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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
No. I think I'd only get my knickers in a twist if they'd cancelled on me to meet someone else. I don't have a physical type myself so I've never really thought about whether or not I'm similar to other meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. I think I'd only get my knickers in a twist if they'd cancelled on me to meet someone else. I don't have a physical type myself so I've never really thought about whether or not I'm similar to other meets."
I wasn't suggesting they'd cancel to meet someone else.
It's a swinging site after all. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"No. I think I'd only get my knickers in a twist if they'd cancelled on me to meet someone else. I don't have a physical type myself so I've never really thought about whether or not I'm similar to other meets.
I wasn't suggesting they'd cancel to meet someone else.
It's a swinging site after all. "
Oh, I know you weren't. I was just thinking about when and how I'd start comparing since it's not been something that occurred to me and that's the first scenario I thought of where I might. If that makes sense? |
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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago
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We use veri's to gauge what people are looking for.. Naturally nervous if they are stunners ... More about what they say .... If veri'd by gorgeous young girl opposed to me as mother of three and older may think twice... But guess we go with our gut feeling mostly... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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OMG yes and thank you for putting it out there
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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I don't think it is natural to make unfavourable comparisons between yourself and others, it isn't something that I do naturally and I actually think it's destructive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's natural to have a nose at that persons profile, check their photos out.
Don't think its a good idea though to start comparing yourself or to let it mess with your head as after all this is meant to be fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't compare myself.
I like a variety of types of guy, for all kinds of reasons, and don't really care if any of my meets fucks people considered hotter than me. I enjoy the moment with them and forget about them until next time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to do this I'd see someone and look at verifications and think wow I'm so not in that league
Recently I have learned not to read too much into it so I just don't read them anymore. If someone messages me or wants to meet then I just choose to engage with that person and how much I like them 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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I don't look at someone's new veris once I have met them but when they message me I look at the people they have already met and I am guilty of comparing... If the person is hot and just something I know I cannot compare to I just won't bother really... Probably not healthy but hey... If I feel I can't compare then the damage is already done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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I don't even get to a meet stage due to a lack of confidence, I daren't even message ppl because I'm scared trey won't message back! |
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By *kgeminiMan
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
I don't even get to a meet stage due to a lack of confidence, I daren't even message ppl because I'm scared trey won't message back!"
What is the worst they can do? Delete the message/tell you no |
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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No, as I've dated and married some very hot men and this is nsa sex so never given it a second thought as they've contacted me and I always have a social meet first.
That said, the only time I've felt nervous about meeting someone was the meet I had in November 2013. We had spoken on the phone for hours, emailed. I really liked him and for the first time was self conscious of my then size 24 frame. He was Dutch, lived in France for 12 years, used to dating blonde, blue eyed Scandinavian types, 6ft 1 and looked like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...he moved in eight months later.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
I don't even get to a meet stage due to a lack of confidence, I daren't even message ppl because I'm scared trey won't message back!
What is the worst they can do? Delete the message/tell you no"
Yes, like I said, I'm not a very confident person, doesn't take many bricks to knock a house down!
I know it's sad too but I can't help it.  |
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OP, I can completely understand where your coming from but there are many facets to attraction and the viri's of others will just set your mind racing unnecessarily.
We meet using another profile which has maybe 20 veri's on it but we have 2 very different types.
If Erika feels like being top we meet fit and good looking young guys ( the more "boyband" the better)
If we feel like general play, then more mature and all about the personality.
I can imagine the second group seeing verifications from the former and thinking "they won't be interested in me" but they could not be more wrong.
If you see your prospective meet has met lots of hot young things in the past don't compare yourself to them, be chuffed you've got what it takes, just like them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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I do
I wish I didn't but I do!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No.....and I hope others don't either.
My previous profile I had loads of verifications from all types. And all ages from 22 to 64!
Some thought I had too many! But if that put them off then I saw that as their problem, not mine. |
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I met someone who was much younger than me, very nice looking and was a nice person. He had a girl friend.
He met me twice because he chose to and it couldn't of been just because of what I looked like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's the thing for all those who do this .
No one is forced to meet anyone on here .
Everyone chooses the people they meet .
Hilda says men prefer gorgeous fit ladies , but do they really ? If that was the case none of us would have any meets !
It's a NSA sex site , and there are hundreds of different scenarios . Many of which may not have been tried . So fab can be a tool to experiment and try some of the things one hasn't or can't try .
We've had hundreds of meets with hotties and every one has been mutually satisfying .
Do we feel out of anyone's league ?
Hell no !
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"Here's the thing for all those who do this .
No one is forced to meet anyone on here .
Everyone chooses the people they meet .
Hilda says men prefer gorgeous fit ladies , but do they really ? If that was the case none of us would have any meets !
It's a NSA sex site , and there are hundreds of different scenarios . Many of which may not have been tried . So fab can be a tool to experiment and try some of the things one hasn't or can't try .
We've had hundreds of meets with hotties and every one has been mutually satisfying .
Do we feel out of anyone's league ?
Hell no !
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 Exactly my sentiments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's the thing for all those who do this .
No one is forced to meet anyone on here .
Everyone chooses the people they meet .
Hilda says men prefer gorgeous fit ladies , but do they really ? If that was the case none of us would have any meets !
It's a NSA sex site , and there are hundreds of different scenarios . Many of which may not have been tried . So fab can be a tool to experiment and try some of the things one hasn't or can't try .
We've had hundreds of meets with hotties and every one has been mutually satisfying .
Do we feel out of anyone's league ?
Hell no !
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I unfortunately do, I look at their veris, see what I'm not and glide on by! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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New veri's don't knock my confidence no.
Some of them make me think I need to pencil in a repeat performance pdq and some make me want to meet the person they were verified by too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol 
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them! "
That is a good point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
sometimes it's the opposite view someone they met was scarey and it put you off difficult not to worry either way
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't look at past meets verifications, I'm not interested, I've had a good time when I met them, what they do in future is of no interest to me.
Even with a potential meet, I'm not really bothered about verifications. If I remember I'll read the first few, sometimes I don't remember. I judge who to meet on correspondence with me so I'm not bothered about other's. If I do read veris, I only read the words, I don't go into that other persons profile and look at pictures. I'm just not that concerned about it.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's the thing for all those who do this .
No one is forced to meet anyone on here .
Everyone chooses the people they meet .
Hilda says men prefer gorgeous fit ladies , but do they really ? If that was the case none of us would have any meets !
It's a NSA sex site , and there are hundreds of different scenarios . Many of which may not have been tried . So fab can be a tool to experiment and try some of the things one hasn't or can't try .
We've had hundreds of meets with hotties and every one has been mutually satisfying .
Do we feel out of anyone's league ?
Hell no !
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Oh, sometimes I think people are out of my league but that's not based on their veris or whom they have met.
I also know that quite a few of the people who've made it clear they think they are soooo much hotter than me, I wouldn't have had any interest in meeting anyway.
Looks are important but there's so much more to attraction than that. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?"
Very much so.
As entertaining as Shag is on here, he and I are looking for different things, so I wouldn't message him even if we were local to each other.
Being compatible to meet comes down to lots of things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?"
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?
Very much so.
As entertaining as Shag is on here, he and I are looking for different things, so I wouldn't message him even if we were local to each other.
Being compatible to meet comes down to lots of things."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?
Very much so.
As entertaining as Shag is on here, he and I are looking for different things, so I wouldn't message him even if we were local to each other.
Being compatible to meet comes down to lots of things."
I agree with this ^^
That's why if you constantly compare yourself to another body wise you'd may be missing the bigger picture. |
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So those that think some are to good based on who they meet what if theyve met people that you think are not as attractive as you? Im surprised anyone gets to meet unless they only meet those that meet clobes of them.
If anyone was comparing themselves to the guys ive met it would be impossible, they have nothing looks wise in common |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's the thing for all those who do this .
No one is forced to meet anyone on here .
Everyone chooses the people they meet .
Hilda says men prefer gorgeous fit ladies , but do they really ? If that was the case none of us would have any meets !
It's a NSA sex site , and there are hundreds of different scenarios . Many of which may not have been tried . So fab can be a tool to experiment and try some of the things one hasn't or can't try .
We've had hundreds of meets with hotties and every one has been mutually satisfying .
Do we feel out of anyone's league ?
Hell no !
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Bet someones saying phew "
He may be, it's hardly relevant since we're not local to each other anyway. Do you expect people to care if the people they wouldn't contact would want them to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, you see a previous meet get a new verification. Or maybe a future meet display a new verification...
It's reallllly difficult to not make comparisons or let it knock your confidence a little..
For me, I'm definitely happy about my body, and accept it. As soon as I see them have a veri from a slim, blonde beauty, my heart will naturally sink a little..
It's natural to make comparisons, and verifications can help decide if you would want to meet that person, but it can play havoc with our crazy minds.
Anybody feel the same?
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Me but I try not to stress about it. I know what I bring to the bedroom |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I would be apprehensive meeting a lady if someone with a real hench ripped gym body had met her - especially if she'd met that body type before.
Which contradicts a bit what I said above.  "
I agree with your comment above though. She clearly sees something else she likes. Bodies aren't everything.
I know how it feels though. Logically you can dismiss it but it doesn't stop you feeling apprehensive. |
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"I would be apprehensive meeting a lady if someone with a real hench ripped gym body had met her - especially if she'd met that body type before.
Which contradicts a bit what I said above.
I agree with your comment above though. She clearly sees something else she likes. Bodies aren't everything.
I know how it feels though. Logically you can dismiss it but it doesn't stop you feeling apprehensive."
yeah, it wouldn't stop me but I'd be thinking 'why me?' |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I would be apprehensive meeting a lady if someone with a real hench ripped gym body had met her - especially if she'd met that body type before.
Which contradicts a bit what I said above.
I agree with your comment above though. She clearly sees something else she likes. Bodies aren't everything.
I know how it feels though. Logically you can dismiss it but it doesn't stop you feeling apprehensive.
yeah, it wouldn't stop me but I'd be thinking 'why me?' "
I wonder that sometimes. Then I remember I'm awesome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?
Very much so.
As entertaining as Shag is on here, he and I are looking for different things, so I wouldn't message him even if we were local to each other.
Being compatible to meet comes down to lots of things."
That is right and I would do the same and not email. It is the same as having preferences. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"It doesnt bother me, as I look at veris not many got a body like me lol
If I saw you in their veris i'd not bother messaging them!
It takes a hell of a lot more than a body though doesn't it?
Very much so.
As entertaining as Shag is on here, he and I are looking for different things, so I wouldn't message him even if we were local to each other.
Being compatible to meet comes down to lots of things.That is right and I would do the same and not email. It is the same as having preferences. "
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You are on here to satisfy your own needs. If both parties have had a good time then that's good. No point in making comparisons with other people. It bogs you down in uncertainty. life is way too short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would be apprehensive meeting a lady if someone with a real hench ripped gym body had met her - especially if she'd met that body type before. "
Sabrina has played with loads of ripped / gym and bodybuilder guys .
And still prefers me |
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