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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally an issue. I don't get it, this is a swingers site so we are liberated yet soo many people, girls mostly, seem to have such a problem. I play safe and try to respect everyone yet get such a poor response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer bi guys, I'm not sure why people have issues, I'm looking to meet sexually liberated people so it seems obvious that some open with their sexuality would be fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no issue with what sexuality the men I meet are.
I've met straight and bi men and had lovely times with both.
I'm still waiting to fulfill my ultimate fantasy of a mmf with two bi men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a bunch of messages from guys and they all have straight on their profile... and I'm straight as it says on my profile so I don't want to hear it. Guess they are trying their luck, but as the OP says they are choosing not to be openly bi for whatever reason. |
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Its swings and round abouts
A lot of couples and single women state they wont meet bicurious men so yes I and they have missed out.
There again if I didn't state tgat I was bicuriius I wouldnt have metxand enjoyed some of the people I have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have absolutely no point of reference, I've been out since I was 17, it comes as part of the package, like it or lump it.
Sorry. "
 what a shame you're so far away, sound perfect to us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We choose not to meet couples with a bi guy. Nothing against them personally but we like to think it was the ladies only he is interested in pleasing. "
Nothing against them but won't meet them, ok. You do realise bi guys can restrain themselves don't you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone. "
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation! |
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"Do you feel/think it seems harder to meet people because you openly state your Bi on your profile?"
As a single male it's going to be difficult anyway.
I'm too old / too young, not the right size, shape or colour.
But I'll stick with the honest approach, rather than try to lure people with a fantastic false profile and hope they will overlook the details if we meet. |
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we have a lot of guys message us who have straight on their profile, they tell us they are bi really but that they don't put it as it puts some women/ couples off---- so without total honesty nobody can be certain they are actually meeting a 'straight' guy. |
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Maybe 4 out of 5 guys who message us have straight in their profile.
Went through a phase of mailing back that we are not a straight couple and most replied that they are but hide it.
It's a shame but it's clearly an issue for some/many guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I think it's definetly harder to meet people if it says you're bi on your profile.
I really can't understand why a single lady would be bothered about it and if a couple didn't want me to go near the bloke, all they've got to do is say so!
Maybe they're frightened the 'straight male' might actually like it and his manliness factor will go down? Who knows.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a bi guy  but here are some of my thoughts and experiences.
When I first joined, there was a guy I was talking to on here and his profile stated " bisexual". He left, rejoined and his new profile stated "straight" and I asked why the change.
He replied that if he put bisexual on his profile, he was inundated with messages from gay men. So he put straight but didn't block M or MM - so they would know he is interested . (His words, not mine)
I told him I thought that sounded far too complicated and he should just state what he considers himself to be and leave it there but his profile, his choice I guess. Just seemed silly to me.
Other reasons I've heard are, again NOT my words or beliefs:
-Bi men have more STIs due to their sexual habits, so playing with them means you're more at risk of catching something. (I use protection with whoever I meet and have no intention of depriving myself sexually and being celibate  . Having sex with someone other than yourself opens you up to the chance of catching something. Condom or no condom. Celibacy is not an option for me  )
-If a bi man meets a couple where the M is straight, he may be fantasising about the man. (For all I know, someone of the people I've met were fantasising about sex with someone else at the time they were with me . I'm not telepathic, so....)
I have no issue meeting bi men and never even thought one existed before. Issue. Preference. Whichever word but didn't realise it was "a thing" until I joined here. Maybe I've had a sheltered life or just not encountered these views before. Either way, bi men - please feel free to swing my way
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't know it was a problem. That's why men who are on Fabguys as well state they're straight on here, been wondering about that. Personally, I'm just honest. No point lying about it. |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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I get messages from guys whose profile say that they are straight - I don't mind. People have reasons for the way they present themselves. I think very carefully before sending a message to a guy who describes himself as straight - I don't usually do it unless there are clues in the description that he might be interested. In the very few cases where I've made a mistake guys have been fine about it. |
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"Doesnt bother us wether bi or not, as long as boundaries are always established and respected beforehand it's all about the fun "
Exactly, the pre meet conversations will establish ground rules and boundaries and expectations so if a bi man were to have sex with a straight couple, none of the three would do any man to man touching. To think that a bi guy wouldn't be able to keep his paws of a straight guy or be fantasising about his cock is just that. A load of cock. A lot of bi men don't actually fancy men, just like playing with a guys cock.
*phew* I typed that all in one breath!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesnt bother us wether bi or not, as long as boundaries are always established and respected beforehand it's all about the fun
Exactly, the pre meet conversations will establish ground rules and boundaries and expectations so if a bi man were to have sex with a straight couple, none of the three would do any man to man touching. To think that a bi guy wouldn't be able to keep his paws of a straight guy or be fantasising about his cock is just that. A load of cock. A lot of bi men don't actually fancy men, just like playing with a guys cock.
*phew* I typed that all in one breath! "
And breath!!
The word "Bi" tends to scare straight guys unless it's in reference to a female of course (I'm only human!) I was one of those guys who used to run a mile if a bi male or bi male couple contacted us! But over the past 5 years meeting the occasional "bi male" couple and single guy I can honestly say that boundaries have never once been crossed, if anything they have been more respectful and considerate |
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We are friends with other couples who we met at the club's who have openly said to us they wouldn't exchange messages/meet with etc any couples or guys that states the guy is bi. We have become great friends with and played with them (str8 play though) but shows there is a thing against bi guys. Everyone is free to chat or meet with whoever. We have no qualms should no one reply to us. I love watching hubby with another guy and turns me on immensely |
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As an open minded adventurous person after many years of swinging I discovered that I had a bi curious side. After a couple of months of reflection I embraced it.
I have no doubt that there has been a fallout as a result of my openness but I also know that for every door that closes another opens.
I only meet single ladies and couples so the only irritation from my perspective is the number of single males and TVs that now contact me without having first read my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have a lot of guys message us who have straight on their profile, they tell us they are bi really but that they don't put it as it puts some women/ couples off---- so without total honesty nobody can be certain they are actually meeting a 'straight' guy. "
Yes we get this a lot too, and a some of these men have verifications from women or couples who say no bi men on their profile.
Seems a bit desperate to us that people would lie and deceive others for sex  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We choose not to meet couples with a bi guy. Nothing against them personally but we like to think it was the ladies only he is interested in pleasing.
Nothing against them but won't meet them, ok. You do realise bi guys can restrain themselves don't you? "
Things like this make us laugh. My partner is bi and is perfectly happy ignoring the male and pleasing the woman, he much prefers wonen, as i do men, the bi think for both of us, is just a bit of extra fun but guess what, neither of us are going to force ourselves on anyone, what is it everyones so scared of??
Quite a few couples say no to us because the male is afraid my guy won"t be able to keep his hands off them, you men need to get over yourselves, we've not seen one yet who has been that irresistable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone.
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation! "
Of course it should. You are talking utter rubbish. It's totally different. As I said not wanting to offend anyone but I prefer meeting straight men. Are you going to tell a gay man he should fancy females!!!!! Most ridiculous comments I've ever heard on here and that's saying something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone.
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation!
Of course it should. You are talking utter rubbish. It's totally different. As I said not wanting to offend anyone but I prefer meeting straight men. Are you going to tell a gay man he should fancy females!!!!! Most ridiculous comments I've ever heard on here and that's saying something "
I took it that they meant when you see a man, and you fancy them physically, their sexual orientation isn't something that plays a factor in whether you fancy them as you won't know whether they're straight or not.
A gay man won't fancy women because they are gay.
This does not mean I think anyone should meet a bi man or woman as everyone is entitled to have preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hypocritical.
It's nothing to be ashamed of infact im proud of it ..
I laugh when I hear bi single women or bi cpls with bi girls say no bi men !
Youd think they would understand that bi men enjoy straight sex too and isn't ginna jump on yer hubby and molest him ! Lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone.
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation!
Of course it should. You are talking utter rubbish. It's totally different. As I said not wanting to offend anyone but I prefer meeting straight men. Are you going to tell a gay man he should fancy females!!!!! Most ridiculous comments I've ever heard on here and that's saying something
I took it that they meant when you see a man, and you fancy them physically, their sexual orientation isn't something that plays a factor in whether you fancy them as you won't know whether they're straight or not.
A gay man won't fancy women because they are gay.
This does not mean I think anyone should meet a bi man or woman as everyone is entitled to have preferences."
Thanks. Yes I can see it from that point of view but it isn't just physical attributes that turn me on its the whole package. I just prefer a man who fancies women only. I've noticed on this thread alone plenty of females who love bi men so I don't see the problem lol seems I'm in the minority.
Thanks again though, good point. |
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Not at all, my Fab friends who knew me before I went through my bi curious stage are still my friends and still meet up with me.
And some Fabbers have become friends because I'm open about my liking for sucking cock...
Just be yourself, and be honest about it and dont try pleasing Fab profiles that only like Straight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What annoys me is single women who object to bi guys. We don't all indulge in anal. Then again there is no guarantee a straight guy has Not had unprotected anal with a woman. |
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When a guy messaged me if his profile says straight then I ask why and they always say one of 2 things, either oh I thought it said bi, or oh it's because couples won't play with bi men. No do t get me wrong but if you can't be honest on your profile about your sexuality when we are on a swingers site then I'm sorry I won't meet or chat any further.
There are also the small number of guys who change their sexuality as soon as you mention it and then after chatting they change it back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What annoys me is single women who object to bi guys. We don't all indulge in anal. Then again there is no guarantee a straight guy has Not had unprotected anal with a woman."
Why does it annoy you that another human being reserves the right to choose who she is intimate with  |
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Each to their own I say, everyone has their own likes and preferences, no one should be judged or verbally abused because of their likes or dislikes, if that's what someone feels then so be it, no one has the right to judge someone who expresses their true feelings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each to their own I say, everyone has their own likes and preferences, no one should be judged or verbally abused because of their likes or dislikes, if that's what someone feels then so be it, no one has the right to judge someone who expresses their true feelings "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone.
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation!
Of course it should. You are talking utter rubbish. It's totally different. As I said not wanting to offend anyone but I prefer meeting straight men. Are you going to tell a gay man he should fancy females!!!!! Most ridiculous comments I've ever heard on here and that's saying something "
Sorry but you're spouting absolute nonsense! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We choose not to meet couples with a bi guy. Nothing against them personally but we like to think it was the ladies only he is interested in pleasing.
Nothing against them but won't meet them, ok. You do realise bi guys can restrain themselves don't you? "
oh, no, didn't u realise bi men jump on all men no matter what!!
Poppy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each to their own I say, everyone has their own likes and preferences, no one should be judged or verbally abused because of their likes or dislikes, if that's what someone feels then so be it, no one has the right to judge someone who expresses their true feelings
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I don't disagree at all with this sentiment. I perhaps didn't make myself clear before.
When you first meet someone you've no idea of their sexual orientation but you could have that initial attraction, what people class as 'fancying someone', wether they choose to peruse that person once their orientation is known is a personal choice.
I hope that clears things up a little. |
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It's really entertaining to read the profiles of people that seem to think that those of us that don't want to meet bi men somehow have an "issue". Certainly it's a preference and not an "issue"?? Unless someone who only wants to meet older, younger, thin, BBW, cut, uncut, etc. etc. also has an "issue". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But with respect what if someone just wants to meet with straight guys? Nothing personal against bi men at all. Why do they feel aggrieved if people have personal preferences? We can't all fancy everyone.
Bi or straight, what's the difference? To fancy someone shouldn't be dictated by their sexual orientation!
Of course it should. You are talking utter rubbish. It's totally different. As I said not wanting to offend anyone but I prefer meeting straight men. Are you going to tell a gay man he should fancy females!!!!! Most ridiculous comments I've ever heard on here and that's saying something
Sorry but you're spouting absolute nonsense! "
No need to be sorry because you have a different opinion. One of my bi male friends who has posted on here happens to agree with me. People are allowed to choose you know. No matter what you think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's really entertaining to read the profiles of people that seem to think that those of us that don't want to meet bi men somehow have an "issue". Certainly it's a preference and not an "issue"?? Unless someone who only wants to meet older, younger, thin, BBW, cut, uncut, etc. etc. also has an "issue". "
Ok I'll bite.. We state we prefer uncut guys as we find them physically more appealing hence we 'fancy them' more. The physical appearance is what we are attracted to, wether they're gay or straight is irrelevant as we find those men more attractive.
The point I trying to make before is that you could fancy the backside of someone and never know they're bi if they hid it from you, would that mean you didn't fancy them still? Once known, it's your choice to stay with them or not.
Never once did 'I' state people who choose straight men had an 'issue', quite the opposite as I think everyone is free to choose what and who they prefer. My initial point was misunderstood but I still stand by my intention, bi or straight, it's the physical attraction that draws you in initially.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've obviously ruffled a few feathers given the blocks now in place, hardly required but it's your choice. Interesting discussion even if it did fan a few fiery replies, wouldn't be a healthy debate without that though now would it.
Of we trot to drink cider and put the world to rights in the beer garden now  |
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No one can tell i'm bisexual, so if I put straight on my profile, no one who only wanted a straight man would be any the wiser. I'm not ashamed of being bisexual though and I believe people should be given the choice, so here I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right then, this is fabswingers, you advertise yourself to try and find the right person/Persons for yourself to have some fun. In layman terms.
There's no point changing who you are just because you think people may not like it, that's not how it works  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm openly bi, but I've considered putting straight on my profile. Not because I wanted to 'trick' anyone (If bisexuality is a hang up for you, that's a massive red flag that our personalities aren't in any way going to match, and I sure as hell ain't desperate enough to try and get into bed with people I don't like) but because, well, honestly when it comes to meeting guys there are better places. Hell, one of them is Fabguys.
And a lot of the messages you get from guys on here are all a bit .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the only trigger for sexual attraction is a person's physical appearance then it shouldn't make any difference if a guy is bi.
In reality however much our our motivation on fab is driven by fantasy and Mrs J simply does not fantasise about bi guys.
In fact the thought of 2 guys having sex is a turn off not a turn on.
We perfectly understand that a bi guy could play by our ground rules if invited but to her/to us it doesn't matter. It simply wouldn't be what we fantasize about. |
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"If the only trigger for sexual attraction is a person's physical appearance then it shouldn't make any difference if a guy is bi.
In reality however much our our motivation on fab is driven by fantasy and Mrs J simply does not fantasise about bi guys.
In fact the thought of 2 guys having sex is a turn off not a turn on.
We perfectly understand that a bi guy could play by our ground rules if invited but to her/to us it doesn't matter. It simply wouldn't be what we fantasize about."
What about a couple who state that they are both bi but are also more than happy to play completely straight, would you ever play?
And in clubs you never know if that other person is bi or not. It is it a case of once it's in her head that a guy could be bi then it completely changes how she would see him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is it exactly. Once it is in her head then there is no sexual attraction whatsoever.
Of course we/she can't tell if someone is lying or it is a club.
We did have one guy approach us in a club once. He had just been getting his cock sucked by a tv and then turn around and wanted my wife to do the same.
He was pretty pissed off when she refused but to be honest we didn't care. |
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A couple of ladies that I know were quite pleased when they heard that I was exploring my bi curious side. Not specifically from a desire to see me with a guy but more from the standpoint that it is an indicator of having an open mind sexually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many labels .
just meet & fuck
why so much deep discussion
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Because many people like to make friends for long term fun not just shag anything that is available |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like bi guys, one of my fantasies is a bi mmf
Looking through my local updates the other day, I saw "don't bother getting in touch if you've ever been with a bi man", so I blocked him to save him the trouble of getting in contact with me. |
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"I like bi guys, one of my fantasies is a bi mmf
Looking through my local updates the other day, I saw "don't bother getting in touch if you've ever been with a bi man", so I blocked him to save him the trouble of getting in contact with me. "
Yeah it's clear some don't like it |
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By *an789Man
over a year ago
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"I prefer bi guys, I'm not sure why people have issues, I'm looking to meet sexually liberated people so it seems obvious that some open with their sexuality would be fun"
I agree... Just be you and have fun. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find on here if you are a single guy who states they are bi that it is harder to meet couples or single women.im not saying its impossible cus there are some nice openminded fun people but a lot of couples wont plat with single guys or bi guys.if I go a swingers club never have any problem and have had fun with couples and single ladies who have been happy to play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We choose not to meet couples with a bi guy. Nothing against them personally but we like to think it was the ladies only he is interested in pleasing.
Nothing against them but won't meet them, ok. You do realise bi guys can restrain themselves don't you? "
My boyfriend is down as bi but has no sexual attraction to guys in anyway . He will happily play with guys because it turns on and when I'm turned on so is he. So he is pleasing me.
We have had mmf straight meets, and straight swaps and straight ffm meets. Just because we like to play with male and female don't mean that anyone is gonna miss out or we gonna jump on same sex
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you feel/think it seems harder to meet people because you openly state your Bi on your profile?"
No.
had noticeably more interest since discovering my bi side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are both bi on our profile so it leaves nothing hidden (hell, Mr has 2 pics up of the toy he used). That way, people can decide straight away. We are new to the scene, but have had multiple messgaes1from straight guys commenting on Mr's cock, but doesn't bother us. Imagine if we were Bi, Old and Fat, that would be terrible.....oh hang on, we are  lol |
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We usually reply to messages from straight single guys that sorry we'd rather meet a bi guy. It's amazing the number that then reply and say that's good then, as they are bi but only have straight on profile because bi puts people off.
We are completely fine with boundaries, and straight couples we would never say no to as then there is plenty fun for everyone. But we think that in a mmf situation it's better if the guy is bi. |
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