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Would you be concerned?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so if your other half had a FB and spoke to them on the phone 3 or 4 times a day plus texting. Then had a meet from Friday to Sunday.
Would you think that this is more than just fun?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hell yeah .
But I guess my opinion is not relevant as we wouldn't consider this arrangement in the first place .
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Just wanted views as wasn't sure if it was just me being silly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it would sure as hell seem like way more than just a fb to me !"
I agree - that sounds (to an outsider looking in) to be closer than an average FB to me .. definitely more a FWB and perhaps more than that .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd be more concerned about why you haven't spoken to your other half about it fair enough if you play separately but that is way more than just sex "
Very short convo.....
I raise my concern
I'm told to fck up now you wrong
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If you're concerned about it and you've tried to discuss it with your other half, and you've been told to fuck off, you may want to seriously reconsider your relationship.
I'm on here with my partner/FWB. If either of us wasn't happy about something the other was doing, or someone they were meeting, it would stop immediately. What we have comes first and is more important.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What ever happened to TRUST.
If you know about the meeting & is regular, You must condone it.
Therefor you must also accept the consequences of both your actions. |
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"Ok so if your other half had a FB and spoke to them on the phone 3 or 4 times a day plus texting. Then had a meet from Friday to Sunday.
Would you think that this is more than just fun?
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Your other half is taking the piss get your relationship back before its gone forever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends if you have an active sex life with her while she's with you. If not then it probably just suits her to live under the same roof because her other partner (let's face it,they are partners) won't take or can't take her in full time.
Most obvious reason to cut your losses if you not happy is her telling you to shut the fuck up when you show concern. Then again this is the classic hot wife and sub husband play isn't it.
Do you enjoy the humiliation of the situation or do you want her to stop what she's doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a couple I play with on a regular basis, usually once a week. Myself and the wife text every day, sometimes more than once depending on topics etc. I also occasionally message her husband. We, the wife and I occasionally play alone with the husbands full knowledge and blessing.
What you are describing op is much more than that. I'm not sure if you are in a cuck relationship, but you are certainly heading that way. At the very least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you aren't happy with it then it's a problem,regardless of what they think about each other. "
This 
Having said that, neither I nor Marc would be happy with the scenario you describe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you aren't happy with it then it's a problem,regardless of what they think about each other.
This
Having said that, neither I nor Marc would be happy with the scenario you describe."
Unless he was in mine then you'd know all he'd be doing is watching films and drinking tea. Maybe a face mask and some painted nails if he'd let me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are unhappy with it OP, then what does it matter what label is used?
The whole point is that your relationship with each other takes priority, speak to her about your concerns, regardless of whether or not there is anything "dodgy" going on, knowing that you don't feel comfortable should result in your partner calling an immediate halt - if she is unwilling, then you are in serious trouble |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you aren't happy with it then it's a problem,regardless of what they think about each other.
This
Having said that, neither I nor Marc would be happy with the scenario you describe.
Unless he was in mine then you'd know all he'd be doing is watching films and drinking tea. Maybe a face mask and some painted nails if he'd let me! "
 Good luck with the face mask and nails. I don't think you'd get very far with that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your other half had a FB and spoke to them on the phone 3 or 4 times a day plus texting. Then had a meet from Friday to Sunday.
Would you think that this is more than just fun?
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I think she well be buying you a cock cage and putting you on clean up and fluffing duties soon
Perhaps even have you dressed as a maid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're concerned about it and you've tried to discuss it with your other half, and you've been told to fuck off, you may want to seriously reconsider your relationship.
I'm on here with my partner/FWB. If either of us wasn't happy about something the other was doing, or someone they were meeting, it would stop immediately. What we have comes first and is more important.
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Totally agree here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It all depends if you have an active sex life with her while she's with you. If not then it probably just suits her to live under the same roof because her other partner (let's face it,they are partners) won't take or can't take her in full time.
Most obvious reason to cut your losses if you not happy is her telling you to shut the fuck up when you show concern. Then again this is the classic hot wife and sub husband play isn't it.
Do you enjoy the humiliation of the situation or do you want her to stop what she's doing"
No I don't!!!! Would rather she would have a proper discussion
I get a lot of.....
You better go to the doctor something wrong with you.
That is when fck up now has Been already used |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"What ever happened to TRUST.
If you know about the meeting & is regular, You must condone it.
Therefor you must also accept the consequences of both your actions. "
Nobody has to condone anything.
Anyone can change their mind at any time.
It doesn't sound as though the OP was told the full details and it sounds as though it's *too* regular for his comfort.
He's absolutely within his rights to tell his partner he isn't happy. The risk is that she'll leave but he absolutely does not have to tolerate it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What ever happened to TRUST.
If you know about the meeting & is regular, You must condone it.
Therefor you must also accept the consequences of both your actions.
Nobody has to condone anything.
Anyone can change their mind at any time.
It doesn't sound as though the OP was told the full details and it sounds as though it's *too* regular for his comfort.
He's absolutely within his rights to tell his partner he isn't happy. The risk is that she'll leave but he absolutely does not have to tolerate it."
You are 100% right you do not have to tolerate bad behaviour from any partner no matter who they are
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, having been the "other bloke" in a situation like this, it sounds like more friend's with benefits rather than just FB's.
However as I can personally attest to, that doesn't mean they are having or they are going to have an affair.
Unlike yourself my friends, then boyfriend,asked us both directly what was happening and we were able to assure him that it was nothing untoward and didn't jeopardise their relationship. In fact they were married last year and I was invited to the wedding.
You need to talk with both parties involved to know what's happening, nothing short of that will put your mind at rest or give you the answers you seek |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet alone sometimes but we discuss it together and if at any point my husband wasn't happy I wouldn't go. We make sure every meet I have is a turn on for us both.
If I were you I would speak to her, tell her you are worried about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your not happy about it then neither of them should be doing it... And all weekend would be taking the piss to me regardless of if we played separate or not.
Id talk and be strong about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your other half had a FB and spoke to them on the phone 3 or 4 times a day plus texting. Then had a meet from Friday to Sunday.
Would you think that this is more than just fun?
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doesn't matter what we think its what you think that counts
some couples are happy with this type of arrangement your obviously not what else needs to be said |
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I would never behave that way and neither would I accept it from my husband. If either of us wasn't happy with any situation then it stops there and then, the first time it was mentioned by the other.
No argument on the matter it just stops. We have too much respect for each other to do otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your other half had a FB and spoke to them on the phone 3 or 4 times a day plus texting. Then had a meet from Friday to Sunday.
Would you think that this is more than just fun?
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yep ,you're regretting being a swinger now aren't you ,sorry man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your views and advice.
Greatly appreciated and it seems therefore it's not all in my head
Thanks again
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Whether or not it is "all in your head", the fact is that if your partner puts your relationship first, then the third party will be history. |
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