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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We would like to find out what people's views are on that: is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?
Ladies - do you ever do that and how successful are you?
Gentlemen - does it ever happen to you and do you like it?
It'll be interesting to see how people see this x |
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J is very much a no nonsense girl. If she fancies someone and the situation is right then she'll tell him. Makes for more fun and less pissing about, everyone would have a lot more fun if more girls were similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never had it personally (Mr), but there is something hot about an assertive woman. Mrs has approached a few guys to meets herself though. Think it is a turn on for a guy. |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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"We would like to find out what people's views are on that: is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?
Ladies - do you ever do that and how successful are you?
Gentlemen - does it ever happen to you and do you like it?
It'll be interesting to see how people see this x"
I've done it and he loved it, I think I took myself by surprise though as normally I wouldn't approach a guy (not because I'm arrogant but because at the time I didn't have very much confidence at all). I don't see it as desperate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I like what I see then I will go for it - sometimes the men don't want to make that first move - so I do it! They have loved it - see me as a very sexy confident woman
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would like to find out what people's views are on that: is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?
Ladies - do you ever do that and how successful are you?
Gentlemen - does it ever happen to you and do you like it?
It'll be interesting to see how people see this x"
it wouldn't bother me in the least but unfortunately its quite rare for a woman even to message a guy first let alone ask them to meet for a date but I personally would love it       |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We would like to find out what people's views are on that: is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?
Ladies - do you ever do that and how successful are you?
Gentlemen - does it ever happen to you and do you like it?
It'll be interesting to see how people see this x"
it wouldn't bother me in the least but unfortunately its quite rare for a woman even to message a guy first let alone ask them to meet for a date but I personally would love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like most things really - it depends on the situation. In some cases it could well be that the woman is desperate. 
However, as a general principle I think it's great. I suspect the biggest problem with guys not asking a woman out is that none of us really wants to look like a bit of an idiot and get rejected if we ask someone out and they decline. Men are not always very good at reading the signs women give off so it is more than likely that we haven't twigged that the woman is interested. So, if a woman has the confidence to put it beyond doubt, that's prefect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I've often been the one to do the chasing, but in a bar or something I wouldn't have the balls. It does tend to be me who makes the first move on a date though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I like what I see then I will go for it - sometimes the men don't want to make that first move - so I do it! They have loved it - see me as a very sexy confident woman
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Absolutely love that. Nothing more sexy than a woman who knows what she wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get turned on by a lady who knows what she wants and I think women asking men out should be encouraged.
If more women messaged men on here they might find the whole experience on this site more fruitful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm into someone it's pretty obvious. I still tend to wait for the guy to do something though. In real life
On here I have no problem messaging a guy or asking him to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually ask. I can't stand to wait around wondering if someone will ask.
If people think less of me because I ask first, then that's their problem - and they're not the right kind of person for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I asked a guy out once. He was horrified and said it wasn't something women were supposed to do, that I was less feminine for asking.
He said no.
I never asked first again. 
-Courtney |
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"I asked a guy out once. He was horrified and said it wasn't something women were supposed to do, that I was less feminine for asking.
He said no.
I never asked first again.
-Courtney "
Hopefully not many men are like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's an attractive trait to see a woman go out and get what she wants. Especially on the very rare occasion that thing is me I think it's why I'm more attracted to women older than me because women my age or younger tend to wait for men to make the first move and if I get a few knock backs it really denta my confidence so it's nice to see a woman make the first move, even if she is not to my taste. It's nice to feel desired by a woman in a world where you're fighting against god knows how many other guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I asked a guy out once. He was horrified and said it wasn't something women were supposed to do, that I was less feminine for asking.
He said no.
I never asked first again.
-Courtney
Hopefully not many men are like that"
Enough of them are. But it's fine, because it indicates people who are complete bellends. |
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"Of course it's nice, I'm not sure who wouldn't be flattered?
If the guy doesn't fancy the woman he might be offended? "
Offended ? Surely not. He may be uncomfortable saying no, but after he would be smiling to himself
Well...I would imagine anyway.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I asked a guy out once. He was horrified and said it wasn't something women were supposed to do, that I was less feminine for asking.
He said no.
I never asked first again.
-Courtney
Hopefully not many men are like that
Enough of them are. But it's fine, because it indicates people who are complete bellends."
True.
To be fair we were rather young. |
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I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. I'm that shite at reading signals that it's kind of essential for me that the woman makes the first move.
I can't see what problem there would be with a woman asking a man out. I'm surprised more women don't do it. |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"... is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?"
Why on earth would you see it as 'desperate' when a lady approaches a man? I got fed up of pussyfooting around, waiting for a man to ask me, when I was in my late 20s. Now, if I see a man I'm attracted to, I make the first move. Key words being "a man I am attracted to". There is nothing desperate in asking for what I want. I don't always get what I want, of course, but no-one ever died from a rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course it's nice, I'm not sure who wouldn't be flattered?
If the guy doesn't fancy the woman he might be offended?
Offended ? Surely not. He may be uncomfortable saying no, but after he would be smiling to himself
Well...I would imagine anyway. "
Really? Ahh you cheered me up, thanks. Chucking you a virtual Easter Egg... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... is it sexy for a woman to take charge of the situation and show her confidence or does it seem desperate when a lady approaches a man?
Why on earth would you see it as 'desperate' when a lady approaches a man? I got fed up of pussyfooting around, waiting for a man to ask me, when I was in my late 20s. Now, if I see a man I'm attracted to, I make the first move. Key words being "a man I am attracted to". There is nothing desperate in asking for what I want. I don't always get what I want, of course, but no-one ever died from a rejection."
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