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Social meets - do they float your boat?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is anyone like myself a fan of just meeting socially? I like to post social meets on when I am away if I am free as I think it's great to have a chat and coffee/meal with someone new when travelling away! Sometimes they can lead to more but I'm often not fussed!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We run a purely social group in fenland, it's great fun! Really good way to meet up and chat and make new connections. It leads to more on some occasions once we have left the building but it's a great group of people just to chat to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials are always good for stimulating the mind in preparation for what may follow and if nothing follows, we use the built up sexual tension as soon as we get home and have one hell of a "session" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes and no
if the opportunity is there on the social meet, I see no point dillydallying around.
I've met socially in my house,or at someone elses..sometime overnite/sleeping together and no sex(its been rare mind).
never any pressures to play..but having a good laugh is the main aim |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i don't think i like them, was thinking about them today.
i'd prefer to meet guys for sex but have elements of socialising in them."
thats what I mean, sit, chat have a laugh..then if all happy shag.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i don't think i like them, was thinking about them today.
i'd prefer to meet guys for sex but have elements of socialising in them.
thats what I mean, sit, chat have a laugh..then if all happy shag.."
yeah. these have been my best meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my meats are just social meets, coffee and a great chat with like-minded people. I love it, I've also offered coffee meets to people via the forum to get them verified, great way for them to get known as well, and if unverified or unsure a great way to introduce them to the world of swinging through chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not into socials as much and that goes outside of fab too, but it depends on who you meet and I have had few great socials, but the majority is fuck dates |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sexual tension that can be built up in a social meet can be intense. Sitting there in a pub enjoying a relaxing glass of wine with my husband and potential lover. The new man flirting with me in front of my husband, and people in the pub wondering what's going on, as the man plays with my mind making me more and more horny. The best sex, whether that night, or at a later date, is always when there has been a build up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love a social meet or 3
Builds tension and a desire to fuck the brains out of each other
Kissing and touching before actually having sex
This "
The mind games you can play with each other, wondering who's going to make the first move etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say 70% of people I have met are from a social first, whether a coffee or drink in a pub. Some prefer to socialise first prior to any fun taking place. I have had a couple of socials with a view to playing straight after if everyone is happy and had socials that have led to play at a different time. I have also had several play meets without a social. I can't actually think of a social that hasn't progressed to playing at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .
We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .
We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .
We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .
We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .
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I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension |
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I love socials. They inevitably lead to something a bit more exciting and the flirting always makes things more interesting and acts as a good build up to naughty fun
It also gives people the chance to bail if there's no connection / attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .
We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .
We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .
I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap "
You know what ? We have played soft swap more than full swap believe it or not !
It can be way more erotic and passionate , we love soft swap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter? "
There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .
But when we go out in the evening we like sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're pretty new to this, but have decided following our first few meets that meeting socially only the first time removes the pressure on everyone and establishes chemistry, making future meets more exciting. That being said we wouldn't rule out going with the flow if the occasion is right. In terms of meeting deliberately just to be social we definitely do and will do so - if you make 'friends' on here they can become real friends who we genuinely want to spend time with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter?
There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .
But when we go out in the evening we like sex "
Yep i agree. It takes long enough for me to find free time as it is. If i met for a social first we may not get another opportunity to meet again for another few months. How frustrating would that be?!
I guess if i had more time, no family etc then i would probably do things differently. I also have a problem with going for a drink/meal etc in that it just feels a bit date like and I'm really not here for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .
We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .
We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .
I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap
You know what ? We have played soft swap more than full swap believe it or not !
It can be way more erotic and passionate , we love soft swap "
Most of our socials end up being glorified soft swaps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I insist on one too.
Sometimes the spark in banter just doesn't carry over to real life.
Pictures can be a little deceiving too.
I hate the expectation that you are going to play because you've agreed to meet, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension "
Exactly |
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"I insist on one too.
Sometimes the spark in banter just doesn't carry over to real life.
Pictures can be a little deceiving too.
I hate the expectation that you are going to play because you've agreed to meet, etc."
A social helps me to feel comfortable also |
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Time is our limiting factor. Sometimes if we do a purely social meet and then decide to play it can take ages to find another date.
However we do love the social aspect of the scene so of we do have time then, sure we love a good social. Sometimes we'll do a social prior to an arranged club meet too. We've met some great people playing that way. |
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"Most of my meats are just social meets, coffee and a great chat with like-minded people. I love it, I've also offered coffee meets to people via the forum to get them verified, great way for them to get known as well, and if unverified or unsure a great way to introduce them to the world of swinging through chat "
I love your approach |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meeting socially leaves all options open. If there's chemistry then it naturally leads to fun (pretty quickly! After one drink, I'd know) but if I don't feel comfortable, it allows for pleasant conversation and polite exit. |
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Fascinating thread for someone new to swinging but not to dating. I love the idea that a social is part of the foreplay. I've always definitely had to click with my date -what I've always called the kissability factor- a mental and physical attraction. If you keep the outcome open-ended rather than predetermined it's much more of a turn-on to me -means rather than 'just' sex that there's an attraction both ways. I wondered how it might be different in swinging world and this post suggests that as ever it's down to personal preferences but people are more open about them. I guess I just need more dates... to get my hand in...so to speak! |
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"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter?
There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .
But when we go out in the evening we like sex
Yep i agree. It takes long enough for me to find free time as it is. If i met for a social first we may not get another opportunity to meet again for another few months. How frustrating would that be?!
I guess if i had more time, no family etc then i would probably do things differently. I also have a problem with going for a drink/meal etc in that it just feels a bit date like and I'm really not here for that "
Perfectly sums up our ethos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on so many things.
I pretty much always have social meets. They vary depending on the circumstance though.
- On my own I tend to get coffee and then meet them seperately for sex if we click.
- With my partner we tend to meet for a social with sex if we all agree afterwards/
- For kink I usually met at a club, for a no pressure social and then potentially play if we had already discussed everything and it was working for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I post social meets. Men aren't interested in meeting me socially.
I've had a string of bad meets so I guess I'll have to make them compulsory.
I feel they're not always necessary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension "
I have been thinking about the 'socials' topic over and over again in last few weeks. Really great opinions and experiences from both sides in this thread.
I prefer play meets at clubs or private. Also enjoy attending organised group socials because they are always a fun night out.
I have never been keen on one on one socials. If you meet a person and things don't go any further that is not a problem. But if you want to play, you can't! Due to time restraints, location etc imagine then everytime you login you chat to that person knowing you want to meet again, but your schedules don't match! That is torture and I cannot be dealing with that kind of frustration... noooooo way
However it is really important for me to build the sexual tension and have chemistry. This always leads to multi orgasmic experiences. Communication and connection is key, everything just feels right! If anyone has had this type of meet then you know anything less is not going to satisfy your needs
Therefore...
I am going to try a one on one social to see how it goes! OMG have I been converted?
Well... I get bored very easily, meeting just for a chit chat is not really ideal. So there is a catch to this... I will be putting my cheeky personality and twist into arranging this meet
There will be no expectations, just go with the flow. Now I need to find a suitable single lady to pick on... I mean meet for a social!
Wish me luck! Haha this will be interesting |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We're not really interested in social meets unless it's a large organised one where we can network a little. We enjoy the nervous energy of meeting face to face for the first time and getting down to play. Also we tend to have indepth message exchanges and talk socially at the meet, it definitely works for us this way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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each to their own - personally we can't abide them - and won't attend them - we enjoy spontaneous sex if that makes sense - much more thrilling for us personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"each to their own - personally we can't abide them - and won't attend them - we enjoy spontaneous sex if that makes sense - much more thrilling for us personally."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension
I have been thinking about the 'socials' topic over and over again in last few weeks. Really great opinions and experiences from both sides in this thread.
I prefer play meets at clubs or private. Also enjoy attending organised group socials because they are always a fun night out.
I have never been keen on one on one socials. If you meet a person and things don't go any further that is not a problem. But if you want to play, you can't! Due to time restraints, location etc imagine then everytime you login you chat to that person knowing you want to meet again, but your schedules don't match! That is torture and I cannot be dealing with that kind of frustration... noooooo way
However it is really important for me to build the sexual tension and have chemistry. This always leads to multi orgasmic experiences. Communication and connection is key, everything just feels right! If anyone has had this type of meet then you know anything less is not going to satisfy your needs
Therefore...
I am going to try a one on one social to see how it goes! OMG have I been converted?
Well... I get bored very easily, meeting just for a chit chat is not really ideal. So there is a catch to this... I will be putting my cheeky personality and twist into arranging this meet
There will be no expectations, just go with the flow. Now I need to find a suitable single lady to pick on... I mean meet for a social!
Wish me luck! Haha this will be interesting "
Sometimes it's good to go outside of your comfort zone, you never know what it may lead too.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends on so many things.
I pretty much always have social meets. They vary depending on the circumstance though.
- On my own I tend to get coffee and then meet them seperately for sex if we click.
- With my partner we tend to meet for a social with sex if we all agree afterwards/
- For kink I usually met at a club, for a no pressure social and then potentially play if we had already discussed everything and it was working for us."
I have a very similar approach!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Deffo social first iron's out all of the pitfalls before we commit to the raunchy stuff. It's always worked for us. Even met a group of people in a restaurant who had invited us to a party Because that's how the host liked to do things. Nice touch! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is anyone like myself a fan of just meeting socially? I like to post social meets on when I am away if I am free as I think it's great to have a chat and coffee/meal with someone new when travelling away! Sometimes they can lead to more but I'm often not fussed!
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I don't do social meets |
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