we all want different thinks make memories end a day your not looking to meet wifey on here are we it's a site to have a laugh meet new people and say to your self nice lass her sometimes not even about the fuck me like a slag sometime a drink and a mccys chatting away like naughty school kids and some time wanna make love not just shove it in moan for abit bust nut and send her packing anyway enuff off me anyone ladies any gunnamed break my swingers big
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suprised at the low opinion some people have if themselves on here  "
I'm more surprised at the high opinion some have ...like those men who say 'good looking', 'fit' or 'sexy'...surely that is for the opinion of others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've turned down guys because their previous verifications show a definite preference for young, slim and beautiful. I'm none of that so wouldn't pressurise myself in that way. I hate to disappoint. Other than that, i don't think anyone is out of my league. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Early days of my fab life I got a wink from someone I considered to be way too hot and figured it was an error; then thought 'sod it Heels, give it a whirl' so winked back.
He's now Number One Chap and is jolly lovely. (Still think he's way too hot for me, but heh ho).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's difficult to be objective about ourselves because we can't see how others see us.
But I know i have always struggled with self confidence and body image and maybe my photos are my way of working through that in a safe way.... or maybe I am wrong. Not sure.
But even in everyday life, I wouldn't initiate a conversation with a stranger who is really hot. I just feel i would make an idiot of myself with the fear of rejection. So it isn't just on FAB. "
Totally get that - I have self confidence issues and I'm surprised by the comments I get on here. Although I do find that quite a lot of good looking guys on here are also quite arrogant and for me that's a real turn off as well - kinda sorts my self confidence issues as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Only time I felt not good enough for someone, was when a 23yr old showed interest (I was coming up to 40 at the time. I was too naive, after a 10yr marriage, to know that younger guys liked older women)
After weeks of flirting & chatting in the chatrooms & others seeing the chemistry. I plucked up the courage to meet him. I had been out. Not a great evening. Signed in chat & he was there. Jokingly said in the room for him to come to mine. Next thing you know, he was on his way. Turned out to be a very memorable meet. We are still in touch now, 4yrs down the line. We have a great trust between us. He is bi curious & I am the only one who knows (apart from Fab) He talks to me about his fantasies & senarios & it turns out we share many. We are currently sorting a mfm & I for one can't wait. |
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We both accept the point that we will fail to impress.
Our very first meet was with a lovely couple who we thought were the "bees knees".
We ended a very nice social evening with the customary "see you soon"!
They blocked us that night and then told all their friends how old and boring we were.
They were obviously "out of our league" and we have been fighting relegation ever since!
(Had great fun doing it though)!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suprised at the low opinion some people have if themselves on here
I'm more surprised at the high opinion some have ...like those men who say 'good looking', 'fit' or 'sexy'...surely that is for the opinion of others "
Yes that is the other flip of the coin not just guys though theres a lot of woman and couples the same |
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Actually this is ironic really because a guy who has been messaging me has the HOTTEST body!!! But..... I would feel too nervous to meet him because he will be used to model types! He seems keen but i dont get it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing."
I'm the exact same I wouldn't embarrass myself by going with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
To quote a phrase from one of my favourite films, Roadhouse. "I fuckin knew it!" Legend! |
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If someone likes me and I like them, then that's all I need to know. I've wondered in the past, how or why some women were seemingly attracted to me but that was more to do with my own lack of self-esteem at the time. I no longer suffer from those sorts of problems. I've realised that sometimes in life you've just got to go for it. |
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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained - right?"
Inclined to agree !!!
I suppose I can understand some of the body confidence posts but everyone should be proud of who they are and have confidence in themselves!!! Ive seen some very sexy ladies on here in all shapes and sizes. Many guys and girls find "women" attractive and shape or size is of no real relevance. From my perspective there certainly are those who I would consider wayyyyy out of my league but that won't stop me  and I've been surprised more than once |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing."
According to another thread running at the moment the consensus appeared to be forumites don't judge a person by the veri alone. This thread seems to show otherwise. Who is to say that the guy hasn't met larger women on / off the site, doesn't have the veri's for a variety of reasons....:.
If you're displaying current, realistic photos & text & a hottie messages you, do you not think he likes what he sees?
I don't mean to sound picky, I'm just curious that's all x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing.
According to another thread running at the moment the consensus appeared to be forumites don't judge a person by the veri alone. This thread seems to show otherwise. Who is to say that the guy hasn't met larger women on / off the site, doesn't have the veri's for a variety of reasons....:.
If you're displaying current, realistic photos & text & a hottie messages you, do you not think he likes what he sees?
I don't mean to sound picky, I'm just curious that's all x
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And if you believe what a range of other threads state, many men will message anyone they think they might get an answer from, will blow smoke up all women's arses, think we're all stuck up fat slags who should be grateful for attention and are mainly desperate to get their dick wet by whatever means they can so I think people can be forgiven for not always trusting that actually being attracted to someone is the motivation for messaging.
Of course, I don't necessarily believe the above to be true - but I don't believe for a second that people don't judge based on verifications either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't necessarily believe the above to be true - but I don't believe for a second that people don't judge based on verifications either"
I don't judge people on who they have met but I do look to see who they have met to see what body types or if they have a height preference etc, Just to see if I stand a chance with them,
If all of their meets are 6ft plus etc I give them a miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison."
No way, I'm never accepting anyone's invite. You're beautiful and you have issues with your body. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before "
I do this too
I also look at some and know they wouldn't look twice at me in a bar so why would they on here. I ignore and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
To quote a phrase from one of my favourite films, Roadhouse. "I fuckin knew it!" Legend! "
Knew what?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only guys I turn down are the ones that don't fit in with what I'm looking for ...if they message me first, (and mostly they do )I'm taking it they want to get to know more about me. ..I'm not bothered if they've met a string of supermodel type girls before me because I consider myself fecking amazing and no one is out of my league! !!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing.
According to another thread running at the moment the consensus appeared to be forumites don't judge a person by the veri alone. This thread seems to show otherwise. Who is to say that the guy hasn't met larger women on / off the site, doesn't have the veri's for a variety of reasons....:.
If you're displaying current, realistic photos & text & a hottie messages you, do you not think he likes what he sees?
I don't mean to sound picky, I'm just curious that's all x
And if you believe what a range of other threads state, many men will message anyone they think they might get an answer from, will blow smoke up all women's arses, think we're all stuck up fat slags who should be grateful for attention and are mainly desperate to get their dick wet by whatever means they can so I think people can be forgiven for not always trusting that actually being attracted to someone is the motivation for messaging.
Of course, I don't necessarily believe the above to be true - but I don't believe for a second that people don't judge based on verifications either. "
I don't believe people don't judge on veri's either but I was definitely in the minority for expressing it yesterday. Which is why I asked the question.
Regardless of body type a person would be mad to trust all the shite they get messaged on a daily basis. If the initial interest was a good 1st message backed up with some substance though, wouldn't that help change a viewpoint? |
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Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing.
According to another thread running at the moment the consensus appeared to be forumites don't judge a person by the veri alone. This thread seems to show otherwise. Who is to say that the guy hasn't met larger women on / off the site, doesn't have the veri's for a variety of reasons....:.
If you're displaying current, realistic photos & text & a hottie messages you, do you not think he likes what he sees?
I don't mean to sound picky, I'm just curious that's all x
And if you believe what a range of other threads state, many men will message anyone they think they might get an answer from, will blow smoke up all women's arses, think we're all stuck up fat slags who should be grateful for attention and are mainly desperate to get their dick wet by whatever means they can so I think people can be forgiven for not always trusting that actually being attracted to someone is the motivation for messaging.
Of course, I don't necessarily believe the above to be true - but I don't believe for a second that people don't judge based on verifications either.
I don't believe people don't judge on veri's either but I was definitely in the minority for expressing it yesterday. Which is why I asked the question.
Regardless of body type a person would be mad to trust all the shite they get messaged on a daily basis. If the initial interest was a good 1st message backed up with some substance though, wouldn't that help change a viewpoint? "
For me, no it wouldn't. I trust my instinct and initial reaction to people now. If I read a profile full of verifications from women who are all the exact opposite of me, I probably won't even read the message. |
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse."
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Yes I've done that too. It's my problem, not theirs, but if all their previous meets are tiny petite beautiful women or women with surgically enhanced breasts or something then no, I'm not going there as I have no desire to set myself up for that kind of comparison."
This which is why I don't look at verifications anymore. |
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
Me too. I am a very big lass and if he never meets fatties I won't play. It's a body confidence thing.
According to another thread running at the moment the consensus appeared to be forumites don't judge a person by the veri alone. This thread seems to show otherwise. Who is to say that the guy hasn't met larger women on / off the site, doesn't have the veri's for a variety of reasons....:.
If you're displaying current, realistic photos & text & a hottie messages you, do you not think he likes what he sees?
I don't mean to sound picky, I'm just curious that's all x
And if you believe what a range of other threads state, many men will message anyone they think they might get an answer from, will blow smoke up all women's arses, think we're all stuck up fat slags who should be grateful for attention and are mainly desperate to get their dick wet by whatever means they can so I think people can be forgiven for not always trusting that actually being attracted to someone is the motivation for messaging.
Of course, I don't necessarily believe the above to be true - but I don't believe for a second that people don't judge based on verifications either.
I don't believe people don't judge on veri's either but I was definitely in the minority for expressing it yesterday. Which is why I asked the question.
Regardless of body type a person would be mad to trust all the shite they get messaged on a daily basis. If the initial interest was a good 1st message backed up with some substance though, wouldn't that help change a viewpoint?
For me, no it wouldn't. I trust my instinct and initial reaction to people now. If I read a profile full of verifications from women who are all the exact opposite of me, I probably won't even read the message. "
Fair enough, it's all about the instinct |
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Nope never. I don't think anyone is out of my league and I don't think I'm out of anyone's league. It all just boils down to mutual attraction. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and one woman's Quasimodo could turn out to be another woman's Idris Elba |
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There are times when I have messaged profiles on here and especially if I see that the lady is a Dom I always take my time to write a well written message nothing too forward or anything untoward just a message introducing myself. Then when I see she has read it looked st my profile then deleted the message ... It does make me feel like , well she was out of my league anyway , or is it that she just couldn't be bothered to reply to a polite message !! |
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I'm shocked at the number of women who've posted here saying they'd turn down meeting men, A) because they're 'too' good looking and, B) Because of their past verifications.
So average looking guys approaching you are ok, 'just' because they're average looking, but above average looking men obviously have ulterior motives?
As for judging somebody on past verifications; Sorry (not sorry) but what a load of cobblers. I definitely do not fuck everything with a pulse, as has been implied all men do on here  And if you read someone's verifications and notice that previous partners don't look like you... What of it? If you've been messaged in the first place, there's obviously something about you which is attractive. There's no need to question someone's taste or motives. You're all on here for basically the same reason, and shouldn't be comparing yourselves to others. |
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I have recently turned down a guy who was very good looking but He was so arrogant and cocky. He looked very handsome and had the body to match but with him it really was only skin deep.
He really was as dull as dish water.
I find people like that completely shallow, totally self absorbed and boring beyond belief and they think looks alone will get them laid, which is probably all they would do in the bedroom anyway. It would feel like you were fucking a robot that had run out of batteries. |
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"I've turned down quite a few after seeing the stunners they have met before
To quote a phrase from one of my favourite films, Roadhouse. "I fuckin knew it!" Legend! "
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse."
I guess with me It's not that i question what a guy likes, more i question why a guy would want to make a big effort to meet me when he could meet someone else that's probably less hassle.....and more attractive. Actually now that i think about it, there is probably something in the way the guy comes across in messages that puts me off more than the type of woman he has met before....i actually don't think it's anything to do with me thinking I'm not attractive enough at all!.....crikey this is like a counselling session....I've just been enlightened
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse.
Lol - plain and simple "
But if all someone's verifications are a particular type, and I'm not that type then what would make me think they were actually attracted to me? If they actually fancy a wide range of women then their verifications would surely display that.
It's not a fat vs thin thing, and I know I'm attractive - I think the same if someone only seems to meet older women, or black women, or surgically enhanced women, or couples, or only goes to gangbangs or has quickies in clubs. It's all part of determining whether someone meets the way I like and we're going to click.
For example, I'm big, I'm tall, I weigh a lot, I have a long body, big feet, big hands. Sex with me is different from sex with a short woman. No one is picking me up and throwing me around the bedroom, unless they're Geoff Capes. If a bloke is only used to fucking women under 5'5 then I'm completely different and I don't want to be the person who reminds him why he likes the small ones, because that would feel shit. |
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse.
Lol - plain and simple
But if all someone's verifications are a particular type, and I'm not that type then what would make me think they were actually attracted to me? If they actually fancy a wide range of women then their verifications would surely display that.
It's not a fat vs thin thing, and I know I'm attractive - I think the same if someone only seems to meet older women, or black women, or surgically enhanced women, or couples, or only goes to gangbangs or has quickies in clubs. It's all part of determining whether someone meets the way I like and we're going to click.
For example, I'm big, I'm tall, I weigh a lot, I have a long body, big feet, big hands. Sex with me is different from sex with a short woman. No one is picking me up and throwing me around the bedroom, unless they're Geoff Capes. If a bloke is only used to fucking women under 5'5 then I'm completely different and I don't want to be the person who reminds him why he likes the small ones, because that would feel shit."
I don't actually go looking for taller Women or Women who weigh a lot more then me, I'm not saying it won't happen but very unlikely |
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People do realise that in real life people rarely match their profile personnas and pictures .
Years at events have proven over and over the profile hotties are often flat or prentious in flesh and not sexy at all . All sexes. Verifications say everyone is gorgeous sexy and hot too .
And the basic wouldnt look twice profile . Turns all the heads in real life ..
Think outside your box.. if you go socials / clubs you'll get this x
Based on the amount of profiles that claim 100s of messages a day .In 9 years never experienced it and never been asked on a meet by anyone that didn't look like my father off fabs ..
Hence I never meet anymore as it can crush your confidence in cyber word .. however in real life . I've no complaints. What does that say ??
Moral here is for a shag off fabs guys will play below their number and hedge their bets they like easy .. and I don't mean that in a bad way .. they want sex no more the less effort the better .
Ladies will play above theirs.. and why not enjoy the opportunities after all its just sex x
But never think anyone is out of your league... There's no such thing ... we all gave great qualities .. they may not fancy you back .. That's personal taste . Doesn't make you unworthy x
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So many threads on fab have been interesting and or educational but this one really stands out. I'm absolutely floored by the amount of girls that are saying they wouldn't meet a guy that has contacted THEM because they felt he was out of their league. I think I'm a fairly attractive bloke and in my life I've been turned down a lot, way too much. I'm polite, have great teeth and really take care of my body and to think that some of the girls I've asked out on a date might have said no because of a lack of confidence just blows me away.
This is a woman's world. The power to say yes or no is almost always in her hand. I don't even know what to say... I know you all act from life experiences but ladies, try and have a bit more faith in the power of a woman's sexuality! |
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I can fully understand this some times when I look at a ladies profile I feel is so stunning I think there is no point in even looking let alone msging her. But on the other hand fuck em who are they to tell me iam not hot or what a lady would want guess I just switch depending on my moods |
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This thread approves again to me women lacks confidence and just the self- acceptance as she is, why you should be hottie, does that change your inner sexual drive and your own unique sexiness? Sex is about wild and sensuous mind and healthy body just helps to experience through  |
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse.
Lol - plain and simple
But if all someone's verifications are a particular type, and I'm not that type then what would make me think they were actually attracted to me? If they actually fancy a wide range of women then their verifications would surely display that.
It's not a fat vs thin thing, and I know I'm attractive - I think the same if someone only seems to meet older women, or black women, or surgically enhanced women, or couples, or only goes to gangbangs or has quickies in clubs. It's all part of determining whether someone meets the way I like and we're going to click.
For example, I'm big, I'm tall, I weigh a lot, I have a long body, big feet, big hands. Sex with me is different from sex with a short woman. No one is picking me up and throwing me around the bedroom, unless they're Geoff Capes. If a bloke is only used to fucking women under 5'5 then I'm completely different and I don't want to be the person who reminds him why he likes the small ones, because that would feel shit."
I'm 5'9 and I only recently found out men like smaller women for this reason. So I do worry about meets sometimes because I like to wear heels. One guy on a social meet seemed visibly shocked by my height.
My husband is 5'6, and we do ok. He's very well built though, really strong and I think that balances us out nicely in the bedroom.
I see it as a plus that I have really long legs. Isn't that supposed to be desirable? I dunno. |
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse.
Lol - plain and simple
But if all someone's verifications are a particular type, and I'm not that type then what would make me think they were actually attracted to me? If they actually fancy a wide range of women then their verifications would surely display that.
It's not a fat vs thin thing, and I know I'm attractive - I think the same if someone only seems to meet older women, or black women, or surgically enhanced women, or couples, or only goes to gangbangs or has quickies in clubs. It's all part of determining whether someone meets the way I like and we're going to click.
For example, I'm big, I'm tall, I weigh a lot, I have a long body, big feet, big hands. Sex with me is different from sex with a short woman. No one is picking me up and throwing me around the bedroom, unless they're Geoff Capes. If a bloke is only used to fucking women under 5'5 then I'm completely different and I don't want to be the person who reminds him why he likes the small ones, because that would feel shit.
I'm 5'9 and I only recently found out men like smaller women for this reason. So I do worry about meets sometimes because I like to wear heels. One guy on a social meet seemed visibly shocked by my height.
My husband is 5'6, and we do ok. He's very well built though, really strong and I think that balances us out nicely in the bedroom.
I see it as a plus that I have really long legs. Isn't that supposed to be desirable? I dunno. "
I think tall and slim and long legged is up there in terms of desirability with petite or small and curvy but yeah...I'm not that. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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I've met guys who I think are well outta my league - generally horribly nervous when I have, but all has always gone ok to be fair.
They've contacted me (It's an exceptionally rare occasion I make first contact with anyone), but I figure they've seen all my pics so I assume they know what they are letting themselves in for, but always have social anyway which would clarify that for sure!
The nerves in the pit of my stomach never quell though when meeting a gorgeous top notch lovely! I semi regularly see one and I'm still a wreck til five minutes in |
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"Very interesting posts. Hmm, women have interesting ways of seeing things sometimes. Why question what a guy likes if he shows interest? One thing I will tell you women - if there's one thing a man knows, it's what gets him to going. Most men, like me, don't have a strict type of woman they go for. Sometimes you see a profile and it excites you to the point that you message. But I personally find it frustrating when a woman questions what I like when I show interest. The answer is YOU, in all your quirkiness, idiosyncrasies and juicy arse.
Lol - plain and simple
But if all someone's verifications are a particular type, and I'm not that type then what would make me think they were actually attracted to me? If they actually fancy a wide range of women then their verifications would surely display that.
It's not a fat vs thin thing, and I know I'm attractive - I think the same if someone only seems to meet older women, or black women, or surgically enhanced women, or couples, or only goes to gangbangs or has quickies in clubs. It's all part of determining whether someone meets the way I like and we're going to click.
For example, I'm big, I'm tall, I weigh a lot, I have a long body, big feet, big hands. Sex with me is different from sex with a short woman. No one is picking me up and throwing me around the bedroom, unless they're Geoff Capes. If a bloke is only used to fucking women under 5'5 then I'm completely different and I don't want to be the person who reminds him why he likes the small ones, because that would feel shit.
I'm 5'9 and I only recently found out men like smaller women for this reason. So I do worry about meets sometimes because I like to wear heels. One guy on a social meet seemed visibly shocked by my height.
My husband is 5'6, and we do ok. He's very well built though, really strong and I think that balances us out nicely in the bedroom.
I see it as a plus that I have really long legs. Isn't that supposed to be desirable? I dunno. "
I would say long legs are desirable so look for men that are 6'+, then you can wear heels & show off your assets.
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone is out of my league. I do look at veris, past meets.I question why they are wanting to meet me if the women are sexy and different to me. Then I reason with myself, apple pie is what I tend to choose but cherry also tastes absolutely delicious and it's good to remember our tastes change |
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"Nope never. I don't think anyone is out of my league and I don't think I'm out of anyone's league. It all just boils down to mutual attraction. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and one woman's Quasimodo could turn out to be another woman's Idris Elba "
I agree. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Mutual atrraction is what it boils down to.
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"Nope never. I don't think anyone is out of my league and I don't think I'm out of anyone's league. It all just boils down to mutual attraction. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and one woman's Quasimodo could turn out to be another woman's Idris Elba
I agree. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Mutual atrraction is what it boils down to.
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It is just the moment compatibility of instincts and one or two common mind aspects |
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I must say I'm guilty of this!
If a guy has a 6 pack and usually goes for petite blondes. I do question what they'd want with me. I also think that some of the "fit" guys on here, wouldn't be caught dead with a girl like me in public. Even though it is NSA, I don't wanna be good enough to fuck, but an embarrassment in real life. |
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"I must say I'm guilty of this!
If a guy has a 6 pack and usually goes for petite blondes. I do question what they'd want with me. I also think that some of the "fit" guys on here, wouldn't be caught dead with a girl like me in public. Even though it is NSA, I don't wanna be good enough to fuck, but an embarrassment in real life."
Exactly this |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
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The only time I use "out of their league" is when I get a no thanks message ... At that point I console myself with the though "I was out of their league"
If I find the lady attractive I message, if they find me attractive I'd hope we'd chat . |
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"No one is out of my league. K"
Exactly this , and no matter what age , how attractive , or who they have met before , we never feel anyone is out of our league .
There are plenty of people we wouldn't meet because of differing preferences , but never because we think they are too good for us . |
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I wouldn't consider anyone out of my league, that's not what's going through my head at all. I might not be attracted to them physically, or I see their pics and read their profile (and considering that should be up putting our best foot forward) and be put off by certain standards but I certainly wouldn't translate that into me thinking im out of someone's league or better than them |
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"I must say I'm guilty of this!
If a guy has a 6 pack and usually goes for petite blondes. I do question what they'd want with me. I also think that some of the "fit" guys on here, wouldn't be caught dead with a girl like me in public. Even though it is NSA, I don't wanna be good enough to fuck, but an embarrassment in real life.
Exactly this "
So if a guy like you just described messaged you, would you just ignore and delete the message or would you replay and explain why you are not interested? |
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I never think my body/cock size is good enough, though when I have had meets its been fine.
To critical of myself maybe ???
