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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss |
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I've spotted this too and it is slightly irritating. Especially when it's a throwaway line right at the bottom of her profile (as if it's an after thought and it's not that important) stating "boyfriend likes to watch" or "looking for guy to join me and fb". Just get a couples profile if you're looking to play with your partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss"
I used to have that on my profile. I'm looking to play with people as a single, but I'm also looking to play with people as a couple.
I think it's ok to make people aware that you also have the option of playing as a couple on your singles profile. You're just... enhancing the menu as it were. |
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss"
I'd be really gleeful if I was offered sex by a lady and she said she had a male friend to join in  |
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I think if someone plays a couple only they should have a couples profile only and I'd suggest reporting any 'single' profile that is actually a couples profile in disguise
I see nothing wrong with singles who do meet as a single but who also have a partner they meet with and have a couples profile with as well advertising that fact as well on their couples or singles profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss"
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
Sigh"
It's a reasonable question ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
Sigh
It's a reasonable question ....."
I am curious to know his response to this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with
it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
Sigh
It's a reasonable question ....."
and how often does that happen?? |
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
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But that would make it a female/remale profile not a female/male there is a big differance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with
it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
Sigh
It's a reasonable question .....
and how often does that happen??"
It's happened twice for us , and the last time we said no as her friend wasn't our type .
The reason for asking was to ascertain if you have a swinging type of mind .
We see the scene as an opportunity to experience all sorts of fun , with a variety of people . If the profile says they have a partner , you can choose whether or not it would work for you .
Nothing is covert so to speak when it says on the profile .... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with
it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
Sigh
It's a reasonable question .....
and how often does that happen??
It's happened twice for us , and the last time we said no as her friend wasn't our type .
The reason for asking was to ascertain if you have a swinging type of mind .
We see the scene as an opportunity to experience all sorts of fun , with a variety of people . If the profile says they have a partner , you can choose whether or not it would work for you .
Nothing is covert so to speak when it says on the profile ...."
totally agree
however my choice might be to look for a single fem i would browse single fem profile
if i wanted to meet a couple i would browse a couples profile
i am completly open to all experiences
i also have no issue with single people having regular friends to make a couple
i have
i would discuss with an individual if they might be interested in joing up
not a blanket statement saying i want someone to play with us
gosh sorry bit waffly
hope that makes sense |
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"To me it suggest that the lady has a boyfriend who sometimes plays but often meets alone.
Cant see anything wrong with it myself"
That situation we can understand and completely accept.
However, we are also "irritated" by the single female profile that starts out with "Me and my Boyfriend/FB/Hubby are looking for a single fem to join us for FFM fun"... or...
"My boyfriend/FB/Hubby will always be in attendance, but not join in unless invited"...
A "couple" should use a couples profile, a "single fem" a single fem profile! Simple really!!
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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
Would you find it just as annoying if she had a cheeky little " looking for someone to play with me and my bi female friend " on her profile ?
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"You could always just report the profile OP and let admin decide
what????
who rattled your cage??
Its a forum I,m allowed to have an opinion as for my cage I,m not in one
well you should be
why pop up saying i should be reported
fool"
If you read my post correctly you will see I said "YOU could report the profile to admin and let them decide" now who,s a fool? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could always just report the profile OP and let admin decide
what????
who rattled your cage??
Its a forum I,m allowed to have an opinion as for my cage I,m not in one
well you should be
why pop up saying i should be reported
fool"
That's not what he's saying, re read his post |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You could always just report the profile OP and let admin decide
what????
who rattled your cage??
Its a forum I,m allowed to have an opinion as for my cage I,m not in one
well you should be
why pop up saying i should be reported
fool
That's not what he's saying, re read his post"
i have and apoloised |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could always just report the profile OP and let admin decide
what????
who rattled your cage??
Its a forum I,m allowed to have an opinion as for my cage I,m not in one
well you should be
why pop up saying i should be reported
fool"
Not you...The single female profile... |
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We have this couples profile that we use day to day and singles profiles that we use specifically if we are meeting as singles.
The terms Couple and Single are about how you are meeting, not your actual relationship status.
To suggest reporting someone for saying they are single when they are not is just ridiculous. Half the people on here are in relationships but playing alone!
We sometimes mention in our singles profiles that we are part of a couple to offer the opportunity for people to say "great, better still if OH wants to play"
Where do you drawer the line? Stop people saying they are single of they have a regular fuck buddy?
The only people I can imagine having an issue with his are singletons seeking singletons in which case "plenty of fish" is that-a-way, you've inadvertently joined a swingers site! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To me it suggest that the lady has a boyfriend who sometimes plays but often meets alone.
Cant see anything wrong with it myself
That situation we can understand and completely accept.
However, we are also "irritated" by the single female profile that starts out with "Me and my Boyfriend/FB/Hubby are looking for a single fem to join us for FFM fun"... or...
"My boyfriend/FB/Hubby will always be in attendance, but not join in unless invited"...
A "couple" should use a couples profile, a "single fem" a single fem profile! Simple really!!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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If a single profile states they will only play with their partner present, report them and admin will sort it out. If it states they sometimes play with their partner present then discuss that with them before meeting.
Not worth getting upset about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a single profile states they will only play with their partner present, report them and admin will sort it out. If it states they sometimes play with their partner present then discuss that with them before meeting.
Not worth getting upset about."
I'M NOT UPSET
JUST THOUGHT IT WAS A DISCUSSION TOPIC |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have this couples profile that we use day to day and singles profiles that we use specifically if we are meeting as singles.
The terms Couple and Single are about how you are meeting, not your actual relationship status.
To suggest reporting someone for saying they are single when they are not is just ridiculous. Half the people on here are in relationships but playing alone!
We sometimes mention in our singles profiles that we are part of a couple to offer the opportunity for people to say "great, better still if OH wants to play"
Where do you drawer the line? Stop people saying they are single of they have a regular fuck buddy?
The only people I can imagine having an issue with his are singletons seeking singletons in which case "plenty of fish" is that-a-way, you've inadvertently joined a swingers site! "
That's exactly what I was trying to say , the only issue as I see it , is if the single only says at the last minute that he/ she wants to bring a partner along to an arranged meet .
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"If a single profile states they will only play with their partner present, report them and admin will sort it out. If it states they sometimes play with their partner present then discuss that with them before meeting.
Not worth getting upset about.
I'M NOT UPSET
JUST THOUGHT IT WAS A DISCUSSION TOPIC"
It is a discussion topic OP but some people think only their opinion is right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cut the bull....
It's wrong for a couple to advertise as a single lady with something along the lines of "my partner always attends my meets, will join in it asked" etc etc
1. It's deceitful
2. It smacks of attention seeking
3. It should be a couple profile
Same goes for single guy profiles with a male/female partner or single girl with a male/female partner.....
On the flip side, to those that advertise in this deceitful way at least they know you've read the profile!  |
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"Cut the bull....
It's wrong for a couple to advertise as a single lady with something along the lines of "my partner always attends my meets, will join in it asked" etc etc
1. It's deceitful
2. It smacks of attention seeking
3. It should be a couple profile
Same goes for single guy profiles with a male/female partner or single girl with a male/female partner.....
On the flip side, to those that advertise in this deceitful way at least they know you've read the profile! "
Perfectly put!! |
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"Cut the bull....
It's wrong for a couple to advertise as a single lady with something along the lines of "my partner always attends my meets, will join in it asked" etc etc
1. It's deceitful
2. It smacks of attention seeking
3. It should be a couple profile
Same goes for single guy profiles with a male/female partner or single girl with a male/female partner.....
On the flip side, to those that advertise in this deceitful way at least they know you've read the profile! "
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
I used to have that on my profile. I'm looking to play with people as a single, but I'm also looking to play with people as a couple.
I think it's ok to make people aware that you also have the option of playing as a couple on your singles profile. You're just... enhancing the menu as it were."
But, with a couples profile you at least get some idea of what the guy is like so you are able to make some sort of judgement as to whether you'd fancy meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not just the fems that do this. I've come across countless men who state they want someone to join him and his existing fuck buddy
Errr it's a pass from me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not just the fems that do this. I've come across countless men who state they want someone to join him and his existing fuck buddy
Errr it's a pass from me "
Finally
Someone gets what I'm saying
I love you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is clear on the profile then just pass it by. They probably should have a couples profile but conversing with someone when its not clear on their profile is somewhat unfair as it could be classed a leading someone on or timewasting. |
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If a single profile states that a partner will be present/join in etc. then it should be a couples profile. Report it to Admin.
This is an open forum for discussion. Everyone is allowed an opinion. You are allowed to disagree with other opinions, provided you remain within the rules set out by Admin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single.
I have a Guardian Angel.
For MY safety.
Doesn't mean he's involved at all - just that for the initial social there is someone around to ensure that the goalposts haven't been changed.
If I want to meet as a couple I'll use a couples profile |
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I think it fair to say that if someone uses a single profile but only ever meet as as a couple then they need to change to a couple profile, but you can't dictate to people who want to meet as a single that they are not allowed a single profile if at any time they may meet as a couple.
And if they are meeting as a single what's the harm in mentioning that they have a partner. We are all adults.
We sometimes stay in a hotel if I am working away and my oh might meet someone as a single.
So she mentions me as otherwise the guy is wonder what the hell the blokes clothes are doing hanging up in the room.
It also gives her the added security of being able to say her oh is not far away. |
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I'M NOT UPSET
JUST THOUGHT IT WAS A DISCUSSION TOPIC
Are you sure your not upset?
You sound upset.
Don't get upset.
Your about an hour late with your post "
I know but in trying not to GET UPSET ABOUT IT!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss
I used to have that on my profile. I'm looking to play with people as a single, but I'm also looking to play with people as a couple.
I think it's ok to make people aware that you also have the option of playing as a couple on your singles profile. You're just... enhancing the menu as it were."
Site rules state you should have a single and a couple profile then |
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"I think it fair to say that if someone uses a single profile but only ever meet as as a couple then they need to change to a couple profile, but you can't dictate to people who want to meet as a single that they are not allowed a single profile if at any time they may meet as a couple.
And if they are meeting as a single what's the harm in mentioning that they have a partner. We are all adults.
We sometimes stay in a hotel if I am working away and my oh might meet someone as a single.
So she mentions me as otherwise the guy is wonder what the hell the blokes clothes are doing hanging up in the room.
It also gives her the added security of being able to say her oh is not far away. "
Do you have a singles profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am finding more and more that "single" fem profiles have a hidden extra.
the profile has a cheeky little "looking for someone to play with me and my boyfriend"
i happen to find this really annoying
should it be a couple profile? i think so
please if you disagree just be ok with it and not the usual your wrong i'm right stuff. discuss"
I agree with the OP but from a bifem point of view...
I do occasionally look to see if there are any single women near me who are looking to meet other single women, but guess what, you look on the profile and its a married woman looking for a 'playmate'....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys on here need to get a grip and leave there dummies in there mouth lol if a woman has a single profile but wants here partner to watch or be there for her safety as long as she says before the meet why not this is a free swingers site not match.com there is a lot of wierd single guys on here and the rest of the forum police really need a reality check |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some guys on here need to get a grip and leave there dummies in there mouth lol if a woman has a single profile but wants here partner to watch or be there for her safety as long as she says before the meet why not this is a free swingers site not match.com there is a lot of wierd single guys on here and the rest of the forum police really need a reality check "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No couldn't care less about others opinions they moralise on a free swingers site lol it's about having fun that's all if I meet a single girl off here and she wants her partner to turn up who cares lol |
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"Some guys on here need to get a grip and leave there dummies in there mouth lol if a woman has a single profile but wants here partner to watch or be there for her safety as long as she says before the meet why not this is a free swingers site not match.com there is a lot of wierd single guys on here and the rest of the forum police really need a reality check "
You called?
I'll refer you to my previous post as to the rules set by Admin. |
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"No couldn't care less about others opinions they moralise on a free swingers site lol it's about having fun that's all if I meet a single girl off here and she wants her partner to turn up who cares lol"
But then in essence it's a cpl so should have a couples profile, regardless of if the person that's aforementioned on said profile joins in or not..... And yes it might be free to the masses but also a lot of people pay for membership so it's not then free.... |
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"Some guys on here need to get a grip and leave there dummies in there mouth lol if a woman has a single profile but wants here partner to watch or be there for her safety as long as she says before the meet why not this is a free swingers site not match.com there is a lot of wierd single guys on here and the rest of the forum police really need a reality check "
this, and then some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" see how many forum police jump on that lol"
I wouldn't be happy if I arranged to meet a man and his girlfriend came to watch.
If I wanted 3 somes with a friend of mine and another man I would set up a couple's profile. If I wanted two strangers I would put it on my profile,or look for mm couples. If I wanted a man and a woman I would search for couples. |
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"Some guys on here need to get a grip and leave there dummies in there mouth lol if a woman has a single profile but wants here partner to watch or be there for her safety as long as she says before the meet why not this is a free swingers site not match.com there is a lot of wierd single guys on here and the rest of the forum police really need a reality check "
If her partner is a prerequisite to her attending the meeting then there will be two people turning up... Therefore a "couple" of people?
So her (their) suggestion that she is a single female is at best disingenuous?
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When I meet as a single, my partner doesn't turn up too. The definition of single for meets is alone. Similarly for him, on his single profile, he meets alone. On our couple profile, we meet together, or go to a party or a club together, but most often play apart .... hence some crazy clubs don't see us as a couple, even though we live together ... |
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"When I meet as a single, my partner doesn't turn up too. The definition of single for meets is alone. Similarly for him, on his single profile, he meets alone. On our couple profile, we meet together, or go to a party or a club together, but most often play apart .... hence some crazy clubs don't see us as a couple, even though we live together ... "
A lady who seizes the point!! xxx Oh my I could kiss you right now!! xx |
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