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Can you have friendship and NSA?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not sure what the techincal definition of NSA would be, but to my mind (and correct me if I'm wrong by all means) is that it's just sex, no relationship, no obligations.
Usually I would think that NSA would suit people looking for occasional one off meets with someone just for a fuck.
But I'm curious, as I would like to meet someone for regular fun, and possible friendship. But just wondering if you can still have no strings sex if you are friends with someone and seeing them regularly, for sex and for friendship.
Do people think that's possible really?
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We have that sort of thing going on however, if I was younger and childless it would be a different story. I wouldn't have entertained it. We have our own lifes and commitments. Saying that I do care about and respect him, but we do not feel obligated, I feel free and that works for me. |
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Certainly had it in the past, as a young guy I had a fair few girl mates that I enjoyed the occasional tumble with. Still friends with some of them. One is on here, although, wouldnt play with her now I'm married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I saw a guy on here for about 3 years. I liked him very much but never wanted a relationship with him. It finished because he met someone. I wished him well and have the odd wank thinking about him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure what the techincal definition of NSA would be, but to my mind (and correct me if I'm wrong by all means) is that it's just sex, no relationship, no obligations.
Usually I would think that NSA would suit people looking for occasional one off meets with someone just for a fuck.
But I'm curious, as I would like to meet someone for regular fun, and possible friendship. But just wondering if you can still have no strings sex if you are friends with someone and seeing them regularly, for sex and for friendship.
Do people think that's possible really?
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Isn't friendship a string? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think friendship and nsa goes together.
Sure you can and should be 'friendly' to the person you're having ' no strings attached' sex with... but friendship to me is more than that. Keeping in touch..knowing each other.. chatting about every day stuff.. having a coffee.. being there for each other thru thick and thin etc etc... that to me is friendship in a small nutshell.. and to me cannot go with nsa. But that's just me and my thoughts.. sure everyone sees it differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure what the techincal definition of NSA would be, but to my mind (and correct me if I'm wrong by all means) is that it's just sex, no relationship, no obligations.
Usually I would think that NSA would suit people looking for occasional one off meets with someone just for a fuck.
But I'm curious, as I would like to meet someone for regular fun, and possible friendship. But just wondering if you can still have no strings sex if you are friends with someone and seeing them regularly, for sex and for friendship.
Do people think that's possible really?
Isn't friendship a string?"
^^^ this... you said it much better than me!! Haha.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think friendship and nsa goes together.
Sure you can and should be 'friendly' to the person you're having ' no strings attached' sex with... but friendship to me is more than that. Keeping in touch..knowing each other.. chatting about every day stuff.. having a coffee.. being there for each other thru thick and thin etc etc... that to me is friendship in a small nutshell.. and to me cannot go with nsa. But that's just me and my thoughts.. sure everyone sees it differently. "
I like your answer better than mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think friendship and nsa goes together.
Sure you can and should be 'friendly' to the person you're having ' no strings attached' sex with... but friendship to me is more than that. Keeping in touch..knowing each other.. chatting about every day stuff.. having a coffee.. being there for each other thru thick and thin etc etc... that to me is friendship in a small nutshell.. and to me cannot go with nsa. But that's just me and my thoughts.. sure everyone sees it differently.
I like your answer better than mine. "
And I like you're better than mine.. My thumbs hurt now! Haha.
Wanna share a string?? Lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is definitely possible, but in my opinion it all depends on the people involved and their mentalities towards this sort of thing.
I started out having a NSA relationship with a lovely lady and a friendship has come out of it, we can chat like friends and still enjoy each other's company in an NSA way from time to time.
So in my eyes it is possible but it may not always be that straight forward for other people. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think friendship and nsa goes together.
Sure you can and should be 'friendly' to the person you're having ' no strings attached' sex with... but friendship to me is more than that. Keeping in touch..knowing each other.. chatting about every day stuff.. having a coffee.. being there for each other thru thick and thin etc etc... that to me is friendship in a small nutshell.. and to me cannot go with nsa. But that's just me and my thoughts.. sure everyone sees it differently. "
See, I have a couple of friendships like that. I am the go to fab advice girl for them as well since the sex part is truly NSA. However, I have had one such friendship where it was in danger of imploding when the lines got blurred so that is now just friendship without the sex. It is entirely dependent on the people involved and in my experience how honest they are with each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Strange question as by definition friendship would be classed as a 'string'.
We have loads of friends we have sex with but have no desire to be in a relationship with? ( infact everyone we swing with we would class as friends, it's how we roll)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think friendship and nsa goes together.
Sure you can and should be 'friendly' to the person you're having ' no strings attached' sex with... but friendship to me is more than that. Keeping in touch..knowing each other.. chatting about every day stuff.. having a coffee.. being there for each other thru thick and thin etc etc... that to me is friendship in a small nutshell.. and to me cannot go with nsa. But that's just me and my thoughts.. sure everyone sees it differently. "
Agree...nsa is just sex, no other contact except to meet up, once friendship is involved that's a string isn't it? I guess it depends on the people involved though, I'm sure for some it's much easier than for others x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can for me. If I was single though, I might struggle with that. Being married makes it a lot easier to compartmentalise things and means inappropriate feelings don't develop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, I wear my heart on my sleeve!
Single meets only for me."
To me that would be the only way for nsa. And it works for a lot of folk. But then I saw someone 8 times who wanted fuck n go or blow n go which I find too emotionless so I stopped that. Took me a while to realise. Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's harder to maintain the boundaries when you allow yourselves to get close enough to become friends. But it makes things more fun, being able to share a bit more and just have a bit more fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It can for me. If I was single though, I might struggle with that. Being married makes it a lot easier to compartmentalise things and means inappropriate feelings don't develop."
This for me too!
I have a couple of good friends on here and its strictly nsa, I can't imagine developing feelings for anyone else x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if it's possible to have a friendship with someone and the sex remain no strings attached?
What's people's thoughts?
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I certainly hope so, if not then my friends list is pointless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's entirely possible to have sex and friendship without anything else. I barely chat to some of my regular friends in between meets but once together it's fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see there are people taking differing views, my own opinion from experience is eventually you will become attached emotionally and someone will get hurt. Unless of course one of you is an emotional void, which is not uncommon here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I find the sex is always more fulfilling with someone I know better. I like to think the few men I've met on here & keep in touch with off site, that there is a friendship of sorts between us.
I think it helps that our circumstances are similar & we don't live locally which helps to quell any inappropriate feelings, because there literally is no point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see there are people taking differing views, my own opinion from experience is eventually you will become attached emotionally and someone will get hurt. Unless of course one of you is an emotional void, which is not uncommon here."
This of course is Bollocks. I'm not emotionally void just capable of not forming emotional attachment to those i Fuck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it's possible I just seem to get the woman who think if they come under that umbrella as such i will fall for them.....but sadly they end up getting hurt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems to be a touchy subject, which indicates it is not easy, to strike that balance.
There are also different means by which people achieve that balance. Some will be able to switch off afterwards and move on, others will not find it as easy. I would not dare to presume or particularly care how individuals rationalise the activity... just voicing an opinion which is what forums are for |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if it's possible to have a friendship with someone and the sex remain no strings attached?
What's people's thoughts?
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Yes in our opinion it is possible.
We've been meeting some people for a few years and in general we haven't had many problems. If we think someone is getting the wrong idea or too clingy, we nip it in the bud.
Some we're in contact with more than others between meets. A couple we meet just for a coffee or normal night out occasionally.
Others we won't really have any contact with apart from arranging a meet and when we get together, it's great. Then we go our separate ways till next time. |
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