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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?"
He clearly thought he met your criteria , so did you tell him where he didn't ? |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?"
This is why I don't reply to messages from people I don't want to meet (relying on the FAQs which say 'no reply = not interested'). Too many men take any reply as a foot in the door, and continue with:-
1) why?
2) I can change
3) abuse
I even got irritated at the ones who said 'thanks for replying, many don't' ... what is it that they don't understand? I don't want to meet them, I don't want them in my inbox again! Grrrrr |
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?
This is why I don't reply to messages from people I don't want to meet (relying on the FAQs which say 'no reply = not interested'). Too many men take any reply as a foot in the door, and continue with:-
1) why?
2) I can change
3) abuse
I even got irritated at the ones who said 'thanks for replying, many don't' ... what is it that they don't understand? I don't want to meet them, I don't want them in my inbox again! Grrrrr"
Ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?"
I don't see what the issue is. He wasn't being rude. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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maybe he just wanted a pointer on why you were saying No, it may help his success in the future
doesn't speak self entitlement to me.
although, I don't think you have to reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?
I don't see what the issue is. He wasn't being rude."
Maybe the assumption that just because someone thinks they meet all our requirements we still have personal choice, and shock horror can say no to people we don't find attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely. "
a lot of men don't understand it when women have sexual choices. this bothers me.
i think more don't feel entitled though than do feel it. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"someone call the grammar police  "
Topsy is one of the grammar police isn't she? I don't mean that in a bad way because I've got stripes on my arms myself.
Apologies if I'm wrong Topsy. If I'm right - who polices the grammar police? Probably the nazis, I guess. |
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By *heBakeOLiteGirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?"
That's fairly nice compared to what I got. A guy I recently said no thanks to called me a TV. |
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"My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely.
a lot of men don't understand it when women have sexual choices. this bothers me.... "
I agree. It's as though they think we're on here therefore we'll shag anyone.
If someone asks why I say we "aren't a good match" I always respond truthfully but diplomatically ...
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"maybe he just wanted a pointer on why you were saying No, it may help his success in the future
doesn't speak self entitlement to me.
although, I don't think you have to reply."
I would think that too but its more complicated than that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely.
a lot of men don't understand it when women have sexual choices. this bothers me....
I agree. It's as though they think we're on here therefore we'll shag anyone.
If someone asks why I say we "aren't a good match" I always respond truthfully but diplomatically ...
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i can't reply because it is mainly down to looks and/or personality, but mostly looks and i don't find them appealing in any way. so i just ignore them. |
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I don't think it's always a case of self entitlement, I think sometimes it's just nice to know why. For example is the profile not very good, is because of the pictures on the profile or because of the content of the message. I can imagine for some people some the messages can be a bit repetitive and there are some utterly rude people on here can make a person have a lack of patience and assume the worst of people from the start I suppose. |
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"I don't think it's always a case of self entitlement, I think sometimes it's just nice to know why. For example is the profile not very good, is because of the pictures on the profile or because of the content of the message. I can imagine for some people some the messages can be a bit repetitive and there are some utterly rude people on here can make a person have a lack of patience and assume the worst of people from the start I suppose."
Whatever answer you are given, none of it could be the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?"
"Nobody else will want to fuck you."
He must have been desperate to lower himself to a standard that nobody else would drop to... |
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?
"Nobody else will want to fuck you."
He must have been desperate to lower himself to a standard that nobody else would drop to..."
I love when they do that! Returning a message with insults when not ten seconds before they were ready and waiting with a stiffy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told a guy who asked why that I didn't find him attractive so he asked would I still, if he wore a paper bag over his head lol
Also been called a slag and that i look over 60!!
Bothered? Not!!! |
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By *ent57Man
over a year ago
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I wouldn't dream of questioning others decisions ... perhaps a reply with ...
"OK.... that's a shame" or to be poetic
"If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;"
I've taken that too far haven't I?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had the same, he didn't see why I should base it on his face picture and said it should be based on meeting, guess he was struggling to meet hence I got a snotty reply, hey ho |
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"My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely.
a lot of men don't understand it when women have sexual choices. this bothers me.
i think more don't feel entitled though than do feel it."
Entitlement is a narc trait too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?
I don't see what the issue is. He wasn't being rude."
I thought the same. |
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"I declined a man recently and he replied with 'really? why?'
That's a more obvious case, anymore examples?
I don't see what the issue is. He wasn't being rude.I thought the same."
As I explained further up (and I'm not sure where I said he was rude), he was so sure of himself, he was surprised I declined to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My favourite was a guy who said I was shallow after my polite 'no thanks'.
He blocked me before I could say it's not shallow to have a choice in the matter of who I go to bed with. It is entitlement. Women on fab apparently have a moral duty to lie down and shut up? Ha! Not likely.
a lot of men don't understand it when women have sexual choices. this bothers me.
i think more don't feel entitled though than do feel it.
Entitlement is a narc trait too."
i think it might also be a trait of learning difficulties as well if people cannot understand that other people have needs that won't match theirs. |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"What even if the reply is: a OK thanks for letting me know, good hunting. etc ?"
If someone has replied with a polite refusal, it's really best NOT to message again, not even to say 'thanks for letting me know'. Some women get literally 100s of messages a day, and some of them genuinely try to reply to all messages. So their aim is to clear their inbox of all messages EXCEPT those that they want to take further. A "thanks for your polite no thanks" message is just more clutter that they don't need. Just assume that they know you're happy to have had a reply - even though it was a negative one. |
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