FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > single men
single men
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *5happycouple OP Couple
over a year ago
Tooting / dept 23 France |
We have stated in our profile that we are not looking for single men, yet they persist in winking at us or sending friend request. Why is this? Do they think they are so wonderful that we will turn around and say, OMG we must have him as a friend / meet with him or words to that effect? Do they think the fact that they either haven't read the profile or gone specifically against what we state in our profile will endear us to them? Single men, help me out here, what do you hope to achieve? Apart from being blocked / deleted / ignored? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *obletonMan
over a year ago
A Home Among The Woodland Creatures |
No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *obletonMan
over a year ago
A Home Among The Woodland Creatures |
"Some of us read profiles and then quietly go on our way. Then there's the others that persist and give us all a bad name."
Nonsense - guys like that are great news for the single guys who are worth meeting - it helps them to stand out |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
What will reassure you is that single guys will stop winking and sending friends invites because of this thread 
It's been proven that the offenders all read the forums and action the feedback given
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I wouldn't give too much thought to it,those men don't read profiles,they hit everyone up hoping someone will reply. They probably don't expect a reply but it's worth the try maybe. No one is special to those kind of men,they would probably even fuck someone they found to be grotesque,just to get their dick wet  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I wouldn't give too much thought to it,those men don't read profiles,they hit everyone up hoping someone will reply. They probably don't expect a reply but it's worth the try maybe. No one is special to those kind of men,they would probably even fuck someone they found to be grotesque,just to get their dick wet "
You have to speculate to accumulate? he:he. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *5happycouple OP Couple
over a year ago
Tooting / dept 23 France |
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them "
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going?"
I'll have to be somewhat blunt and crass(still havent looked at your profile lol), most dont care about their soul when they just want the wifes hole. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've seen a number of couples profiles which state they do not want to meet single men and yet when they post a meet, they are looking for men, gets a bit confusing sometimes. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I hate to say this, but...single men that ignore reading profile texts and re_iewing peoples preferences are unlikely to read a forum....
...so by default this post just achieves two things, it continues to damage the reputation of single men, and secondly agitates the single men that a) read the forums and b) probably read profiles.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going?"
Benefit of the doubt for what?
Just block. Simple, no drama
Next  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going?"
You sound like a crank. Glad you've worked out how to make the most of the filters. Now go and enjoy the site for what it is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *MaleMan
over a year ago
|
"We have stated in our profile that we are not looking for single men, yet they persist in winking at us or sending friend request. Why is this? Do they think they are so wonderful that we will turn around and say, OMG we must have him as a friend / meet with him or words to that effect? Do they think the fact that they either haven't read the profile or gone specifically against what we state in our profile will endear us to them? Single men, help me out here, what do you hope to achieve? Apart from being blocked / deleted / ignored?"
Some single guys not all but in an all eh or is is every single single fella on the site you've recieved mail & winks from
Personally I dont contact or approach cpls/fems that aint seeking-shouting for single guys. I'm sure I aint the only guy like that either.
If a cpl/fem has blocked single guys they shouldn't be able to contact regardless they can or cannot read your profile  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Never give it much thought. Can't say it bothers us. Couples way outside our preferences do the same but we remain unaffected.
"
Precisely!!
I'm not looking for couples specifically but it doesn't stop them messaging, winking and sending friends requests on a very regular basis!
They're doing no harm op and there are bigger things to concern yourself with surely?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't look at winks, friends requests & the majority of the yellow wall where I can see the one liner "Fancy a fuck" type messages. I simply press the delete button.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I never read a woman's profile. I just check out her vag and tit pics then message...Fancy A Fuck? In the hope I get lucky.
And if I get no response I just carry on messaging until I get blocked !
  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Never give it much thought. Can't say it bothers us. Couples way outside our preferences do the same but we remain unaffected.
Precisely!!
I'm not looking for couples specifically but it doesn't stop them messaging, winking and sending friends requests on a very regular basis!
They're doing no harm op and there are bigger things to concern yourself with surely? "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
You have to speculate to accumulate? he:he."
yep you do, we love it when we receive a copy and paste message from someone who has not read our profile we reply yer pop around ..connie x 
back to the thread use the tools and set filters |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I never read a woman's profile. I just check out her vag and tit pics then message...Fancy A Fuck? In the hope I get lucky.
And if I get no response I just carry on messaging until I get blocked !
"
My kind of man hehe  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going?"
Oh ffs get over yourselves! You're on a sex site and you're already in - one would guess - a loving relationship - so from a single guy point of _iew of course you're just a pussy to fuck - just as they're only a cock to fuck - unless you're looking for 'regular friends ' . If you don't want single guys to message you then block them as you have - without making a big deal of it!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Our profile is pretty blunt about our preferences and to be fair it seems to work in most cases.
An exception last week was a single guy who wrote asking about a meet. We suggested he READ our profile and he wrote again asking to meet.
We wrote back again and he replied "I don't care what you are looking for. I want a fuck."
Some people are just begging to be blocked. lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I bet nothing is said when you're pics are getting fabbed that's if you've got some up...not checked and I best not or I'll be doomed!!!"
Totally true , when theve had a glass or two and horny they want the attention but any other time were the bad ones lol
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A message from a couple last night at 1.30am lol
FUN NOW ..that was it "
Precisely!
I get them all the time from both men and couples! But as I'm on what is primarily a casual sex site I accept it and don't see it as a big deal! I just don't respond - so simple really!! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A message from a couple last night at 1.30am lol
FUN NOW ..that was it
Precisely!
I get them all the time from both men and couples! But as I'm on what is primarily a casual sex site I accept it and don't see it as a big deal! I just don't respond - so simple really!! X"
Same i just deleted it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I never read a woman's profile. I just check out her vag and tit pics then message...Fancy A Fuck? In the hope I get lucky.
And if I get no response I just carry on messaging until I get blocked !
"
You're not alone in this approach  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *MaleMan
over a year ago
|
"A message from a couple last night at 1.30am lol
FUN NOW ..that was it "
Your a single-m so the prob thought you would jump the offer
In fact verified & no so verified cpls emailing late evening with 'come and fuck her now here's our address'. The cheeky fekkers when I aint even got a meet tonight up. Grrrrrr |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There are some nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being"
Indiscriminate messaging. And winks without being asked. Heaven forbid
Aye, the men who go to clubs hoping to fuck something are absolutely the ones who respect you as a human. Not those bloody awful message senders. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A message from a couple last night at 1.30am lol
FUN NOW ..that was it
Your a single-m so the prob thought you would jump the offer
In fact verified & no so verified cpls emailing late evening with 'come and fuck her now here's our address'. The cheeky fekkers when I aint even got a meet tonight up. Grrrrrr "
Annoying it really is...i know im a sex machine but come on 1.30am with two words jeez |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick. "
All of them? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick. "
Good luck..i hope hes not from Peterborough |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick.
Good luck..i hope hes not from Peterborough "
Mel are you causing trouble again!? Haha remember that thread where that guy was kicking off! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick.
Good luck..i hope hes not from Peterborough
Mel are you causing trouble again!? Haha remember that thread where that guy was kicking off!"
Me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I ignore three pages on this site: winks, friend requests, and sent box."
Me too, as well as the who looked page.
To be fair it isn't just single men, couples are just as bad for this..... but it is probably the male half of the couple  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There are some nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being
Indiscriminate messaging. And winks without being asked. Heaven forbid
Aye, the men who go to clubs hoping to fuck something are absolutely the ones who respect you as a human. Not those bloody awful message senders. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've seen a number of couples profiles which state they do not want to meet single men and yet when they post a meet, they are looking for men, gets a bit confusing sometimes. "
Not really.
When you apply the message filter for single men it says - not looking for single men, doesn't say this if you filter out couples or women from messaging, just the men. But I may still be looking to meet men just not get loads of pointless messages from them, those I have mailed previously can still mail me just those who I haven't chatted with before. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
ive lost count of the number of messages from couples that message me first where only the guy can meet
yes maybe a guy with a couple profile, but not all |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No reason to let it bother you - just set your messaging filters appropriately.
go to "My Account" - select Message Filters (about 3/4 of the way down on the left) - click "Block Them" on the bit that says:
Males (yes, they can mail you) Block them
We are now doing this. I had given them the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they would be responsible enough to actually read and understand what we have written. And yes there are nice single men out there who don't message and wink indiscriminately, who it would probably be a pleasure to meet when at a club, they are the ones who respect you as a human being and not just as a pussy to fcuk.
Just think it must also be soul destroying for those single men who wink and message and get nothing back, how do they keep going?
Benefit of the doubt for what?
Just block. Simple, no drama
Next "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have to say that my box has been open to single men for 2 weeks and this time round I'm not getting many unsuitable people through so I can't join this moan about single men.
Just had another very handsome big dicked man through so now I have to decide which one I'm going to pick. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *jj46Man
over a year ago
rhyl |
"We have stated in our profile that we are not looking for single men, yet they persist in winking at us or sending friend request. Why is this? Do they think they are so wonderful that we will turn around and say, OMG we must have him as a friend / meet with him or words to that effect? Do they think the fact that they either haven't read the profile or gone specifically against what we state in our profile will endear us to them? Single men, help me out here, what do you hope to achieve? Apart from being blocked / deleted / ignored?"
I would bother as I do read profiles but then again .I don't understand some couples looking at profiles that are looking for females.looking at my profile either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
just to add, my profile is for females and couples. i work a lot of nights, was on shift last night. i get more mail. around two to three am from couples profiles, yet always, when replying, get messagae back, only male there. when check profile, it is mostly a new profile that night.all want to see my pics. delete and block. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *MaleMan
over a year ago
|
"all these same posts from couples., are rather boring, they know the can use filters but decide not too, then complain  "
All the options to block or simply ignore us terrible single guys they have zero interest in but they prefer not to. Puzzling |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"just to add, my profile is for females and couples. i work a lot of nights, was on shift last night. i get more mail. around two to three am from couples profiles, yet always, when replying, get messagae back, only male there. when check profile, it is mostly a new profile that night.all want to see my pics. delete and block. "
Filter out new profiles. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"would that not filter out new females also. ?"
Lol @ "females"....the ones that contact you at 3am who want to talk dirty then go UNLOS by the morning..... You're quite welcome to those "females". |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *MaleMan
over a year ago
|
"would that not filter out new females also. ?
Lol @ "females"....the ones that contact you at 3am who want to talk dirty then go UNLOS by the morning..... You're quite welcome to those "females". "
Are they the ones that whiff of supposedly straight male hiding behind a fem profile/fem half of cpl profile in order to exercise their closet attraction to other men |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"would that not filter out new females also. ?
Lol @ "females"....the ones that contact you at 3am who want to talk dirty then go UNLOS by the morning..... You're quite welcome to those "females".
Are they the ones that whiff of supposedly straight male hiding behind a fem profile/fem half of cpl profile in order to exercise their closet attraction to other men "
You got it.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We have stated in our profile that we are not looking for single men, yet they persist in winking at us or sending friend request. Why is this? Do they think they are so wonderful that we will turn around and say, OMG we must have him as a friend / meet with him or words to that effect? Do they think the fact that they either haven't read the profile or gone specifically against what we state in our profile will endear us to them? Single men, help me out here, what do you hope to achieve? Apart from being blocked / deleted / ignored?"
My looked at page is full of couples that state, not looking for single males, yet THEY persist in looking! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *5happycouple OP Couple
over a year ago
Tooting / dept 23 France |
"The question really is what percentage of men on here are swingers, vs the percentage who are looking for an alternative to a wank."
Having read the comments and not quite as annoyed as I was this morning, I think this is probably the point. There are many on here, couples and singles both, who are not swingers but looking for a quick NSA fuck. There are others who use it as a flirty friend chatsite. There are those who are swingers and those who have more alternative interests. It is a wide community and many different levels within it. We have now hopefully blocked single men from winking or contacting us, didn't realise we could do that, so my trivial irritation with deleting winks and friend invites should lessen. To be fair, there are also winks and invites from couples who smoke who we do not meet, and those from miles away who it would be impossible to meet with so it happens in all sections of this community. Thanks for the feedback, and hope you all have a lovely Easter. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Never give it much thought. Can't say it bothers us. Couples way outside our preferences do the same but we remain unaffected.
Precisely!!
I'm not looking for couples specifically but it doesn't stop them messaging, winking and sending friends requests on a very regular basis!
They're doing no harm op and there are bigger
things to concern yourself with surely? "
Exactly right! Some people are just up their own arse! Block and move on! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"The question really is what percentage of men on here are swingers, vs the percentage who are looking for an alternative to a wank.
Having read the comments and not quite as annoyed as I was this morning, I think this is probably the point. There are many on here, couples and singles both, who are not swingers but looking for a quick NSA fuck. There are others who use it as a flirty friend chatsite. There are those who are swingers and those who have more alternative interests. It is a wide community and many different levels within it. We have now hopefully blocked single men from winking or contacting us, didn't realise we could do that, so my trivial irritation with deleting winks and friend invites should lessen. To be fair, there are also winks and invites from couples who smoke who we do not meet, and those from miles away who it would be impossible to meet with so it happens in all sections of this community. Thanks for the feedback, and hope you all have a lovely Easter."
So I am not a swinger because I am looking for NSA sex.
I am honest, I like group sex and I have little interest in 121 sex. I don't want to be in a community of like minded, because that is utter pish. If I thought and behaved like many, I would run as fast as fuck to a therapist.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
